MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'amends'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:39:16 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3595903&cid=t_158214_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FhIvc2vinbtU%2F It’s the little things: Everyday gratitude as a booster shot for romantic relationships In early recovery from alcoholism, addiction, co-dependency or gambling one can be so relieved at finally finding a solution that one may over-commit to the new activity. With all the attendance at meetings, coffee with other members, 12th Step work one tends to do so at the expense of quality time with family and friends. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous talks about this in chapter 8, ‘To Wives’. Additionally, the legacy of self-centeredness can run well into sobriety excluding again family and friends. As one gets further into recovery one tends to realize an element of gratitude for the people as well as making amends where necessary. Expressing gratitude is one way of making amends an... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3595903 Mon, 24 May 2010 15:04:00 +0100 3595903 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1969371&cid=t_158214_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F11%2Fache.html I am feeling awfully emptied out in so many ways. I'm tired. I'm overwrought. I miss my husband. I'm afraid.I am angry. He's sucked me dry, and now he's shoving me off. I spoke with him briefly last night. I'm not sure why I opened that door. He talked about what it's going to be like in his next relationship and how he can't do anything to please me. Nothing's ever good enough.It frustrates the hell out of me. No, it's not ever good enough for you to be high and a leach, but I'm pretty sure that it's not going to be good enough anywhere he takes that behavior. He responds to me as if I'm some kind of a gold digger, which is absolutely maddening. In his mind, he can either be clean and unemployed or using and working...and in his mind, the money he makes for working is his reward that shou... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1969371 Mon, 17 Nov 2008 13:18:00 +0100 1969371 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1886815&cid=t_158214_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F10%2Fbread-at-hardware-store.html "Come here," he said. I came. He pulled me into his lap."I'm sorry about the other day, in the morning. I shouldn't talk to you like that. I don't want to talk to you like that.""It's ok," I said."It's not. I know you have to set stuff like that up so you don't get hurt. I understand, it just hurts my feelings when I feel like you don't care.""I do care, and I don't want to hurt your feelings. I'm sorry when I hurt you.""I know. I love you.""I love you, too."Sometimes, instead of my crazy bastard husband, I get my dream husband. He's present, and he understands how hard it is to live with him. We are able to empathize with each other.At a meeting a few weeks ago, a woman said that she is learning in her recovery that trying to get support, love, nurturing from her addicted partner is kind ... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1886815 Fri, 17 Oct 2008 13:11:00 +0100 1886815 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1798363&cid=t_158214_151_f&fid=36047&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FADozenSteps%2F%7E3%2FzKg-xvA2YXQ%2F From AA’s Twelve & Twelve, page 86; “There can be only one consideration which should qualify our desire for a complete disclosure of the damage we have done. That will arise in the occasional situation where to make a full revelation would seriously harm the one to whom we are making amends. Or - quite as important - other people. We cannot, for example, unload a detailed account of extramarital adventuring upon the shoulders of our unsuspecting wife or husband. And even in those cases where such a matter must be discussed, let’s try to avoid harming third parties, whoever they may be. It does not lighten our burden when we recklessly make the crosses of others heavier.” I have known those who were heartless, cruel and self-centered in the extreme to the extent... A Dozen Steps blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1798363 Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:59:28 +0100 1798363 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1764078&cid=t_158214_151_f&fid=36047&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FADozenSteps%2F%7E3%2FMKSCMc4oQG0%2F “Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” First Things First - changing wherever to whenever gives a different meaning… The Very Spirit; “The readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.” Full consequences. Not partial, half, a little bit or just some. Full. The only exceptions? Cases where our disclosure would cause actual harm. Not delaying because we are afraid… “Earnestly asking God’s help and guidance - meanwhile resolving to do the right thing when it becomes clear, cost what it may?” And - the right thing is clear to you exactly how? Oh, yeah - “lay th... A Dozen Steps blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1764078 Thu, 04 Sep 2008 14:01:17 +0100 1764078 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1307916&cid=t_158214_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F03%2Famendment-to-my-constitution.html Part of Step 9 for me has been making amends to myself. I wrote a letter to me, and I'm putting it up here to finish it:Dear Me,I want to make amends with you for my reckless behavior. I have been thoughtless, careless, and lacked concern for your safety and well being. I have neglected your needs, putting the needs of anyone and everyone else in my life before yours.I was hurting for many years, and instead of dealing with that hurt I acted out against your best interests in my misguided attempts to process my pain. I put you in dangerous, complicated situations, did destructive things to your body, and ignored your need to feed your spirit.I sincerely want to change my behavior towards you from now on. I want to take better care of you in the future. I want to nurture you, help you to gr... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1307916 Mon, 17 Mar 2008 16:30:00 +0100 1307916 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1054808&cid=t_158214_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2007%2F11%2F27%2F5-tips-for-dealing-with-guilt%2F It’s amazing how quickly guilt can kick in for the smallest, most meaningless things in our lives. Guilt is an emotional warning sign that most people learn through their normal childhood social development. Its purpose is to let us know when we’ve done something wrong, to help us develop a better sense of our behavior and how it affects ourselves and others. It prompts us to re-examine our behavior so that we don’t end up making the same mistake twice. How can we help combat our guilty feelings, and accept them when they’re important, but let them go more easily when they’re not? 1. Recognize the kind of guilt you have and its purpose. Guilt works best to help us grow and mature when our behavior has been offensive or hurtful to others or ourselves. If ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1054808 Tue, 27 Nov 2007 14:50:12 +0100 1054808