MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'adult'. Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:19:04 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3385559&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FZdP47jjnadU%2F Recently I published an article about Children of Hoarders an issue I was unaware of until I accidentaly stumbled upon their website. There was a large response to this article. It seems there are similarities between Children of Hoarders and Children of Alcoholism (ACOA). It highlighted my need to become aware of other groups of children with similar problems. Are there other similar ‘children of ……….’ conditions? Does the same pattern of psychological illness appear in these children of ……..? Do some of these children become codependent? Some that I can think of are children of …; Drug addicts Compulsive gamblers Mental health sufferers Sex addicts Workaholics Religious sects I’m particularly interested in self-help, mutual-help type groups or organisations as well as... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3385559 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 23:23:00 +0100 3385559 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3385562&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FOhcoqzcMMLM%2F One model that is helpful in identifying child behaviors in the alcoholic/ addictive family is that of Sharon Wegscheider. In this model children adopt various coping and enabling roles. Little caretaker The little caretaker role is often a carbon copy of the partner of the alcoholic. They take care of the alcoholic; getting drinks, cleaning up after the alcoholic and soothing over stressful situations and events. They are validated by approval for taking responsibility for the alcoholic and their Behaviour. This little person often goes on to become a partner of an alcoholic or other dysfunctional person if they do not get treatment. Family hero The family hero role brings pride to the family by being successful at school or work. At home, the hero assumes the responsibilities that the en... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3385562 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:05:00 +0100 3385562 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3383088&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Faf-VlOItELU%2F Altruism emerges when thoughts focus on a Higher Power Many members of 12-Step Fellowships such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, ACOA, Narcotics Anonymous and Alateen, will agree with this research. Thoughts related to a Higher Power cultivate cooperative behaviour and generosity, according to University of British Columbia psychology researchers. In a study to be published in Psychological Science journal, researchers investigated how thinking about a Higher Power and notions of a Higher Power influenced positive social behaviour, specifically cooperation with others and generosity to strangers. Azim Shariff and Ara Norenzayan found that priming people with ’Higher Power concepts’ — by activating subconscious thoughts through word games — promoted selflessness. In additio... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3383088 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 16:33:00 +0100 3383088 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3383095&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F6R862cUmVc4%2F Spiritual Awakening is a process that happens within us. It is recognizing that a power greater than ourselves exists and can assist us if we will just ask for help and guidance. We do not have to “do it on our own.” Part of the awakening includes a new way of internally and externally handling events as they occur. We can learn to internally process the event differently so that it has a different meaning (thought), followed by a different internal action (emotion), and a different external action (behavior). The process of this “event-changing” happens within us. The events do not change, my relationship to the events changes. Therefore, the challenge becomes about overcoming the internal conflict between the false self that is creating the misperceptions, and the Real Self that ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3383095 Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:45:44 +0100 3383095 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3374388&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Ftrudge-the-happy-road-of-blogs%2F These are just a few of the recovery blogs I have found interesting. They are all based on 12 Step Fellowships – alcoholism, addiction, codependency, Adult Children of Alcoholism (ACOA), gambling, sex addiction & etc. A Passion for Jaywalking Alcoholic Diary Another Real Alcoholic Attitude of Gratitude Vajra 12 Steps Calm Acceptance Don’t Drink and Don’t Die I’m F.I.N.E. In Al-anon Jilli Java and the Garden of Eden Karen Velen – Blog Letting Go – Recovery in the Sunlight Buddhism and Recovery Online Recovery Support Sober Nuggets Sobriety is Exhausting What Me! … Sober Recovery Thoughts from Chitowngreg If you have any more please let me know in the comments section. I’ll include up to 50 here and if there are more I’ll consider another page. Cyber R... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3374388 Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:55:36 +0100 3374388 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3370685&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FjE-RLxpCRR8%2F These are just a few of the recovery blogs I have found interesting. They are all based on 12 Step Fellowships – alcoholism, addiction, codependency, Adult Children of Alcoholism (ACOA), gambling, sex addiction & etc. A Passion for Jaywalking Alcoholic Diary Another Real Alcoholic Attitude of Gratitude Vajra 12 Steps Calm Acceptance Don’t Drink and Don’t Die I’m F.I.N.E. In Al-anon Jilli Java and the Garden of Eden Karen Velen – Blog Letting Go – Recovery in the Sunlight Buddhism and Recovery Online Recovery Support Sober Nuggets Sobriety is Exhausting What Me! … Sober If you have any more please let me know in the comments section. I’ll include up to 50 here and if there are more I’ll consider another page. Cyber Relationships A reciprocal link to Re... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3370685 Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:55:36 +0100 3370685 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3370607&cid=t_103978_134_f&fid=34841&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.diabetesmine.com%2F2010%2F03%2Fclarifying-lada-type-1-diabetes-in-adults.html When I met fellow D-writer Catherine Price for coffee recently, I immediately gushed about everything we had in common: two brunette journalist-types living in the SF Bay Area, both diagnosed a few years ago with LADA (or so I thought). Catherine gave me a sideways look, and then began grilling me about the formal definition [...] (Source: Diabetes Mine) Diabetes Mine blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3370607 Tue, 16 Mar 2010 13:00:36 +0100 3370607 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3363825&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FFYXuoY3rJEQ%2F This is a key video about Bulimia from Face The Issue and narrated by Catherine Zeta-Jones. Catherine Zeta-Jones in Legend of Zorro This is a quote from a sufferer of Bulimia. for the past week i keep binging.. ive been on a diet now since about 4 months or so and ive lost [edit]… i was doing really good and i hardly ever binged maybe once in the whole time.. all of a sudden in the past 2 weeks ive binged (and then purged) about 6 times.. i dont know whats wrong with me.. i feel so out of control.. i hate purging i know not even half the food comes up and then i feel guilty im really scared to gain weight again, i promise myself i wont do it the next day and then i do.. i just want control over my mind again but it seems liek i cant get control of it. someone please help.. Alcoholis... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3363825 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:33:26 +0100 3363825 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3362582&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FGpSeaOfXWvs%2F Demi Moore This is a wonderful video about Self Injury from Face The Issue narrated by Demi Moore. The following is a quote from a self injurer who trying to find freedom from their addiction. I really sorta want to start cutting again. the urges have come back… i mean, i dont particularly enjoy passing out or being that weir lightheaded feeling, and lord knows i dont need more scars, but lately ive just really wanted to start cutting again, and since i have refained from cutting i end up hurting myself in other ways, like almost breaking bones, or when i have them, losing myself in an opiate fog and taking half a bottle of pills. really, whats worse? the drug or the cuts? the cuts will heal in a week but the drugs just get worse and worse, and that lovely black pit is just becoming ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3362582 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:28:41 +0100 3362582 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3359226&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FOnt7PdMLEf8%2F ACOA's Adult Children of Alcoholics Ten years ago, Janet Woititz broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an Adult Child of an Alcoholic, sometimes called codependency. Today she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of Adult Children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics. After more than ten years of working with ACoAs she shares the recovery hints that she has found to work. Read Adult Children of Alcoholics to see where the journey began and for ideas on where to go from here. - Order Today >> Adult Children of Alcoholics (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3359226 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 16:20:00 +0100 3359226 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3354545&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FGosCX5SK1jA%2Fcancer-crisis-support-hotlin A few days ago I had a fever. Sometimes simple aches and pains catapult me into an irrational headspace where I’m reminded of treatment, begin to sweat bullets, tremble, and my heart races. (I know I’m not alone in this as many of you weighed in on similar experiences in my post Scared of Every Little Ache and Pain?) When I’m in this snowballing panic mode it helps to talk to someone about my fears. Often it’s my mom, my husband, or a friend. But the other night I wanted to talk to an insider. So I called a cancer hot line. I didn’t care if the person on the other end was a patient, professional, or a caring volunteer. It just felt cool calling someone whose whole goal was to be awake in the middle of the night waiting for a call like mine. I described to the woman what was going... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3354545 Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:03:16 +0100 3354545 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346727&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FXf_-89VLmVU%2F Codependents sometimes feel trapped behind frosted glass Co-Victims of Alcoholism, some times called codependency Many of us found that we had several characteristics in common as a result of being brought up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional households. We had come to feel isolated, and uneasy with other people, especially authority figures. To protect ourselves, we became people pleasers, even though we lost our own identities in the process. All the same we would mistake any personal criticism as a threat. We either became alcoholics ourselves, married them, or both. Failing that, we found other compulsive personalities, such as a workaholic, to fulfil our sick need for abandonment. We lived live from the standpoint of victims. Having an over developed sense of responsibility, we p... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346727 Tue, 09 Mar 2010 09:35:36 +0100 3346727 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346736&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fu6RuQWjSJoA%2F There just isn’t any other way to say it – a sex slip-up just isn’t sexy, and to save all men from bedroom ‘disasters’, a leading sexologist has come to the rescue. Men in recovery from addiction, alcoholism and gambling often report they have slipped up in the bedroom. Recovery often includes finding out conventional manners and practices in all avenues of life, including sexuality. Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright, a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc., has come up with top mistakes men make in bed… The biggest mistakes men make include: Foreplay doesn’t start in the sack Don’t head south straight away Get to that G spot Don’t be too goal-oriented Let her be naughty She’s not a porn star And men aren’t ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346736 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:05:00 +0100 3346736 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3339808&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FnRw09tNZoIU%2F Let go as they fall “To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means ’I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, its the realization I can’t control another human. To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, Which means the outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself To let go is not to care for, but to care about. To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive. To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reali... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3339808 Sat, 06 Mar 2010 20:45:51 +0100 3339808 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3339813&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FV-dxDYRUr1Q%2F Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior by the codependent designed to take over the abuser’s personal responsibilities, such as household chores or employment. Rationalizing and accepting: Any behavior by the codependent conveying a rationalization or acceptance of the significant other’s drug use. Cooperating and collaborating: Any assistance or involvement by the codependent in the buying, selling, adulterating, testing, preparing, or use of drugs. ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3339813 Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:34:14 +0100 3339813 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3318668&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FdEcBaxgrVdI%2F Meditating Mindfulness for Recovery Mindfulness is a form of self-awareness training adapted from Buddhist mindfulness meditation. It has been adapted for use in treatment of depression, especially preventing relapse and for assisting with mood regulation. Mindfulness has been described as a state of being in the present, accepting things for what they are, i.e. non-judgementally. It was originally developed to assist with mood regulation and relapse prevention in depression and has been found to have considerable health benefits. These exercises are designed to introduce the principles and can be used by anyone recovering from a mood altering disease such as alcoholism, compulsive gambling, food problems, addiction, codependency or adult children of alcoholics.. If you let cloudy water s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3318668 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:12:25 +0100 3318668 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3314799&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FxVFPl8RLECI%2F “Seeking sexual satisfaction is a basic desire, and masturbation is often our first teenage natural sexual activity. It’s the way we discover our eroticism, the way we learn to respond sexually, the way we learn to love ourselves and to build self-esteem.” -Betty Dodson, renowned artist, author and sex educator And, said Woody Allen, “it’s having sex with the one you love.” Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, ACOA or codependency may not be in a sexually active relationship. Relations may need to be rekindled or new relationships may be needed. Additionally, many people may not want to endanger their new found sobriety by being involved in an emotionally charged relationship. Masturbation is normal and common Masturbation is one of the mo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3314799 Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:10:20 +0100 3314799 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3311941&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fchoice-making-in-recovery%2F Making choices Choice Making A classic in the literature of codependency. “Freedom from” and “freedom to” are essential elements of recovery. Freedom from our pain and our past gives us the freedom to choose our future life path in recovery. Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse uses her own experiences to show us how to become free and how to enjoy the freedom to make choices. She outlines the journey toward spiritual satisfaction and wholeness–the freedom of choice–in this eloquent work. This is necessary reading for anyone who has lived with addictive relationships, whether the addiction was to a drug or another person. - Choice Making – Order today! - (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3311941 Thu, 25 Feb 2010 12:37:22 +0100 3311941 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3307095&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FZysH438u5BE%2F Making choices Choice Making A classic in the literature of codependency. “Freedom from” and “freedom to” are essential elements of recovery. Freedom from our pain and our past gives us the freedom to choose our future life path in recovery. Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse uses her own experiences to show us how to become free and how to enjoy the freedom to make choices. She outlines the journey toward spiritual satisfaction and wholeness–the freedom of choice–in this eloquent work. This is necessary reading for anyone who has lived with addictive relationships, whether the addiction was to a drug or another person. - Choice Making – Order today! - (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3307095 Thu, 25 Feb 2010 12:37:22 +0100 3307095 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3298460&cid=t_103978_122_f&fid=36582&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FSharpBrains%2F%7E3%2FNVho1duYvkc%2F (Editor’s Note: In 1990, Congress designated the 1990s the “Decade of the Brain.” President George H. W. Bush proclaimed, “A new era of discovery is dawning in brain research.” During the ensuing decade, scientists greatly advanced our understanding of the brain. The editors of Cerebrum asked the directors of seven brain-related institutes at the National Institutes of Health (NIH) to identify the biggest advances, greatest disappointments, and missed opportunities of brain research in the past decade—the decade after the “Decade of the Brain.” They also asked them what looks most promising for the coming decade, the 2010s. Experts focused on research that might change how doctors diagnose and treat human brain disorders.) Neuroscience is at a historic turning point. To... SharpBrains blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3298460 Tue, 23 Feb 2010 16:54:38 +0100 3298460 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3290998&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FkbiPHTe68SM%2F Foregiveness and rebirth I have studied many ways to self-forgiveness and have found this to be the definitive document on the why, who, how and where of forgiveness. Recovering members of 12-Step fellowships, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, ACOA, Gamblers Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, may find this helpful. It is important to forgive ourselves for our own confusion and unhappiness. It’s important to forgive ourselves for our own failures and stuckness––for the dreams, desires and visions that did not come true. If it seems that we may go unfulfilled in the ways we expected or strived for, we must be especially kind to ourselves in self-forgiveness. It is also important to forgive ourselves for the wounds we carry and the harm we caused others. Through the medium of prayer o... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3290998 Sat, 20 Feb 2010 00:34:00 +0100 3290998 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3291001&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FRp6b8xxtj5c%2F Sensual thoughts? Do you experience flights of fantasy when you have sex, followed by intense guilt that you might have betrayed your partner? Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and co-dependency seem to have this sort of reaction. See list of male and female fantasies at end of this article. You might be surprised to know that sexual fantasies are far more common than you think, and can in fact add value to your relationship. A sexual fantasy, also called an erotic fantasy, is a deliberate fantasy or pattern of thoughts with the goal of creating or enhancing sexual feelings; it is mental imagery that an individual considers erotic. A fantasy can be a long, drawn-out story or a quick mental flash of sexual imagery; its purpose can range from sexual motivations, such as sexu... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3291001 Fri, 19 Feb 2010 00:44:00 +0100 3291001 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3291003&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FxTJpC4ULFKg%2F Are you thinking what I'm thinking? Sexercises: Workouts to Work You Up You know all of the good-for-you arguments for becoming more physically active, but here’s an especially attractive reward: exercise can improve your sex life. This is especially so for women in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, adult children of alcoholism, co-dependency, compulsive gambling or depression. Being physically active helps you feel more interested in sex, gives you the energy and strength you need for enjoying your partner or yourself more, reduces the stress that can block sexual interest and builds the muscles used in sexual intimacy. Research shows that exercise boosts women’s sexual arousal—even if they were experiencing low sexual desire before starting physical activity. That ef... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3291003 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:37:22 +0100 3291003 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3288030&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsexercises-for-recovering-women%2F Are you thinking what I'm thinking? Sexercises: Workouts to Work You Up You know all of the good-for-you arguments for becoming more physically active, but here’s an especially attractive reward: exercise can improve your sex life. This is especially so for women in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, adult children of alcoholism, co-dependency, compulsive gambling or depression. Being physically active helps you feel more interested in sex, gives you the energy and strength you need for enjoying your partner or yourself more, reduces the stress that can block sexual interest and builds the muscles used in sexual intimacy. Research shows that exercise boosts women’s sexual arousal—even if they were experiencing low sexual desire before starting physical activity. That ef... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3288030 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:37:22 +0100 3288030 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3288031&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Femotional-communication%2F This article may help alcoholics, addicts, co-dependents and adult children identify some strategies to help. Most people put their best foot forward in a new work setting or when looking to attract a mate, but often stumble keeping the relationship rewarding. Emotional intelligence skills help you reach beyond initial good impressions to more meaningful long term relationships at home or work. Keeping a relationship productive and fulfilling requires a unique skill set that, for most of us, must be learned. Conventional books and articles touting “relationship help” or “emotional intelligence at work” focus primarily on intellectual interventions for changing behavior, but overlook the source of our communication and relationship problems. Emotional memory and the perceptions we h... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3288031 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:13:00 +0100 3288031 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3287985&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FTzRnizxkwik%2Fcancer-guest-speaker-keynote I mostly connect with patients on the radio, internet, and through the printed word. But, as a former choreographer and performer, I’m not bashful on stage and love meeting readers and bloggers face-to-face at speaking events. During Q & As, at the book signing table, and yes, even in the bathroom, incredible conversations happen when I get out from behind my computer and into the world. Check out my line up on the East Coast, West Coast, Midwest, and Southwest. Hopefully our paths can cross in-person too. San Francisco Stupid Cancer Book Reading Wednesday, 2/24, 7-9 pm Happy Hour to Follow Modern Times Bookstore, 888 Valencia St. The mission The 411 Connect on the event facebook page The ‘Air’ Waves Guest on The Stupid Thyroid Cancer Episode of The Stupid Cancer Sho... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3287985 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 19:13:38 +0100 3287985 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3280139&cid=t_103978_131_f&fid=34999&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.marymeetsdolly.com%2Fblog%2Findex.php%3F%2Farchives%2F940-Adult-Stem-Cell-Trial-for-Cerebral-Palsy.html I know many great people who have cerebral palsy so I found this news very exciting.  From UPI.com:U.S. scientists say they are starting a clinical trial to determine whether stem cells from umbilical cord blood can help children with cerebral palsy.Medical College of Georgia researchers said their study represents the first such U.S. Food and Drug Administration-approved clinical trial. The study will include 40 children age 2-12 whose parents have stored cord blood at the Cord Blood Registry in Tucson, Ariz.The principal investigator of the trial, Dr. James Carroll, a professor at the college's school of medicine, said umbilical cord blood is rich in stem cells, which can divide and morph into different types of cells throughout the body. Cerebral palsy is caused by a brain injury or la... Mary Meets Dolly blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3280139 Tue, 16 Feb 2010 18:36:38 +0100 3280139 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3276056&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FRxt4EFQxr3s%2Fgood-doctors-nurses Patients excel at slamming our doctors online.  Sometimes our words are thoughtful, constructive criticism, and other times we are just spewing.  While it is necessary to vent sometimes, we run the risk of losing credibility if that is all we do.  I hope my blog contributes to constructive patient conversation. Still, I don’t think I take enough time to acknowledge who has done right by me. So that’s what I want to do today. Someone who’s done right by me: My anesthesiologist. My first surgery had scary recovery room complications due to anesthesia.  I was totally freaked out and didn’t want a repeat performance with my second surgery. I asked to speak with my anesthesiologist before going under the knife. He visited me an hour before hand and sat in a chair, eye level with... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3276056 Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:00:27 +0100 3276056 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3272997&cid=t_103978_122_f&fid=36582&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FSharpBrains%2F%7E3%2Fxmww43wvlsw%2F (Editor’s Note: contributor Scott Barry Kaufman recently interviewed Daniel Tammet, one of the 100 known prodigious savants living at the present time. Their in-depth conversation –summary and links follow Scott’s reflections below– provoked a powerful reaction in Scott’s mind, as you are about to read). Last night I was eating dinner with my parents back in my hometown in Philadelphia. I was telling them about my interview with Daniel Tammet, and how I was working on a post about my reflections on the interview. My father, who reads everything I write (which can be awkward sometimes!), looked at me and said, plainly and simply, “I see a lot of similarities between you and Daniel, Scott.” Those words were a kind of crystallizing moment for me. I su... SharpBrains blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3272997 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 03:13:06 +0100 3272997 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3271198&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FlpeOeqDHxoY%2F Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.” -Helen Keller Human beings have an enormous capacity to endure hardships and heartbreak. If their spirits are not broken, people can emerge from what seem like impossible circumstances to not only overcome the difficulties, but be enriched by them. It is when our spirits are broken that we are defeated and embittered by misfortune. Co-Dependent adult children of alcoholics emerge from the chaos of childhood with different degrees of brokenness. Some do not make it. Many remain emotionally numb, but others plant their feet in the ground of recovery and grow. I have the courage within me to go through the process of recovery. From the book, “Gentle Reminders – Daily Affirmations for Codepende... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3271198 Sun, 14 Feb 2010 00:17:00 +0100 3271198 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3271200&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FeEHq2bRQJNI%2F To be humble is to be balanced in our opinion of ourselves. Humility does not swagger with false pride nor grovel in self-depreciation. Humility is accepting the truth about ourselves. The good news for co-dependents and adult children of alcoholics / addicts is that we are blessed with many fine qualities that we have negated. We need to stand tall and be grateful for these gifts. “Thank you” should become a part of our emotional vocabulary. False pride is often a stance taken to cover up terrible feelings of inadequacy. But the truth is we have our own unique worth. Today I will accept my good qualities and acknowledge my defects. I have the courage to change my behavior and the wisdom to change my false beliefs. From the book; Gentle Reminders – Daily Affirmations for... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3271200 Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:38:22 +0100 3271200 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3271202&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FqEcnPjY-dAg%2F Self propelled merry-go-round Some people, known as co-dependents, act to protect the alcoholic or attempt to make the drugging stop in ways that at first seem to disable the drinking. But, paradoxically, the effect on the addict is the opposite. What usually happens is more drinking. Enabling can take several forms, such as; Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior by the codependent designed to take over the abuser’s personal responsibilities, such as hous... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3271202 Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:30:16 +0100 3271202 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3269878&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdisabling-enabling%2F Self propelled merry-go-round Some people, known as co-dependents, act to protect the alcoholic or attempt to make the drugging stop in ways that at first seem to disable the drinking. But, paradoxically, the effect on the addict is the opposite. What usually happens is more drinking. Enabling can take several forms, such as; Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior by the codependent designed to take over the abuser’s personal responsibilities, such as hous... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3269878 Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:30:16 +0100 3269878 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267179&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FWfKBTa_33qQ%2Fcancer-denial Two years into my cancer experience, I still had the nagging question: “Am I in denial?” I heard that cancer patients protect themselves in a natural bubble of denial in order to cope. Eventually that bubble bursts and you start dealing with the reality of your newly altered life. My bubble never burst. I never felt myself cross a threshold from denial to reality. I waited and waited, even tried to provoke it. Finally I realized it wasn’t happening because I was never in denial to begin with. The first 24 hours after my diagnosis, I felt shock.  I dreaded calling my mom and dad to tell them I had cancer. I went to class that night like nothing was wrong. I took my teacher aside afterwords and said, “Hey I was just diagnosed with cancer so I might need to go to a few doctors appoin... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267179 Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:30:33 +0100 3267179 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267207&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F8lWnTrijfao%2F Which letterbox has a dysfunctional family Growing up in an alcoholic family “Sometimes I feel like I was raised by wolves,” sighed James, a 55-year-old man who grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents. “I’ve gone through so much of my life guessing at what ‘normal’ is. It’s like trying to find your way through a dark woods without a compass.” According to Rosemary Hartman reactions like James’ are typical for people who grew up in dysfunctional families. But acknowledging that there were issues that deeply affected the whole family system is an important first step toward emotional and spiritual healing. Hartman said this acknowledgment frequently happens when adults have their own children. “They want to be good parents, but struggle with how to do it. They have s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267207 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 18:32:33 +0100 3267207 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267208&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FYAebYk3vl3A%2F CONCLUSIONS: Adolescent COAs are at risk for depression, suicide, eating disorders, chemical dependency, and teen pregnancy. It has been proposed that healthcare professionals teach core resiliency factors to promote healthy behaviors for this vulnerable population. Children of addicted parents are the highest risk group of children to become alcohol and drug abusers because of both genetic and family environment factors. Twenty-two percent of the combined sample identified themselves as a child of an alcoholic. This is consistent with current estimates of children of parental alcoholics, which is calculated to be 22%. In another recent study among 595 African American boys age 13 to 17 years, identified that 23% of the participating teens were COAs. The National Association of Children... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267208 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 18:20:23 +0100 3267208 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267209&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fd6QO8hrOMms%2F The objective of this study in Canada was to examine the effects of sexual abuse on substance use patients’ presentation and course in treatment. Consecutive admissions to an addictions service were assessed at intake and six-month follow-up. Assessments evaluated socio-demographic and psychiatric characteristics, addiction severity, and physical and/or sexual abuse histories. Upon entering treatment, 23% reported prior sexual abuse with or without physical abuse. Patients with a sexual abuse history had higher rates of psychological problems, stronger family histories of substance use disorders, and more impaired family relationships. At six months, there were no differences between patients with and without sexual abuse histories in their response to treatment, or their utilization ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267209 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:49:01 +0100 3267209 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3262822&cid=t_103978_133_f&fid=35124&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Faspergerwoman%2F%7E3%2FKOr3pQElETk%2Fchanges-dreams.html A lot of changes seem to make their entry in my life. Yesterday I said farewell to my support worker. After having shared many things, we are forced to end our business contact. It's all a matter of money. It's strange. We shared thoughts about the past two years and dreams about both our future together as we had a farewell drink yesterday. Life goes on. I have already met my new support worker. So far she seems to be a good choice. Changes however, do effect me deeply. Yes, I am an Aspie :-). I try to find rest in doing lots of other things like the bookcrossing things. I really like it and it's an adventure to prepare books for future travel around the world. I recommend http://www.bookcrossing/ to you all! The books I use for bookcrossing are used books, often bought cheap in a second... The Art of Being Asperger Woman blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3262822 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 11:25:00 +0100 3262822 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3262824&cid=t_103978_133_f&fid=37107&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.aspieweb.net%2Fbeacon-specialized-living-services-bangor%2F I was placed at Beacon Specialized Living Services Lantern Bay Facility.  On numerous occasions I was threatened, assaulted, and harassed by Beacon’s staff members.  The following is a review of my experience. On one occasion when I was trying to open a gate, a staff member assaulted me throwing me face first into a snowbank and [...] (Source: AspieWeb.net) AspieWeb.net blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3262824 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 23:17:51 +0100 3262824 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3259269&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FMQr5lGvE6bA%2F ACOA's often have inner shadows of early life Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) refers to individuals who have grown up in a dysfunctional family as a result of their parents or caretakers alcoholism. Each ACOA finds they often have common characteristics in adulthood as the result of their childhood and upbringing, often including alcohol or drug abuse themselves. These traits can also be found in other dysfunctional families that include drug addiction, compulsive gamblers, or workaholism. The condition is often referred to as co-dependency as the sufferer usually needs a person dependent or addicted to alcohol or drugs to feel needed. Adult Children of Alcoholics can also refer to any 12 Step Fellowship that, like Al-anon, who assist ACOA with their common problems. Common Traits ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3259269 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 10:22:33 +0100 3259269 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3254693&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2F7MhM7HJ7Md0%2Fmedical-errors Breast cancer is pink. Colon cancer blue. What color is the ribbon for hospital-associated infections? Did you know that more people die per year from healthcare-associated infections than from breast cancer? (The stats: 99,000 according to the CDC vs. 40,000 according to the National Breast Cancer Foundation. The CDC number doesn’t even include people who die from medication errors or surgical mistakes.) Suffering from medical errors and healthcare-related infections isn’t heroic. There is none of the cultural glam factor that’s ascribed to battling cancer, no Hallmark MRSA cards. But I’m still into making medical error reduction the cause du jour.  The best that can happen is that it will save my life.  And it is hugely more comprehensible and quickly fixable than finding a... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3254693 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 13:45:40 +0100 3254693 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3254738&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fa-program-of-action-2%2F Action will untabgle the heart to recovery A.A.’s 12-Steps – A Program of Action A.A.’s Twelve Steps, which constitute its program of recovery, are in no way a statement of belief; they simply describe what the founding members did to get sober and stay sober. They contain no new ideas: surrender, self-inventory, confession to someone outside ourselves, and some form of prayer and meditation are concepts found in spiritual movements throughout the world for thousands of years. What the Steps do is frame these principles for the suffering alcoholic – sick, frightened, defiant, and grimly determined not to be told what to do or think or believe. The Steps offer a detailed plan of action: admit that alcohol has you beaten, clean up your own life, admit your faults do whatever... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3254738 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:12:20 +0100 3254738 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3251429&cid=t_103978_167_f&fid=38271&url=http%3A%2F%2Frebeccascritchfield.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F02%2F08%2Fwhich-way-is-your-scale-tipping-protein-or-fat%2F Guest Blog By: Joy DuBost www.joyofnutrition.wordpress.com Around the world the prevalence of obesity is increasing in both developed and developing countries. The World Health Organization (WHO) reports that approximately 1.6 billion adults are overweight and at least 400 million are obese. Additionally worldwide over 22 million children under the age of 5 are overweight, as well as 155 million school-age children. The WHO considers obesity to be one of the top 10 causes of preventable death worldwide. Obesity or being overweight typically refers to one who has a high proportion of body fat. The clinical definition of obesity is a body mass index (BMI) of 30.0 or higher, which can be calculated as your weight in kilograms divided by your height in meters squared (BMI = [kg/m2]). If your... Balanced Health and Nutrition Rebecca Scritchfield's Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3251429 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:11:27 +0100 3251429 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3247078&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FxkGXSkbExTQ%2F Within Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous Gamblers Anonymous, Al-anon and Adult Children of Alcoholics there are 2 basic types of meetings for fellowship and recovery. The two most common kinds of 12-Step meetings are: OPEN MEETINGS: As the term suggests, meetings of this type are open to members and their families and to anyone interested in solving a personal problem or helping someone else to solve such a problem. Most open meetings follow a more or less set pattern, although distinctive variations have developed in some areas. A chairperson describes the program briefly for the benefit of newcomers in the audience and calls speakers who relate their personal histories and may give their personal interpretation of the program At the end of the meeting there is usually a period fo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3247078 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 12:12:00 +0100 3247078 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3247080&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FeMKSi0uKrnY%2F We examined the processes through which 20 committed members (aged 29-52 yrs) of self-help groups for adult children of alcoholics experience alterations in their perceptions of family of origin. Results suggest that world view transformation in the family of origin domain involves; learning to define the family as pathological, assigning responsibility for this pathology to a disease, forgiving oneself, accepting that one was adversely affected by the family’s problem, and ultimately learning to accept one’s parents’ shortcomings. Humphreys, Keith. World view change in Adult Children of Alcoholics/Al-Anon self-help groups: Reconstructing the alcoholic family. International Journal of Group Psychotherapy. Vol 46(2), Apr 1996, 255-263. See also; ACOA’s have Streng... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3247080 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 11:15:54 +0100 3247080 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3244023&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FgAIH-IJEKo8%2Fcancer-realistic-thinking One of many things that would kill me faster than my slow growing cancer is adopting the mindset of positive thinking. It is so against my nature. I’m sure this makes me sound like a curmudgeon. But why? The opposite of positive thinking isn’t negative thinking; it’s realistic thinking. I woke up the day after my diagnosis and began thinking hard about these realities: My cancer could spread. I could live, I could die. My doctors might make mistakes. My activities might be limited. My finances might be impacted. And of course, there was the realistic hell of finding out that I had no insurance. I didn’t spend much time wishing away these circumstances.  Instead, fully absorbing the reality of these putrid situations helped me stratagize and meet my needs.  It encouraged me to... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3244023 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:55:05 +0100 3244023 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3244054&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F8GHcEl-Ava4%2F This article from PsychCentral tells the story of an elderly women who found love again and gives some pointers. Want to find love again? There’s no reason to think that you can’t find someone to love. A few simple pointers may help. Start with giving yourself a pep talk. Don’t try to replace someone you’ve lost. Let friends and acquaintances know that you are open to meeting someone special. Be honest about what you’re looking for. Consider online dating services as a way to enlarge your pool of eligible singles. Be reasonably cautious Trust your instincts. Know what you want. When you find yourself wanting to spend more time with someone who seems promising, please remember that you both already have pretty full lives. Don’t expect your adult kids to love your new love &#821... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3244054 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:11:37 +0100 3244054 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3239787&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FBOHRlH_EqJQ%2Fcomplimentary-alternative-medicine-cancer Seems like alternative medicine and diets never get rational airtime. Some people slam them, writing off as quackery anything non-allopathic. Others become super cheerleaders letting alternative medicine and diets engulf their identity in a creepy almost cult like fashion. Neutral patients are left in the middle with little rational, scientific based information nor sensible peer support conversations about “natural” health and healing. On discussion boards it seems everyone’s either adamantly defending products and regimens with absurd anecdotes (quite different from sensible coping strategies) or they’re bashing the hell out things. Few readers learn anything other than propaganda for or against. I’m a big fan of patients being proactive, whether it is about alternative... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3239787 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 05:35:16 +0100 3239787 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3235802&cid=t_103978_87_f&fid=34925&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbestyoucanbe.blogspot.com%2F2010%2F02%2Fresidential-occupational-training-for.html Eastern New Mexico university offers a residential training program for adults with special needs. They are part of the western educational region, so it’s local tuition for neighboring states. Special Services - Occupational Training Program The Special Services Department provides services to students with disabilities. We maximize educational and career opportunities, assist disabled students with integration into the university community, and accommodate those students with services needed to allow full participation in all programs. Our certificate program is designed for students who, with appropriate training, are able to obtain positions in competitive employment. We currently have a three semester program, with a second year being developed. This second year will focus on... Be the Best You can Be blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3235802 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 23:18:00 +0100 3235802 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3236060&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FBOHRlH_EqJQ%2Fcomplimentary-alternative-medicine-cancer Seems like alternative medicine and diets never get rational airtime. Some people slam them, writing off as quackery anything non-allopathic. Others become super cheerleaders letting alternative medicine and diets engulf their identity in a creepy almost cult like fashion. Neutral patients are left in the middle with little rational, scientific based information nor sensible peer support conversations about “natural” health and healing. On many cancer chatrooms and discussion boards smart patients share tips on how to best manage chemo side effects or the pros and cons of surgical procedures. But on discussion boards where someone mentions alternative medicine all bets are off: everyone’s either adamantly defending products and regimens with absurd anecdotes (quite different from... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3236060 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 19:24:11 +0100 3236060 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3231780&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FBOHRlH_EqJQ%2Fcomplimentary-alternative-medicine-cancer Seems like alternative medicine and diets never get rational airtime. Some people slam them, writing off as quackery anything non-allopathic. Others become super cheerleaders letting alternative medicine and diets engulf their identity in a creepy almost cult like fashion. Neutral patients are left in the middle with little rational, scientific based information nor sensible peer support conversations about “natural” health and healing. On many cancer chatrooms and discussion boards smart patients share tips on how to best manage chemo side effects or the pros and cons of surgical procedures. But on discussion boards where someone mentions alternative medicine all bets are off: everyone’s either adamantly defending products and regimens with absurd anecdotes (quite different from... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3231780 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:59:09 +0100 3231780 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3228013&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fco-dependent-defence-behaviours%2F Some behaviours seem to have us locked into unbreakable patterns Psychological and emotional defence mechanisms are used by all human beings and may be necessary for survival in some situations. However, people from dysfunctional families (co-dependents, adult children of alcoholics for example) may have developed defence behaviours that are increasingly dysfunctional. When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.- Alexander Graham Bell We’ve all used defences to distance ourselves from distressing feelings and maintain a sense of emotional stability. Our defence patterns began in childhood when they prevented us from becoming overwhelmed with anxiety. However, as an adult we o... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3228013 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 11:29:34 +0100 3228013 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3223246&cid=t_103978_90_f&fid=0&url=http%3A%2F%2Fannietv600.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F01%2F29%2Ffuture-medical-education-canada%2F There needs to be a radical new approach to the training of doctors – with more emphasis on patient-centred care, preventive health care and working in teams with other health professionals, according to a much-anticipated new report. — from The Globe and Mail, January 29, 2010: MD schools call for radical rethink of doctor training This is the report that was endorsed by all 17 Canadian medical schools: Association of Faculties of Medicine of Canada (AFMC). The Future of Medical Education in Canada: A Collective Vision for MD Education. Ottawa: AFMC, 2010. Just as Abraham Flexner’s report did 100 years ago, The Future of Medical Education in Canada (FMEC) project looks at how the education programs leading to the medical doctor (MD) degree in Canada can best respond to society�... ANNE T-V's BLOG blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3223246 Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:07:27 +0100 3223246 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3212612&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FDMZhcodCMuU%2F Self-defeating thoughts How to Challenge your Internal Struggle Against Recovery and get off the endless staircase. Most people trying to overcome an addiction, alcoholism, gambling or co-dependency soon realize that recovery is not spontaneous. It requires discipline and patience, and therein lies the problem with recovery. Addiction’s lure is its promise of immediate gratification, the quick feel-good. Being addicted means relying on immediate gratification and, as the pattern of addiction continues, our ability to delay gratification erodes. Recovery, on the other hand, asks us to forego the quick feel-good and calls upon us to show a patience we have all but lost during our addiction. While recovery requires a physical tenacity, to bear the strain of withdrawal, it also requires ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3212612 Tue, 26 Jan 2010 01:00:37 +0100 3212612 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3208699&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-acoa-co-dependency%2F ACOA's often feel frozen in relationships You can talk to a dozen experts, read a dozen books and get a dozen different interpretations of ACOA co-dependency. Many accept it as a disease in as much as it has an onset, is progressive, predictable and in time is potentially fatal, although other causes of death are generally cited. It is assumed that all Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) are co-dependents, but we each act out this illness in a different way.  Basically, there are two general concepts: As children growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional home environment, we learned to hide or divorce our feelings, our true selves (also knows as the “Inner Child”) and we adopted a survival role in order to cope with the stresses. The experts in the field of alcohol... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3208699 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:38:19 +0100 3208699 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3205126&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FRBPnXi-G2p8%2F ACOA's often feel frozen in relationships You can talk to a dozen experts, read a dozen books and get a dozen different interpretations of ACOA co-dependency. Many accept it as a disease in as much as it has an onset, is progressive, predictable and in time is potentially fatal, although other causes of death are generally cited. It is assumed that all Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) are co-dependents, but we each act out this illness in a different way.  Basically, there are two general concepts: As children growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional home environment, we learned to hide or divorce our feelings, our true selves (also knows as the “Inner Child”) and we adopted a survival role in order to cope with the stresses. The experts in the field of alcohol... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3205126 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:38:19 +0100 3205126 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3208700&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdance-humor-for-recovery%2F Judy recently shared the following on her Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) e-mail group. I found it so useful that I asked her to allow it to be published here. Judy readily agreed. Good morning group, When I read the daily reading on losing a sense of humour it reminded me … I had to learn to play. When I came to ACA some of the members encouraged me to play by asking what I had never done as a child that I wanted to do. I wanted to learn to roller skate and I wanted a bicycle. I went out and bought a used pair of skates and a used bike. My friends took me roller skating and held my hand around the rink until I could go it alone. It was fun but what I discovered was that what I really wanted to do was dance. I gave away my skates and took dance lessons and I’ve been dancing for... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3208700 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 00:47:13 +0100 3208700 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3205127&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FSiPU7fDmXwc%2F Judy recently shared the following on her Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) e-mail group. I found it so useful that I asked her to allow it to be published here. Judy readily agreed. Good morning group, When I read the daily reading on losing a sense of humour it reminded me … I had to learn to play. When I came to ACA some of the members encouraged me to play by asking what I had never done as a child that I wanted to do. I wanted to learn to roller skate and I wanted a bicycle. I went out and bought a used pair of skates and a used bike. My friends took me roller skating and held my hand around the rink until I could go it alone. It was fun but what I discovered was that what I really wanted to do was dance. I gave away my skates and took dance lessons and I’ve been dancing for... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3205127 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 00:47:13 +0100 3205127 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3197862&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FYe4WaA00YrQ%2Fpatient-advocacy One of the coolest feelings is getting emails from patients who say, “I saw you speak, or I read your book, and you totally convinced me to get super aggressive with my doctor, or hospital, or employer, and it worked!” Managing my own illness has at times felt lonely and defeating.  When I’m crying on the phone with a receptionist trying to get a sooner appointment, or flat like a butterfly pinned down to an exam table, it’s easy to feel at the mercy of the system.  That’s why it’s incredibly important for me to hear and tell success stories about being a pro-active patient. Here’s one: Six hospital personnel were hovering over a table looking down at my neck: pathologists, radiologists, nurses, and fellows.  They were preparing to do multiple ultrasound guided needle ... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3197862 Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:33:18 +0100 3197862 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3193986&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FrraXVRmXkIU%2Fpatient-advocac One of the coolest feelings is getting emails from patients who say, “I saw you speak, or I read your book, and you totally convinced me to get super aggressive with my doctor, or hospital, or employer, and it worked!” Managing my own illness has at times felt lonely and defeating.  When I’m crying on the phone with a receptionist trying to get a sooner appointment, or flat like a butterfly pinned down to an exam table, it’s easy to feel at the mercy of the system.  That’s why it’s incredibly important for me to hear and tell success stories about being a pro-active patient. Here’s one: Six hospital personnel were hovering over a table looking down at my neck: pathologists, radiologists, nurses, and fellows.  They were preparing to do multiple ultrasound guided needle ... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3193986 Thu, 21 Jan 2010 13:25:07 +0100 3193986 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189410&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fr3Dt1vRoHK8%2F Sexual dysfunction can be so lonely Sexual Dysfunction and Recovery Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, co-dependency, compulsive gambling and adult children of alcoholics may identify with some of these. Sexuality may be very different in recovery and some people may have many questions about their sexual functions. Sexual dysfunction is the persistent or recurrent inability to react emotionally or physically to sexual stimulation in a way expected of the average healthy person or according to one’s own standards of acceptable sexual response. Sexual dysfunction can occur during the desire, excitement, plateau, or orgasm stage of the sexual response cycle. For example, one of the most common dysfunctions is inhibited arousal during the excitement stage. This presents as ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189410 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 12:46:53 +0100 3189410 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189416&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FZdOs3r5afxQ%2F Self-care. The bike is waiting! Self-care is about setting boundaries, letting go “Some of us have so many voices in our heads, we could hold group therapy by ourselves,” said Rokelle Lerner, a popular speaker and trainer on relationships, women’s issues, and addicted family systems. This internal chorus is often composed of voices from our family of origin, voices of critical teachers or bosses, voices from past relationships or current situations. Often these voices are drowned out by our own voice nagging, reprimanding, berating, but rarely praising us. In times of stress or chaos, the voices grow louder and it’s easy to go numb, Lerner recently told the audience at Hazelden’s Women Healing Conference in Minneapolis. “We become estranged from our pur... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189416 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:51:00 +0100 3189416 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3185630&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fself-care-boundaries%2F Self-care. The bike is waiting! Self-care is about setting boundaries, letting go “Some of us have so many voices in our heads, we could hold group therapy by ourselves,” said Rokelle Lerner, a popular speaker and trainer on relationships, women’s issues, and addicted family systems. This internal chorus is often composed of voices from our family of origin, voices of critical teachers or bosses, voices from past relationships or current situations. Often these voices are drowned out by our own voice nagging, reprimanding, berating, but rarely praising us. In times of stress or chaos, the voices grow louder and it’s easy to go numb, Lerner recently told the audience at Hazelden’s Women Healing Conference in Minneapolis. “We become estranged from our pur... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3185630 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:51:00 +0100 3185630 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3182376&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FeK2YrNIPO7k%2F People can be isolated by dysfunctional beliefs People can have many dysfunctional beliefs. Not all of these are in any one person but if there is many then that person may be dysfunctional. Alcoholics, addicts, co-dependents and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) may identify. Some of these dysfunctional beliefs are; That I can control my emotions. That I can control someone else’s emotions or actions or thoughts. That I deserve: . . .to get something good. . . .to get something bad. . . .to be punished for mistakes. . . .to be rewarded for perfection. . . .to be rewarded for good behaviour, intentions, thoughts, feelings, whatever. That I can “make” sense out of anything. That I am responsible for . . .for achieving other peoples success. . . .for other people&#82... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3182376 Sun, 17 Jan 2010 10:59:25 +0100 3182376 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3180404&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdysfunctional-fantasies%2F People can be isolated by dysfunctional beliefs People can have many dysfunctional beliefs. Not all of these are in any one person but if there is many then that person may be dysfunctional. Alcoholics, addicts, co-dependents and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) may identify. Some of these dysfunctional beliefs are; That I can control my emotions. That I can control someone else’s emotions or actions or thoughts. That I deserve: . . .to get something good. . . .to get something bad. . . .to be punished for mistakes. . . .to be rewarded for perfection. . . .to be rewarded for good behaviour, intentions, thoughts, feelings, whatever. That I can “make” sense out of anything. That I am responsible for . . .for achieving other peoples success. . . .for other people&#82... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3180404 Sun, 17 Jan 2010 10:59:25 +0100 3180404 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3180411&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fmilitary-families-alcoholism%2F Al-Anon/Alateen Helps Military Families Recent published reports show that heavy drinking has increased in the military. What data is not shown are the effects of this drinking on others. For 55 years family members and friends of alcoholics have found help and hope in Al-Anon meetings. There are meetings held on or near military bases in the US, Canada, and around the world. Al-Anon provides a safe, confidential, and free place for military families to share with and learn from other family members and friends of problem drinkers. The latest Al-Anon/Alateen Membership Survey (completed in November 2003) shows that 25 percent of Al-Anon members and 29 percent of teen members surveyed have a relationship with a problem drinker on active duty in the military. An additional six percent have a... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3180411 Sat, 16 Jan 2010 10:45:16 +0100 3180411 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3178994&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fm5E5lr08z9A%2F Al-Anon/Alateen Helps Military Families Recent published reports show that heavy drinking has increased in the military. What data is not shown are the effects of this drinking on others. For 55 years family members and friends of alcoholics have found help and hope in Al-Anon meetings. There are meetings held on or near military bases in the US, Canada, and around the world. Al-Anon provides a safe, confidential, and free place for military families to share with and learn from other family members and friends of problem drinkers. The latest Al-Anon/Alateen Membership Survey (completed in November 2003) shows that 25 percent of Al-Anon members and 29 percent of teen members surveyed have a relationship with a problem drinker on active duty in the military. An additional six percent have a... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3178994 Sat, 16 Jan 2010 10:45:16 +0100 3178994 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3172209&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FrubghhGQVUk%2F Detachment with love takes on deeper meaning One of the great gifts of the addiction recovery movement is the concept of detachment with love. Originally conceived as a way to relate to an alcoholic family member, detachment with love is actually a tool that we can apply with anyone. Al-Anon, a Twelve Step mutual-help group for friends [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3172209 Wed, 13 Jan 2010 23:01:57 +0100 3172209 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3172210&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F-upWgFjik1Q%2F I encourage everyone IF you really want to see those beautiful changes occurring in ALL your relationships, work the steps! (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3172210 Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:15:50 +0100 3172210 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3167459&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FsfZAypKxf6U%2F Balance, the gray area of life (most of life!), doesn’t come easily to us. (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3167459 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:01:21 +0100 3167459 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3146177&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FSOas-wIYXP0%2Fhints-for-cancer-treatment-surgery Most of us need insurance, money, and love to make it through cancer.  But what about the smaller, less conspicuous items that helped you through the medical and physical challenges of surgery, chemo or radiation? On my blog I often write about the emotional impacts of cancer, but today I’m all about the practical physical side. Most patients discover small must-have items, clothing, food, or paraphernalia that helped us to physically manage daily life. Here are mine: 1. Zip-up hoodies – I couldn’t lift my arms over my head to put on a shirt after surgeries for thyroid cancer 2. Paper cups and straws – During surgery they dug around in my neck and shoulders. So sore in that area, I couldn’t lift a glass or mug to drink but paper cups and straws saved the day. 3. Pillows – A mo... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3146177 Wed, 06 Jan 2010 08:02:36 +0100 3146177 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3142844&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FaPO0--aRceE%2F These myths would be of interest to anyone involved with alcoholism – wives, partners, parents, children, adult children (co-dependents) and of course the alcoholic. Myth 1: An alcoholic is the falling-down drunk on skid row. Answer: Only three percent of alcoholics are on skid row. Those alcoholics on skid row are undoubtedly in the last stages of [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3142844 Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:21:09 +0100 3142844 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3136593&cid=t_103978_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F01%2F02%2Flife-is-unfair-now-what%2F I probably don’t go a week without hearing some form of this complaint — life is unfair. It’s usually in the form of: “I can’t believe this happened to me! Why do bad things always seem to happen to me!?” “I’m a special person, why shouldn’t I be treated like someone special?” “Why does everyone else seem to succeed where all I can do is fail?” “I didn’t make the team/get the job/get asked out on a second date/get any of the attention my other siblings got.” You see how it goes. On and on, we don’t run out of examples of where we believe we’ve been untreated unfairly in life. Here’s how I try and look at it though — life is a never-ending game of learning. When something bad... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3136593 Sat, 02 Jan 2010 11:32:22 +0100 3136593 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3135513&cid=t_103978_90_f&fid=0&url=http%3A%2F%2Fannietv600.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F01%2F01%2Fcme-articles-academic-medicine-january-2010%2F The January 2010 issue of Academic Medicine contains a number of articles of interest to CME  providers. The publisher is providing some of these these free of charge (for now). RSS feed for this issue Bellande BJ, Winicur ZM, Cox KM.  Commentary: Urgently needed: a safe place for self-assessment on the path to maintaining competence and improving performance. Acad Med. 2010 Jan;85(1):16-8.  PubMed – http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20042814 Camilleri M, Parke DW 2nd. Perspective: Conflict of interest and professional organizations: considerations and recommendations. Acad Med. 2010 Jan;85(1):85-91.  PubMed -  http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20042830 Davis DA, Baron RB, Grichnik K, Topulos GP, Agus ZS, Dorman T.  Commentary: CME and its role in the academic medical cent... ANNE T-V's BLOG blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3135513 Fri, 01 Jan 2010 12:11:06 +0100 3135513 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3136727&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FSDakuYv4HXE%2F These levels of denial may be observed by family, healthcare workers and friends of the alcoholic. These levels may be applied to any addictive process such as gambling, sex addiction, spending, co-dependency, overeating, workaholism, smoking and being an Adult Child of Alcoholism. Just swap ‘alcohol; for your particular malady. Level A: “No Problem” The person at this level [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3136727 Fri, 01 Jan 2010 10:23:00 +0100 3136727 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3133805&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fchild-sex-abuse-alcoholism%2F Childhood sexual abuse and the course of alcohol dependence (alcoholism) development Childhood sexual abuse (CSA) has been associated with increased risk for alcohol dependence (AD), but the extent to which childhood sexual abuse history may impact transitions in the course of alcohol dependence development remains unclear. The current study examined the role of childhood sexual abuse in initiation of alcohol use and rate of progression from first drink to alcohol dependence using a sample of 3536 female twins (mean age = 21.6 years). Psychiatric diagnoses and alcohol use histories were obtained via telephone interviews using an adaptation of the SSAGA. The contribution of childhood sexual abuse to alcohol outcomes independent of familial influences was estimated by using co-twin alcohol d... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3133805 Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:57:48 +0100 3133805 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3133806&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsymptoms-of-co-dependence%2F These symptoms and characteristics of the thoughts and actions of a codependent are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. Denial Symptoms: I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling. I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel. I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others. Low Self Esteem Symptoms: I have difficulty making decisions. I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never “good enough.” I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts. I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires. I value others approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own. I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person. Compliance Symptoms: I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejecti... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3133806 Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:46:03 +0100 3133806 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3129685&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcohol-awareness-for-loved-ones%2F Understanding alcohol abuse and alcoholism can be a key step in solving drinking problems Some people worry about their alcohol use but are not convinced that they need help. Friends or relatives might express their concern–”You have a drinking problem.” But often that well-intentioned statement fails to define the issue or suggest a clear solution. To cut through the confusion, it helps to understand the difference between alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence. Making this distinction can help you think clearly about a “drinking problem”–and allow you or a loved one to get the kind of help that makes a difference. Alcohol dependence–often called “alcoholism”–is only one potential complication of drinking. Alcohol abuse can disru... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3129685 Wed, 30 Dec 2009 03:38:02 +0100 3129685 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3126799&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdysfunctional-families%2F Dysfunctional families maintain a false facade in public Dysfunctional Families; Types, Symptoms and Effect on Children A dysfunctional family is a family in which conflict, misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur continually, leading other members to accommodate such actions. Children sometimes grow up in such families with the understanding that such an arrangement is normal. Dysfunctional families are most often a result of the alcoholism, substance abuse, or other addictions of parents, parents’ untreated mental illnesses/defects or personality disorders, or the parents emulating their own dysfunctional parents and dysfunctional family experiences. Behavior patterns Dysfunctional family members have common symptoms and behavior patterns as a ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3126799 Tue, 29 Dec 2009 05:03:22 +0100 3126799 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3123516&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FXFIOAluIgu0%2F Symptoms, Withdrawal and Treatment Coffee, tea, cola drinks, chocolate and many foods contain caffeine. A new range of drinks on the market is a variety of high content caffeine drinks such as Red Bull. Caffeine, a stimulant, is the most widely consumed drug and is a stimulant. Caffeine has occasionally been considered a drug of abuse and has the potential for people to become addicted. After studying two cases and a survey of the population the researchers concluded that caffeine abuse and addiction are potentially serious conditions. They propose guidelines for manufacturers such as; clearly indicate the caffeine content of products containing comparatively higher quantities of caffeine; warn that such products should be avoided by infants and children wherever possible, and inform adul... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3123516 Sun, 27 Dec 2009 13:05:59 +0100 3123516 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3123524&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F9Kh55pg-ebs%2F A.A.’s 12-Steps – A Program of Action A.A.’s Twelve Steps, which constitute its program of recovery, are in no way a statement of belief; they simply describe what the founding members did to get sober and stay sober. They contain no new ideas: surrender, self-inventory, confession to someone outside ourselves, and some form of prayer and meditation are concepts found in spiritual movements throughout the world for thousands of years. What the Steps do is frame these principles for the suffering alcoholic – sick, frightened, defiant, and grimly determined not to be told what to do or think or believe. The Steps offer a detailed plan of action: admit that alcohol has you beaten, clean up your own life, admit your faults and do whatever it takes to change them, maintain a rel... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3123524 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 08:48:45 +0100 3123524 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3119067&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faa-and-judaism%2F The fellowships of Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous and Al-Anon are of inestimable value in the recovery from alcoholism and chemical dependency. Not infrequently, there is a resistance on the part of Jews to participate on the grounds that these programs have a religious orientation that is non-Jewish. Let us first dispense with some extraneous objections. A.A. is Christian because meetings are held in church basements, say some. While it is true that the majority of A.A. meetings are in churches, it should also be mentioned that few Jewish facilities have welcomed A.A. The myth that Jews do not become alcoholic has resulted in an alienation of alcoholism treatment programs from the Jewish community. Just as there is a lack of alcoholism expertise in Jewish health agencies, so is... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3119067 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 13:03:17 +0100 3119067 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3119069&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F5-strengths-of-an-acoa-2%2F What’s Your Greatest Asset? Amy Eden writes about the assets of ACOA’s. “I don’t know about you, but I sometimes feel exasperated with the emphasis on problems tied to being the offspring of alcoholics. Today I need to hear the B side of the record, to think about our other characteristics.” Here are her first five assets of ACOA’s. YOU CAN EMPATHIZE YOU’RE INDEPENDENT YOU’RE CREATIVE YOU’RE RESILIENT YOU’RE CALM Full post at Guess What Normal Is. Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3119069 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 11:26:58 +0100 3119069 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3119038&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2Fw-9STmIUoFU%2Fcancer-daydream-stress I am a huge daydreamer.  My mind is a separate universe with lots – sometimes too much - going on in it.  This can be really helpful when I want to vanish from a situation that I am unable to actually physically escape from. This seems like a good topic to talk about now, either for those of you who need a mental vacation from illness, or a mental getaway from too much family togetherness around the holidays. When I am laying on a table getting ultrasounds, I choreography ballets in my mind.  I also love obsessing over the details of dinner parties – I plan menus, table settings, and fantasize about floral arrangements.  I’m also quite addicted to mental wedding planning.  It’s all pretty girlie, I know.  My own wedding got me through a years worth of cancer scans, and no... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3119038 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 06:23:46 +0100 3119038 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3119071&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstyles-of-enabling-behavior%2F Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior by the codependent designed to take over the abuser’s personal responsibilities, such as household chores or employment. Rationalizing and accepting: Any behavior by the codependent conveying a rationalization or acceptance of the significant other’s drug use. Cooperating and collaborating: Any assistance or involvement by the codependent in the buying, selling, adulterating, testing, preparing, or use of drugs. ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3119071 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:24:06 +0100 3119071 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3119072&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholism-gambling-linked%2F . A new research study reveals a strong link between alcohol dependency and gambling problems, Reuters reported. According to researchers at the Research Institute on Addictions at the University at Buffalo, N.Y., adults with an alcohol addiction are 23 times more likely to have a gambling problem than those who do not drink. “If you’re in trouble with alcohol, the odds you’re also in trouble with gambling increase enormously,” said lead author Dr. John W. Welte. “Most of that correlation is that problem behaviors tend to cluster in the same people.” The study also found factors that identified which racial and ethnic groups were more likely to have a gambling problem. “Gambling is more common among lower socioeconomic people, blacks and Hispanics, than am... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3119072 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:15:33 +0100 3119072 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3115088&cid=t_103978_90_f&fid=0&url=http%3A%2F%2Fannietv600.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F12%2F23%2Fmedical-education-january-2010%2F    The January 2010 issue of Medical Education is now online, and for now, it is free online! Here are the contents of this issue: The state of the science in health professional education On complexity and craftsmanship The value of paradoxical tensions in medical education research Identities as performances: encouraging visual methodologies in medical education research The gross anatomy laboratory: a prototype for simulation-based medical education Patients in health professional education: so much known, so much yet to understand How does research on motor skills translate into clinical skills learning? Medical education and other disciplines To err is human The power of feedback Improving the flexibility and efficiency of testing Self-organisation, integration and curriculum in t... ANNE T-V's BLOG blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3115088 Wed, 23 Dec 2009 14:13:59 +0100 3115088 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3115293&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FPCNyu3FEAXk%2F Denial Breaking through denial is alcoholic’s first step in recovery Looking in the mirror and accepting what we see can be one of the hardest things we ever do. It’s especially hard when the image staring us in the face is painful or doesn’t fit with how we want to see ourselves. Sometimes, the truth is so painful that we avoid it at any cost. Refusing to accept a painful reality that alters the perception of ourselves is a psychological defence called denial. As human beings, we may use denial to protect ourselves from knowledge, insight or awareness that threatens our self-esteem, mental or physical health, or security. The term “denial” is often used in the chemical dependency field to describe people who deny substance abuse problems. “Denial is the tendency of... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3115293 Wed, 23 Dec 2009 12:09:28 +0100 3115293 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3115296&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FjmVcVWvqcFU%2F : And Getting Better All the Time By Melody Beattie A book for any one who has had a relationship with an alcohol, addict or compulsive gambler. Adult Children of Alcoholism / addiction, wives, husbands, parents &etc. Review By Neal J. Pollock (VA USA) While I have not read Melody Beattie’s other works, I thought this a very valuable book in and of itself. It sheds much light on the topic and helped me to become sensitized to the obvious signs of co-dependency in people. By doing this, it enabled me to avoid situations where I could become codependent in a relationship. I think that, as in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, there are levels of psychological situations and/or problems. Thus, there may be people inherently inclined towards co-dependency, but there may also be peopl... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3115296 Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:29:45 +0100 3115296 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3115298&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FNoQULeiZ7z8%2F Adult Child of Alcoholism The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List These are some characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfil our sick abandonment needs. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves. This enables us not to look too close... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3115298 Tue, 22 Dec 2009 11:53:39 +0100 3115298 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3108529&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2F-s_YGxiBiQg%2Fcancer-holidays I was asked to write a guest blog post for Dear Thyroid about having cancer around the holidays.  But being an atheist-Jew, I truly was at a loss for words. I had to pass. This is just not a subject I know much about. So I thought I would turn it over to you guys to educate me a bit more about what the holidays hold in store for anyone who is facing illness.  Have at it.  Leave a comment with stories, kvetching, tips, rants, or good memories about what it is like to be sick and dealing with: Family, food, lethargy, expectations, looking like crap, feeling like crap, feeling great when others think you should feel like crap, travel, germs, sibling rivalry, office parties, being broke, being grateful to be alive, wondering if this is your last Christmas, being on chemo or in the middle of... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3108529 Mon, 21 Dec 2009 07:07:32 +0100 3108529 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3096969&cid=t_103978_125_f&fid=34820&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.dentalblogs.com%2Farchives%2Fadministrator%2Fdr-gary-radz-on-6-month-smiles%2F We have started working with 6 Month Smiles’ short-term orthodontics. We have in the last two months started six cases, and we’re very excited about the results. Patients are excited, too. Even though the system uses conventional orthodontic wires and brackets, because they are tooth colored, adults patients accept it because they aren’t obvious and offer treatment time that’s less than a year. I took the 6 Month Smiles course by Dr. Ryan Swain from NY. The two-day course was perfect for my assistants and me, and it was right here in Denver. Between the flash drive information that I came home with and the course itself, I had everything necessary to get started. One thing that helped us get up and running fast is that we had Invisalign certification, so we were updated on recent o... dental blog for dentists about dentistry blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3096969 Thu, 17 Dec 2009 14:24:06 +0100 3096969 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3089523&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FnkoO8zmTks4%2Fsurvival-rates One of the most heart wrenching days of my life came after my first surgery when I learned I had a rare disease variant of my cancer.  It tanked my survival rate an extra 20%.   I felt like someone was yanking my heart through my nostrils.  Years later, a subsequent pathology report showed no evidence of the rare disease variant.  Poof, I was jacked back up to the normal papillary thyroid cancer statistics – which are damn high.  I don’t know what made the variant disappear but I’m extremely grateful. I love this quote from Rick Gribenas in my book Everything Changes: “Ambiguity is more real than a prescribed prognosis, which is complete crap.  If there’s an 80% chance of this, or a 20% chance of that, it’s still a chance.  Who knows which percentage I’ll fall into?�... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3089523 Tue, 15 Dec 2009 06:40:21 +0100 3089523 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3106896&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FkJZXHfV8w50%2F We Alcoholics Anonymous members surrender to win; we give away to keep; we suffer to get well, and we die to live. A.A. does not function in a way which people normally expect it to. For example, instead of using our “will power,” as everyone outside A.A. seems to think we do, we give up our [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3106896 Sun, 13 Dec 2009 21:55:28 +0100 3106896 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3082611&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-codependency%2F The term “co-dependency” was coined more than 20 years ago by authors who studied the negative impact of drug and alcohol use on families. Since then, use of the term has been expanded to include a pattern of psychologically unhealthy behaviors that are learned by individuals as a way of coping with a family environment [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3082611 Sat, 12 Dec 2009 04:08:00 +0100 3082611 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3082591&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FDXOrMZfPLYg%2Ftesticular-cancer If a guy I was sexually active with were missing a ball it would take me a while to figure it out.  Seriously.  For me, they’re not the main attraction down there nor do they have a gigantic space in between like breasts, which allow you to focus so specifically on the left or right. If both balls were missing it would be much more apparent.  I’ve never been in this situation, so I can only speculate, but I don’t think it would change my sex life much if my guy were missing one or both balls.  Sure, I’d have to get used to their absence, but it wouldn’t change my level of attraction or satisfaction if they were missing.  (Apologies in advance to my husband for whom this might be a weird post to read!) I got a great comment from a testicular cancer patient on my post about mi... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3082591 Fri, 11 Dec 2009 21:58:10 +0100 3082591 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3067279&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FMdnPRXewdW8%2Fprosthetics-baldness-cancer It isn’t couth, compassionate, and politically correct to ogle over a woman’s breasts, whether they come in a pair or not.  Standing around the food table at a house party last night, I tried but couldn’t help steal glances.  I loved that the woman across from me had the audacity to walk through the world with a cute small boob on the right, and a pancake flat space on the left. The woman with a mastectomy and no prosthesis turned out to be S.L. Wisenberg.  She’s the author of The Adventures of Cancer Bitch, a book I have seen on the shelf next to my book in many stores.  We spent most of the evening by each others side talking about exercise, book readings, cancer fundraising, pink washing, and more.  I adored her immediately. I learned that during cancer treatment, she nixed... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3067279 Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:44:22 +0100 3067279 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056889&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2gZ4PfCXW64%2F This study is published in the December 2008 issue of Personal Relationships. Source: Blackwell Publishing Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056889 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 14:12:27 +0100 3056889 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3052393&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwomen-like-skills-and-abilities-in-men-not-dominance%2F This study is published in the December 2008 issue of Personal Relationships. Source: Blackwell Publishing Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3052393 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 14:12:27 +0100 3052393 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056890&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FwLjV3Ekh-Jw%2F What are the risks of sexual activities other than penile-vaginal intercourse? In recovery from alcoholism, addiction and compulsive gambling many people begin to take more responsibility for their sexual behaviors. Many couples engage in mutual masturbation, oral sex and anal sex instead of penile-vaginal intercourse to prevent pregnancy and avoid catching sexually transmitted infections (STIs). These activities reduce the risk of pregnancy, but most people don’t know that the risk of spreading an STI stays significantly high. Various infections may be spread through blood, saliva, semen, and feces. Different organisms have different risks of being spread, but the risk is always increased with open sores and abrasions, or other breaks in the skin, oral or vaginal lining. Few individuals... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056890 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:59:59 +0100 3056890 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056891&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fuj4gwIKxXkY%2F Canadian Maole Leaf The Twelve Steps may help the alcohol abuser, but what about those who have been abused? Substance abuse is an issue in a number of Canadian families. The abuse of alcohol is known as alcoholism, and can be recognized by several symptoms according to the Mayo Clinic, a large medical research and treatment group, based in several U.S. cities, including Phoenix, Ariz. Symptoms include “drinking alone or in secret, blacking out, feeling a need or compulsion to drink, becoming intentionally intoxicated to feel good or drinking to feel ‘normal’.” These symptoms, however, are just that, symptoms. They are not the cause of the alcohol dependence. “Genetics, emotional state, psychological factors and social and cultural factors” can all lead to a state of alcohol de... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056891 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:53:48 +0100 3056891 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056893&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2TH7s4bNQDc%2F Say no to guilt Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so.  Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful. My attempts to separate from my parents we met with threats of abandonment.  As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection. Deep within me now, I feel a strong desire to become my own person, to stand free of all unhealthy attachments and discover who I am.  When I disregard my limitations and permit others to violate my boundaries, I harm myself. Today I will love myself enough to say no when I find it necessary.  I will reassure the child within me that those who truly love me will not abandon me when I must tell them no.  No matter what the response, today I will treat myself well by saying no without gu... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056893 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:34:00 +0100 3056893 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3052395&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fjust-say-no-to-guilt%2F Say no to guilt Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so.  Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful. My attempts to separate from my parents we met with threats of abandonment.  As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection. Deep within me now, I feel a strong desire to become my own person, to stand free of all unhealthy attachments and discover who I am.  When I disregard my limitations and permit others to violate my boundaries, I harm myself. Today I will love myself enough to say no when I find it necessary.  I will reassure the child within me that those who truly love me will not abandon me when I must tell them no.  No matter what the response, today I will treat myself well by saying no without gu... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3052395 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:34:00 +0100 3052395 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056895&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F5IrWVxDgM_w%2F Patterns of co-dependency can emerge from any family system where the open and secret rules close its members off from the outside world. These family systems; discourage healthy communication of issues and feelings between themselves, destroy the family members’ ability to trust themselves and to trust another in an intimate relationship, and freeze family members into unnatural roles, making constructive change difficult. Rules that encourage the unnatural patterns of relating in these codependent family systems include: Don’t talk about problems Don’t express feelings openly or honestly Communicate indirectly, through acting out or sulking, or via another family member Have unrealistic expectations about what the Dependent will do for you Don’t be selfish, thi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056895 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 11:49:13 +0100 3056895 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3052397&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdysfunctional-rules-of-co-dependency%2F Patterns of co-dependency can emerge from any family system where the open and secret rules close its members off from the outside world. These family systems; discourage healthy communication of issues and feelings between themselves, destroy the family members’ ability to trust themselves and to trust another in an intimate relationship, and freeze family members into unnatural roles, making constructive change difficult. Rules that encourage the unnatural patterns of relating in these codependent family systems include: Don’t talk about problems Don’t express feelings openly or honestly Communicate indirectly, through acting out or sulking, or via another family member Have unrealistic expectations about what the Dependent will do for you Don’t be selfish, thi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3052397 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 11:49:13 +0100 3052397 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056898&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FlVZclvRPwWk%2F A great video about depression from Face the Issue narrated by Kate Hudson. The following is an anonymous quote from a sufferer of depression. lately ive been feeling down, like i used to, ive had a heavy heart fora few weeks now, i cant sleep properly, and it all reminds me of when i had my issues, im afraid that they might be returning, that illl relapse and i wont recover this time, ive already relapsed back into my self harm once in the last month, i dont want to do so again, but if i am falling back into the abyss will i be able to crawl back out again, i know ive done it once, but can i do it again? do i have the strength? i just dont know at the moment Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056898 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 01:30:00 +0100 3056898 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3052400&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdepression-video%2F A great video about depression from Face the Issue narrated by Kate Hudson. The following is an anonymous quote from a sufferer of depression. lately ive been feeling down, like i used to, ive had a heavy heart fora few weeks now, i cant sleep properly, and it all reminds me of when i had my issues, im afraid that they might be returning, that illl relapse and i wont recover this time, ive already relapsed back into my self harm once in the last month, i dont want to do so again, but if i am falling back into the abyss will i be able to crawl back out again, i know ive done it once, but can i do it again? do i have the strength? i just dont know at the moment Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3052400 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 01:30:00 +0100 3052400 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3045028&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fal-anon-works-in-india%2F Al-anon in India Fighting the spirits with spirituality Michelle was an angry woman. Often, when her husband returned from work, she would slam doors, swear and shout. Once, when he was asleep, she even poured a bucketful of water on him and later regretted drenching the mattress she shared with him. There were even times she secretly wished for a call informing her that her husband had fallen into a gutter somewhere. That was her idea of justice. Michelle did not hate her husband. She hated him when he was drunk. As the wife of an alcoholic, she had slowly imbibed the drunkard’s lack of self-control herself. Full story at Times of India, Spirituality in Al-anon See also; Al-Anon May be able to help Adult Children of Alcoholics Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3045028 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:10:00 +0100 3045028 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3040024&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FHinoSKFEVu0%2F Al-anon in India Fighting the spirits with spirituality Michelle was an angry woman. Often, when her husband returned from work, she would slam doors, swear and shout. Once, when he was asleep, she even poured a bucketful of water on him and later regretted drenching the mattress she shared with him. There were even times she secretly wished for a call informing her that her husband had fallen into a gutter somewhere. That was her idea of justice. Michelle did not hate her husband. She hated him when he was drunk. As the wife of an alcoholic, she had slowly imbibed the drunkard’s lack of self-control herself. Full story at Times of India, Spirituality in Al-anon See also; Al-Anon May be able to help Adult Children of Alcoholics Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3040024 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:10:00 +0100 3040024 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3045029&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faddicted-family-roles%2F Families may adopt different roles When a parent is addicted to alcohol or drugs, the entire family is set up around the addict and their addiction. Children tend to follow designated roles as the family acts out the drama of addiction. Children develop these roles due to family dynamics. For a child in an addicted household, he or she will usually only fulfil one role. The parents and family will not acknowledge any behavior outside this family role. In a more functioning household, children often move fluidly between roles. These roles are generally known as codependent roles. So what are addicted family roles? They are: Little Parent: This child usually functions as a surrogate parent. While the parent is immersed in their addiction, the little parent will take on the parenting of youn... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3045029 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:57:00 +0100 3045029 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3040025&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FsbkjMUROo7E%2F Families may adopt different roles When a parent is addicted to alcohol or drugs, the entire family is set up around the addict and their addiction. Children tend to follow designated roles as the family acts out the drama of addiction. Children develop these roles due to family dynamics. For a child in an addicted household, he or she will usually only fulfil one role. The parents and family will not acknowledge any behavior outside this family role. In a more functioning household, children often move fluidly between roles. These roles are generally known as codependent roles. So what are addicted family roles? They are: Little Parent: This child usually functions as a surrogate parent. While the parent is immersed in their addiction, the little parent will take on the parenting of youn... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3040025 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:57:00 +0100 3040025 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3040026&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fzzzi7y9SE58%2F ACOA hands For Adult Children of Alcoholics / Addicts and, in fact, all people. Bill of rights I do not have to feel guilty just because someone else does not like what I d0, say, think, or feel. It is OK for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways. I do not have to assume full responsibility for making decisions, particularly where others share responsibility for making the decision. I have the right to say, “I don’t understand” without feeling stupid or guilty. I have the right to say “I don’t know” I have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty. I do not have to apologize or give reasons when I say no. I have the right to ask others to do things for me. I have the right to refuse requests which others make of me. I hav... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3040026 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:51:00 +0100 3040026 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3045032&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-steps-to-happiness%2F Will you be my Valentine? Physical well being is inseparable from emotional well being. Happy people are healthy people. The wisdom traditions of the world tell us that happiness does not depend on what you have, but on who you are. Let’s take a moment to reflect on what really creates happiness in us. The following ten keys, gleaned from the wisdom traditions, may give us some insight. Listen to your body’s wisdom, which expresses itself through signals of comfort and discomfort. When choosing a certain behavior, ask your body, ‘How do you feel about this?’ If your body sends a signal of physical or emotional distress, watch out. If your body sends a signal of comfort and eagerness, proceed. Live in the present, for it is the only moment you have. Keep your attention on what ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3045032 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:20:00 +0100 3045032 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3040031&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FM47YLjwoXiw%2F Will you be my Valentine? Physical well being is inseparable from emotional well being. Happy people are healthy people. The wisdom traditions of the world tell us that happiness does not depend on what you have, but on who you are. Let’s take a moment to reflect on what really creates happiness in us. The following ten keys, gleaned from the wisdom traditions, may give us some insight. Listen to your body’s wisdom, which expresses itself through signals of comfort and discomfort. When choosing a certain behavior, ask your body, ‘How do you feel about this?’ If your body sends a signal of physical or emotional distress, watch out. If your body sends a signal of comfort and eagerness, proceed. Live in the present, for it is the only moment you have. Keep your attention on what ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3040031 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:20:00 +0100 3040031 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3039996&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FcStDxmXtqm0%2Fcancer-control Soon into my cancer care, I somewhat unintentionally started developing small, mundane rituals around my house. After my first surgery, I had a daily pattern.  When I could muster up the energy, I would sit in a warm bath and listen to Patsy Cline.  The bathroom was a world away from the rest of my studio apartment where my mom and I were living side by side.  Getting into the tub felt like a vacation, and a major accomplishment.  My world had become so small, so boring, so comparatively unproductive that taking my Patsy Cline bath everyday felt like a tangible accomplishment. I typically despise routine, schedules, and predictability.  But so many things that I could formerly count on, like having a social life, working, paying bills, were thrown out the window when I became a young ... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3039996 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 06:07:23 +0100 3039996 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3026857&cid=t_103978_131_f&fid=34999&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.marymeetsdolly.com%2Fblog%2Findex.php%3F%2Farchives%2F910-Toddler-with-cerebral-palsy-shows-improvement-with-own-stem-cells.html Dallas Hextell, a toddler diagnosed with cerebral palsy, has shown remarkable improvement with a transfusion of his own cord blood.  Cord blood comes from the umbilical cord after birth and contains valuable adult stem cells that are a genetic match to the baby.  While most cord blood is thrown in the biological waste with the placenta after birth, the Hextells decided to pay the $2000 fee to have their son's cord blood saved and stored.  I have an idea for health care reform.  How about helping parents who bank their children's cord blood with a $2000 tax credit?  Here is the video from MSNBC:<p style="background: transparent none repeat scroll 0% 0%; font-size: 11px; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; color: rgb(153, 153, 153); margin-to... Mary Meets Dolly blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3026857 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 18:33:14 +0100 3026857 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3023418&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fal-anon-helps-members-reach-beyond-their-fears%2F Families and friends of alcoholics can help find hope and help in Al-Anon/Alateen Those who live with alcoholism often live in fear: fear of abuse, fear of anger, fear of trusting others. Al-Anon Family Groups (including Alateen for younger members) is a source of understanding, help, and hope to families and friends of alcoholics. The following story, originally published in the August 2002 issue of Al-Anon’s monthly magazine, The Forum, illustrates some of the fears experienced. My pattern of isolation began in childhood when my mother’s abusive behavior became a source of sadness and embarrassment. I coped by being a good little girl and keeping my feelings to myself. Years later, while I suffered from my son’s alcoholism, I withdrew again. When the pain became intolerable, I deci... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3023418 Mon, 23 Nov 2009 12:56:06 +0100 3023418 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3019212&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FuOYbQY2ORaA%2Fnewly-diagnosed-cancer When I was first diagnosed with cancer, everybody and their mother was telling me what to do, how to handle it.  Some advice was so off it made me want to stick my fingers in my ears and chant “blah, blah, blah” like a three year old. This is one of many reasons why I wrote my book Everything Changes.  I wanted advice that didn’t make me regress to toddlerhood.  I wanted really smart advice that I hadn’t seen anywhere else.  I wasn’t finding it in other books or cards or tee shirts.  So I found it in long intimate conversations with other cancer patients. The end of my five-hour conversation with Wafa’a really stuck out to me.  She described herself as always being hyper with fear, constantly on the run, going clubbing, to yoga, hanging out with friends.  (Yep, that gorg... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3019212 Mon, 23 Nov 2009 01:36:39 +0100 3019212 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3015446&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FNSbv7IvfK2Y%2Fbreast-cancer-guidelines-young-adults I’m disturbed that in recent conversation about breast cancer guidelines, I’ve not heard anybody asking the question: ‘What is the most effective way to lower breast cancer mortality rates in young women?’ Prior to this announcement, I’ve spoken with staffers from key organizations serving young women with BC (breast cancer). They told me they’ve never seen studies on whether breast self exams (BSE) lower mortality rates in young women. I’ve read articles in which policy analysts and scientists agree this needs to be studied. Cancer is terrifying and it is down right frightening to have BSEs diminished as a guideline when they are the one thing we have come to think of as a hopeful solution for young women.  But instead of defending a tool about w... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3015446 Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:16:52 +0100 3015446 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3008350&cid=t_103978_134_f&fid=35187&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FDiabetesDaily%2F%7E3%2FeE8hxZW2dW4%2F I read a post written by Kelly titled "Dear Diabetes Orgs & Society as a Whole", I decided to blog about what it feels like being diagnosed with T-1/1.5 diabetes and not having a (offline) support system like the  JDRF or ADA.True StoryWhen I was diagnosed with  Type 1.5 diabetes I was 23 years old.  I wasn't a child, teenager or T-2.  I was a healthy 23 year old newlywed.  I was a homeowner.  I enjoyed waffles for breakfast and going to Sonic's to grab a Route 44 Cherry Slush.  I was focused on work, married life, being an armywife and going back to college.  Some how, Some way...Diabetes entered my life.  Why? I don't know.  I wasn't upset when I found out.  I cried but I wasn't angry. I was curious to know if there were more peo... Diabetes Daily blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3008350 Thu, 19 Nov 2009 12:00:00 +0100 3008350 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2999857&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fi-value-what-is-unique-in-me%2F Uniqueness: I value what is unique in me I value my own specialness and I dare to reveal it. Since the universe expresses itself through the differences in all of creation, I choose to acknowledge my own uniqueness. My inner self speaks through the nonconformity that I am. Today I applaud nonconformity and the differences within my life. I am free of the need to please others or to conform to what they are. When I am true to myself, I easily and lovingly express my own opinions and beliefs without fear of rejection. My self-worth is not on the line when I recognize the uniqueness in myself and others. I do not have to agree with everyone, and everyone does not have to agree with me. Belief in my differentness allows me to understand those who do not understand me. I praise my uniqueness an... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2999857 Mon, 16 Nov 2009 09:46:00 +0100 2999857 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2996003&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2Fh2ri1Ovus04%2Faggressive-patient Ever since I was a little kid, I’ve had a huge don’t mess with me attitude.  I’m a scrawny Jewish girl, but am quite in touch with my inner Rambo.  It’s no surprise to anyone who knows me that I am a really aggressive cancer patient. But lately I’ve been wondering if aggressive is always the smartest choice. Sometimes I’m aggressive out of fear.  Living with cancer is damn scary.  It’s easy to want to pull out the big guns so I can feel forceful in fighting my disease.   My doc told me I could lower the dosage of my medication slightly.  Instead of embracing the prospect of diminished side effects, I want to stay at the highest dose possible.  It’s a bit of a “Thank you sir. May I have another?” attitude.  A hurts so good attitude. But is my choice pro-... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2996003 Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:45:17 +0100 2996003 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2993935&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F12-rewards-of-recovery%2F Sobriety disc Twelve Step fellowships such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Al-anon, Cocaine Anonymous and others don’t just address the substance or overt behaviour. In progressing through the 12 Steps other benefits will be realized. These are know as the rewards of recovery. One example is; THE TWELVE REWARDS OF SOBRIETY By Searcy W., 55 years sober as at 2001 aged 90. Faith instead of despair. Courage instead of fear. Hope instead of desperation. Peace of mind instead of confusion. Real friendships instead of loneliness. Self-respect instead of self-contempt. Self-confidence instead of helplessness. A clean conscious instead of a sense of guilt. The respect of others instead of their pity and contempt. A clean pattern of living instead of a hopeless existence. The love... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2993935 Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:43:52 +0100 2993935 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2993938&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F11-ways-to-detect-and-solve-internet-addiction%2F This article may help if one follows the tips before a real addiction develops. I’m not a psychiatrist: if you fear your problem is so serious you need professional help, go out and see one. I’m going to write this article for those who might have trouble leaving the computer behind when the back of your eyes are telling you it’s definitely bedtime, but your spouse hasn’t packed up and left yet as a result of it – not quite a full-blown addiction, just on your way there. Detecting the Problem The problem with many addictions is that it can be hard to tell when a hobby has become more than just that, and taken a hold on you. It can also be hard to be honest with yourself when facing a list of symptoms, so make the extra effort now – we’re going to go through a few. Yo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2993938 Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:13:17 +0100 2993938 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2992673&cid=t_103978_90_f&fid=0&url=http%3A%2F%2Fannietv600.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F11%2F13%2Fcache_2010%2F The 2010 Annual Conference of the Canadian Association of Continuing Health Education will be held in St. John’s, Newfoundland & Labrador.   Consider submitting an abstract; read more here:  http://tiny.cc/CACHE_call The submission deadline is December 9, 2009. (Source: ANNE T-V's BLOG) ANNE T-V's BLOG blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2992673 Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:37:38 +0100 2992673 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2981288&cid=t_103978_133_f&fid=35124&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Faspergerwoman%2F%7E3%2FB8rWLHOS3Qs%2Ftime-to-love-learn-about-love-and-life.html First of all let me tell you everyting is doing fine. Being used to be single, it is quite strange to be involved in a relationship now. He is very caring, sweet, smart, understanding and we have quite some common interests. His life during the last 5 years was quite different than mine, but that is OK. We can learn a lot from one another. And besides that, love is now and to love one person is to life with his present life. I must learn to deal with typical relationship things. In a way he has more experience with this as he has been member of a family with children. We are doing fine and when things do not go that well, we talk it over. I can feel we enter another stage of relationship now. We talk more and more and we are more aware of the outside world now. At least I am, I can not spe... The Art of Being Asperger Woman blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2981288 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:41:00 +0100 2981288 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2985042&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fgood-enough-sex%2F Good SexThe “Good-Enough Sex” model for couple sexual satisfaction “Then we have the voices who cry for sex and more sex; who bewail the institution of marriage; who think that most of the troubles of the race are traceable to sex causes. They think we do not have enough of it, or that it isn’t the right kind. They see its significance everywhere. One school would allow man or woman no flavor for their fare and the other would have us all on a straight pepper diet. We want to stay out of this controversy. We do not want to be the arbiter of anyone’s sex conduct. We all have sex problems. We’d hardly be human if we didn’t. What can we do about them?Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it.” Alcoholics Anonymous,... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2985042 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:21:51 +0100 2985042 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2977576&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsymptoms-of-anorexia-video%2F Julianne MooreA wonderful video from Face The Issue narrated by Julianne Moore.This is an anonymous quote from an anorexic.So…I kind of had a breakdown the other day, and I wrote this on a piece of paper: I’m not ready for the holidays…I’m not sure what I’m going to do.All I know is I can’t handle it. There’s no way. I have my two boxes of laxatives for Christmas day…and I still don’t think that’s going to be enough.Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2977576 Tue, 10 Nov 2009 00:23:00 +0100 2977576 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2970420&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fhottest-articles-recovery-is-sexy%2F These are the hottest articles on Recovery Is Sexy in order of popularity.Alcohol and SexualityMature Women and SexWomen’s Sexual FantasiesSigns and symptoms of eating disordersCharacteristics of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s)Sensual MassageWomen’s Sexual Arousal5 Ways to Please Your Man In BedThe Sexual G-spot, Male and FemaleAlcoholic Family RolesSex for Men Over 50About12-Step Speaker Tape LinksErotic FantasyPorn Addiction10 Reasons for Low LibidoAlcohol Related Brain InjuryAlcohol side effectsRelapse is never an accident10 Masturbation MythsRelated Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2970420 Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:28:25 +0100 2970420 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2963403&cid=t_103978_167_f&fid=38271&url=http%3A%2F%2Frebeccascritchfield.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F11%2F05%2Fsoda-and-your-bones-friends-or-foes%2F By: Jolene, Penn State University, Guest Blogger and Rebecca Times have changed over the last decade.  Super size meals have come on board at fast food restaurants.  The large beverages became the new small drinks and portion sizes of pretty much everything have more than doubled. I’ve always wondered, which could be worse, the large sodas or the double portion sizes? As a runner myself, I have been concerned about soda consumption and link to fracture risk.  Fractures are a huge deal to me, because they could delay my competitive season — or end it. Until recently, I have always wondered how soda consumption can lead to fracture risk.  Now that I know, I want to share it with you. Dark sodas contain lots of phosphoric acid.  Phosphoric acid is a compound which contains a nega... Balanced Health and Nutrition Rebecca Scritchfield's Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2963403 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:19:42 +0100 2963403 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2959054&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FQ149F-KqpM0%2Fpatients-for-a-moment Today I’m hosting Patients For A Moment, a bi-weekly blog carnival with links to select patient blogs.  I’ve created four themes for this edition. Enjoy reading and be sure to catch the November 18 installment on Chronic Babe. Melting My Stone Cold Heart After the flood of breast cancer stories in Pinktober, I wondered if patient stories could still melt me or if I’d become inoculated and immune to the tender heartedness of illness.  Nope.  Nine year old Chloe made me melt.  Steve Catoe writes about her in A Beautiful Heart on his blog Adventures of A Funky Heart. Intimacy is palpable as banter unfolds between Alex Hohmann and his nurse Jill in Laughter Where You Least Expect It on Aegletes: Alex’s thoughts on cancer, politics, being gay, music and so much more.... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2959054 Wed, 04 Nov 2009 12:13:10 +0100 2959054 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2954762&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FCsCxinJ89Dk%2Fcancer-exercise I get winded from climbing a flight of stairs.  This is pathetic.  Aside from having two tumors in my neck (which have no impact on my lung capacity) I’m not sick.  I’m just lazy. I’m a skinny, out of shape weakling.  I’ve always hated exercising. I’ve been a dancer and choreographer most of my life.  But to me it never was exercise; it was a profession.  Since my first surgery I’ve suffered from dizziness that keeps me from dancing.  I feel like I’ve been evicted from the heaven of the dance world and am now walking among mortals who have to face the drudgery of jogging, yoga, and stair masters.  I find exercising utterly and mind numbingly boring.  I detest it. I’ve tried many strategies to get myself to exercise.  Positive reinforcement: Reading... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2954762 Mon, 02 Nov 2009 23:34:33 +0100 2954762 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2948365&cid=t_103978_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FnEMCKLsq9m0%2F Not too long ago, many of us didn’t know anyone who had diabetes. Now, it’s almost impossible not to know someone who has it. Diabetes, particularly type 2 diabetes, has exploded and continues to do so in the western world. A disease once rarely seen in children, type 2 diabetes is now affecting them in large numbers, grossly affecting their health as adults. According to the American Diabetes Association: 24 million children and adults in the United States live with diabetes 57 million Americans are at risk for type 2 diabetes 1 out of every 3 children born today will face a future with diabetes if current trends continue Unfortunately, not everyone who is diagnosed with diabetes takes it seriously. Diabetes is a disease that is more than just high blood sugar (glucose) leve... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2948365 Sun, 01 Nov 2009 09:12:22 +0100 2948365 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2923402&cid=t_103978_131_f&fid=34999&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.marymeetsdolly.com%2Fblog%2Findex.php%3F%2Farchives%2F904-Why-Germany-is-REALLY-ahead-in-stem-cell-treatments.html Jenn and Erik Gelhar Photo by Talithia TaitanoA husband and wife pair in western Washington state are trying to raise money for him to go to Germany for a stem cell transplant for his failing heart.  Erik and Jenn Gelhar have already raised $40,000 of the $100,000 they need to get him to Germany for the treatment at X-Cell Centre in Dusseldorf Germany.  So why does an American have to travel to Germany to get such a treatment?  Why are they farther ahead than the United States in adult stem cell treatments for heart disease?  According to this article that quotes Dr. Charles Murray of University of Washington, it is because of Bush's funding restrictions on embryonic stem cell research and cloning:Erik Gelhar is unable to get treatment in the United States because they are not as advan... Mary Meets Dolly blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2923402 Sat, 24 Oct 2009 04:28:33 +0100 2923402 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2920459&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FZ_tVJLa6atI%2Fdoctor-patient-disclosur I injured my knee while napping on Wednesday.  (Who gets injured napping?)  Still super painful on Thursday, Shannon pushed me into my doctor’s office in a wheelchair.  The cause of the pain is still a mystery.  We joked with my doc that it’s H1N1 in my knee, or a very new and original manifestation of PMS.  He told me to ice, rest, pop Advil and check in with him on Monday when he gets back from vacation. My doc’s going on vacation.  Well that’s what he said at first.  Then at the end of the appointment he said, “I’ll be back on Monday, it’s a simple procedure so I should be on my feet in no time.”  What?  He slipped up but obviously wanted me to think he was off to Tahiti not the OR. The same day, I read on the New York Times Well Blog a post called &#821... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2920459 Fri, 23 Oct 2009 14:25:33 +0100 2920459 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2883175&cid=t_103978_134_f&fid=36012&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FBattleDiabetes%2F%7E3%2FKqM9Ai8wfkk%2F In some medical circles it’s called Type 3 Diabetes. Teenagers and young adults diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, if overweight or obese, can develop type 2 diabetes later in life. It’s a double whammy and the medical consequences of such a diagnosis don’t look good. First, let’s briefly cover the basics of diabetes. Diabetes is Elevated Blood Glucose Levels Higher than normal level of glucose in the blood is diabetes. Glucose is the main energy source for the brain and nerves and comes from digesting carbohydrates. Because of its importance as an energy source, glucose blood level is normally kept within a narrow range. Two hormones help to keep glucose in this normal range. First, there is insulin. Insulin is released by the pancreas as glucose levels rise after a m... Battle Diabetes Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2883175 Sun, 11 Oct 2009 23:28:54 +0100 2883175 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2862635&cid=t_103978_125_f&fid=34820&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.dentalblogs.com%2Farchives%2Fadministrator%2Fclearcorrect-inc-doubles-the-size-of-its-houston-headquarters-due-to-increased-demand-for-its-transparent-orthodontic-aligners%2F Houston, TX – September 29, 2009 – ClearCorrect, Inc. recently completed a major expansion of its corporate headquarters due to the increased demand for its FDA-cleared transparent orthodontic aligners, commonly known as clear braces or invisible braces. “We knew earlier this year that we needed to expand due to the increasing number of orthodontists and general dentists making the switch to ClearCorrect™ due to our affordability and as we do not have a minimum submission policy ,” said ClearCorrect CEO and prominent Houston cosmetic dentist, Dr. Willis Pumphrey. The company was able to maintain its original address at 5200 Mitchelldale Street by acquiring adjacent space when it became available. “This will ensure the seamless expansion and integration of multiple departments, ... dental blog for dentists about dentistry blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2862635 Mon, 05 Oct 2009 14:26:19 +0100 2862635 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859168&cid=t_103978_167_f&fid=37833&url=http%3A%2F%2Fnutrition.edublogs.org%2F2009%2F10%2F03%2Fsan-francisco-may-charge-soda-sales-fee%2F In this study researchers reported: Adults who drink at least one soft drink a day are 27 percent more likely to be obese than those who do not. The study, Commissioned by CCPHA (California Center for Public Health Advocacy),  provides scientific evidence of the direct contribution of sugar-sweetened beverages to California’s $41 billion obesity epidemic. Opposing the Fees Understandably, the American Beverage Association has fought attempts to implement soda taxes. They released a statement about the new study. If our goal is to address obesity, then educating consumers about the importance of balancing calories consumed from all foods and beverages with the calories expended through physical activity is what matters – not demonizing any one particular food. Another soda fe... Nutrition and Wellness Biology 50 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859168 Sat, 03 Oct 2009 16:10:18 +0100 2859168 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859058&cid=t_103978_136_f&fid=39025&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Feverythingchangesbook%2F%7E3%2FbaIVz7KyXw8%2Fillness-employer Do you have an angelic boss who has made accommodations for your illness?  Or, have you been wedged out of your workplace, or cornered into a position where your job is so miserable you want to quit? ABC News interviewed me today about asking for sick leave and keeping your job. I offered them lots of tips and advice, but they don’t work unless you follow them.  (Duh.) Lots of us are pals with our co-workers, bosses, and employers.  Some workplaces can feel like home, family, and the center of our social lives.  Sometime patients assume they don’t need to follow the rules because our bosses are supportive people who care about us.  It’s easy vent to them about our medical woes, lean on co-workers for emotional support, and assume our boss will do everything in their power to... Everything Changes blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859058 Thu, 01 Oct 2009 18:44:35 +0100 2859058 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2828422&cid=t_103978_134_f&fid=36012&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FBattleDiabetes%2F%7E3%2Fs1_N2EjcYHY%2F Adult onset diabetes, like the common ulcer of a few years ago, makes a lot of work and provides a lot of money for the medical system. There was a cure for the biological disease of stomach ulcers but the doctors were telling us it was stress-related (Everything is stress-related to some extent, as the Pauling research that won a Nobel Prize for Vitamin therapy [especially 'C'] has proven.) and many people suffered under the surgeon’s knife until recently. The homeopathic war with the FDA and drug-pushers is a very interesting study in deceit and power. For example it took until last year for the research at the University of Alabama led by Dr. Campbell to confirm what won a Nobel Prize a quarter century ago. The immune system and lymph system is vital to the interplay between soul ... Battle Diabetes Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2828422 Wed, 23 Sep 2009 22:00:11 +0100 2828422 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2824355&cid=t_103978_131_f&fid=34999&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.marymeetsdolly.com%2Fblog%2Findex.php%3F%2Farchives%2F884-Today-is-Stem-Cell-Awareness-Day.html as proclaimed by Governors Arnold Scwartzenegger of California and Jim Doyle of Wisconsin.  As promised I will do my part to make the public aware of all of the recentadvances that have been made in adult stem cell research.First up:  A girl in India is cured of thalassemia using the cord blood stem cells from her younger sibling.  Thalassemia is a genetic disorder that requires regular blood transfusions.  From DNAIndia.com:On March 17, eight-year-old Thamirabharuni underwent surgery to receive the cord blood stem cell of her younger sibling, Pugazhendi. Thamira, as she is called, was suffering from thalassemia, a disorder that affects red blood corpuscles. A thalassemia patientmight require blood transfusion as frequently as once every week, and this disorder can be fatal in childre... Mary Meets Dolly blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2824355 Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:31:21 +0100 2824355 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2823995&cid=t_103978_90_f&fid=0&url=http%3A%2F%2Fannietv600.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F09%2F22%2Fmedical-education-jama%2F  Every September JAMA publishes a theme issue devoted to medical education (available by subscription only). The 2009 issue appears on September 23: 2009 Here are the tables of contents of these issues for the past few years: 2008;  2007; 2006; 2005; 2004; 2003; 2002; 2001; 2000  See also Series or Collections: an index Check out the free JAMA patient pages. (Source: ANNE T-V's BLOG) ANNE T-V's BLOG blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2823995 Wed, 23 Sep 2009 02:28:02 +0100 2823995 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2824356&cid=t_103978_131_f&fid=34999&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.marymeetsdolly.com%2Fblog%2Findex.php%3F%2Farchives%2F883-On-9-23-09-Stem-Cell-Awareness-Day-do-your-part.html Tomorrow September 23, 2009 is Stem Cell Awareness Day as proclaimed by Governors Arnold Schwarzenegger (CA) and Jim Doyle (WI). Stem Cell Awareness Day was conceived by the California Institute of Regenerative Medicine (CIRM) which presides over a 3 billion dollar budget for embryonic stem cell and cloning research.  Its mission:For the millions of people around the world who suffer from incurable diseases and injury, Stem Cell Awareness Day is a day to celebrate the scientific advances made to-date and be hopeful of what is yet to come.So I will do just that.  And I ask you to join me.  On September 23rd, write, blog, e-mail and talk about the many advancements in ADULT stem cell research that are already helping patients and making their lives better whether in the United States or a... Mary Meets Dolly blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2824356 Tue, 22 Sep 2009 23:28:39 +0100 2824356 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2890783&cid=t_103978_122_f&fid=36582&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FSharpBrains%2F%7E3%2FqsGYQ0uSV5g%2F In the midst of much healthcare reform talk, not enough attention seems focused on ensuring healthcare systems’ preparedness to deal with cognitive health issues -with Alzheimer’s Disease as the most dramatic example- which are predicted to grow given aging population trends. Today is World Alzheimer’s Day, and the USA Today comments on a new report that makes stark predictions: Global Alzheimer’s cases expected to rise sharply (USA Today) - “The 2009 World Alzheimer’s Report, released today, estimates 35 million people worldwide are living with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia. The figure is a 10% increase over 2005 numbers.” - “The number of people affected by Alzheimer’s is growing at a rapid rate, and the increasing per... SharpBrains blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2890783 Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:48:39 +0100 2890783 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2814561&cid=t_103978_122_f&fid=36582&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FSharpBrains%2F%7E3%2FqsGYQ0uSV5g%2F In the midst of much healthcare reform talk, not enough attention seems focused on ensuring healthcare systems' preparedness to deal with cognitive health issues -with Alzheimer's Disease as the most dramatic example- which are predicted to grow given aging population trends. Today is World Alzheimer's Day, and the USA Today comments on a new report that makes stark predictions: Global Alzheimer's cases expected to rise sharply (USA Today) - "The 2009 World Alzheimer's Report, released today, estimates 35 million people worldwide are living with Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia. The figure is a 10% increase over 2005 numbers." - "The number of people affected by Alzheimer's is growing at a rapid rate, and the increasing personal costs will have significant impact on t... SharpBrains blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2814561 Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:48:39 +0100 2814561 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859169&cid=t_103978_167_f&fid=37833&url=http%3A%2F%2Fnutrition.edublogs.org%2F2009%2F09%2F20%2Fresearch-links-soda-to-obesity%2F A new study c ommissioned by the California Center for Public Health Advocacy (CCPHA) is provides scientific evidence of the direct contribution of sugar-sweetened beverages to California’s $41 billion obesity epidemic. Researchers at UCLA, lead by Susan Babey, examined sugary drinks and their effect on state spending and consumers’ health published in the report, Bubbling Over: Soda Consumption and Its Link to Obesity in California.  Babey pointed out: Soda is cheap, sweet and irresistibly marketed to teens.  Not enough teens know about the health and dietary risks of drinking huge quantities of what is essentially liquid sugar. Hear what Dr. Harold Goldstein, another study author and executive director for CCPHA has to say about the study and their findings. To get to his... Nutrition and Wellness Biology 50 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859169 Sun, 20 Sep 2009 17:05:35 +0100 2859169 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859153&cid=t_103978_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2mhiqxGxIBs%2F This list of websites presents hundreds of free MP3 downloadable tracks from; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, Gamblers Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous, radio podcasts, Cocaine Anonymous, Debtors Anonymous, Marijuana Anonymous, Sexaholics Anonymous and Sex Addicts Anonymous. Special subjects include the Founders of AA and Al-anon, gay, lesbian, singles, Joe and Charlie, Big Book study and [...] [[ This is a content summary only. 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