MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'alcohol problem'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:54:03 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3743725&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FykTo0qwvojs%2F It is important to put the responsibility for dealing with the alcohol / addiction problem squarely on the person in question while continuing to love him or her. What works depends on the individual. Doing the "right" thing can depend on how severe the alcohol problem is and on how in touch with it the person in question seems to be. What works for someone who is highly functional in daily life and who knows that alcohol is causing trouble, for instance, may not be the solution for someone who denies that there is a problem. Suggestion #9: Be there for them when they’re ready Most comments on this subject go like this: "Be available when the alcoholic reaches out." "When they hold out their hand for help, grab it." "Help as many times as you are asked.... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3743725 Fri, 09 Jul 2010 15:28:00 +0100 3743725 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3560502&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FindjwmbIra4%2F Do you sometimes wonder if alcohol is a problem for you? Individual drinking habits may be found on a continuum from responsible drinking through alcohol abuse to alcoholism, or alcohol dependence. There are many signs that may point to an alcohol problem. Drunkenness on its own or solitary drinking does not necessarily indicate alcoholism. The questionnaire will be meaningful to you only if you are honest with yourself when taking it. The important question is: Is your use of alcohol creating significant negative consequences in your life? Do you sometimes drink heavily after a setback or an argument, or when you receive a poor grade? When you experience trouble or are undergoing stress, do you always drink more heavily than usual? Can you handle more liquor now than you could when you ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3560502 Wed, 12 May 2010 22:23:58 +0100 3560502 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511790&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FEa8oEg1iD6A%2F Does your alcoholic spouse tell you that he drinks to unwind? Does he say that work stresses him out? Is he drinking every day after work? Does your alcoholic husband deny he has an alcohol problem? As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, drinking to relieve stress is a prelude to developing an alcohol problem. Drinking to relax starts out as a “nothing”, but takes on a life of its own over time and often leads to alcohol dependence.  Drinking to unwind is a warning sign of: self medicating an untreated anxiety disorder (which is a common trigger for an alcohol problem). self medicating untreated depression. a sign that your husband does not have coping skills so that he relies on a substance  (alcohol) to numb the way he feels. avoiding problems. He is trying to es... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511790 Tue, 13 Apr 2010 12:22:53 +0100 3511790 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511791&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F5XV596Fga-0%2F Are you “co-dependent “on your alcoholic spouse? Living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is a nightmare. An alcoholic spouse chooses his/her marriage partner carefully. Think of 2 pieces of a puzzle that fit together perfectly. One piece: the alcoholic (selfish tendencies) fits with the other piece: the  ”nurturing, giving” person (who has self esteem issues). This way, the alcoholic spouse can continue to drink alcohol and “get away with it“. Sound harsh? Here are 5 signs of codependency: Fear of abandonment. You will avoid feeling alone at all costs (in other words, not leave your alcoholic spouse even though you are miserable). Low self esteem. You are willing to “put up with” whatever your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511791 Sat, 10 Apr 2010 18:48:31 +0100 3511791 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3443989&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2fnYg4L3Fl0%2F Many times it can feel very lonely living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. You find yourself waiting for your alcoholic spouse to come home in the evening and you are lucky if he/she even shows up at a reasonable hour. Your multiple calls and texts are ignored. Do you feel you have been taken hostage by your spouse’s alcohol problem? Here are examples of why you feel so lonely: Sometimes your alcoholic spouse doesn’t even come home at night and you are left to sleep alone. The sexual intimacy in your marriage is virtually non existent. There is not much emotional intimacy either. You take care of the kids almost to the point that you are in a single parent role- you get your kids up in the morning, take them to school, help them with homework, after school activiti... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3443989 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 16:50:33 +0100 3443989 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3435258&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F915ximdHU1U%2F So many of the women I treat in my psychiatric practice that are living with an alcoholic husband  take on a parenting role with them. They act like “mommies” instead of wives. They become the ultimate caretakers for their alcoholic husbands and tend to neglect themselves. Check out the following examples to see if you can relate and what you can do about it. You are your alcoholic spouse’s personal alarm clock. You get him up in the morning because he doesn’t get himself up. You make sure he gets the kids to school on time by keeping him on track. If your alcoholic husband is too hungover to get up for work, you call his boss and say he is sick (he doesn’t call of course) You are responsible for all the laundry, the household chores, and most of the respo... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3435258 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 15:13:40 +0100 3435258 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3425136&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FiM6hBlpEC88%2F Most people I know who are married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife are miserable. Yet, many people stay in this desperate situation even though they are filled with resentment about their spouse’s alcohol problem. Do you wonder why you stay married to your alcoholic spouse? In my experience as a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, here are the 7 most common reasons: Financial dependence- this is especially true in marriages where the woman isn’t working. For example, stay at home Moms have been out of the work force for many years and are often not “marketable” when they return to the work force. Many women in this position do not want to give up the lifestyle they have become accustomed to (the house, the cars, the good schools). Conversely, wome... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3425136 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 22:51:08 +0100 3425136 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416339&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FWqULirAl8t8%2F Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife probably relies on you for so many things that you can’t even count. You are constantly making up excuses for your alcoholic spouse. Are you tired of living this way? What can you do about it? Just say no! Say no the next time your alcoholic spouse asks you to call the boss because he/she is too hungover to go to work. Don’t lie to your friends the next time your spouse asks you to. Don’t give your alcoholic spouse money that he/she can spend on alcohol. Scary to think about saying no, isn’t it? You are both stuck in a rut. This pattern won’t change until you change. It will feel terrifying to say no to your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife for the first time. Your alcoholic spouse will be surprised and angry. He/she... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416339 Sun, 28 Mar 2010 16:36:33 +0100 3416339 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416340&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FyydlGQeyKRQ%2F Is your alcoholic wife or alcoholic husband depressed? Is your alcoholic spouse already on antidepressants, but is still depressed? Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant and can cause depression, It also counteracts the benefits of the antidepressants. Don’t panic, there is still hope that your alcoholic spouse can overcome both depression and his/her alcohol problem! Read on to find out how: The American Journal of Psychiatry published a study on line on March 15, 2010 showing that combining Zoloft, an antidepressant, with natrexone, an anticraving drug was more effective than either treatment by itself. (There were 140 participants who were randomly assigned to 14 weeks of either sertraline (the generic for Zoloft), natrexone, both drugs, or placebo. The group on both drug... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416340 Fri, 26 Mar 2010 16:51:26 +0100 3416340 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416341&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fdh6QuvZWSyk%2F Do you have an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Are you acting more like a parent than  a spouse? Most alcoholic spouses become more and more irresponsible as their alcohol problem progresses. Bills are left unpaid, there are increasing absences from work, not coming home “on time” or not coming home at all, and a lack of participation in family/children activities etc. How do most non addicted spouses handle this? Most non addicted spouses try to “control” these behaviors which tend to backfire. Examples of controlling behaviors are: texting or calling your alcoholic spouse multiple times when they do not “show” up on time. getting them up in the morning. calling their friends to “track them” down. checking their cell phone to see wh... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416341 Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:02:54 +0100 3416341 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416342&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fc8x2MqaIvGI%2F Does your husband have an alcohol problem? Is he in denial about it? If so, are you aware that that you are contributing to this problem by making excuses for him? Are you making the following excuses for him like: Calling his boss that he is sick when he can’t go to work. Telling the kids that Daddy has a stomach virus and can’t be at the soccer game. Telling your family that he is missing the family celebration because he is sick. Paying the family’s bills with money you earned or borrowed because he has lost another job. Paying for an irresponsible impulse buy he made. Bailing him out of jail after a DWI and not telling your family or friends about it. Most  women married to an alcoholic have done most of the things mentioned in this check list more than once. If yo... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416342 Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:20:19 +0100 3416342 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416343&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fa5F0zGSxXCM%2F You probably never imagined in your wildest dreams that you would be going through the daily turmoil of living with an alcoholic spouse. Your friends complain that their husbands watch too many sports on T.V. or spend too many hours on the computer. Their complaints are so trivial compared to the psychological consequences of living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. What is the main consequence? As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, the main psychological consequence you may suffer from living with an alcoholic spouse is the loss of your self esteem. Why? You probably feel like your alcoholic spouse treats you like a doormat. Do you put up with his/her rude, obnoxious, inconsiderate behavior? Did he/she even come home last night? You probably feel totally unappreciat... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416343 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:35:38 +0100 3416343 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416344&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F_xCb_HFYyCI%2F Are you held hostage by your alcoholic spouse’s addiction? As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, I hear a lot from women married to an alcoholic husband, that they feel trapped in a miserable situation. Is your alcoholic husband drinking every day? Has he basically quit being a husband to you and a father to your children? Is he lying so much about his whereabouts and his activities that you have lost all trust in him? If yes, why do you stay with him? Why are you tied to his lies? Here are the two most common reasons I see why someone stays with their alcoholic husband (besides saying they love him): an intense fear of abandonment and a lack of confidence that they can make it on their own without the financial and emotional support of their husband. Why do you have in... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416344 Tue, 16 Mar 2010 12:11:56 +0100 3416344 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416345&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FWoAsJxJJ1oU%2F As you watch your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife drinking today, do you wonder what in the world will ever get them to quit drinking alcohol? Are you absolutely amazed at how much your alcoholic spouse can drink? How and when did you spouse’s alcohol problem get so bad? Should you give up on your marriage? How long should you brew in your resentment before you pull the plug on your marriage? Don’t lose hope. Here are the 5 most common reasons I see in my psychiatric practice that spur a person with an alcohol problem to  quit drinking alcohol: Loss of job. For your alcoholic husband, this is a big one. Losing a job is losing his ability to support his family, his children. He may be risking losing his home. If his wife doesn’t work, this is an extremely stressfu... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416345 Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:02:15 +0100 3416345 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416346&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F1ykiqK5aBS0%2F Is your alcoholic spouse in recovery and struggling with alcohol cravings? Do they have  a plan in place to prevent an alcoholic relapse? For example, are they going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings on a regular basis? Do they have a sponsor they can call if they feel like relapsing? Are they working the 12 step program? Do you live in fear thinking your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife may relapse? Their alcohol problem impacts you and your children, so you have a vested interest (to say the least) in their success in alcoholic recovery. (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’s life. The information in this... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416346 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:27:32 +0100 3416346 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416347&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fty9GDoyTYls%2F Are you living with an alcoholic spouse? If not, I am sure you have a family member or friend going through this ordeal. I am a psychiatrist that specializes in treating alcohol problems and drug addiction and living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is a nightmare for all involved. Most non addicted spouses feel a great deal of shame about their broken marriage and are very reluctant to share the details of what goes on “behind closed doors”. Are you in this boat? (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’ life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very w... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416347 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:03:21 +0100 3416347 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416348&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FleBkt9NTKT4%2F When you first got married, your husband enjoyed drinking beer here or there and you most likely drank with him. Now he drinks on a daily basis and drinks a lot. Are you wondering how you ended up with an alcoholic spouse? What leads someone to become alcohol dependent in the first place? How come he has developed an alcohol problem and you haven’t? (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’s life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very well save your marriage). Here are the 6 most common reasons that someone develops an alcohol problem: Genetic predisposition toward ... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416348 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 21:39:01 +0100 3416348 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3236102&cid=t_291748_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FoeJKxWu_3dQ%2F The first three steps of AA define the alcohol problem and solution In 1934, Bill W., cofounder of Alcoholics Anonymous, got a call from a former drinking buddy, Ebby T. “Rumour had it that he’d been committed for alcoholic insanity,” Bill recalled. “I wondered how he had escaped.” In reality, Ebby was two months sober. This disappointed Bill, who wanted to recapture the spirit of their earlier drinking escapades. When Ebby came to visit, Bill pushed a drink across the table. Ebby refused it. Bill W. & Ebby, co-founders of AA “The door opened, and he stood there, fresh-skinned and glowing,” Bill recalled. “He was inexplicably different. What had happened?” The answer to that question eventually brought Bill to sobriety, and to the Twelv... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3236102 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:20:27 +0100 3236102