MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'bisexual'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:19:27 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5169713&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fam-i-an-alcoholic%2F Individual drinking habits may be found on a continuum from responsible drinking through alcohol abuse to alcoholism, or physical dependence. There are many signs that may point to an alcohol problem. Drunkenness on its own or solitary drinking does not necessarily indicate alcoholism. The questionnaire will be meaningful to you only if you are honest with yourself when taking it. The important question is: Is your use of alcohol creating significant negative consequences in your life? Do you sometimes drink heavily after a setback or an argument, or when you receive a poor grade? When you experience trouble or are undergoing stress, do you always drink more heavily than usual? Can you handle more liquor now than you could when you first began drinking? Have you ever awakened the “... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5169713 Sat, 27 Aug 2011 15:30:01 +0100 5169713 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5103518&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsex-for-recovery-after-40%2F Variety can be the spice of intercourse Recovery from alcoholism, addiction, gambling or co-dependency is common for people in their forth decade. Often sexuality in relationships has been absent or troubled. This may be true for straight, gays or lesbians. Too many men and women in long-term relationships lament that “the thrill is gone” but often don’t understand why. Some blame themselves or their partners or tell themselves that sexual boredom is as inevitable a part of growing older as wrinkles and reading glasses. It doesn’t have to be that way. And here’s why: To coin a cliché, variety can be the spice of intercourse. There are many kinds of sex play, but here let’s consider intercourse and different ways to do it — that is, experiment with positions. This doesn’t m... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5103518 Sat, 06 Aug 2011 06:12:48 +0100 5103518 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4872488&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fh-94W9hbtX8%2F Mature sexualityMen in their 50s have more satisfying sex lives than men in their 30sMen in their fifties are more satisfied with their sex lives than men in their thirties and forties, recording similar levels to 20-29 year-olds, according to a survey published in the February issue of BJU International.A team of experts from Norway and the USA surveyed 1,185 men aged between 20 and 79, asking them about various aspects of their sex life, including drive, erections and ejaculation.They found that although there was a strong relationship between a man’s advancing age and his declining sex drive and ability to have an erection and ejaculate, there wasn’t such a strong link between age and overall sexual satisfaction.The men who responded to the Norwegian postal questionnaire wer... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4872488 Thu, 05 May 2011 17:18:01 +0100 4872488 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4872490&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FPx6YB1i7sYU%2F What is sexual abstinence?Can it benefit my recovery?Relationships and sexual activities are controversial in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and co-dependency. But there are benefits to sexual abstinence. These apply equally to heterosexual, gays and lesbian.Sexual abstinence is a choice to refrain from sexual activity. This choice is usually made for a specific reason. The reason may be moral, religious, legal, or for health and safety.It may only be short-term celibacy. It’s fine to go through periods of your life in which you choose to abstain – the decision to have sex is yours to make, each and every time.Abstaining does not mean you are frigid or destined for life as a monk or a nun – it may just be a temporary decision. Taking some time out for your body, mind... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4872490 Wed, 04 May 2011 16:45:01 +0100 4872490 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4724269&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fpost-menopause-sex-is-great-in-so-many-ways%2F This article may help give hope and debunk some myths.Sex after menopause brings more than pleasure. It lowers blood pressure, boosts immunity and reduces pain, according to a mass of evidence that has been piling up in recent years.More Pleasure, Less PainSex reduces pain. An orgasm releases the hormones oxytocin and endorphins (the brain’s pain and anxiety reliever) so that pain declines. This means that the pain from arthritis, headaches and most other pain is reduced, according to a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine.Full story at; Post-Menopause Sex Is Great in So Many Ways | Womens eNews. Share, print or e-mail this articleStudy Confirms Sex is Better than MasturbationRelapse RevisitedSex is Better at 50 than Age 30 or 40Masturbation in Recover... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4724269 Mon, 18 Apr 2011 02:46:16 +0100 4724269 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4724272&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F5-facts-about-penises%2F Five Things You May Not Know  About The PenisMedical experts reveal interesting facts that men and women will find educational — and surprising.Here are some things you might have wondered about your penis, but were afraid to ask.No. 1: Your Penis Does Have a Mind of Its OwnYou’ve probably noticed that your penis often does its own thing. You may remember times when it was completely inappropriate to have an erection; and yet you couldn’t wish it away.Sexual arousal usually isn’t always voluntary.No. 2: Your Penis May Be a ‘Grower’ or a ‘Show-er’Among men, there is no consistent relationship between the size of the flaccid penis and its full erect length.No. 3: Your Penis Is Shaped Like a BoomerangYour penis is shaped like a boomerang. J... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4724272 Sat, 16 Apr 2011 16:13:00 +0100 4724272 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4575250&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsexual-dysfunction-causes-and-effects%2F Definition of Sexual problemsSexual problems are defined as difficulty during any stage (desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) of the sexual act, which prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. These apply equally to heterosexual, gay, lesbian and bisexual people.Development of sexual disorders:Sexual difficulties may begin early in a person’s life, or they may develop after an individual has previously experienced enjoyable and satisfying sex.A problem may develop gradually over time, or may occur suddenly as a total or partial inability to participate in one or more stages of the sexual act. The causes of sexual difficulties can be physical, psychological, or both.Emotional factors affecting sex include both interpersonal problems and psychological problem... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4575250 Fri, 11 Mar 2011 16:22:05 +0100 4575250 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4446039&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwomens-sexual-problems%2F Recovery may uncover sexuality issuesMany women in recovery find some problems with their sexuality have emerged from the haze of alcoholism or addiction. This may be true for heterosexual and lesbian women.These notes may help. Talk to your doctor if there is any signs apparent.There are four recognised disorders of Female Sexual Dysfunction as defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Medical Disorders. These are:Sexual desire disorders – A lack of sex drive or low libido. This is the most common type of sexual disorder among womenSexual arousal disorder – An inability to become aroused or maintain arousal during sexual activityOrgasmic disorder – A persistent or recurrent difficulty in achieving orgasm after sufficient sexual arousal and ongoing stimulationSexual pain di... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4446039 Sun, 06 Feb 2011 15:57:01 +0100 4446039 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4386473&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-lame-condom-excuses%2F Condoms are Fun to UseTen reasons why these are lame excuses not to use a condom…I don’t have any infectionsMake sure it stays that way – use a condom every time you have sexI can’t find one that fitsCondoms can stretch to around 3 feet long and 18 inches wide – don’t boast!I have superb controlWith a condom you don’t need to – accidents do happen and you can really get carried away by the passion of the momentSex doesn’t feel as goodUsing a condom stops those niggling worries about pregnancy or STIs – great sex is safer sexCondoms cut off my circulationCondoms can hold 40 litres of air – more inflated than your ego!If you love me you wouldn’t ask me to wear oneIf you loved me you’d protect meThey smell terribleNot any more – they’re vi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4386473 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 15:40:01 +0100 4386473 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4343345&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsexual-abstinence-in-recovery%2F What is sexual abstinence?Can it benefit my recovery?Relationships and sexual activities are controversial in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and co-dependency. But there are benefits to sexual abstinence. These apply equally to heterosexual, gays and lesbian.Sexual abstinence is a choice to refrain from sexual activity. This choice is usually made for a specific reason. The reason may be moral, religious, legal, or for health and safety.It may only be short-term celibacy. It’s fine to go through periods of your life in which you choose to abstain – the decision to have sex is yours to make, each and every time.Abstaining does not mean you are frigid or destined for life as a monk or a nun – it may just be a temporary decision. Taking some time out for your body, mind... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4343345 Thu, 13 Jan 2011 17:22:07 +0100 4343345 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4324905&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcharacteristics-of-sexual-compulsion-2%2F Sexual compulsion may seem like a life locked in battle with selfSexual Compulsives Anonymous is a 12 Step Fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other, that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from sexual compulsion.These are the characteristics most of us seem to have in common:As adolescents, we used fantasy and compulsive masturbation to avoid feelings, and continued this tendency into our adult lives with compulsive sex.Compulsive sex became a drug, which we used to escape from feelings such as anxiety, loneliness, anger and self-hatred, as well as joy.We tended to become immobilized by romantic obsessions. We became addicted to the search for sex and love; as a result, we neglected our lives.We sought oblivion in... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4324905 Fri, 07 Jan 2011 06:18:11 +0100 4324905 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4295001&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fphysical-effects-of-alcohol-on-women-3%2F Women’s bodies react differently to alcohol than men’s bodies and this can be explained by biological differences:Women have approximately 10% more fatty tissue and less body water than men. This means that women attain a higher blood alcohol concentration (BAC) than men for the same volume of alcohol consumed.Women have lower levels of alcohol dehydrogenase (ADH), an enzyme involved in the metabolism of alcohol. As a result, women experience the effects of alcohol more quickly, and for longer, than men.On average, women weigh less than men and, therefore, have less tissue to absorb alcohol.Women’s hormone levels fluctuate during the menstrual cycle and this may affect the rate of alcohol metabolism in the body, causing women to experience higher blood alcohol levels at different poi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4295001 Sun, 26 Dec 2010 15:28:00 +0100 4295001 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4253457&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FfdFyZa5Rz4M%2F • “If I could have stayed cool, I’d still be drinking. Very quickly, though, I started getting into trouble. Going to sixth grade got in the way of my life, which consisted of getting drunk as much as possible.” [After rehab] “I was going to A.A. meetings. Everyone was older, even most of the kids at the young people meetings. But I found that alcoholics understand other alcoholics. . . . Regardless of how young or old or ‘special’ I am, in A.A. I’m just a drunk.” Tina, who joined A.A. at 13• “I loved drinking and was as addicted to the lies, the shady people and places as I was to the alcohol. My grades suffered until I stopped going to school altogether. . . . I found myself in places without any idea of how I had gotten there. I overdosed on alcohol.” Since comin... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4253457 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 03:37:34 +0100 4253457 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4183547&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fmp3-recovery-tracks-for-lesbians-in-aa%2F MP3 recovery tracks for lesbians in Alcoholics Anonymous at XA Speaker site. Click on the link to go to a description of the track. Or see link at bottom for XA Speaker home page. barry-l-gaylesbconv8532.mp3 David-c-wearefamily2002.mp3 Christopher-s-soberandfree2002.mp3 brain-m-soberandfree2002.mp3 blanche-b-texasroundup1987.mp3 roz-b-rcr98.mp3 paige-f-rcr98.mp3 mary-r-rcr1999.mp3 fr-leo-b-rcr95.mp3 sue-c-soberandfree2002.mp3 grady-o-livingsober1997.mp3 edie-c-livingsober1990.mp3 francis-c-livingsober1993.mp3 michael-b-liveandletlive1991.mp3 XA Speaker Recovery tapes at; XA Speakers See also Effects of alcohol on women Gay & Lesbian Recovery Say Yes to Your Sexual Healing A Woman’s Guide to Recovery Recovery MP3 tracks for all 12-Step Fellowships Share, print or e-mail this a... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4183547 Wed, 17 Nov 2010 19:12:00 +0100 4183547 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4086521&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FPl7t8Im2OBg%2F As if you didn’t know! Normal intercourse results in greater satisfaction, better intimacy, promotes more trust with passion and real love. Hanky panky without intercourse does not give true satisfaction and is less intimate, passionate and loving. Masturbation does not result in effective satisfaction, is less intimate and does not promote trust, genuine passion or love. These are the outcomes of a new study of Portuguese women looking at relationship quality and sexual activity. Satisfaction increased as masturbation decreased and penis-vagina sex increased. Now what’s so new about that? Nothing I guess! But someone had to find out for sciences sake. Anyone’s that’s had sex with a partner and compared that with hanky panky without penis-vagina penetration will know what’s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4086521 Sun, 17 Oct 2010 15:45:54 +0100 4086521 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4077603&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fthirteenth-stepping-2%2F Shark patroling waiting to pounce Thirteenth Stepping occurs when a person in recovery makes sexual overtures to a vulnerable person, a newcomer or someone newly sober, sometimes under the guise of “sponsoring” or working with the newcomer. it violates the principle that we should help others without expectation of reciprocity or return favors, sexual or otherwise. it taints the apparent motives of other AA members who really desire nothing other than to help the newcomer get sober. it can give an entire group the undeserved reputation as a “meat market,” and it can deprive the newcomer of the feeling that there is at least one safe place to be. Thoughts Do we at the very least avoid 13th stepping ourselves? Do we help newcomers, especially those who are vulnerab... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4077603 Sun, 17 Oct 2010 15:26:01 +0100 4077603 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3891823&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsexually-compulsive-2%2F Twenty Questions to help identify sexually compulsive actions Sexual addiction can be a problem for people in recovery from alcoholism, gambling, addiction or codependency. This can be so whether one is gay, lesbian or straight. These questions may help identify or dismiss the problem. The Twenty Questions Do you frequently experience remorse, depression, or guilt about your sexual activity? Do you feel your sexual drive and activity is getting out of control? Have you repeatedly tried to stop or reduce certain sexual behaviors, but inevitably you could not? Are you unable to resist sexual advances, or turn down sexual propositions when offered? Do you use sex to escape from uncomfortable feelings such as anxiety, fear, anger, resentment, guilt, etc. which seem to disappear when ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3891823 Sun, 22 Aug 2010 15:12:36 +0100 3891823 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3858390&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsex-addiction-group-saved-my-life%2F A father-of-two who successfully beat a damaging internet porn addiction said a Plymouth support group saved his life from spiralling dangerously out of control. The city 40-year-old said his compulsion to secretly download pornographic images for hours on end almost wrecked his marriage and career. In a bid to help others kick similar sex addictions, he told The Herald how Plymouth Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) stopped him destroying his life. The city SAA group is one of about 900 worldwide which aim to help people recover from destructive sexual behaviour. Pete, whose name has been changed to protect his identity, said that three years ago his wife and daughter came close to leaving because of his addiction. He said: “It culminated when my wife found pornography on the computer by a... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3858390 Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:38:02 +0100 3858390 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3845063&cid=t_110898_83_f&fid=34856&url=http%3A%2F%2Finsidesurgery.com%2F2010%2F08%2Fdr-robert-winn-discusses-bisexuality%2F Philadelphia physician Dr. Robert Winn is happily married and claims he has been monogamous for the entire length of his marriage to Christine Winn. But, he also says he is a male bisexual. He and his wife discuss these issues. (Source: Inside Surgery) Inside Surgery blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3845063 Sun, 08 Aug 2010 14:15:29 +0100 3845063 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3833571&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Ftheres-no-shame-in-sex-therapy%2F This article may be a guide to seeking help. When Stephen Braveman suggested to his wife that they needed sex therapy, he did so with trepidation. He worried he’d “be seen as a pig who only wants sex.” Even though he’s a practicing sex therapist himself, his marriage wasn’t immune from the intimacy challenges that face so many couples. In his case, says Braveman of Monterey, Calif., his upbringing during the “free love” 1960s in California put him at odds with his wife’s native German culture. “It’s just not in her personality to be verbally expressive in the bedroom,” he says. Still, she agreed to join him in therapy, and the couple has “made progress.” Sex, of course, isn’t purely physical. Intertwined be... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3833571 Wed, 04 Aug 2010 18:04:01 +0100 3833571 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3787132&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Flesbian-health-checks%2F 10 things lesbians should discuss with health care providers in recovery. Lesbians in recovery have just as much need for regular health checks as other people. The Gay and Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA) has listed 10 health care concerns lesbians should include in discussions with their physicians or other health care providers. The medical group ranks breast cancer as the top priority. Other necessary topics include depression, gynaecological cancer, diet and osteoporosis. "Many lesbians and far too many health professionals are not comfortable or do not know how to discuss health issues related to sexual orientation," said GLMA Executive Director Maureen S. O’Leary, R.N. Unfortunately, there are some health risks that are of greater concern to lesbians, and we nee... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3787132 Fri, 23 Jul 2010 18:44:00 +0100 3787132 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3730105&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwomens-sexual-health%2F Women Say Sexual Health Issues Impact Multiple Aspects of Their Lives. Many women in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, compulsive gambling or co-dependency may identify with this survey. The women included were heterosexual, lesbian and/or bisexual. National Survey Shows 70% of Women Have Experienced a Sexual Health Issue A new survey released today shows 70 percent of women report having experienced a sexual health issue, of which 22 percent felt very or extremely concerned. The survey also found that many women claim they would be comfortable talking to a health care provider about a sexual health issue, but less than one-fifth (18%) actually visited their health care provider when they experienced one. The survey, commissioned by the US National Women’s Health Resource Center (... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3730105 Mon, 05 Jul 2010 19:27:01 +0100 3730105 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3724580&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fyyu_gznVPCk%2F This article discusses the problem and where to seek help. At one time or another, almost every man experiences erectile dysfunction. Defined as an inability to achieve or maintain an erection firm enough to have satisfying intercourse. Erectile dysfunction has an impact on more than just a man’s self-esteem – it may also wreak havoc on a relationship. Some women buy into the myth that men are highly sexual and ready at any time. They may see their partner’s lack of an erection as a sign that he doesn’t love or desire her and she may blame herself for her partner’s lack of response. Embarrassment, anxiety and a lack of information about erectile dysfunction can contribute to this sexual problem. Past sexual practices, including masturbation, do not cause ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3724580 Sat, 03 Jul 2010 17:08:00 +0100 3724580 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3724581&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F66NGdDH3dRI%2F My name is Mary and I’m a lesbian alcoholic in Alcoholics Anonymous I’m an alcoholic. I’m 27. I’m a woman. I’m a homosexual. I’ve been sober in the beautiful Fellowship of A.A. for 17 months and, for the first time in many years, find myself smiling, laughing, and really caring for other people. After ten years of alcoholic drinking, that life of horror, loneliness, and despair brought me to the doors of my first A.A. meeting. In the first few months of my sobriety, I tried to follow suggestions, went to many meetings, joined a group, and found a sponsor whose sobriety I respected. But during this time, I lived in fear — fear of my homosexuality being discovered, fear of being rejected by fellow A.A. members, fear of being left alone to cope with my ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3724581 Fri, 02 Jul 2010 16:46:00 +0100 3724581 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3707007&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhy-do-women-have-sex%2F This study is very important to modern society. This is especially so since the sexual revolution opened peoples minds to a broader range of sexuality and sexual expression. The study; Historically, the reasons people have sex have been assumed to be few in number and simple in nature- to reproduce, to experience pleasure, or to relieve sexual tension. Several theoretical perspectives suggest that motives for engaging in sexual intercourse may be larger in number and psychologically complex in nature. Our first study used a procedure that identified 237 expressed reasons for having sex. Here are the top 50 reasons women have sex; I was attracted to the person I wanted to experience the physical pleasure It feels good I wanted to show my affection to the person I wanted to express my lov... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3707007 Sun, 27 Jun 2010 16:04:01 +0100 3707007 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3662958&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faddiction-in-the-family%2F Addiction is a complex issue. It affects every member of the family and can have a lasting impact on their lives. The effect on family members varies from person to person and family to family. How Does an Addiction Develop? Addiction is a process rather than an event. In the beginning, people often don’t experience any difficulties. As their use continues, they may begin to focus more on the alcohol, drugs or gambling than they do on the other areas of their lives. This process is often influenced by a number of factors, including the culture they live in, life events, their biological makeup and their relationships with family and friends. Researchers have looked at genetics, environment, and the combination of these two to explain how dependence develops. Right now, it’s bel... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3662958 Tue, 15 Jun 2010 04:34:01 +0100 3662958 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3632440&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FgyIFytA3Ees%2F Researchers propose a model of development whereby a person moves from voluntary dieting through a number of stages to reach a fully entrenched eating disorder. Stage 1: Normal, voluntary dieting behaviour. Unfortunately dieting behaviours have become the “norm”, with 47% of people in Australia having tried to lose weight in the past twelve months. 68% of fifteen year old girls are dieting at any one time, 8% of these are on a severe diet. While these diets are severe enough to be considered an eating disorder, they are unhealthy and result in rapid weight changes, disrupted metabolism, dehydration, low energy and lack of essential vitamins, minerals and nutrients. Stage 1B: (in Bulimia Nervosa only). The hunger associated with dieting and restriction leads to severe and con... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3632440 Thu, 03 Jun 2010 15:17:02 +0100 3632440 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3618096&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FdMcIJvzhofQ%2F Compulsive Gambling Parent? Compulsive gambling is a symptom of an emotional, spiritual, psychological and physical illness, characterized by low self-esteem, immaturity, instability and obsessive behavior. Because compulsive gambling is an insidious and baffling illness, some adults have difficulty deciding if they were affected by compulsive gambling during childhood. The following questions may help you to determine whether compulsive gambling affected your childhood or present life. Do you obsess about money? Did family activities revolve around gambling events? (sports, cards, lottery, racetracks, etc.) Have you ever been missing money? Have you ever paid or been asked to pay a parent’s debts? Do your parents often argue about money? Were you forced to form an alliance with one par... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3618096 Mon, 31 May 2010 15:02:22 +0100 3618096 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3612064&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FAMoaYRy-FdI%2F This is an excellent website for the gay, lesbian or bisexual recovering alcoholic. From their website; While alcoholism crosses all sexual orientations, gay and lesbian alcoholics in recovery often face unique challenges. Professional assistance may be sometimes tainted by the prejudices of those providing it, or at a minimum be limited by the caregivers’ lack of knowledge of those aspects of gay society that distinguish it from the larger straight community. These limitations may become more pronounced when one seeks assistance from mainstream sobriety self-help groups, where prejudices and lack of knowledge can be more glaring in lay men and women who, though sober, lack professional helping skills. For those living outside of metropolitan areas where there is a large gay and lesb... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3612064 Sat, 29 May 2010 15:00:01 +0100 3612064 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3585843&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstress-affects-recovery%2F Alcoholics should avoid excessive physical and emotional stress during early abstinence. Researchers have found that an important system (The HPA axis) of the body that regulates stress, hunger and illness is “stunned” during alcoholic drinking. The researchers tested alcoholics in early recovery (less than 12 months) and found that the HPA axis recovers after about 8 weeks. Any stress can trigger an abnormal response but moderate to extreme stress can be dangerous to abstinence and may trigger a relapse. Reference; May 2007 issue of Alcoholism: Clinical & Experimental Research. Recovery Blogger’s comments; The most dangerous time for recovery from alcoholism is the first 3 months. Many do not stay sober in the first 3 months. Some alcoholics have been known to exercise to ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3585843 Tue, 18 May 2010 16:45:01 +0100 3585843 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3573951&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fb3qSB_YXs1E%2F The tools of the addict King Heroin is my shepherd, I shall always want. He maketh me to lie down in the gutters. He leadeth me beside the troubled waters. He destroyeth my soul. He leadeth me in the paths of wickedness for the effort’s sake. Yea, I shall walk through the valley of poverty and will fear all evil for thou, Heroin, art with me. Thy Needle and capsule try to comfort me. Thou strippest the table of groceries in the presence of my family. Thou robbest my head of reason. My cup of sorrow runneth over. Surely heroin addiction shall stalk me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the House of the Damned forever. Alcoholism, Addiction & Codependency Recovery Bookstore Hazelden Books, DVD's & Medalions (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3573951 Sun, 16 May 2010 18:33:01 +0100 3573951 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3564205&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FdUyLbuGgV7E%2F This study is very important to modern society. This is especially so since the sexual revolution opened peoples minds to a broader range of sexuality and sexual expression. The study; Historically, the reasons people have sex have been assumed to be few in number and simple in nature- to reproduce, to experience pleasure, or to relieve sexual tension. Several theoretical perspectives suggest that motives for engaging in sexual intercourse may be larger in number and psychologically complex in nature. Our first study used a procedure that identified 237 expressed reasons for having sex. Here are the top 50 reasons men have sex; I was attracted to the person It feels good I wanted to experience the physical pleasure It’s fun I wanted to show my affection to the person I was sexually ar... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3564205 Wed, 12 May 2010 21:54:26 +0100 3564205 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3552562&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FzCPU2OpSpMU%2F Mature sexuality Men in their 50s have more satisfying sex lives than men in their 30s Men in their fifties are more satisfied with their sex lives than men in their thirties and forties, recording similar levels to 20-29 year-olds, according to a survey published in the February issue of BJU International. A team of experts from Norway and the USA surveyed 1,185 men aged between 20 and 79, asking them about various aspects of their sex life, including drive, erections and ejaculation. They found that although there was a strong relationship between a man’s advancing age and his declining sex drive and ability to have an erection and ejaculate, there wasn’t such a strong link between age and overall sexual satisfaction. The men who responded to the Norwegian postal questionnair... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3552562 Fri, 07 May 2010 14:31:39 +0100 3552562 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3538394&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FqrfSOMKjTZQ%2F A violent storm approaches What is the definition of domestic abuse? Domestic abuse between spouses or intimate partners is when one person in the relationship tries to control the other person. The perpetrator uses fear and intimidation and may threaten to or actually use physical violence. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. Domestic abuse and alcoholism / addiction often go hand-in-hand. The victim of domestic abuse or domestic violence may be a man or a woman. Domestic abuse occurs in traditional heterosexual marriages, as well as in same-sex partnerships. The abuse may occur during a relationship, while the couple is breaking up, or after the relationship has ended. The key elements of domestic abuse are: Intimidation Humiliation Physical i... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3538394 Wed, 05 May 2010 16:25:01 +0100 3538394 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3534110&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fa1YgF39hnI4%2F Shark patroling waiting to pounce Thirteenth Stepping occurs when a person in recovery makes sexual overtures to a vulnerable person, a newcomer or someone newly sober, sometimes under the guise of “sponsoring” or working with the newcomer. it violates the principle that we should help others without expectation of reciprocity or return favors, sexual or otherwise. it taints the apparent motives of other AA members who really desire nothing other than to help the newcomer get sober. it can give an entire group the undeserved reputation as a “meat market,” and it can deprive the newcomer of the feeling that there is at least one safe place to be. Thoughts Do we at the very least avoid 13th stepping ourselves? Do we help newcomers, especially those who are vulnerab... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3534110 Tue, 04 May 2010 17:52:00 +0100 3534110 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3502991&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FgEoC8xlieX4%2F Sex Addicts Anonymous Attending SAA meetings starts us on a new way of life. But while the SAA fellowship supports our recovery, the actual work of recovery is described in the Twelve Steps. Meetings are forums for learning how to integrate the steps into our lives. Working the Twelve Steps leads to a spiritual transformation that results in sustainable relief from our addiction. “Our fellowship is open to women and men, regardless of age, race, religion, ethnic background, marital status, or occupation. We welcome members of any sexual identity or orientation, whether they are gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual, or transgender.” - Order today >> Sex Addicts Anonymous - Alcoholism, Addiction & Codependency Recovery Bookstore Hazelden Books, DVD's & Medalions (Source: Recovery ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3502991 Fri, 23 Apr 2010 23:15:00 +0100 3502991 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3472054&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FEfD_ige1zWQ%2F I’ve noticed that most of the discussion is from the female perspective. Probably because most of the people who participate are women, so that’s understandable. But I hope to shed some light on the male side of things the best I can. Usually when a woman is in emotional pain she needs to vent, and it really helps if that place to vent is as anonymous as possible. Women are made differently than men. A man will usually retreat to some place of quiet – some place where there is nothing going on at all – where he can regroup – somewhere where he can think and sort everything out. Like when Teddy Roosevelt lost his wife and mother in the same day – he went to the Badlands alone and spent time in the wilderness thinking things through. He was there for several mont... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3472054 Tue, 13 Apr 2010 01:13:09 +0100 3472054 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3460212&cid=t_110898_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F04%2F12%2Fare-more-girls-really-lesbian-or-bisexual%2F I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone the other week when I read the pseudo-scientific psychobabble that spewed forth from Psychology Today’s blog, “Sax on Sex.” In this particular entry, psychology and physician Leonard Sax posits that there’s a reason why so many girls are lesbian and bisexual nowadays: Psychologist John Buss estimates that for most of human history, perhaps 2% of women have been lesbian or bisexual (see note 1, below). Not any more. Recent surveys of teenage girls and young women find that roughly 15% of young females today self-identify as lesbian or bisexual, compared with about 5% of young males who identify as gay or bisexual Sax also thinks there’s a connection between the rise in young boys having ready and available access to pornog... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3460212 Mon, 12 Apr 2010 12:50:24 +0100 3460212 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3458009&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FHa-XB9TnKuQ%2F From the author of the New York Times bestseller Adult Children of Alcoholics — a wonderful book that affirms and encourages AcoAs by developing skills for living. Imagine how good you would feel if: You could stand up for yourself without losing your temper You could make a decision without second guessing yourself You didn’t have that sense of worthlessness every time someone criticized you You could learn how to say no and stick with it In Lifeskills for Adult Children you can learn how to do these things and more. This book is designed specifically for Adult Children and teaches skills to make your complex adult life easier, while improving your sense of self-worth. Examples are provided to help clarify the lessons and exercises are given to help you practice your new sk... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3458009 Fri, 09 Apr 2010 02:39:00 +0100 3458009 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3443987&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fdz3R0oC1PDE%2F This article from Readers Digest may be of help. You and your partner can rediscover intimacy and pleasure with these tips. Hormones may be primarily responsible for your sex drive, but nurturing your passion for your partner will work wonders for keeping desire burning strong. If your sex life has cooled of late, try these tips to help rekindle the flame. Topics included in this article are; Plan your encounters. Change your routine. Slow down and enjoy it more. Try different positions. Continue your lovemaking over several sessions. Savour the experience. Full story at Readers Digest See also; Sensual Massage A word about sex relations Alcoholism, Addiction & Codependency Recovery Bookstore Hazelden Books, DVD's & Medalions (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3443987 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 00:21:44 +0100 3443987 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3454209&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdisease-risks-of-non-straight-sex%2F What are the risks of sexual activities other than penile-vaginal intercourse? In recovery from alcoholism, addiction and compulsive gambling many people begin to take more responsibility for their sexual behaviors. Many couples engage in mutual masturbation, oral sex and anal sex instead of penile-vaginal intercourse to prevent pregnancy and avoid catching sexually transmitted infections (STIs). These activities reduce the risk of pregnancy, but most people don’t know that the risk of spreading an STI stays significantly high. Various infections may be spread through blood, saliva, semen, and feces. Different organisms have different risks of being spread, but the risk is always increased with open sores and abrasions, or other breaks in the skin, oral or vaginal lining. Few individual... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3454209 Tue, 06 Apr 2010 16:33:00 +0100 3454209 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3429453&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FpEmOeXJHYFw%2F The following are a series of statements from SRA members that describe their feelings and behaviors around their sexual addiction. Do these statements apply to you? Check “yes” or “no.” You can be honest here. I think about sex or romantic relationships most of the time. I often feel shame, regret or remorse after sexual fantasy or behavior. I want to stop masturbating but I can’t. I have difficulty staying monogamous in a relationship. I break promises to myself to stop my unwanted sexual behavior. My sexual behavior isolates me from my friends, family, etc. My obsession with pornography interferes with my real relationships. I obsessively sexualize people on the street. I put myself at risk of sexually- transmitted diseases. I’ve been afraid of my ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3429453 Thu, 01 Apr 2010 15:04:15 +0100 3429453 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3420761&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faa-for-youth%2F • “If I could have stayed cool, I’d still be drinking. Very quickly, though, I started getting into trouble. Going to sixth grade got in the way of my life, which consisted of getting drunk as much as possible.” [After rehab] “I was going to A.A. meetings. Everyone was older, even most of the kids at the young people meetings. But I found that alcoholics understand other alcoholics. . . . Regardless of how young or old or ‘special’ I am, in A.A. I’m just a drunk.” Tina, who joined A.A. at 13 • “I loved drinking and was as addicted to the lies, the shady people and places as I was to the alcohol. My grades suffered until I stopped going to school altogether. . . . I found myself in places without any idea of how I had gotten there. I overdosed on alcohol.” Since comi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3420761 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 15:46:59 +0100 3420761 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3411292&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fus90hpgupE8%2F Try to adopt the following approaches to your alcoholic / addict; 1. Try to learn the facts about alcoholism and other drug addiction. Keep an open mind. 2. Recognize addiction for what it is-a disease of the body, mind, behavior, and spirit from which people can and do recover. Like other diseases, nobody really intends to get it or wish it upon their loved ones once they have it. Try to remember that the alcoholic / addict in your family isn’t doing this at you. This is a disease beyond will power. 3. Practice detachment. Do not allow yourself to become obsessed with your family member. This is sometimes called “release with love.” In effect, there are times that you simply must let go and let the alcoholic / addict experience the consequences of their drinking and dru... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3411292 Thu, 25 Mar 2010 22:40:43 +0100 3411292 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3390998&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwomens-libido%2F This article may help. Your libido is your sexual interest and desire. Loss of libido may be experienced by women before or after menopause and may result in reduced desire and sexual experiences that are no longer satisfying or pleasurable. With greater awareness, knowledge and discussion about sexual health issues, more women are seeking advice for low libido from health practitioners. Low libido is a very sensitive issue and often occurs because of stress, substance use or abuse, tiredness, relationship difficulties, or depression. It can also be caused by a variety of medications used to treat unrelated conditions. Rest, relaxation, recreation and exercise – like walking, playing a sport, yoga, dancing or gardening – can all have positive effects on libido, as well as on health, bo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3390998 Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:02:59 +0100 3390998 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3383092&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FTFdq1gci4Qk%2F This article may help identify the problem. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, but for countless women suffering from vulvodynia, that’s not the case. Characterized by; pain or discomfort with sexual intercourse, rawness, stinging, itching and burning in the vagina or vulva, vulvodynia is a common condition, but it is often undiagnosed or misdiagnosed. “The symptoms of vulvodynia mimic those of other, common vulvovaginal infections,” explains Christin Veasley, associate executive director of the National Vulvodynia Association in Silver Spring, Md. “Women are routinely and incorrectly told that they have a yeast or bacterial infection over and over again.” Vulvodynia is more prevalent than most health practitioners realize. Roughly 16% of women between the ages of 18-64 have expe... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3383092 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:47:44 +0100 3383092 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3354586&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F8mNubGYqGzY%2F Women in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and co-dependency often may need new skills in the bedroom. These 5 tips may help. Want to give your man a thrilling experience like never before? Here are 5 really simple ways to make your lovemaking hotter, steamier and more passionate, starting tonight! This is a sampler the full story is at the Ask Dan and Jennifer site. 1. The best position for his enjoyment Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control. 2. Find your man’s “hidden” zones Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden” zones because ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3354586 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:11:29 +0100 3354586 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3350584&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fig6BoZVODJg%2F This study is very important to modern society. This is especially so since the sexual revolution opened peoples minds to a broader range of sexuality and sexual expression. Historically, the reasons people have sex have been assumed to be few in number and simple in nature– to reproduce, to experience pleasure, or to relieve sexual tension. Several theoretical perspectives suggest that motives for engaging in sexual intercourse may be larger in number and psychologically complex in nature. The survey included heterosexual and gay men. Here are the top reasons men have sex; I was attracted to the person It feels good I wanted to experience the physical pleasure It’s fun I wanted to show my affection to the person I was sexually aroused and wanted the release I was ‘‘horny’’ ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3350584 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:49:06 +0100 3350584 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3350588&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FtsXUPQhJGc4%2F Sexual compulsion may seem like a life locked in battle with self Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a 12 Step Fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other, that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from sexual compulsion. These are the characteristics most of us seem to have in common: As adolescents, we used fantasy and compulsive masturbation to avoid feelings, and continued this tendency into our adult lives with compulsive sex. Compulsive sex became a drug, which we used to escape from feelings such as anxiety, loneliness, anger and self-hatred, as well as joy. We tended to become immobilized by romantic obsessions. We became addicted to the search for sex and love; as a result, we neglected our lives. We sought obli... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3350588 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:20:00 +0100 3350588 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346732&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FFOcpFsHiN8k%2F , formerly Prostitutes Anonymous, is a 12 Step Fellowship of men and women who have a desire to leave commercial sex work, and it’s aftermath, behind. Commercial sex work includes prostitution, escorting, pimping, madaming, pornography, stripping, phone sex, adult cam work, or any other arena where you exchanged sex or a sexual activity for money, services or goods (whether a legal activity or not). We are a worldwide, free, out-patient, anonymous program open to anyone regardless of their age, race, gender, sex, sexual identity, religion, HIV status, or location that has a desire to leave the sex industry. Sex Workers Anonymous does not feel the problem is with the sex industry in and of itself.  We are a fellowship of people who have a desire to leave the sex industry – peri... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346732 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 08:17:49 +0100 3346732 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346733&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FFQaSVgL25e8%2F This article will give many people in recovery food for thought. What is a healthy relationship and how does sex fit in? In the simplest terms, a healthy relationship is one that makes you feel good about yourself and your partner. Not only do you enjoy being together, but you can express your true self, and allow your partner to do the same. All relationships are different, of course, but healthy ones have at least five important qualities in common. The acronym S.H.A.R.E. can help you remember these qualities. Safety: In a healthy relationship you feel safe. You don’t worry that your partner will harm you physically or emotionally, and you don’t feel inclined to use physical or emotional violence against your partner. You can try new things (such as taking a night class) or c... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346733 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 06:56:44 +0100 3346733 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3339814&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fzn6gI3cct8w%2F Accepted norms of sexual behavior and attitudes vary greatly within and among different cultures. Generally, what is normal and abnormal cannot be defined readily. However, when sexual behavior or difficulties bother a person or their partner or cause harm, treatment is warranted. Societal attitudes about sexuality also change with time, as has occurred with the following: Masturbation: Once widely regarded as a perversion and a cause of mental disorders, masturbation is now recognized as a normal sexual activity throughout life. It is considered abnormal only when it inhibits partner-oriented behavior, is done in public, or is sufficiently compulsive to cause distress. About 97% of males and 80% of females masturbate. Although masturbation is harmless, guilt created by the disapproval and... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3339814 Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:29:37 +0100 3339814 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3322635&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FLjw9mQkD8BE%2F Crate of Porn Am I Addicted to Pornography? This is a self-assessment quiz from Sex Addicts Anonymous for determining whether you might be addicted to pornography. These apply equally to heterosexual, gay and lesbian people. Do you ever find yourself spending more time viewing pornography than you intended to? Are you spending less time with family and friends than you used to because of time with pornography? Do you usually masturbate while viewing pornography? Has your job performance suffered as a result of porn use? Has your use of pornography caused problems with your spouse or romantic partner? Do you sometimes prefer masturbation with pornography over sex with your spouse or significant other? Do you ever wake up tired because of late-night use of pornography? Do you keep your por... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3322635 Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:56:00 +0100 3322635 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3318669&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FwbkcJMdjf2w%2F Individual drinking habits may be found on a continuum from responsible drinking through alcohol abuse to alcoholism, or physical dependence. There are many signs that may point to an alcohol problem. Drunkenness on its own or solitary drinking does not necessarily indicate alcoholism. The questionnaire will be meaningful to you only if you are honest with yourself when taking it. The important question is: Is your use of alcohol creating significant negative consequences in your life? Do you sometimes drink heavily after a setback or an argument, or when you receive a poor grade? When you experience trouble or are undergoing stress, do you always drink more heavily than usual? Can you handle more liquor now than you could when you first began drinking? Have you ever awakened the “... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3318669 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 04:48:31 +0100 3318669 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3316252&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FTdseqBHs2C8%2F MP3 recovery tracks for lesbians in Alcoholics Anonymous at XA Speaker site. Click on the link to go to a description of the track. Or see link at bottom for XA Speaker home page. barry-l-gaylesbconv8532.mp3 David-c-wearefamily2002.mp3 Christopher-s-soberandfree2002.mp3 brain-m-soberandfree2002.mp3 blanche-b-texasroundup1987.mp3 roz-b-rcr98.mp3 paige-f-rcr98.mp3 mary-r-rcr1999.mp3 fr-leo-b-rcr95.mp3 sue-c-soberandfree2002.mp3 grady-o-livingsober1997.mp3 edie-c-livingsober1990.mp3 francis-c-livingsober1993.mp3 michael-b-liveandletlive1991.mp3 XA Speaker Recovery tapes at; XA Speakers See also Effects of alcohol on women Gay & Lesbian Recovery Say Yes to Your Sexual Healing A Woman’s Guide to Recovery Recovery MP3 tracks for all 12-Step Fellowships Related Reading: (Source: Re... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3316252 Sun, 28 Feb 2010 04:10:41 +0100 3316252 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3314799&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FxVFPl8RLECI%2F “Seeking sexual satisfaction is a basic desire, and masturbation is often our first teenage natural sexual activity. It’s the way we discover our eroticism, the way we learn to respond sexually, the way we learn to love ourselves and to build self-esteem.” -Betty Dodson, renowned artist, author and sex educator And, said Woody Allen, “it’s having sex with the one you love.” Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, ACOA or codependency may not be in a sexually active relationship. Relations may need to be rekindled or new relationships may be needed. Additionally, many people may not want to endanger their new found sobriety by being involved in an emotionally charged relationship. Masturbation is normal and common Masturbation is one of the mo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3314799 Fri, 26 Feb 2010 11:10:20 +0100 3314799 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3311942&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsexual-glue%2F Love, Sex & Intimacy in Recovery from alcoholism or addiction. Sex in recovery can be the trickiest problem of all. So true for heterosexuals, gays and lesbians. Why? Because there’s so much room for things to go wrong. And feelings get so distorted when they do. Take sexual dysfunction. After cleaning up from chemicals, many dependent persons — particularly men — find that they’re unable to function sexually. Impotence can be frustrating — for both partners. It can trigger a flood of self-loathing in a man and a current of tension and self-doubt in a woman. If it happens to you, don’t panic or take it personally. Impotence usually isn’t a major crisis. Time, understanding, and simple communication almost always make it better. That’s bec... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3311942 Thu, 25 Feb 2010 11:06:41 +0100 3311942 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3302652&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsex-after-menopause-2%2F Is there Sex after Menopause? Many women come into recovery from alcoholism or addiction having passed through menopause or in the middle of it. As this article discusses menopause can be a traumatic experience for any women; and even more so for women undergoing profound changes to their social life through recovery. New treatments offer ways to treat symptoms and improve sexual function Nothing strikes fear in the hearts of women like the thought of menopause. The shifting hormone levels that are associated with “the change” can lead to everything from mood swings, insomnia and weight gain to decreased sex drive. However, despite the common dread most women have for this time, the truth is that menopause does not have to be the end of the world … or the end of a woman’s sexualit... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3302652 Wed, 24 Feb 2010 12:11:10 +0100 3302652 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3294820&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fgood-sex-10-brilliant-reasons-to-do-it%2F People in recovery from various addictions and co-dependency often question their reasons and sometimes mother natures reasons for having sex. This list may help people think about or discuss their sexual activities. Decisions can then be made about what is right for each individual or relationship. Remember; In good sex no one gets hurt. 10 Brilliant reasons to do it! helps you live longer regulates the menstrual cycle boosts your self-esteem raises hormone (estrogen/testosterone) levels helps you sleep better gives you a mini workout is stress busting improves your relationship relieves emotional pain makes you look terrific Other aspects of good sex are; Sex for pleasure Maintains a healthy genital and pelvic system Needs sensitive genital manipulation Affected by age, disease, da... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3294820 Sun, 21 Feb 2010 00:20:00 +0100 3294820 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3290999&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FrtKbCir_Ezg%2F This article may help stir desires for pleasures foregone or forgotten. This is true for straights, gays and lesbians. Preparation is key, so be prepared. That’s a good lesson for life in general and a vital lesson for sex. Great sex isn’t just penetration – the build-up is a very important part. In fact most women can’t reach orgasm without it. Foreplay makes the whole thing last much longer and, to be frank, is really rather good. If just the thought of sex is enough to get you raring, slow down a bit – your partner may want to take a little more time. Women generally take longer to become sexually aroused than men; the fire needs to be stoked. Try and keep foreplay going until you both just can’t wait for penetration. Foreplay will increase the chances of org... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3290999 Sat, 20 Feb 2010 00:14:00 +0100 3290999 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3291003&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FxTJpC4ULFKg%2F Are you thinking what I'm thinking? Sexercises: Workouts to Work You Up You know all of the good-for-you arguments for becoming more physically active, but here’s an especially attractive reward: exercise can improve your sex life. This is especially so for women in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, adult children of alcoholism, co-dependency, compulsive gambling or depression. Being physically active helps you feel more interested in sex, gives you the energy and strength you need for enjoying your partner or yourself more, reduces the stress that can block sexual interest and builds the muscles used in sexual intimacy. Research shows that exercise boosts women’s sexual arousal—even if they were experiencing low sexual desire before starting physical activity. That ef... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3291003 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:37:22 +0100 3291003 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3283828&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F7spyGevO9xA%2F Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, co-dependency and compulsive gambling may identify with these points. They may be the victim, the perpetrator or an observer. These reasons apply to heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual and transsexual people. Additionally, just because someone is in recovery does not exclude them from being difficult in relationships. Why would a woman stay in a relationship with a guy who puts her down, hems her in, and perhaps even physically abuses her? Why would a woman hold down two jobs to keep the rent paid and food on the table while her boyfriend sits around smoking weed all day? Why oh why would a woman allow herself to be emotionally blackmailed by her boyfriend’s threats that he will kill himself or her or both if she even talks ab... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3283828 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:24:06 +0100 3283828 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3276092&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsex-and-love-addicts-anonymous-twelve-steps%2F S.L.A.A. Preamble Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition-oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous. The only qualification for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. S.L.A.A. is supported entirely through the contributions of its membership, and is free to all who need it. We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of o... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3276092 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 03:19:37 +0100 3276092 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3273083&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fp8bs4QOTL6Y%2F Sex goes on Many people in recovery are in the older age groups. Either starting recovery or well along the road sexual activity and responses can be different to what they remember or may have a different spiritual meaning. By understanding age changes one can accommodate new experiences rather than be confused or disheartened. Sexual Desire May Never Stop Women and men have the capacity for sexual desire and sexual activity throughout their lives. There is no reason why one cannot express one’s sexuality well beyond the “reproductive years” (the ages during which men and women are fertile). In fact, women and men who have been sexually active throughout their adult lives seem to be more sexually responsive in old age than those who have not. The key to maintaining sexual function ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3273083 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 01:48:00 +0100 3273083 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3273087&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F8pG0eTyYVe4%2F 40+ Sexuality Variety can be the spice of intercourse Recovery from alcoholism, addiction, gambling or co-dependency is common for people in their forth decade. Often sexuality in relationships has been absent or troubled. This may be true for straight, gays or lesbians. Too many men and women in long-term relationships lament that “the thrill is gone” but often don’t understand why. Some blame themselves or their partners or tell themselves that sexual boredom is as inevitable a part of growing older as wrinkles and reading glasses. It doesn’t have to be that way. And here’s why: To coin a cliché, variety can be the spice of intercourse. There are many kinds of sex play, but here let’s consider intercourse and different ways to do it — that is, experiment with positions. Th... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3273087 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 01:05:00 +0100 3273087 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267207&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F8lWnTrijfao%2F Which letterbox has a dysfunctional family Growing up in an alcoholic family “Sometimes I feel like I was raised by wolves,” sighed James, a 55-year-old man who grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents. “I’ve gone through so much of my life guessing at what ‘normal’ is. It’s like trying to find your way through a dark woods without a compass.” According to Rosemary Hartman reactions like James’ are typical for people who grew up in dysfunctional families. But acknowledging that there were issues that deeply affected the whole family system is an important first step toward emotional and spiritual healing. Hartman said this acknowledgment frequently happens when adults have their own children. “They want to be good parents, but struggle with how to do it. They have s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267207 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 18:32:33 +0100 3267207 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267208&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FYAebYk3vl3A%2F CONCLUSIONS: Adolescent COAs are at risk for depression, suicide, eating disorders, chemical dependency, and teen pregnancy. It has been proposed that healthcare professionals teach core resiliency factors to promote healthy behaviors for this vulnerable population. Children of addicted parents are the highest risk group of children to become alcohol and drug abusers because of both genetic and family environment factors. Twenty-two percent of the combined sample identified themselves as a child of an alcoholic. This is consistent with current estimates of children of parental alcoholics, which is calculated to be 22%. In another recent study among 595 African American boys age 13 to 17 years, identified that 23% of the participating teens were COAs. The National Association of Children... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267208 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 18:20:23 +0100 3267208 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267209&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fd6QO8hrOMms%2F The objective of this study in Canada was to examine the effects of sexual abuse on substance use patients’ presentation and course in treatment. Consecutive admissions to an addictions service were assessed at intake and six-month follow-up. Assessments evaluated socio-demographic and psychiatric characteristics, addiction severity, and physical and/or sexual abuse histories. Upon entering treatment, 23% reported prior sexual abuse with or without physical abuse. Patients with a sexual abuse history had higher rates of psychological problems, stronger family histories of substance use disorders, and more impaired family relationships. At six months, there were no differences between patients with and without sexual abuse histories in their response to treatment, or their utilization ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267209 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:49:01 +0100 3267209 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3259269&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FMQr5lGvE6bA%2F ACOA's often have inner shadows of early life Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) refers to individuals who have grown up in a dysfunctional family as a result of their parents or caretakers alcoholism. Each ACOA finds they often have common characteristics in adulthood as the result of their childhood and upbringing, often including alcohol or drug abuse themselves. These traits can also be found in other dysfunctional families that include drug addiction, compulsive gamblers, or workaholism. The condition is often referred to as co-dependency as the sufferer usually needs a person dependent or addicted to alcohol or drugs to feel needed. Adult Children of Alcoholics can also refer to any 12 Step Fellowship that, like Al-anon, who assist ACOA with their common problems. Common Traits ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3259269 Wed, 10 Feb 2010 10:22:33 +0100 3259269 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3248707&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fpa2dG3lu7HE%2F Recovery from alcoholism, addiction, co-dependency and gambling can bring new and unexpected ways to be in love and to express that love. Recovering people may need to rekindle an existing relationship. Or, they may have started a new relationship or sexual orientation with new a partner. To strengthen relationships, counsellors advise couples to “make weekly dates” or “go away on a couple’s weekend.” Those are great ideas, but let’s be realistic: that’s not always possible. These 11 quick and simple ways to express love let busy couples rekindle or promote romance among the chaos of everyday life. 1. Embrace your past. 2. Be kids together – let the inner child out. 3. Wrap your mate in love. 4. Speak the languages of love. 5. Write love notes to eac... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3248707 Sun, 07 Feb 2010 10:58:04 +0100 3248707 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3247079&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FGYiFuKXrHrw%2F The 12 Steps work for women Women and the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous: A Gendered Narrative This paper examines how women “work” the twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) from a gendered perspective. Feminist critics of AA have challenged the language of AA’s Twelve Steps, the spiritual nature of the steps, and the male-dominated culture of the Twelve-Step program. This paper offers insight into how women in AA approach, interpret, and utilize the Twelve Steps to recover from alcoholism. Through survey and narrative data, findings suggests that women working AA’s Twelve Steps become empowered and change for the better in spite of the male-dominated culture and language of the Twelve Steps and regardless of the difficulty they may have encountered in completing th... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3247079 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 11:26:09 +0100 3247079 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3244054&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F8GHcEl-Ava4%2F This article from PsychCentral tells the story of an elderly women who found love again and gives some pointers. Want to find love again? There’s no reason to think that you can’t find someone to love. A few simple pointers may help. Start with giving yourself a pep talk. Don’t try to replace someone you’ve lost. Let friends and acquaintances know that you are open to meeting someone special. Be honest about what you’re looking for. Consider online dating services as a way to enlarge your pool of eligible singles. Be reasonably cautious Trust your instincts. Know what you want. When you find yourself wanting to spend more time with someone who seems promising, please remember that you both already have pretty full lives. Don’t expect your adult kids to love your new love &#821... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3244054 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:11:37 +0100 3244054 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3227711&cid=t_110898_87_f&fid=34872&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.blisstree.com%2Fhealthbolt%2Fbetter-care-for-gays-lesbians-bisexuals%2F Getting quality health care can be difficult enough for some people, but if you throw into the mix being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transexual, getting quality health care can be even more difficult. While the actual health issues, such as diabetes, cancer or hypertension, don’t differ from straights, all too often, medical professionals, from doctors and nurses to physiotherapists and nutritionists, don’t understand the cultural issues that affect LGBT patients. In some cases, the professionals may rely on misinformation or myths, or they don’t know where to turn for the information they need. Regardless of the problem, these barriers to adequate healthcare access for their LGBT patients. According to a press release issued by PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesb... Healthbolt blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3227711 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:10:12 +0100 3227711 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3212606&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F6y5o0zhf2sg%2F Sex takes 3 to 13 minutes This story may help people who are discovering their new sexuality in recovery. Recovery from alcoholism, addiction, gambling and co-dependency is a journey of discovery of self. And, self includes ones sexuality. Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn’t take long to be satisfied in bed. A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life. If that sounds like good news to you, don’t cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as “too short.” Story Hig... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3212606 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 07:07:20 +0100 3212606 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3212607&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FaxhMRhl7mmI%2F Recovery may uncover sexuality issues Many women in recovery find some problems with their sexuality have emerged from the haze of alcoholism or addiction. This may be true for heterosexual and lesbian women. These notes may help. Talk to your doctor if there is any signs apparent. There are four recognised disorders of Female Sexual Dysfunction as defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Medical Disorders. These are: Sexual desire disorders – A lack of sex drive or low libido. This is the most common type of sexual disorder among women Sexual arousal disorder – An inability to become aroused or maintain arousal during sexual activity Orgasmic disorder – A persistent or recurrent difficulty in achieving orgasm after sufficient sexual arousal and ongoing stimulation Sexual... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3212607 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 05:53:00 +0100 3212607 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3212609&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FC0AzMtxjw-4%2F occurs when a person with sobriety makes sexual overtures to a newcomer or someone newly sober, sometimes under the guise of "sponsoring" or working with the newcomer. Newcomers are vulnerable and need guidance not exploitation. Thirteenth Stepping violates the principle that we should help others without expectation of reciprocity or return favours, sexual or otherwise. Thirteenth Stepping taints the apparent motives of other AA members who really desire nothing other than to help the newcomer get sober. Thirteenth Stepping can give an entire group the undeserved reputation as a "meat market," and it can deprive the newcomer of the feeling that there is at least one safe place to be. Thoughts Do we at the very least avoid 13th stepping ourselves? Do we help ne... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3212609 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:25:00 +0100 3212609 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3208697&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fmy-12-step-sponsor%2F A Sponsor is a more experienced member in the recovery program who guides the newcomer through the process of recovery. In 12-Step circles, it is suggested that a sponsor should be of the same gender (unless gay or lesbian). The newcomer to the program is quite vulnerable; for some of us this is the first time we have expressed our true feelings, our secrets or our fears.  Experience has shown that this new relationship with a member of the opposite gender could be misinterpreted and if acted upon could reduce chances for sustained recovery for both parties.  It also will help to avoid gender based communication problems. A Sponsor Helps an Alcoholic and, Should have A working knowledge of the 12 steps and 12 traditions, Personal experiences dealing with life in recovery, A willingness ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3208697 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 15:18:35 +0100 3208697 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3208699&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-acoa-co-dependency%2F ACOA's often feel frozen in relationships You can talk to a dozen experts, read a dozen books and get a dozen different interpretations of ACOA co-dependency. Many accept it as a disease in as much as it has an onset, is progressive, predictable and in time is potentially fatal, although other causes of death are generally cited. It is assumed that all Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) are co-dependents, but we each act out this illness in a different way.  Basically, there are two general concepts: As children growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional home environment, we learned to hide or divorce our feelings, our true selves (also knows as the “Inner Child”) and we adopted a survival role in order to cope with the stresses. The experts in the field of alcohol... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3208699 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:38:19 +0100 3208699 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3205128&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F_O72JWYxJXs%2F Motorcyclists carrying ‘The (AA) Message’ rumble, pipes roaring, in honouring Big Bruce. The collective rumble of a hundred motorcycles, mounted by riders hell-bent on staying “clean and sober” and spreading the message of sobriety and goodwill, awakened a traditionally sombre setting in West Texas: A Midland funeral. The sight and sound initially perhaps conjured up images of the hell-raising gang, the fearsome Hells Angels Motorcycle Club or the Boozefighters Motorcycle Club — “A drinking club with a motorcycle problem.” But those were not these motorcyclists. Maybe they were drunken hell-raisers in times past but no more. Today, they are clean and sober. Donning riding outfits, sans helmets, and mostly, it seemed, dedicated to smoking tobacco, ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3205128 Sun, 24 Jan 2010 10:04:00 +0100 3205128 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3205130&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FUWbdmsQddao%2F The objective of this study in Canada was to examine the effects of sexual abuse on substance use patients’ entry and their recovery course in treatment. Consecutive admissions to an addictions service were assessed at intake and six-month follow-up. Upon entering treatment, 23% reported prior sexual abuse with or without physical abuse. Patients with a sexual abuse history had higher rates of psychological problems, stronger family histories of substance use disorders, and more impaired family relationships. At six months, there were no differences between patients with and without sexual abuse histories in their response to treatment, or their utilization of treatment services. Dara A. Charney; Jorge Palacios-Boix; Kathryn J. Gill, Sexual Abuse and the Outcome of Addiction Treatment.... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3205130 Sun, 24 Jan 2010 07:13:04 +0100 3205130 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3201909&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faa-and-na-works-for-youth-too%2F This study examined how helpful AA and NA may be for adolescents, finding long-term benefits even though many youth discontinue attendance after time. “It is difficult to evaluate the efficacy of mutual-help organizations like AA through randomized controlled experiments because the AA ‘intervention,’ being a community organization based on anonymity, cannot be directly under the control of the researcher in the usual way,” explained John F. Kelly. Yet their popularity and cost-effectiveness cannot be denied, added Kelly. “AA and NA are explicitly focused on abstinence and addiction recovery, they are widely available across most communities, they provide entry to a social network of recovery-specific support and sober events that can be accessed ‘on demand’ – particularly ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3201909 Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:05:00 +0100 3201909 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3201911&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-secrets-of-happy-relationships-2%2F Coupleship It doesn’t matter how long they’ve been together. Whatever the demographics, when you see a happy couple, you just know it! How do these couples stay in love, in good times and in bad? Fortunately, the answer isn’t through luck or chance. As a result of hard work and commitment, they figure out the importance of the following relationship “needs.” Because few couples know about all of the needs, I think of them as the relationship “secrets.” The 10 Secrets (See link below for full details) Develop a realistic view of committed relationships. Work on the relationship. Spend time together. Make room for “separateness.” Make the most of your differences. Don’t expect your partner to change; but at the same time give him more of what he wants. Accept that some p... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3201911 Sat, 23 Jan 2010 08:47:19 +0100 3201911 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3201912&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fthe-a-a-member-medications-and-other-drugs%2F Alcoholics Anonymous is a program for alcoholics who seek freedom from alcohol. It is not a program against drugs. However, some A.A. members have misused drugs, often as a substitute for alcohol, in such a manner as to become a threat to the achievement and maintenance of sobriety. These incidents have caused all A.A. members to be concerned with what is popularly known as the “pill problem.” A report from a group of physicians in A.A. Because this subject is one which goes deeply into the field of medicine, a group of physicians who are members of A.A. was asked to help prepare this pamphlet. The experience of some A.A. members reveals that drug misuse can threaten the achievement and maintenance of sobriety. Yet some A.A. members must take prescribed medication in order to treat cer... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3201912 Sat, 23 Jan 2010 08:36:59 +0100 3201912 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3200664&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FPkQG6ItLcls%2F Romantic sex is the healthiest Lose weight. Reduce stress. Lower your cholesterol level. Improve your circulation. Live longer. Stay younger. Sounds like an ad for a new wonder drug right? In fact it’s a partial list of the benefits of humanity’s oldest and most pleasurable pastime – sex. Most of us are aware of the feel-good benefits of sex while we’re engaged in it, but do you also know that there are benefits which carry on after the sweaty bodies have dried and the sweet talk has reverted to sports? For instance: Maintaining Ideal Body Weight Sexual intercourse burns approximately 150 calories per half hour. Here’s how that stacks up against some other activities that may be part of your fitness regime: yoga 114 calories per half hour, dancing – 129,... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3200664 Sat, 23 Jan 2010 07:47:46 +0100 3200664 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3197894&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fself-injury-patterns%2F Self-Injury Why do people engage in self-injury? Even though there is the possibility that a self-inflicted injury may result in life-threatening damage, self injury is not suicidal behavior. Although the person may not recognize the connection, SI usually occurs when facing what seems like overwhelming or distressing feelings. The reasons self-injurers give for this behavior vary but ALL ARE SUBCONSCIOUS MOTIVES. The reasons given are; Self-injury temporarily relieves intense feelings, pressure or anxiety Self-injury provides a sense of being real, being alive – of feeling something Injuring oneself is a way to externalize emotional internal pain – to feel pain on the outside instead of the inside Self-injury is a way to control and manage pain – unlike the pain experienced throug... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3197894 Thu, 21 Jan 2010 08:34:06 +0100 3197894 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3197896&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwomens-sexual-arousal%2F Mona Lisa Smile Women in recovery from alcoholism or addiction may experience new or unfamiliar sexual sensations. While drinking or drugging sexual arousal may have ceased, been dormant, been inconsistent or excessive. In almost all cases women have questions about their arousal and how it affects their sexuality. In most cases a chat with a female doctor, sex therapist or a visit to a sexual health clinic will be fruitful. Women have 3 types of sexual arousal. These are; spontaneous sensations of genital arousal that are appraised as mildly pleasurable; persistent feelings of genital arousal that are experienced as mildly distracting but not especially unwelcome or bothersome; and continuous, intense, and persistent genital arousal that is extremely distracting, distressing, and worris... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3197896 Thu, 21 Jan 2010 07:41:58 +0100 3197896 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3182379&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F34QBmdZ-JrE%2F 10 things lesbians should discuss with health care providers The Gay and Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA) has listed 10 health care concerns lesbians should include in discussions with their physicians or other health care providers. The medical group ranks breast cancer as the top priority. Other necessary topics include depression, gynecological cancer, diet and osteoporosis. “Many lesbians and far too many health professionals are not comfortable or do not know how to discuss health issues related to sexual orientation,” said GLMA Executive Director Maureen S. O’Leary. Unfortunately, there are some health risks that are of greater concern to lesbians, and we need to make sure they are addressed.” “We know from research,” said O’Hanlan, “... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3182379 Sun, 17 Jan 2010 08:23:08 +0100 3182379 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3176129&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F5ln_gL2xefs%2F Men’s Testosterone Responds to the Aroma of Ovulation Women around the world spend billions of dollars each year on exotic smelling perfumes and lotions in the hopes of attracting a mate. However, according to a new study in Psychological Science, going “au naturale” may be the best way to capture a potential mate’s attention. Smells are known to [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3176129 Thu, 14 Jan 2010 14:13:00 +0100 3176129 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3167457&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FNuxM_qp4Czc%2F A great video from Face the Issue about the effects of drugs narrated by Sarah Jessica Parker. (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3167457 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:00:00 +0100 3167457 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3164060&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FBE8K64E9zis%2F More than 317,000 men and women from 41 countries took part in a survey on sexual attitudes and behaviour. The survey included heterosexual, gays, lesbian and bisexual people. Based on the number of respondents from 41 countries, the 2005 Durex Global Sex Survey is the largest sexual health research project of its kind in the world. The most [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3164060 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 14:19:48 +0100 3164060 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3157672&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fquestions-to-ask-treatment-services%2F What are some questions to ask in choosing an alcohol treatment program? We recommend asking the following questions when selecting an alcohol treatment program: Does the program accept your insurance? If not, will they work with you on a payment plan or find other means of support for you? Is the program run by state-accredited, licensed and/or trained [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3157672 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 03:36:41 +0100 3157672 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3153648&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FQVk4bhdk2Ys%2F What can you do to help a friend or family member who is a self-injurer? (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3153648 Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:33:59 +0100 3153648 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3136724&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fjt7iZ9SMzQ4%2F Alcoholism is a disease affecting people of all races, nationalities, social strata, and sexual orientations. Though sometimes viewed historically as a self-indulgence, a lack of personal control or other character weakness, our modern understanding of alcoholism as a disease has opened the door to a wide range of options for those seeking recovery and sobriety. Alcoholics [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3136724 Fri, 01 Jan 2010 10:54:40 +0100 3136724 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3133805&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fchild-sex-abuse-alcoholism%2F Childhood sexual abuse and the course of alcohol dependence (alcoholism) development Childhood sexual abuse (CSA) has been associated with increased risk for alcohol dependence (AD), but the extent to which childhood sexual abuse history may impact transitions in the course of alcohol dependence development remains unclear. The current study examined the role of childhood sexual abuse in initiation of alcohol use and rate of progression from first drink to alcohol dependence using a sample of 3536 female twins (mean age = 21.6 years). Psychiatric diagnoses and alcohol use histories were obtained via telephone interviews using an adaptation of the SSAGA. The contribution of childhood sexual abuse to alcohol outcomes independent of familial influences was estimated by using co-twin alcohol d... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3133805 Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:57:48 +0100 3133805 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3129686&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-domestic-abuse%2F A violent storm approaches What is the definition of domestic abuse? Domestic abuse between spouses or intimate partners is when one person in the relationship tries to control the other person. The perpetrator uses fear and intimidation and may threaten to or actually use physical violence. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. Domestic abuse and alcoholism / addiction often go hand-in-hand. The victim of domestic abuse or domestic violence may be a man or a woman. Domestic abuse occurs in traditional heterosexual marriages, as well as in same-sex partnerships. The abuse may occur during a relationship, while the couple is breaking up, or after the relationship has ended. The key elements of domestic abuse are: Intimidation Humiliation Physical i... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3129686 Wed, 30 Dec 2009 03:28:27 +0100 3129686 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3119070&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstudy-confirms-sex-is-better-than-masturbation%2F As if you didn’t know! Normal intercourse results in greater satisfaction, better intimacy, promotes more trust with passion and real love. Hanky panky without intercourse does not give true satisfaction and is less intimate, passionate and loving. Masturbation does not result in effective satisfaction, is less intimate and does not promote trust, genuine passion or love. These are the outcomes of a new study of Portuguese women looking at relationship quality and sexual activity. Satisfaction increased as masturbation decreased and penis-vagina sex increased. Now what’s so new about that? Nothing I guess! But someone had to find out for sciences sake. Anyone’s that’s had sex with a partner and compared that with hanky panky without penis-vagina penetration will know what’s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3119070 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:34:34 +0100 3119070 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3083192&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstages-of-an-eating-disorder%2F Researchers propose a model of development whereby a person moves from voluntary dieting through a number of stages to reach a fully entrenched eating disorder. Stage 1: Normal, voluntary dieting behaviour. Unfortunately dieting behaviours have become the “norm”, with 47% of people in Australia having tried to lose weight in the past twelve months. 68% of fifteen year [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3083192 Sat, 12 Dec 2009 17:22:00 +0100 3083192 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3083193&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsigns-of-inhalant-abuse%2F Inhalants Inhalants are common products found right in the home and are among the most popular and deadly substances kids abuse. Inhalant abuse can result in death from the very first use. Health Hazards Health Effects and Risks. Nearly all abused inhalants produce effects similar to anesthetics, which act to slow down the body’s functions. When inhaled [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3083193 Sat, 12 Dec 2009 16:59:00 +0100 3083193 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3079589&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F8-reasons-women-stay-in-painful-relationships%2F Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, co-dependency and compulsive gambling may identify with these points. They may be the victim, the perpetrator or an observer. These reasons apply to heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual and transsexual people. Additionally, just because someone is in recovery does not exclude them from being difficult in relationships. Why would a [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3079589 Wed, 09 Dec 2009 16:51:02 +0100 3079589 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3079591&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsex-is-better-at-50-than-age-30-or-40%2F Men in their 50s have more satisfying sex lives than men in their 30s Men in their fifties are more satisfied with their sex lives than men in their thirties and forties, recording similar levels to 20-29 year-olds, according to a survey published in the February issue of BJU International. A team of experts from Norway and [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3079591 Tue, 08 Dec 2009 17:45:00 +0100 3079591 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056889&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2gZ4PfCXW64%2F This study is published in the December 2008 issue of Personal Relationships. Source: Blackwell Publishing Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056889 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 14:12:27 +0100 3056889 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056890&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FwLjV3Ekh-Jw%2F What are the risks of sexual activities other than penile-vaginal intercourse? In recovery from alcoholism, addiction and compulsive gambling many people begin to take more responsibility for their sexual behaviors. Many couples engage in mutual masturbation, oral sex and anal sex instead of penile-vaginal intercourse to prevent pregnancy and avoid catching sexually transmitted infections (STIs). These activities reduce the risk of pregnancy, but most people don’t know that the risk of spreading an STI stays significantly high. Various infections may be spread through blood, saliva, semen, and feces. Different organisms have different risks of being spread, but the risk is always increased with open sores and abrasions, or other breaks in the skin, oral or vaginal lining. Few individuals... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056890 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:59:59 +0100 3056890 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056893&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2TH7s4bNQDc%2F Say no to guilt Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so.  Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful. My attempts to separate from my parents we met with threats of abandonment.  As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection. Deep within me now, I feel a strong desire to become my own person, to stand free of all unhealthy attachments and discover who I am.  When I disregard my limitations and permit others to violate my boundaries, I harm myself. Today I will love myself enough to say no when I find it necessary.  I will reassure the child within me that those who truly love me will not abandon me when I must tell them no.  No matter what the response, today I will treat myself well by saying no without gu... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056893 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:34:00 +0100 3056893 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056894&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FMSFq1JlJEAk%2F For abused women, leaving is a complex and confusing process I have seen and heard of this process in many of my clients (men and women) who were partners of alcoholics, addicts, compulsive gamblers or sex addicts. Additionally, I have seen these stages of leaving in recovering people who have codependent partners who will not change their behaviours. In other words, the codependent behaviour is itself abusive. Nothing could be easier than walking out the door, right? According to a new University of Illinois journal article, an abused woman actually goes through a five-step process of leaving that can be complicated at every stage by boundary ambiguity. “When a woman is disengaging from a relationship, she is often unclear about her family’s boundaries. Is her partner in or ou... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056894 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 12:19:50 +0100 3056894 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3040027&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FWDN2vvfhxtg%2F Marty M. say’s AA Still Works After Twenty-Nine Years Marty M’s story “Women Suffer Too” was the first woman’s story in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Today, as it was in April 1939 when I attended my first meeting, the Twelve Steps are to me the heart of the AA program. Desire to stop drinking By the time I gathered up courage to attend a meeting, I had read the Big Book three times. And I had studied several hundred times the pages containing the Twelve Steps and the suggestions on how to use them. They didn’t seem easy to me — they didn’t even seem simple, in spite of the clarity of language. But I was eager to go to work on all of them, for they seemed to me the key to that which I so desperately needed: assurance that I would be able to... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3040027 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:43:15 +0100 3040027 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3040028&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FxJbYUSsY8IM%2F Alcoholics Anonymous is a program for alcoholics who seek freedom from alcohol. It is not a program against drugs. However, some A.A. members have misused drugs, often as a substitute for alcohol, in such a manner as to become a threat to the achievement and maintenance of sobriety. These incidents have caused all A.A. members to be concerned with what is popularly known as the “pill problem.” A report from a group of physicians in A.A. Because this subject is one which goes deeply into the field of medicine, a group of physicians who are members of A.A. was asked to help prepare this pamphlet. The experience of some A.A. members reveals that drug misuse can threaten the achievement and maintenance of sobriety. Yet some A.A. members must take prescribed medication in order to treat ce... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3040028 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:36:00 +0100 3040028 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3045033&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fworld-aids-day-1st-december%2F World AIDS Day raises awareness in the community about HIV/AIDS, and the need to support and understand those living with HIV/AIDS.  The day also promotes the importance and need for education/prevention initiatives. Services such as Needle Exchange Programs (NSP) assist in preventing the spread of blood borne viruses such as HIV/AIDS, hepatitis B and C. Global information is available at the following websites; United Kingdom http://www.worldaidsday.org/ Australia http://www.worldaidsday.org.au/ World http://www.worldaidscampaign.org/ Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_AIDS_Day United Nations http://www.unaids.org/en/default.asp World Health Organisation http://www.who.int/topics/hiv_aids/en/ United States http://www.hhs.gov/aidsawarenessdays/days/world/ Related Reading: ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3045033 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:05:07 +0100 3045033 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3023417&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholic-recovery-in-the-gay-and-lesbian-community%2F This is an excellent website for the gay, lesbian or bisexual recovering alcoholic. From their website; While alcoholism crosses all sexual orientations, gay and lesbian alcoholics in recovery often face unique challenges. Professional assistance may be sometimes tainted by the prejudices of those providing it, or at a minimum be limited by the caregivers’ lack of knowledge of those aspects of gay society that distinguish it from the larger straight community. These limitations may become more pronounced when one seeks assistance from mainstream sobriety self-help groups, where prejudices and lack of knowledge can be more glaring in lay men and women who, though sober, lack professional helping skills. For those living outside of metropolitan areas where there is a large gay and lesb... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3023417 Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:01:20 +0100 3023417 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2985041&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faddiction-symptoms-video%2F Sarah Jessica ParkerA great video from Face the Issue about the effects of drugs narrated by Sarah Jessica Parker.This is an anonymous quote from a young addict trying to reclaim their life.“ok, so pot, is fine let’s not get into that….but whenever i hang out with my friends they’re always drinking, which i don’t do, because i’m on pills.lots of pills, pills to sleep, pills to wake up, pills to dull the pain, pills to be numb… it’s ok, i have a prescription….but for a while i got off them. because i ran outbut the other day i found some codiene and i took it, with other stuff… and in my spnish class it started kicking in…and i felt… complete…which is terrible because lately i’ve been hella down because coll... 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I have my two boxes of laxatives for Christmas day…and I still don’t think that’s going to be enough.Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2977576 Tue, 10 Nov 2009 00:23:00 +0100 2977576 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2967539&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsymptoms-of-alcoholism-video%2F The symptoms of alcoholism are graphically illustrated in this video narrated by Nicole Kidman.From; Facetheissue.com Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2967539 Thu, 05 Nov 2009 23:19:20 +0100 2967539 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2947143&cid=t_110898_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F6-signs-of-sex-addiction%2F Sex Addiction signs and SymptomsSex can be real problem for some people when sexual practices get out of control. Sex addiction has several symptoms that may be easily identified if you know what to look for. However, like all addiction one needs to be honest with oneself. This video explores the signs of sex addiction.If you think you may have a problem contact a specialist sex addiction counsellor or one of the organisations listed below. 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