MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'coaching'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:00:31 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5182387&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FkBGyisZ1nrg%2F If you’re not a Life Coach and you have no intention of ever becoming a Life Coach this post is not for you and normal service will be resumed next time. Sorry for any inconvenience! Since I first became certified as a Life Coach in 2005 I’ve always really enjoyed working with other Life Coaches. To date I’m guessing I’ve worked with close on 50 other coaches and I’ve loved every minute of it. Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5182387 Thu, 01 Sep 2011 13:16:10 +0100 5182387 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5174889&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F1qOG9o51Fb4%2F I was on Twitter yesterday and somebody asked me the following question: “Hey Tim, I’ve been creating a blog for the past two weeks – even have the cool concept and my material I’ve thought of! Thing is though, 2 weeks later and I haven’t even opened an account. (its like, yeah I love my content whilst I’m thinking about it etc) but I just think, oh, I’ll wait until tomorrow – constant Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5174889 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 12:59:54 +0100 5174889 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5159946&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FI1ujEhDOl6s%2F As far as I’m aware Seth Godin is not a certified Life Coach, nor does he write about Life Coaching or even self development per se. He does however, own what in my opinion is probably the best blog on the planet and has written some amazing books . Even though he’s first and foremost a marketeer, Seth dispenses the kind of common sense wisdom that is in reality, very uncommon and that’s why Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5159946 Wed, 24 Aug 2011 13:28:27 +0100 5159946 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5159947&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FWRtgmPJpOhg%2F I’ve read a few ridiculous posts on self development in my time, a few of them were even my own. But probably the most asinine was by a guy (and I genuinely forget who it was now) writing about fear. He explained that we should all just let fear go, that there was no need for it in our lives. If that wasn’t incredible enough in its own right he followed up with the Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5159947 Mon, 22 Aug 2011 13:38:08 +0100 5159947 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5140363&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FIM7W4OaF-vs%2F There hasn’t been a huge change in the way I Life Coach now as opposed to when I first became certified back in 2005. I tend to need less sessions with clients these days to help them achieve the results they want, but I think that’s just a product of experience and knowing if and when I can take short cuts. Probably one difference is now I rarely skip talking to clients about meditation. Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5140363 Thu, 18 Aug 2011 13:19:12 +0100 5140363 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5131091&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fk7EeA8t67S0%2F The following is a guest post from Sam Spurlin. I’m going to have to suggest you don’t even read this article. I know, I know, that’s kind of a weird way to introduce a piece of writing. Honestly, though, if you just closed your browser right now and got to work – I’d be a happy camper (I’m the worst guest poster ever, I know). Chances are you’ve already got the information you need Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5131091 Mon, 15 Aug 2011 12:00:00 +0100 5131091 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5125929&cid=t_104501_136_f&fid=39212&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbahtocancer.com%2F2011%2F08%2Fwise-child%2F My friend Kym took me to a concert (or ‘gig’ as I believe the young people say) last Saturday night. The performer was Frank Turner, a man whose music is (unpromisingly) categorised as ‘folk punk’. Neither folk nor punk particularly set my heart on fire, and I’d never heard of Frank Turner, but Kym and I [...] (Source: Bah! to cancer) Bah! to cancer blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5125929 Sat, 13 Aug 2011 08:44:26 +0100 5125929 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5125988&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FycYWCfRAtpk%2F One of the questions I frequently ask Life Coaching clients is; “If I were to drop $10,000,000 in your bank account this afternoon, after you have presumably thanked me, what would you do next?” You’d be amazed at how many clients face light up at that question. It’s almost as though I have given them permission to dream without any restrictions whatsoever. It’s a great question to ask yourself too, because it Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5125988 Fri, 12 Aug 2011 15:36:56 +0100 5125988 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5119048&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fvn5AgmgSd3o%2F You know a lot of stuff, right? But how do you know the stuff you know is right? What if isn’t, are you prepared for that? A few years ago whilst on vacation there was a heated debate going on between my mother-in-law and my wife one evening. Kate my mother-in-law, was telling a story at dinner that was at odds with how Helen remembered it. It was obvious that even though both people Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5119048 Wed, 10 Aug 2011 13:36:54 +0100 5119048 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5107974&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FsCnA1VHl0YU%2F My wife came in from work and immediately went to make a drink. On opening the cupboard she noticed that there were hardly any glasses and looked at me suspiciously. She then went to the dishwasher and opened it to see it was packed to overflowing with clean plates, glasses and silverware. “When did you put this on?” she asked me. “Last night” I responded shuffling out of the kitchen because I knew what Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5107974 Mon, 08 Aug 2011 13:35:46 +0100 5107974 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5097198&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FBluLBu2N-Vk%2F I don’t know about you, but I get a lot of e-mails. When I log on in the morning I seldom have less than 50 new e-mails to deal with and it can be as many as 100 if I haven’t gone on a mad delete frenzy the previous night. As such, the first thing I do is look to delete those that I know I don’t need to open, just so I don’t Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5097198 Wed, 03 Aug 2011 17:36:19 +0100 5097198 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5086594&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F9b0WtXKBUY0%2F The following is a guest post written by Susie Newday who runs the New Day New Lesson blog. I have been mulling over the idea of writing this post for a long time. As a nurse who worked in the ER for fifteen years before moving to outpatient oncology about eight months ago, I have seen a lot of disease. And like most people, I have had illness hit my Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5086594 Mon, 01 Aug 2011 09:35:24 +0100 5086594 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5078080&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FNzYHXsMKfEA%2F As you probably know I’m a tad obsessed with questions. I have even written two posts, 7 Killer Life Coach Questions and 20 Awesome Self Development Questions in the last year or two just to ram home my point. As a Life Coach, questions are at the core of what I do and if I can’t ask questions that will shift a clients thinking then I’m not doing my job properly. Simply put, the Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5078080 Thu, 28 Jul 2011 12:45:51 +0100 5078080 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5057951&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FvYjK7xlRcu0%2F I was talking with a Life Coaching client yesterday about some tasks we had put in place the previous week. On the whole he had nailed them and done a fantastic job of being 100% committed. Except that is for one thing. Of five things he committed to do, sadly, one remained unfinished. Whereas he wasn’t about to slash his wrists in annoyance, he was a little disappointed in himself and looked extremely sheepish. Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5057951 Sat, 23 Jul 2011 16:14:26 +0100 5057951 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5036625&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FM7tgHWn1syE%2F After the controversy of my last post ‘This Was An Interview With Robin Sharma‘, it’s time to get things back on track round here today with some serious Life Coach type stuff. I’m pretty sure you get strong gut feelings or intuitions from time to time. A sense from deep within that a decision you’re about to make is either right or wrong. I’m equally sure that you override that feeling at least occasionally, Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5036625 Sun, 17 Jul 2011 21:56:44 +0100 5036625 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5029326&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FhZ63N4VJaDk%2F I don’t know about you, but I’ve done made some dumbass decisions and done some stupid things in my life. Only just this last week I bought an iPad without doing any research and not realizing that the antennas have less strength than Monty Burns after a 7 day water fast. The bemused look on the face of the techie at the Apple store when I whined “But my phone and laptop work just Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5029326 Sun, 10 Jul 2011 18:23:42 +0100 5029326 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4997852&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FAaZ4Q8lKsyM%2F Rather than having a lazy and relaxing holiday weekend like any good Life Coach would have advised. I chose to slave over a hot keyboard making sure I got my latest ebook called ‘How Do I Set Goals That Work?’ finished in time to go out with my July newsletter. And finish it I have. Other than some minor editing and the design work it’s done and presuming you’re signed up for my newsletter Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4997852 Sun, 03 Jul 2011 23:29:33 +0100 4997852 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4960363&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FvlDnFmCKxCg%2F The following post is an extract from my forthcoming ebook provisionally entitled rather unimaginatively “How To Set Goals”. If you want a free copy when it comes out in the next 4 or 5 weeks, then get yourself signed up for my newsletter because that’s the only way to grab it. I’ve posted a day early this week so that you still have chance to jump on the brilliant 72 hour ebook sales that Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4960363 Wed, 22 Jun 2011 12:36:58 +0100 4960363 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4953433&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FmOgX4H2jf1Q%2F I get sent a lot of joint venture and partnership opportunities and I turn down somewhere in the region of 99%. There are various reasons, but more often than not it’s because I don’t think they offer the ‘amazing value’ that the organizers seem to think they do. I will never offer anything to you that I personally wouldn’t buy or haven’t bought/used/read/eaten/watched/admired/fondled etc because you’ll soon stop trusting me and file me in Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4953433 Mon, 20 Jun 2011 11:55:59 +0100 4953433 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4945320&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FJk1BEo7wsLA%2F I genuinely hope I’m wrong, but my gut feeling is that you’re highly likely to massively underestimate the power of what I’m about to tell you. In fact, you may already be aware of the information at a conscious level because it’s something I mention to almost every Life Coaching client and have written about it both here and in How To Be Rich and Happy. However, if this is your first exposure to Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4945320 Sun, 12 Jun 2011 20:40:41 +0100 4945320 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4902724&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F0nfX1SBGGIA%2F I have to confess that I can occasionally get irritated by a small group of Life Coaches that seem to want to give the outward impression that their life is absolutely nailed on and they move from one outstanding day to the next without so much as a backward glance. The reason I sometimes let it bother me is because life doesn’t work like that, for anybody! We all have shit days, weeks, Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4902724 Sun, 05 Jun 2011 19:42:13 +0100 4902724 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4893973&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F-4sOUz6BJlc%2F The deathbed speech is a self development cliche, but my guess is you won't say any of these things when you finally end up on yours. Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4893973 Wed, 01 Jun 2011 18:33:01 +0100 4893973 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4862974&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FJ6iJwCXD43M%2F Self development advice is highly subjective and highly personal. As a Life Coach I know full well that a piece of advice that may well blow one client away, may leave the next one rolling her eyes in cliched disbelief. Take the Nike slogan ‘Just do it” as an example. I know some people love it for its elegant simplicity. Personally I think it’s s team pile of horse crap that offers little Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4862974 Wed, 25 May 2011 13:30:47 +0100 4862974 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4829362&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FuY2KtcdmvG0%2F Shortly after we announced that we were planning on giving away 1,000,000 copies of How To Be Rich and Happy to good causes, I received a DM from a marketing guy on Twitter telling me he thought it was a brilliant strategy to help build my profile. I stared blankly at the screen in disbelief for a few moments wondering whether it was a joke. When I realized it wasn’t I started to Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4829362 Sun, 15 May 2011 20:35:11 +0100 4829362 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4813703&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FyYw3E0I_b9c%2F Before I get into today’s post let me ask you a couple of questions: Are you the kind of person that procrastinates about important tasks and always waits until the last minute to do them, and you can’t quite work out why? And/or do you have children that resist going to bed when you tell them to, resulting in a protracted battle of wills ending up in tantrums and tears. And the kids Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4813703 Thu, 12 May 2011 01:34:59 +0100 4813703 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4803573&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FZZSsKyS8W0Y%2F Other than with clients, very rarely these days do I get an A-ha! moment when it comes to Life Coaching and/or self development. I presume this is simply the product of being exposed to so much self development material on a daily basis that it’s tricky to unearth anything that genuinely surprises me. The other morning was an exception though, and I almost fell out of the shower with surprise. I Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4803573 Sun, 08 May 2011 19:37:55 +0100 4803573 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4789668&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FyXY3EzjadJo%2F You may have noticed a few changes around here lately. Firstly, I started charging for most my Life Coaching ebooks that were previously free and then if you subscribe via RSS you will have noticed that you no longer get the whole post in your feed and e-mail. Now you just get a snippet of each new post that then requires you to click through to read the entire article. I usually only Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4789668 Thu, 05 May 2011 14:01:23 +0100 4789668 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4789669&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FV-9n4mfmcac%2F Whenever I do an interview I almost always request that the interviewer does not send me the questions in advance. And if they do, I seldom do any more than glance at them. The reason being that if I try and rehearse answers I sound stilted and awkward and I find myself trying to remember what I planned to say, rather than just trusting myself to answer the question. My belief is that Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4789669 Wed, 04 May 2011 13:33:23 +0100 4789669 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4771360&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FkK07xWS49y0%2F I told an absolute whopper of a lie in my post The 50 Greatest Motivational Quotes Of All Time. It wasn’t an accidental lie either, it was intentional and was designed to deliberately mislead anybody reading that post. That’s a somewhat weird admission for somebody who prides himself on being as honest and open as possible with his readers. I’m a Life Coach and yet in the past I have admitted to being stressed senseless, earning less than $30k in a year and being bitten in the testicles by a doberman, so why would I lie now? I like the fact that I can be transparent with you because it means if you ever hire me to be your Life Coach you know pretty much what you’re getting. There isn’t a different me hidden away for home life and another for socializing and yet another for Life C... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4771360 Sun, 01 May 2011 22:01:17 +0100 4771360 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4747925&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FSoJ56Y-b3J0%2F When I was a kid and my dad would tell me to do something I didn’t particularly want to do like tidy my bedroom, I’d usually whine: “But why do I have to do it now when I’m busy pushing superglue into my sisters toothpaste tube?” My dad being the brilliant philosopher and debater that he was, would almost always respond by saying: “Because I said so” “Oh well” I’d think, “Why didn’t he say that in the first place?” and with that I’d happily put down the glue and start to clear the room up. It sounds completely ridiculous, doesn’t it? Responding, “because I said so” isn’t really a compelling argument. After all, I knew he’d said so there was no need to tell me that, other than it worked more often that not. Fast forward a few decades and I’m readi... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4747925 Sun, 24 Apr 2011 18:44:25 +0100 4747925 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4734477&cid=t_104501_134_f&fid=35179&url=http%3A%2F%2Fscottsdiabetes.com%2F2011%2F04%2Fscott-process%2F I have been working with Ginger at Living In Progress for over thirty eight weeks now, and my weekly coaching sessions have become very important to me.  I need them as bad as I need my basketball and exercise time.  I need them almost as bad as I need my insulin and CGM. Through all of this time, and all of the little steps we are making towards my goals, we have recognized a “change process” that I unconsciously follow. Scott notices a “problem” in his lifestyle or habits that he knows logically he “should” want to change. As Scott considers what it would entail to actually make these changes in his life, he gets overwhelmed or intimidated by the idea of making such drastic changes. He knows he should for the sake of his health and happiness, but he doesn’t want t... Scott's Diabetes Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4734477 Tue, 19 Apr 2011 13:07:12 +0100 4734477 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4724295&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fnqw1UoPf1o4%2F The importance of rapport building is something that has come up no less than 3 times with Life Coaching clients in the last week alone. Then I was recording a module on sales for the Life Coach Marketing course and it came up again there. Even though I have written on the topic a couple of times before, I was shocked to realize the last time was almost 2 years ago. 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Life With ADHD blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4696774 Sat, 09 Apr 2011 23:00:00 +0100 4696774 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4684801&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FKnlmvG9zgHE%2F If you are new here and are expecting to read some killer Life Coaching tips, or you have a sensitive disposition, or you like to read scannable posts, you may either want to leave now, or be prepared to leave in a few minutes when you get confused, bored or indignant. As I said in my last post ‘Do You Want The Warts and All Story’ I have thought long and hard about writing a post that is so personal. I realize it wont be for everybody and I do understand that it’s not self development in the conventional sense. On the other hand, there is a deeper message here that I think some people will resonate with and that’s why I’m laying it all out there with (almost) no holds barred. And I also want to make one thing perfectly clear, I’m not looking for anybody’s sympathy, in fact i... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4684801 Wed, 06 Apr 2011 20:38:01 +0100 4684801 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4677152&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fay0mw7zyjIA%2F For the last week or so I’ve been pondering writing a long post about all sorts of issues I’ve had regarding my health spanning back 25 years. It would definitely be a warts and all account that may turn some people off and come across as somewhat self indulgent and maybe a bit too personal even for a Life Coach that likes spilling the beans. My reason for considering it is because whether we like it or not, health is part of self development. It’s pointless understanding your values, knowing how to reframe or being a brilliant rapport builder if you’re dead. Trust me, dead people don’t really care about such skills. The reason I’m now considering doing this, is because after years of treating various problems independently I finally found out recently that they are... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4677152 Sun, 03 Apr 2011 22:37:21 +0100 4677152 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4664507&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E5%2FOI4tNNoV-Yg%2FOd-TB2-01b.mp3 Following my post Can You really Banish A Self Limiting Belief In An Hour? and the guest post from Morty Lefkoe, Change Doesn’t have To Be Difficult I decided to throw caution to the wind and record a coaching session in which Morty weaves his belief changing magic on me to banish a self limiting belief of my own. After we spent the time on undermining and expelling my belief I put a few questions to Morty about the process, how he came up with it and what it can be used for. I have to say that I was really impressed with his skill and genuinely do believe that even if I haven’t completely eradicated that belief, it is at the point now where it is tenuous enough to not hold me back. I intend to do some playing about with this with clients and on myself because in my opinion it’s too ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4664507 Thu, 31 Mar 2011 13:34:38 +0100 4664507 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4643030&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F8lQdqsxG7ik%2F I was playing about on Twitter the other day when I noticed an exchange about Life Coaching between two people I vaguely know. One person had made a comment (and I paraphrase) “Life Coaches are psychotherapists that can’t be bothered to finish their training” As you can imagine I had to have my say and I was told by the person in question that they managed to learn all they needed to learn about self development from reading blogs and furthermore nobody needed to hire a Life Coach. This exchange had me thinking for the millionth time, “There is no how it is, only how it is for you” It seems shameless to quote my own quote, but it is really at the core of what I do and also what I believe. I have no doubt whatsoever that some people can get all the help they need by reading a self... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4643030 Sun, 27 Mar 2011 17:45:53 +0100 4643030 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4627044&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FARWAVUowAlw%2F If you read the previous post guest Change Doesn’t Have To Be Difficult you’ll know that I am going to record a belief busting session with the originator of the Lefkoe Method, Morty Lefkoe this Friday and then I’ll upload it here next week. Morty is one of the self development industries most respected change experts and I’d really like to know if you’ve any questions that you would like me to ask him? If you do, drop it in the comments and I’ll do my best to oblige. —————— What The Life Coach Learned From The Golf Coach About 20 years ago I started playing golf again after a decade of not even picking a club up. I’d played in fits and starts as a junior, but then when I hit my late teens other things started to take up what little cash I ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4627044 Wed, 23 Mar 2011 23:05:38 +0100 4627044 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4627038&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38604&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fmakeitgreat%2F%7E3%2FKCnRrNEmolE%2F NOTE from Phil: What follows is a guest post from Chris Gaddis, whose radio show I will be featured on Wednesday March 23rd, 2011 at 9:15 AM ET. Chris is a coach  who has a great story  to share with you. I think you’ll be able to relate to it. Make sure you read the whole article as Chris has a very special offer just for my readers. Let me tell you a story. I was 21 years old, a senior in college, and had just purchased my first rental property. I came out of college wanting to take on the world. In the next 2 years I purchased an additional 3 properties, got my securities licenses, became a financial advisor, got my MBA, started 3 businesses, and joined a number of organizations and boards; among many other things. I was off to a good start, but there was one problem: I had no defin... Phil Gerbyshak blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4627038 Wed, 23 Mar 2011 11:00:00 +0100 4627038 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4606072&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FPJVjXN7qxf4%2F I first heard of the work of Morty Lefkoe a year or two ago. Apparently Morty had discovered and refined a way for banishing even the most persistent self-limiting beliefs for all-time. It’s not unusual to hear somebody claiming they have developed a proprietary method of dealing with some area of Life Coaching or self development. Most of those claims are weak at best and fraudulent at worst, so I have to be honest and say I was skeptical and neglected to follow up. Then about a month or two ago I got an e-mail from a good friend back in the UK, Nic Eatch, who used to be a former manager of mine. Nic is a very astute guy and he was raving about Morty and the Lefkoe process and urging me to give it a go. As a Life Coach helping clients eradicate self-limiting beliefs is an almost daily e... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4606072 Thu, 17 Mar 2011 19:22:54 +0100 4606072 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4581099&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F73DcvJfOYaM%2F A few weeks ago I was reading another self development blog that was written by a Life Coach. I was half way through reading the post when it became apparent I was being sold to. Not overtly you understand, but in a very clever and strategic manner using some subtle language patterns. I thought it was obvious to everybody that it wasn’t really a blog post, but a sales letter, but I was wrong, as became apparent when I read the gushing comments. I really do get why people do that kind of thing and I in many respects there’s nothing wrong with it. However, it’s not something I feel comfortable doing because I want you to trust me, not be second guessing my motives and wondering if I have one hand on my keyboard and the other on your wallet. So let me make something perfectly clear. Thi... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4581099 Sun, 13 Mar 2011 19:59:27 +0100 4581099 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4566361&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FWBRtVMitfQY%2F I have talked a lot about gratitude in the past and even mentioned it my last post 20 Awesome Self Development Questions. Each time I’ve explained that being grateful for your life is an incredibly powerful and resourceful state that can literally change your live for the better. It wouldn’t be at all unfair to call gratitude a Ninja State, because it’s a silent assassin that kicks the ass of a whole host of usually really powerful negative states, such as negativity, jealousy, anger, self loathing, and disappointment. If used regularly and genuinely it can also also help ward off depression, improve physical health and almost certainly defeat red bull-drinking pirate cows with ease. That’s all well and good and I’m confident that as a sensible human being you’ll already be... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4566361 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 19:34:03 +0100 4566361 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4554811&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FRF8bl_i7Z0g%2F I talk about questions a lot because as a Life Coach they are at the very core of what I do. Sure I need to be able to build rapport and actively listen to clients, but if I can’t ask the right question at the right time, then I’m unlikely to help effect lasting change. It’s over a year since I wrote my post 7 Killer Life Coaching Questions and I thought that as this is such an important aspect of self development it might be time to compile a more authoritative list than can help you Life Coach yourself. The questions are in no specific order and I would love to hear your take in the comments section on your favorites and whether you have any personal ones that I may have missed out. 1. What’s really important to me? This is a values based question that, if you ask it enough times... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4554811 Sun, 06 Mar 2011 22:24:03 +0100 4554811 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4545274&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FTRv9qd1FuQw%2F My post 5.5 Self Development Techniques I No Longer Believe In caused a bit of a stir, a few misunderstandings and a handful of death threats. Even though I listed goal setting as one of the things I had lost faith in, I did explain that I by no means meant it was wrong for everybody. The reality is, I happen to think goal setting is veeeeery cool and highly useful for a good proportion of the population and as a Life Coach I am not about to abandon it any time soon, although as I said in my post 5 Myths of Goal Setting, I do think the process can be misunderstood. What percentage of the population it’s great for is the part I’m honestly not sure about. My gut instinct and hands on experience tells me it’s around the 75% mark, but I only have my own anecdotal evidence to support that... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4545274 Thu, 03 Mar 2011 13:30:06 +0100 4545274 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4532596&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FZ_loxP5RuIg%2F Before I kick off I have two really cool announcements to make at the bottom of this post. If you are a Life Coach that is struggling to generate as many clients as you would like. Or you’re about to embark on a career in Life Coaching and want to be beating salivating clients away with pointy sticks because you’re so busy, hang around till the end. The other is some exciting news I have about my forthcoming book NLP: Science Not Magic. ————- Have you ever read on a Life Coaching blog or heard some motivational speaker or self development guru tell you that happiness is a choice? I seem to come across this on a regular basis and it frustrates the hell out of me, because it’s crass, glib and to a large extent, inaccurate. Not to mention it’s incredibl... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4532596 Mon, 28 Feb 2011 15:07:23 +0100 4532596 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4517368&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F_X9jtqjYrmU%2F Firstly, if you are an e-mail subscriber, I’m really sorry you got hit with my old post Life Coaching via E-mail this week. I have no idea why Feedburner suddenly decided to throw that out there, so apologies for cluttering your inbox. The inspiration for my first book title  was my growing frustration at the way we squeeze curiosity out of kids as they grow up by using such phrases as ‘Don’t Ask Stupid Questions’.  That’s why the subtitle was ‘There Are No Stupid Questions’ because when we’re genuinely seeking to learn there is no such thing as a stupid question. There were some brilliant responses to my post 50 Reasons Why I Suck after I asked people to tell me what they were good at, but none better than the person who said they were really curious. Cur... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4517368 Thu, 24 Feb 2011 14:24:32 +0100 4517368 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4501637&cid=t_104501_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F02%2F21%2Ftax-prep-for-people-with-adhd-what-to-do-now%2F With the sheer pileup of paperwork alone, taxes are a pain for anybody (except for accountants, maybe, but I’m sure they feel the same way when clients swarm their offices in April). For people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), preparing taxes can feel like an impossible feat. Tax prep requires using the very skills that are challenges for people with ADHD — the symptoms of the disorder. Symptoms such as being easily distracted, being disorganized and having difficulty with details become major obstacles. But while it can seem incredibly overwhelming, tax time isn’t an insurmountable challenge. Below, experts take you through the A to Z of preparing your taxes and cutting out paper clutter. Your Tax Prep Plan One of the mistakes people with ADHD — or anyone fo... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4501637 Mon, 21 Feb 2011 18:25:06 +0100 4501637 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4501835&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F6i0LzfGQpEo%2F As you probably know I’m currently writing my latest free ebook, an introduction to Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP). I’m still some way off finishing the book as I totally underestimated how much new material I needed to write, but I’m still hopeful if I don’t get it out with my March newsletter, it  wont be far behind As a taster though I thought I’d share the (unedited) intro with you today because if this doesn’t inspire you to want to learn more, then I doubt the book itself will. BTW, I still have no idea what to call it, so if you have any ideas I’d love to hear them in the comments. And yes, there are some affiliate links in this post. Note: Unlike my other free ebooks, this one will only be available to my newsletter subscribers and via a handful of other sources, ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4501835 Sun, 20 Feb 2011 22:44:36 +0100 4501835 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4490012&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FVgTp8hGLJws%2F The recent debate that arose after the guest post on Binaural Beats got me thinking about all the self development stuff I either once believed in or was open-minded to, that I now either dismiss out of hand or have serious reservations about. The idea for a post was already taking shape in my mind when I had an exchange of e-mails with a blog reader (and she is free to name herself in the comments if she wants to) ending up with me being asked whether I believed in God and past life regression. This is a a blog on Life Coaching and self development so I doubt you have any interest in my opinion on God. But maybe you’re interested in hearing about things that are connected to the self development industry that I’ve done a volte face on since becoming a Life Coach and dealing one-on-one... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4490012 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 13:45:44 +0100 4490012 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4460201&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F4JytkVBjZFc%2F I can’t type more than 25 words per minute. I can’t speak a foreign language. I can’t play a musical instrument. I have no idea how to knit a sweater. I am possible the worst singer you have ever heard. I don’t have a degree. I have the skiing  ability of a drunken dinosaur. I’m intolerant of bad drivers. I used to frequently get thrown out of French class at school for being disruptive. I don’t have a 401k or own my own house. I can’t ride a horse. I’m an imbecile when it comes to accounts. I couldn’t work out how to left align the image in this post without it bleeding over the numbers. I can’t have kids (my fault, not my wife’s). I still struggle to use our DVD player. I have a terrible sense of direction. I have had 2 discs removed from my back an... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4460201 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 13:50:38 +0100 4460201 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4446052&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FX2sG02N6Fkg%2F Some while ago I had a guy contact me who was suffering from incredibly high stress levels, to the point where he felt physically ill a lot of the time. He wanted to hire me to to give him some tips and tricks to help him cope with his stress more effectively. If you come to me for Life Coaching and just want to work on stress, that’s fine. However, I’m still going to insist I get a grip on the bigger picture and treat the issue holistically. No way will we kick off our time together by pitching straight into stress management techniques because that’s just treating the symptoms and not understanding the cause. Sure, that approach can be very useful for people that come under occasional heavy stress levels, but for chronic stress that cuts across all aspects of somebody’s life,... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4446052 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 13:54:51 +0100 4446052 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4433344&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FnClyFLBx9Bk%2F I have had two interesting conversation recently with clients about confidence. Both people claimed to lack confidence in certain areas of their life and needed me to give them some more. Normally this wouldn’t be a problem, but unfortunately the extreme weather has shut down the confidence factory and my shipments are on back order. I scratched my head in desperation unsure of what to do, when all of a sudden a thought came to me out of the blue. What if both clients already had lots of confidence, but had merely misplaced it? I used to go rock climbing when I was in my twenties. I was never any good at it, but I enjoyed it nevertheless. On the occasions I foolishly agreed to follow my friend, Shep, up a route that was way over my head I would invariably end up being dragged up the fina... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4433344 Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:06:36 +0100 4433344 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4419484&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fy4YhL8ByAC4%2F When I first started this blog in September of 2006, it was for one reason and one reason only. Search Engine Optimization. I could use phrases and expressions such as Life Coach, Life Coaching and self development and Google could spot them and think: “Hmm, this guy seems to be a Life Coach, maybe we should send him people looking to hire a Life Coach” And all was good in the world, because Google did indeed kindly send me traffic that had typed in those terms, especially in the Orlando and Central Florida area. Note for non-bloggers: You may occasionally see a random link such as “Life Coach” that takes you to an appropriate page on my site. I do this for Google’s benefit as well as for new visitors. The same goes for links to older posts. Google loves this and ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4419484 Mon, 31 Jan 2011 00:40:32 +0100 4419484 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4406057&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F3QrU6AjnZK8%2F Every so often I get an e-mail from somebody asking if I offer Life Coaching via e-mail and every time I respond that, not only do I not offer such a service, but I would highly advise the person against pursuing such an idea. Contrary to what some ‘coaches’ are saying I’m not even sure Life Coaching via e-mail is feasible. An exchange of e-mails without any other contact is about as likely to result in a positive outcome (for the client) as me trying to learn to play the guitar by reading a book on the subject rather than picking one up. A few months ago I got a request for e-mail coaching from a person who was suffering from severe social anxiety. He told me that his social anxiety was so acute he couldn’t face talking to a Life Coach via the phone, let alone visiting one... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4406057 Thu, 27 Jan 2011 23:40:24 +0100 4406057 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4377810&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FhNgywGcH5_o%2F I was planning on running a guest post today from Carl Harvey on binaural beats, but I’ve had a last minute change of plan. Instead, Harvey and his cheeky Cockney wit will have to wait until Monday because I want to share something important with you. When I put up the gift card for the best reframe on my ‘Is Realism A Death Sentence?’ post I knew I would get some cracking responses, but I wasn’t prepared for how good some of them were going to be and how difficult a task it would be to choose a ‘winner’. Just in case you didn’t enter and now think this post doesn’t apply to you, let me say, step away from the mouse and avert your gaze from the back button. It absolutely does apply to you as well as the other 6.8 billion people on the planet, so go and get them too. I can w... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4377810 Thu, 20 Jan 2011 14:03:12 +0100 4377810 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4361343&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FD03EUsxez2o%2F My last post ‘Is Realism A Death Sentence‘ was all about the massive, life-changing power of reframing. How it can hugely improve the quality of your life, if that is, you take the time to master it and then use it on a regular basis. To encourage people to try it I’m going to give a $25 Amazon gift card to the person that can come up with the best positive reframe in the comments section of that post before 20th January. Within minutes of me hitting publish on that post things started to go wrong. To begin with, I knocked a full cup of coffee over my keyboard and mouse mat shortly before I was due to start a client session. Initially I thought I’d saved the keyboard and even tweeted the reframe that my mouse mat was history, but at least my keyboard survived to tell the ta... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4361343 Mon, 17 Jan 2011 22:03:11 +0100 4361343 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4361344&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FOfF8KLNRjlc%2F I’m sat here staring at a $25 Amazon Gift Card, one of two I was going to give away to the newsletter reader that came up with the best tagline suggestion for my blog. Fortunately, or unfortunately, depending on your position, I came up with the new tagline myself and so didn’t have to hand over the goodies. Even though I spent the other one on a fan heater for my office to ward off the positively arctic conditions terrorizing central Florida at the moment, I still want to give the other one away and if you read the post below you’ll learn how you can get it. ————————- Realism Is A Death Sentence The English language has twice as many words for negative emotions as positive ones. That’s not a linguistic fluke either because it transfe... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4361344 Thu, 13 Jan 2011 19:23:56 +0100 4361344 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4349716&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FOfF8KLNRjlc%2F I’m sat here staring at a $25 Amazon Gift Card, one of two I was going to give away to the newsletter reader that came up with the best tagline suggestion for my blog. Fortunately, or unfortunately, depending on your position, I came up with the new tagline myself and so didn’t have to hand over the goodies. Even though I spent the other one on a fan heater for my office to ward off the positively arctic conditions terrorizing central Florida at the moment, I still want to give the other one away and if you read the post below you’ll learn how you can get it. ————————- Realism Is A Death Sentence The English language has twice as many words for negative emotions as positive ones. That’s not a linguistic fluke either because it transfe... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4349716 Thu, 13 Jan 2011 19:23:56 +0100 4349716 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4343366&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FOfF8KLNRjlc%2F I’m sat here staring at a $25 Amazon Gift Card, one of two I was going to give away to the newsletter reader that came up with the best tagline suggestion for my blog. Fortunately, or unfortunately, depending on your position, I came up with the new tagline myself and so didn’t have to hand over the goodies. Even though I spent the other one on a fan heater for my office to ward off the positively arctic conditions terrorizing central Florida at the moment, I still want to give the other one away and if you read the post below you’ll learn how you can get it. ————————- Realism Is A Death Sentence The English language has twice as many words for negative emotions as positive ones. That’s not a linguistic fluke either because it transfe... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4343366 Thu, 13 Jan 2011 19:23:56 +0100 4343366 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4331281&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FEBdiaL6DFxU%2F From the 28th to 30th January I’m attending a Life Coach Training course here in Orlando run by my friend and co-author of How To Be Rich and Happy, John Strelecky. Even though I’ve been a Life Coach for 6 years I know John well enough to realize I’ll learn enough from his Big Five For Life accreditation course to make it well worth my while attending. If you have a hankering to become a Life Coach yourself, or simply to learn some highly practical and useful skills to improve the quality of your own life, you may want to consider joining us. John has offered me commission if any of my readers sign up, but as I said in my post Life Coach Training In Orlando, If you sign up and you’d rather I donate that to a good cause I’d be happy to do so. I’m not recommending this to get ric... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4331281 Mon, 10 Jan 2011 21:40:08 +0100 4331281 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4318563&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FE6fHlz9Aq8s%2F I was just writing an article on New Years Resolutions for my newsletter readers and something crossed my mind that I want to share with you. I’ve deliberately been holding back on sending the newsletter because people that have set New Year Resolutions often don’t start to hit the wall for a week or two as to begin with they are carried along on a wave of enthusiasm and determination As such, I think the advice is more valuable now than when somebody kicks off the new year with high expectations and great intentions and probably wont absorb it. There are a number of reasons goals can, and do fail, and I cover off three of the most important in the newsletter (you can sign up in the box below if you want to know what they are) However, possibly one of, if not the, most common reason, i... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4318563 Thu, 06 Jan 2011 20:00:27 +0100 4318563 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4309883&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FO2IyBvjRUe4%2F There’s an old saying you maybe familiar with that suggests: “If nothing changes, nothing changes” It’s an interesting and useful expression even if it’s completely and utterly bogus. The reality of the matter is everything is changing all the time and there is no way to stop that. It’s part of life and the fact that most people resist change and feel uncomfortable with it is just one in a long line of life’s ironies. Even during the few seconds it has taken you to read the first few lines your body has waved goodbye to some dead cells and welcomed aboard some new ones. People have been born and some other people have died. Somebody, somewhere has just lost their job whereas somebody else has received the letter telling them they got the new one they wanted. But where... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4309883 Tue, 04 Jan 2011 20:54:28 +0100 4309883 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4300730&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FfZlOYbqT0hA%2F Ok, ok, so I said I probably wouldn’t be posting again this side of 2011, but I’m a fickle fella. So I decided to succumb to self-indulgence and share with you what I think are the best 10 posts I wrote for the A Daring Adventure blog this year. I know it says the 10 best post of 2010, but come one, I think we both know if I’d have called it my best 10 of 2010 you probably wouldn’t be reading now! Before I cut to the chase a quick apology to my newsletter readers. When I ran my free Life Coaching offer I said there would be two runners-up prizes and I completely forgot. So I will announce the runners up in next months newsletter. By the way, if you fancy some free Life Coaching, get signed up in the box at the bottom of this post as I plan on running it again in 2011. 10. P... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4300730 Thu, 30 Dec 2010 20:48:42 +0100 4300730 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4287599&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FlIN1HAu8VjY%2F For some while I stood over a very dead horse with an exceptionally large whip in my hand preparing to give it a damn good thrashing. I really thought I could get away with just one more list post on books. I genuinely believed that I could follow up my best self development books of 2010 and all time, with The 10 Most Influential Self Development books of all time and nobody would notice the man that slams lazy list posts is literally a little lazy list poster himself. But I reluctantly clicked away from Amazon and decided to give you a tip that I can guarantee will stop you getting stressed this holiday period. And it doesn’t involve Xanax, drinking a bottle of Jack Daniels or even leaving the country. Did you know more people die on Christmas Day than any other day of the year? Leavin... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4287599 Fri, 24 Dec 2010 16:16:51 +0100 4287599 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4277970&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FzHx4WMZXxUM%2F Before we get to today’s intriguing guest post from Martin Stellar, I just wanted to tell you it’s the last few days to get your request fro $500 worth of free Life Coaching. If you have no idea what I’m talking about but like the sound of free stuff, sign up for my newsletter in the box at the end of this post and all will be revealed. There’s even a chance to grab yourself a $50 Amazon gift card, so what are you waiting for? I may post one more time before Christmas, but then again I may not as it seems I’m sliding into wind down mode. Just in case I don’t, I’d like to wish you and yours a very happy and peaceful holidays. And now on to today’s guest post that has me scratching my head wondering are we talking about reframing or the Law of Attraction. What do you ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4277970 Tue, 21 Dec 2010 17:13:48 +0100 4277970 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4266332&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FuP8R2GSoEFs%2F After my previous post on the 10 best self development books of 2010 I’ve had a few people ask me what my my top self development books of all time are, so today I thought I’d take a stab at answering that. The following books are the ones that have stand the test of time for me, and me alone.  What I mean by that is that I am fully aware that books like The 7 Habits, Flow and Think And Grow Rich were/are classics, and indeed, I enjoyed all of them. However, I happen to think that there are now better, more accessible books out there, and as such none of the above make my list. Although, it has to be said, they would have done if I was writing a list of the 20 most influential self development books ever written. As would, almost certainly, The Power Of Now, How To Make Friends and In... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4266332 Thu, 16 Dec 2010 03:54:48 +0100 4266332 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4230330&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fywqnpfh6wdE%2F One of the things I hear from clients over and over again is their desire to ‘make a difference’ in other peoples lives. I’d go as far as to say that over three quarters of the people that come to me for Life Coaching express this desire in some way, shape, or form. It may manifest as values such as significance, connection or wanting to leave a legacy, but at its core is the desire to feel like our life means something positive. And that seldom comes from doing things for ourselves, but from helping others. I strongly believe we are hard-wired to want to help others even if some people do a great job of overriding their wiring for much of the time. Cocaine or Compassion? Did you know that the effect on your brain when acting altruistically and compassionately toward another person, ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4230330 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 16:41:04 +0100 4230330 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4220480&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FxWGrBmZx010%2F I’m guessing that as somebody that reads here you must in some way shape or form be interested in Life Coaching and/or self development. You may have even toyed with the idea of hiring a Life Coach for yourself, but been put off by the cost or because you simply weren’t sure how you were likely to benefit. But what if you didn’t have to cough up any cash ? What if you could get Santa to bundle a Life Coach into his sack and give him to you for free? Wouldn’t that be something worth having? Well guess what? In the December edition of my newsletter, as well as the main article on reducing Christmas stress, I’m running two competitions. The winner will get: #1  4 free sessions of Life Coaching valued at $500 #2  A free $50 gift Amazon voucher. The first prize will be  a random dr... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4220480 Wed, 01 Dec 2010 18:09:51 +0100 4220480 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4207528&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FKbbVvJBUn2g%2F I once saw a stat that suggested over 70% of people set at least one New Year Resolution per year. Unfortunately though, the vast majority of these good intentions disappear before the guy next door has packed up his giant inflatable reindeer and unplugged the Pink Floyd light show he liked to call his Christmas decorations. The problem with New Years Resolutions is that people, quite understandably, decide on them during the holiday season. When we think of resolutions we immediately imagine goals like quitting smoking, losing weight, eating more healthily, exercising regularly etc. All of those require willpower and willpower is a finite and fluctuating resource. It literally requires huge amounts of physical and mental energy. That’s the reason why if you are tired or run down you’r... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4207528 Mon, 29 Nov 2010 13:54:40 +0100 4207528 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4190566&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FBb2saIvert0%2F Moving on from the last post of Why You Make Poor Decisions I thought I’d conclude things by offering you a quick run through of some of the more common cognitive biases that you will probably be subjected to from time to time. Today we are going to follow a mythical woman called Helena as she goes to the Mall and see how easy it is for her to make mistakes if she is completely unaware of her cognitive biases. For the record, Helena is in no way connected to my wife, Helen. It is purely coincidental that their names are so similar. On arriving at the Mall, Helena (not Helen you understand) decides to grab a coffee. Whilst standing in line somebody comments on how nice her hair looks. Immediately somebody next to her concurs and before you know it there are half a dozen people nodding the... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4190566 Mon, 22 Nov 2010 17:36:34 +0100 4190566 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4179548&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F2EOFifjcVKQ%2F A couple of weeks ago on evening after eating dinner my wife asked me if I wanted to try out one of her fancy new tooth picks. In the great scheme of things toothpicks are not the kind of thing to get me fired up and as I was likely to be flossing later on, the spinach could stay where it was and I politely declined. She didn’t want to let it lie though and kept pestering me to check them out. Finally and obviously exasperated by my lack of compliance she said; “Well, Zoe Ball raves over them” “Oh, ok I’ll give them a go then” I replied. I pulled the top off one and started to play about with it was surprised just how good it was. It was more like a mini-toothbrush than a toothpick. It had little brushes on the end to really clean in between the gaps and it felt surprisingly pl... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4179548 Thu, 18 Nov 2010 16:56:19 +0100 4179548 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4168243&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FfrTVa_CXrMs%2F Stop twenty people in the street and ask them what a Life Coach does and my guess would be the majority will have no clue. However, the few that do attempt an answer will probably mention goal setting in some way shape or form. And they would be right, Life Coaches do indeed help people set goals. But what if they’d be better advised not to? Is it possible that for some people setting goals not only doesn’t work, but can be harmful and counter productive? Most industries have their conventional wisdom and it is, to a large extent, a good thing. It would get incredibly tiresome continually having to verify things we know to be true over and over again. However, sometimes conventional wisdom needs to be challenged if we are to progress. Surely it’s our duty if we suspect it may be wron... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4168243 Mon, 15 Nov 2010 17:54:19 +0100 4168243 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4164562&cid=t_104501_111_f&fid=34712&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdigitaldoorway.blogspot.com%2F2010%2F11%2Fsugar-and-making-conscious-choices.html I just published a new blog post on our new coaching website, Rives Carlson Coaching! The subject of the post is sugar, our relationship to sugar, and making conscious choices about how and when we eat sugary foods. You can access the post by clicking here.My wife Mary and I are busy launching our new business as Certified Professional Coaches, and I invite you, dear Reader, to visit our website, peruse the blog, and consider signing up for our free newsletter and periodic updates. We are offering holistic life and health & wellness coaching by telephone and Skype, as well as affordable group coaching experiences.So, please stop by our new website, sign the guest book, and let us know you came to visit!Cheers!NurseKeith (Source: Digital Doorway) Digital Doorway blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4164562 Sun, 14 Nov 2010 03:50:00 +0100 4164562 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4163071&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FcVybM1XtXM8%2F Since launching my Life Coaching At The Speed of Sound, I have been really busy working with clients on their values. Normally I’ll probably only do this one or twice per week, but for the last week or so it’s been a daily and sometimes twice daily experience. During this time one specific anti-value, that of ‘Conflict’, has reared its ugly head time and time again. I wasn’t sure whether this was just a fluke, or whether it is a trend I’ve simply never noticed before. So I dug out some old clients files and did some checking. Indeed ‘Conflict’ appeared a lot more frequently than I would have guessed. People (or at least my clients) do genuinely seem to want to avoid being in situations that cause conflict. Today I wanted to give you one very simple trick to avoid conflict, ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4163071 Fri, 12 Nov 2010 21:15:35 +0100 4163071 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4152335&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F1eucyxKH9iw%2F I’m sure even if you don’t know the name, you have heard about the work of Albert Mehrabian. It was Mehrabian’s research back in the sixties that suggested the written word is only 7% of any communication. That the other 93% is made up of 38% tone of voice and 55% body language (including facial expressions). There is now serious doubt amongst scientists as to the accuracy of his research as the methods he used to gather the data were dubious at best and cavalier at worst. However, what is not in doubt is that the general principle is correct. Tonality and body language behind a message make up a much larger percentage of any communication than the actual words. In other words, every single e-mail, text message, blog post or DM you write has the potential to be misunderstood by the r... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4152335 Tue, 09 Nov 2010 17:39:33 +0100 4152335 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4125313&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FnR5Xu6uZLCM%2F Without doubt the most important work I do with clients is to help them understand their own core values. I’ve said many times I’ve honestly no idea how anybody can be a successful Life Coach without doing at least some work around values. Your values are you, they are at the core of your identity. You literally cannot go any deeper into a persons personality without delving around in hard-wired responses. If I don’t know what your values are, I don’t know you, and if I don’t know you, how can I know what drives, inspires and motivates you? And if I don’t know what drives, inspires and motivates you, how can I coach you? The majority of my clients feel stuck in their lives. Contrary to popular opinion I seldom get a phone call from somebody wanting help setting goals. Goal sett... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4125313 Mon, 01 Nov 2010 12:20:10 +0100 4125313 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4119793&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F-3c6-4ooeW8%2F Even though every word in the English language has a literal meaning that meaning can still be open to personal interpretation. Think of words like success, freedom, peace, happiness and love and you will understand what I mean. They can, and do, mean completely different things to different people. When you say freedom for instance, you may mean financial freedom. Yet somebody else may mean freedom of speech, or freedom to travel, or freedom to bear arms, or even emotional freedom. When I help a client understand their core values I have to be very aware of what they mean with the words they use and not necessarily how I relate to each word. As such, I always start the process by asking them what they mean by the values they give me thus avoiding any potential misunderstandings later on. ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4119793 Tue, 26 Oct 2010 20:07:02 +0100 4119793 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4098519&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FooRHQlqPnO0%2F I got an e-mail last week from another Life Coach asking me the following question: “What was the biggest risk YOU took that allowed you to make the leap from being “just another life coach” to where you are now?” I was stumped to begin with because I’m not even sure where I am now in the great scheme of things. I do ok as a Life Coach, but it’s not like I have to beat people away with sticks. I even went through a phase in late July and early August when I wasn’t full. For a few moments I started to think I was a bit of a fraud because I couldn’t think of a single significant risk I have taken since becoming a Life Coach. Was it risky giving up a six-figure salary to start a life coaching practice? Not really, because I would probably have had a nervous breakdown i... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4098519 Fri, 22 Oct 2010 19:06:01 +0100 4098519 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4086547&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fn4lQzfD9uCg%2F Finally after a few last minute screw ups (by me it has to be said) my ebook “What The Hell Is Life Coaching” is available for free automatic download by clicking the link. In case you’re not sure what it’s about or whether you want to bother reading about Life Coaching, I’m posting the intro to the book below to give you the heads up. I’ve written it to inform people about Life Coaching and not purely as a tool to promote me, although I’m not averse to the occasional bit of shameless self-promotion! I’d really welcome your feedback in the comments below after you have read it. What The Hell Is Life Coaching – Intro If you were to stop 10 people in the street and ask them what life is, you would probably get some strange looks, but my g... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4086547 Wed, 20 Oct 2010 12:12:52 +0100 4086547 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4077639&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FYcYMMMCt9ow%2F I had a rather humbling experience after posting my article ‘The Secret of Success’. I sat back in my chair and waited for the agreement and adulation to pour in. After all, as the headline had explained I’d just given away the secret to success and as secrets go that’s right up there with the best of them. There was just one small problem. A teeny-tiny problem that was hardly noticeable (to me anyway) prior to me publishing the post. And what was that problem Mr Life Coach you may be wondering? The post was crap. I don’t just mean a little bit crap and not quite as good as it could have been. But total and utter crap right up there with the idea that people can’t change, beliefs are facts and Crocs are cool. It was the kind of post that if I’d read on another blog I’d ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4077639 Sun, 17 Oct 2010 21:49:18 +0100 4077639 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4074491&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FJrRMIjcIl8U%2F I’m working with a young professional golfer at the moment and it’s a lot fun. I say he’s a professional, but that’s not technical true, he’s an amateur that possesses a professional mindset. I was initially contacted by his father who was concerned that his son didn’t really know what to do with his life. We talked about values and all that other good Life Coaching stuff I do to help people figure things out and the father said he’d like me to coach him. I never take a client on without speaking to them first so we had a good chat and decided to take things further. Halfway through our first proper session it was obvious this wasn’t going to chart the normal course. I presumed from the first two conversations I was going to have a kid that was unsure what he wanted out of ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4074491 Fri, 15 Oct 2010 22:00:38 +0100 4074491 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4055977&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FketG9bNUfaY%2F For the past couple of weeks I have been working on my next free ebook. Titled “What The Hell Is Life Coaching?” it will be an insiders guide to what Life Coaching is, what it isn’t, how to become a Life Coach and how to hire one that wont leave you wishing you’d ordered a stiff drink instead. I thought today I’d give you a taster of what’s in the book by posting the section on choosing a Life Coach to work with. I would love your feedback if you agree or disagree strongly with anything I say, or if you think there is anything I’ve missed out. I’m particularly interested if you are a Life Coach yourself or if you are working or have worked in the past with a Life Coach. How Do I Hire A Life Coach? I’m going to keep this section as honest as I can. It would be easy fo... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4055977 Mon, 11 Oct 2010 04:01:23 +0100 4055977 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4036975&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fj6UT-AXJxXU%2F A storm of biblical (quite literally) proportions is bearing down on a small town in South Texas. Everybody has been told to leave their homes immediately and head for higher ground. However, Bob a pious and righteous man, decides he’s staying put. He knows in his heart that God will help him should the need arise and as such settles down to do some serious praying. As the torrential rain starts to fall there is a knock on the door and it’s the Police. Hearing that he hasn’t left town the Sheriff had sent a car to pick him up and transfer him to safety. “No, no”, says Bob, “I’ll be fine, God will save me if necessary.” A few hours later and the torrential rainfall is up to the top of the door and Bob is sheltering in his upstairs bedroom praying for all his worth. As he loo... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4036975 Wed, 06 Oct 2010 15:36:38 +0100 4036975 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4031536&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fw_TwLbNhmlY%2F Seldom does a week go by where I don’t get asked to review a product and/or help somebody promote their new e-book, e-course or e-seminar. The barrier to entry for such things these days is so low that almost anybody can clamber over it and I have had 4 such requests in the last week alone. I really don’t like reading e-books because I don’t have a reader such as Kindle or an iPad, and I have no wish to stare at a monitor for any longer than I need. Therefore, I have a folder chock full of unread books that I feel somewhat guilty about not reading. When I do a value elicitation with a client, honesty is a value that regularly appears on peoples list. It seems that most people like to think of themselves as being honest, yet we often aren’t. I was writing a response to the latest re... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4031536 Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:18:56 +0100 4031536 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4003465&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FopAI-_GCPHI%2F I ‘met’ Roy Naim on Twitter about 12 months ago, maybe a tad longer now. I was immediately impressed by this guy that talked to just about everybody and anybody. It seemed that Champagne had stolen the word Bubbly off him. The more I got to know him the more I got to admire him, and that was before he became a client. Once I started working with him I was in awe. Here was a guy that had overcome all sorts of crap in his life and he was really only interested in ONE thing,  how he could help others. We only had 3 sessions together and I had to talk slowly to fill those because Roy is a human dynamo, the Energizer Bunny. Point him in the right direction and he is off on a mission and nothing can stop him, or even slow him down. I have been on his case for a while now, hassling, haran... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4003465 Mon, 27 Sep 2010 15:33:47 +0100 4003465 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3994419&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FKtFzvBHbTOM%2F If I could show you a way that would absolutely guarantee you have the power to positively change how you think about any situation, would you want to know about it? And no, I’m not talking about anchoring, reframing or the need to consume large amounts of alcohol. Well I can. I can show you a process that can move you from nervous to confident, or from uninspired to motivated, or between more or less any two states you choose. Today I’m going to explain to you how you can use one of the most powerful tools NLP (neurolinguistic programming) has to offer. This post cannot be scanned and requires your total attention if you want to get anything out of it of value. If you have a copy of How To Be Rich and Happy you may already be familiar with submodalities as we talk about them in the bo... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3994419 Wed, 22 Sep 2010 20:11:23 +0100 3994419 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3983565&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F165cYdRJpVU%2F Philosophers have been debating the happiness question almost since the beginning of time and I’m not sure they are any nearer a definitive answer now than they were when they were running round is furry underwear. It’s one of those question that if you ask 100 people you’ll get 100 different answers and none of them will necessarily be right, nor will they be wrong. One of the things I encourage people that come to me for life coaching to do, is start to focus on what they want (presuming they know what that is) rather than what they don’t want. This isn’t because I’m a  believer in the law of attraction, I’m not, but simply because the human brain is far more efficient when focusing on what it wants than trying to exclude everything it doesn’t want. The analogy I often u... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3983565 Sun, 19 Sep 2010 21:33:02 +0100 3983565 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3976733&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F2hEnRnmn6Ls%2F Think about the one thing that you’d like to achieve in your life that you think is unrealistic and you’ll never get round to? Now ask yourself what exactly is it that makes you think it really is so unrealistic and out of reach? Do you think you’re too old? Or maybe you don’t have time, enough money, enough education or even enough dedication? I’m guessing it’s a shortage of something, because people often think they don’t have enough, except when it comes to excuses for not being who they can be. Then, there is never a shortage. The following post is one I wrote a couple of years ago. I have rewritten it so some extent and I make no apologies whatsoever for repeating it here now. If you read this, ALL of it,  you cannot, presuming they are physi... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3976733 Thu, 16 Sep 2010 16:16:41 +0100 3976733 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3965736&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fj23nAAmQ26o%2F You cannot be the person you truly want to be without changing your belief system, unless that is, you’re already the person you want to be, in which case what are you doing reading a life coaching blog? To change from who you are to who you want to be you have to think differently, there is no way round that. As Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them” I’m pretty sure you get that and can see the sense in what I’m saying. If you continue to adopt the same thoughts, behaviors and actions as you have always done, for the most part you’ll continue to get the same results. If this is so obvious to anybody that gives it any serious consideration, why on earth do you suspect so many people have difficulty thinking radically di... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3965736 Mon, 13 Sep 2010 17:39:53 +0100 3965736 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3957882&cid=t_104501_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2F10-things-we-want-to-do-this-weekend-15%2F It’s the weekend! Well, basically. Here’s what we’re going to do over the next two days: Evalute our lives. Okay, no. We aren’t actually going to get that heavy. But we will check out which areas of our life could use some shaping up. Drink some cider. We don’t care if it’s too early. We’re craving it, and we’d like a glass now. Please. Sleep in. We know this is a goal of ours every weekend. But tomorrow morning will literally be spent snoozing and doing crosswords in our robes. Go shopping. It’s getting chillier out, and we need a new sweater. Plus, it’s New York Fashion Week — we have to buy something, right? Buy a planner. We still think the start of fall feels like back to school. We’re going to indulge ourselve... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3957882 Fri, 10 Sep 2010 22:21:08 +0100 3957882 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3946424&cid=t_104501_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Flife-coaching-for-skeptics-18-areas-of-life-no-parachutes-or-color-therapy%2F I once bought the book What Color Is Your Parachute at a Relay shop in San Francisco International airport. I was returning from a business trip, feeling unsatisfied with life and unsure of what would make me happier. I slid the book, along with another self-improvement title and an issue of O Magazine over the counter, somewhat embarrassed, and the man at the register rhapsodized: “This is such a great book. It’s really amazing.” I nearly asked for my money back. The book didn’t, after all, teach me what color my parachute was. (And I’m still wondering what color it has to be for an airport retail job to be your calling.) So while I’m not categorically against self-improvement tools – I bought the book in the first place, didn’t I? – I was dubious when my editor asked me... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3946424 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 15:00:38 +0100 3946424 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3935932&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FfDuD9NiJkrc%2F The other day I got into a backward and forward exchange on Twitter with Norcross that was littered with misunderstandings on both sides after I posted the following tweet: “If you wouldn’t do your job for minimum wage, then you’re probably in the wrong job” He responded by saying it was a bullshit statement as it’s almost impossible to exist on minimum wage. Let’s leave to one side over 1.5 million people do indeed survive on minimum wage because that will just muddy the waters. And anyway, I take his point because I really don’t like the thought of anybody having to make do on less than $20k per annum, not in the US anyway. The precursor to the tweet was a conversation I had with a women at a local Church. I had stopped by to drop off some copies of How To Be Rich and Happy... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3935932 Sun, 05 Sep 2010 23:31:38 +0100 3935932 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3933283&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FvyvUDIk0ft4%2F I had this weird dream last night. I had been booked to appear on Oprah with both my dogs for reasons that weren’t absolutely clear. She was telling me how much she loved my blog although she thought I ought to swear a lot more. “Oh, I’m not really sure about that” I said “Some people get offended by a swearing Life Coach” “Really?” she said with a wink of an eye, and then turned to the audience and said: “What do you f.ers think, should Tim swear more or not?” A huge roar of “YES!” came back from the people watching and Oprah smiled knowingly at me. She then said  “Tim, we think you should start running the Internet as of now and be able to do anything you want with it. So what would you like to do?” I li... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3933283 Fri, 03 Sep 2010 14:53:31 +0100 3933283 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3925119&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F8yhmv7Emv34%2F I talk a lot about values and specifically value conflicts both to life coaching clients and here on this blog. I make no apologies for doing so, because they are so crucially important to anybody that wants to take control of their life. Over the last week or so I’ve had my very own value conflicts going on that took me a while to spot. And that’s the thing with values, they’re slippery suckers that aren’t always easy to pin down. I had all the tell-tale symptoms of feeling a bit uneasy, but I wasn’t really sure why until I remembered a conversation I had on Twitter a couple of years ago. Value Conflict # 1 The person in question was telling all his followers to spread the word that anybody who went to his website could get a free copy of his book. I was interest... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3925119 Wed, 01 Sep 2010 15:23:13 +0100 3925119 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3907811&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FomEMYj5x_ZE%2F When I’m working with a life coaching client on values it’s crucial before I try and work out the hierarchy I understand what each values means to them Even though every word has at least one literal translation in the English language, we also have a tendency, to put our own interpretation on what any particular word means to us. Freedom is a great example of this. I could say to you “I think freedom is absolutely crucial” and you may nod your head sagely and agree with my undoubtedly wise words. The only thing is, I may be talking about financial freedom and you may be thinking of freedom to bear arms, or freedom to travel, or freedom of the press, or freedom to worry sheep. Depending on what’s important to you, you will spin the word to meet your expectations and we’ll o... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3907811 Thu, 26 Aug 2010 12:10:03 +0100 3907811 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3896134&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FRn4RlDUzfOs%2F Did you know it’s generally accepted that the human mind can only consciously deal with between 5 and 9 pieces of information at any one time? That even though there are currently millions of bits of data streaming at you, you are only aware of about 7 different things at any one time. It’s not very impressive is it? Especially when you consider your unconscious mind is dealing with the rest of the information in its stride. Only it gets worse than that, because the latest brain research has shown that the 7 things we previously thought we could hold in conscious awareness, is in reality, more like 4. Even so, you maybe thinking, 4 things is adequate because that means you can be reading e-mails whilst on a conference call and still have plenty of spare capacity should you need it ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3896134 Mon, 23 Aug 2010 13:31:38 +0100 3896134 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3881103&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F1QK0CuHesC8%2F My co-author of How To Be Rich and Happy, John Strelecky sent me this post yesterday to publish on the How To Be Rich and Happy blog. On reflection we both thought it better that it receive a wider audience. It’s not an uplifting tale, but it is one worth telling as suicide amongst teens is the third leading cause of death in the US and quite frankly, that should be unacceptable. I have really struggled with an image because I’m not sure a cartoon is appropriate. Then again, I’d rather this be a post that inspires you to act in any way you can,  than one that makes you depressed. My sincere condolences and best wishes go out to the boys family. ——————————- I was supposed to have a meeting yesterday with a friend... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3881103 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 04:01:39 +0100 3881103 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3858448&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FYybr26j4zsM%2F If I could show you a guaranteed way of being more creative, would you be interested? If you said no, then I suspect your creativity is through the roof, so if I could show you a guaranteed way of being more analytical when necessary, would you want to know more? Well I can, so read on. There’s a better than even chance you think of yourself as either a right-brained artistic type or a left-brained logical type. The problem is, whatever you think, you’re wrong, because you’re not right-brained and you’re not left-brained, you’re both. I want you to think of a time when you were disturbed whilst being in the zone, a time when what you were doing seemed effortless and you were in the state Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi christened as, flow. Presuming your interruption was for more than a ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3858448 Wed, 11 Aug 2010 15:42:35 +0100 3858448 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3845316&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FB60cbEKooF4%2F What a week! Let me tell you the last few days have demonstrated to me the power of leverage and then some. I regularly talk to coaching clients about gaining leverage to hit goals or make positive changes in their lives. Goal setting is cool, but if you don’t have the requisite leverage you’re either going to fail or make it a lot harder than it needs to be. Let me be totally honest, without leverage I’d quite possibly have failed in my quest to stay on the Primal Blueprint this last week. I’m terrible at keeping promises I make to myself. On the surface that sounds like a horrible confession (or a great one depending on your viewpoint) for a Life Coach to make, and one I probably wouldn’t have dared have made 2 or 3 years ago for fear of being thought of as a fraud. However, I�... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3845316 Sun, 08 Aug 2010 23:18:48 +0100 3845316 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3808866&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FOUyv-bMTkXg%2F I know it’s not de rigueur to say this at the moment, but I really don’t care for all the talk about building tribes. I even find the term mildly insulting, although I realize it’s not usually meant to be. I’m also a tad uncomfortable having just set up a Facebook Fan Page because I don’t want fans per se any more than I want a tribe. I’d be much happier if Facebook had a: “I Quite Like This But I’m An Individual And I Like Lots of Stuff So Don’t Stereotype Me Or Take Me For Granted Page” I know it’s not quite as snappy, but I for one prefer it. Let me be honest though, the above doesn’t mean I don’t want a gazillion subscribers to my blog or to sell a gazillion copies of How To Be Rich and Happy or even have a gazillion people waiting to hire me as their life coa... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3808866 Sun, 01 Aug 2010 19:57:29 +0100 3808866 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3795015&cid=t_104501_134_f&fid=35187&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FDiabetesDaily%2F%7E3%2FfiyGsDi8Xqs%2Flife-coaching-weight-lifting-book-writing.php How many of you have heard of Ginger Vieira?  I guarantee that not enough of you have, and I'm going to shout her praises from the highest rooftop I can find.  Ginger was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and celiac in 1999.  Besides being an absolute angel, Ginger is a professional writer, a contributing author at Diabeteens, an I.S.S.A. certified personal trainer, a certified Ashtanga Yoga instructor, and a Therapeutic Yoga instructor.  Pretty impressive!Oh yeah. She also holds 14 national, drug-tested powerlifting records AND the Vermont state record for the female bench press!  Holy Crap, right?  I say that Ginger is an angel because her mission in life is to help others.  And she is good at it (that qualifies for "understatement of the year").  I m... Diabetes Daily blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3795015 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 12:00:00 +0100 3795015 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3780592&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FS3-a6GJ5gzo%2F I don’t normally go in for blogger collaborations, but when Abubakar Jamil told me about his idea to compile an ebook in which self development bloggers could share their life lessons, my interest was piqued. I’m not going to take the approach some of the bloggers have of writing a letter of advice to my younger self, because I’d have ignored it the same as I ignored sound advice from parents, family and friends when I was growing up. I simply wasn’t ready for anybody to tell me anything of value much before I got into my thirties, I was too busy being a realist pessimist and telling anybody prepared to listen how hard life was. So for what it’s worth this is my advice to you, rather than a younger me. The sheer fact that you’re reading here means you are far more open to i... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3780592 Thu, 22 Jul 2010 16:56:34 +0100 3780592 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3767351&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FkRsQE3D2hK0%2F I wrote a post last week for the How To Be Rich and Happy site called ‘Pay It Forward’. It was inspired by the actions of GM Baker who after reading her copy of How To Be Rich and Happy then wrote a message inside the cover saying: “If you find this book, the it is meant for you. When it changes your life, like it did mine, please pass it on” – GM Baker 7/01/10 She then took a photo of it and left the book in the seat pocket on her flight for somebody else to find and benefit from. One of the things we all require to make positive lasting change, is belief. Belief that it’s not just possible to change, but that we can actually implement and make that change happen. When clients first sign up with me for Life Coaching I’ll often want them to set the bar on their expectatio... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3767351 Mon, 19 Jul 2010 18:14:59 +0100 3767351 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3761655&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FgPoKnzyNyVM%2F I’m going to wrap up this 3-parter on social anxiety today because it’s in danger of developing a life of its own. To minimize the length I’m going to gloss over some aspects or link to other posts because whereas repetition may be the mother of all skill, it can still bore your arse off in a blog post. I will however collate all the material and compile a free e-book that goes into more detail before the end of the summer. As usual it will be only distributed to my newsletter readers, so sign up now! I’m not saying that it isn’t possible to eradicate fear from your life, but I am saying it’s as close to being impossible as is humanly imaginable and I’d wager good money that more people have climbed Everest than banished all fear from their lives. Yes, yes, the title was a ch... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3761655 Fri, 16 Jul 2010 18:23:48 +0100 3761655 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3754125&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FNyZ58049FKc%2F It’s not unusual for clients to call me and after giving me a run down on their issues asking “Can you fix me?” My usual response is: “No, because you’re not broken” It may sound like I’m being glib and not listening to the person talking to me, but it’s neither. It’s simply a belief that stems from the NLP presupposition that nobody is broken no matter what their circumstances. I don’t want potential clients adopting the mindset that something is wrong with them. I prefer to have them thinking they’re just great (because they are), but can be even greater with some fine tuning. The reason I adopt the belief that nobody is broken is because all our behaviors are useful in some context or other. As human beings we never self-sabotage and I defy you to give me a single ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3754125 Wed, 14 Jul 2010 19:49:32 +0100 3754125 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3743744&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FMeCErsGN2tQ%2F The first wave of nausea hit me as I was setting up my laptop. I instinctively held my breath and fought to force the feeling back from whence it came whilst glancing around me nervously to see if anybody was noticing my rising panic levels. All seemed well as people were chatting and paying little attention to me, but that was the last time that day I had that feeling. I launched the software on my laptop and stared in disbelief at the complexity of the user interface. I had no idea what half the icons were for, I didn’t know what the benefits of the product were, I didn’t know how to navigate it and I knew nothing about payroll! So what the hell was I doing here about to demo a technical product to people that had forgotten more about the subject than I ever knew? At that stage the n... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3743744 Sun, 11 Jul 2010 21:31:20 +0100 3743744 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3737324&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fw3aqsY6O7ws%2F I ran an offer to my newsletter subscribers last week called Kick Ass Life Coaching (click the link if you want more information). I was offering 5 places at less than half my normal rate for 3 sessions of life coaching designed to get to the core of any problem quickly and effectively. I full expected with less than 500 subscribers to be carrying over most if not all of the places to offer my blog readers, but much to my surprise it sold out in about 4 hours. Or at least I though it did, however one of the people has since gone awol on me, so I still have a slot open. If you’re interested, contact me a.s.a.p. and we can set it up. A couple of people have e-mailed to ask if I’ll do this again next month. At this point I honestly don’t know, July is my quietest month of the year and A... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3737324 Wed, 07 Jul 2010 23:06:23 +0100 3737324 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3726813&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FOuLxt1lxDEI%2F A massive thanks to the dozens of you that offered your words of self development wisdom in response to my last post “What’s Your Best Piece of Advice?” Some time on Saturday afternoon I was starting to think it wasn’t such a great idea posing the question after all.  Not because the answers were terrible, but because they were so good and I had no idea how I was going to decide on which I could confidently declare was ‘the best’ and handing over the book and $25 gift certificate. After all, something like this as subjective as whether a joke is funny, a song great, or a politician honest. No matter what I do some people are going to disagree with me, in fact, I’m guessing most people will disagree with me. Prior to the post I had given my newsletter readers the ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3726813 Mon, 05 Jul 2010 23:23:04 +0100 3726813 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3714478&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FQEW9qkBNRYc%2F I cannot tell you how many times I have been asked the question; “If you could only give one piece of personal development advice, what would it be? In fact if I’d been given a dollar for each time I got asked it I could confidently respond; “My piece of advice would be to become a life coach and receive $1 every time you get asked for one piece of advice” Unfortunately though people don’t give me a dollar each time, so it would be foolish of me to say that and I have no idea where I’m going with this intro/ramble so I’ll shut up now. This will possibly be the shortest post I’ve ever written because I actually want YOUR  advice rather than the more traditional approach of me giving you mine. If you had to give just ONE piece of self-development advice to a young friend or... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3714478 Wed, 30 Jun 2010 14:25:48 +0100 3714478 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3703120&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FwQFnkPxCB_c%2F It’s a great question, isn’t it? And one I’m guessing most of us ask of ourselves from time to time. For you it may be $100m or half a million or it may not be a specific amount at all, but just ‘enough’ to allow you to forget about paying the bills. I was with with a client recently who was trying to work out how much money he needed so he no longer had to worry for himself, his wife and his kids. I listened to this and got quite concerned. I wasn’t aware there was an amount that meant we had to worry, and another that meant we were ok allowing us the freedom to focus our worrying skills on other areas of our life. “Shit” I thought, “I don’t have enough money and I’ve been fooling myself by not worrying about it for at least a couple of years now, I�... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3703120 Sun, 27 Jun 2010 21:45:22 +0100 3703120 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3695848&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FQrYxaHATkVk%2F If you have spent more than 5 minutes on this site or watching any of my videos you’ll have heard the word reframe at some stage. Reframing is possibly the single most important self development tool I have in my bag. And not just for work with clients either, because I use it myself on a daily basis. What you possibly don’t know though, is reframing isn’t an only child. Sure it’s the most famous and good looking of the framing family, and it no doubt looks down on it’s less successful younger siblings, a bit like the Baldwins do with Stephen, but that’s not to say it deserves all the glory. After all, even the weasel-faced Stephen Baldwin made ‘The Usual Suspects’, so every dog has its day. Today I thought I’d take a deeper look at framing in all it’s guises and show y... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3695848 Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:16:59 +0100 3695848 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3683925&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Ft6FWBZe8TgM%2F So here we are with the shiny new blog design, what do you think? Love it? Hate it? Want to roll around in the hay with it? I absolutely love it, I think it’s cleaner, more pleasing on the eye and easier to navigate, but hey, that’s just me, and after all, I like anchovy sandwiches. I’d love to hear what you think because we will still be tweaking away for a few days and minor changes can be made. So if there’s some must have feature that is missing let me know in the comments and I’ll see what I can do. Please bear with us if some links don’t work or the site acts strangely such as sending out posts you have already received because we still have some behind the scenes wizardry to perform. I say we, that’s a big fat lie as there’s no we about it. I’m a technical wastelan... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3683925 Mon, 21 Jun 2010 13:59:04 +0100 3683925 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3679930&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FWWUOfLm2HXI%2F A Life Coaching case study that explains why you are a niche. Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3679930 Sun, 13 Jun 2010 21:42:48 +0100 3679930 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3652470&cid=t_104501_109_f&fid=34752&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FPsychsplash%2F%7E3%2FWjjBHQZSfig%2F URL: http://www.workplaceviolence911.com/wpv911.jspThe Institute serves as a center for research, consulting, training, and communication. Its mission is to educate employers, unions and employees about the growing threat of violence in the workplace and how to effectively deal with it. Being prepared is your best defense. 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(Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3679931 Wed, 09 Jun 2010 11:59:55 +0100 3679931 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3679932&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FcFOXmHiazgU%2F 4 life coaching terms that you may never have heard of, explained. Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3679932 Sun, 06 Jun 2010 20:51:14 +0100 3679932 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3679935&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FU2ovgdv6ih0%2F Here are the results from my recent survey and what I intend to do with them. Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3679935 Wed, 26 May 2010 19:44:01 +0100 3679935 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3592436&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FowUH0xNvN3s%2F I’m not quite sure if impulsively setting up a survey in my last post was a great idea or a really stupid one. At the time of writing I’ve had about 100 responses and I think it’s fair to say that the jury is still out, on oh, ya know, just about everything. Everything that is, with the possible exception that almost everybody wants to read posts about canine attacks on my genitalia. Thanks a lot for that. Some of the answers have really caught me by surprise and prompted me to have a bit of a re-think. I still really, really want to hear what you have to say if you haven’t already filled it in. I know it means a couple of tiresome clicks if you’re reading on a smart phone or via e-mail, but it will be worth it as I send lots of life coach love your way. So click here (after ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3592436 Sun, 23 May 2010 18:15:40 +0100 3592436 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3581886&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FpnluU2NIKM4%2F As you know, the entire blog and website are being overhauled and the beginning of June will yield a fresh start. Gone will be The Discomfort Zone name (although I now think I’m keeping A Daring Adventure) and the cartoons. As it’s a new start I’d really like your input. I have concocted a very short survey and really hope you can take the time to offer me some valuable feedback so I can meet the needs of you my lovely reader as much as I can. Negotiate Like a Ninja Let me start be being perfectly frank, no ninjas were consulted during the writing of this blog post. It’s a shameful attempt by me to hop on the speeding bandwagon of ninja love that seems to be sweeping the Internet in a feeble attempt to pull some traffic toward my blog. Not only that, but I have no idea what a real ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3581886 Thu, 20 May 2010 14:46:15 +0100 3581886 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3564262&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FtpUQkxRj1CE%2F The previous post, “Do SMART Goals Suck?’ created some really cool conversation in the comments and some strong opinions and well thought out arguments. Today I wanted to take some time today to dispel some of the myths, or at least what I think of as myths, of goal setting. I think some people quite naturally got wrapped up in what worked for them and that only means one thing. It worked for them. Everybody Should Set Written Goals I know lots and lots of highly successful people that have never written a goal in their life. Goals have a tendency to be the preserve of more left-brained people in my experience. That does not mean creative right-brained types don’t set goals, just that I believe they are less likely to and would probably benefit from using a looser structure. Some peo... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3564262 Fri, 14 May 2010 13:29:43 +0100 3564262 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3549611&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FqarsuKuXlfw%2F At the time of writing I am staring at the last 30 or so signed copies of the first edition of How To Be Rich and Happy (that’s now just 17 as of 9.59pm on Sunday) At some point tomorrow (Monday) we are either going to sell out or our web guy is going to swap the copy over on the sales page and the pre-sale will be finished. If you have been wondering what to do, this is probably your last chance to grab a copy for under $20 and help us help good causes into the bargain. If you already have done so, thanks! Education Sucks Worse Than You Think I ran an excellent guest post a few weeks ago called Education Sucks courtesy of Bud Hennekes from PluginID. Bud ripped the current education system and how it places so much emphasis on attaining good grades and getting a degree and almost non... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3549611 Sun, 09 May 2010 18:11:39 +0100 3549611 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3538418&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F8N1vLBgC6Jo%2F Before we kick off todays guest post I just want to give you a very quick update on How To Rich and Happy. We’ve shipped out first batch of free books to San Antonio, Texas and 160 are going to a work group for unemployed people, so that’s really cool. We‘ve also agreed to donate up to 200 more to a local charity called The Sharing Center that works with 50,000 disadvantaged people per year in Central Florida. The pre-sale for How To Be Rich and Happy is coming to an end on Sunday, May 9th. If you have bought a book or as many people have, multiple copies, a massive thanks! And not just from John and myself either, but from the people in Texas that your generosity has helped. If you haven’t got the book yet time is running out to get a first edition signed copy at the reduced price... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3538418 Thu, 06 May 2010 16:12:43 +0100 3538418 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3530078&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FS7J4MU0nHTA%2F At the end of the 19th century the brilliant psychologist and philosopher William Joyce was due to give the keynote speech at a huge convention for psychologists. There was much excitement once news circulated that James had agreed to talk and people came from all over the country to see the great man deliver his wisdom. There was a huge sense of anticipation in the build up to his talk and when he finally came on stage the room was at fever pitch. He walked up to the lectern, surveyed the audience and said: “The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life buy altering his attitudes of mind.” That was it, that was his entire speech. He then walked off stage again, out of the room and presumably back to his hotel to raid the mini bar, leaving beh... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3530078 Mon, 03 May 2010 19:18:35 +0100 3530078 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3515661&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FeVCnhzXA53Y%2F I have never met a client that didn’t hold themselves up to higher standard than they did others, even those closest to them. I don’t think this is simply because I’m a Life Coach and my view is skewed because people come to me to change, I honestly believe it’s about as close to a universal truth as possible. It‘s also probably the single biggest source of human misery. That’s a fairly contentious statement I understand. After all, as a species we’re pretty damn good at heaping misery upon ourselves and seem to have a capacity for self-loathing unparalleled anywhere else in nature. Surely then, setting higher standards is the way out of that? As you know I love huge goals. If you came to me for life coaching I’d encourage you to aim really high, then a bit higher, and then... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3515661 Thu, 29 Apr 2010 13:44:37 +0100 3515661 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3494576&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FdITrK124LXM%2F As of either Sunday or Monday (and I’m sorry I can’t be more clear on that, but we have some issues to clear up) we’ll have approximately 750 first edition signed copies of How To Be Rich and Happy to pre-sell. They will retail at $19.99 rather than the $25 we will be charging on full release and we will pay worldwide shipping on any orders of 3 copies or more. The money we raise from the pre-sale will go back into re-ordering more free copies to give away. I’ll go into more detail in my next post, I just wanted to give you a heads up. What Are You Worth? The first half of my sales career was blighted by frustration and mediocrity. I hit targets and quotas most of the time, but it was usually a question of flopping over the finishing like a man running the Los Angeles marathon dres... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3494576 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 12:59:40 +0100 3494576 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3487413&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FQrraCXtdO-g%2F Since writing my post ‘Dream Big Or Go Home’ for the How To Be Rich and Happy website I have been giving a lot of thought to goals and dreams. I got to wondering how many brilliant discoveries, inventions and breakthroughs the world has missed out on because people were worried about sharing their ideas through fear of ridicule? I’ve had many clients reluctant to tell me their really big dreams, usually by insisting they don’t have any. I’m sure at an unconscious level they by not dreaming big they’ll save themselves from the pain of ridicule and failure. But as I said in that post: ‘The pain of a failed life is exponentially worse than the pain of a failed goal’ When I tell clients it’s not only ok, bit I insist they do they talk about the really big stuff, they often li... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3487413 Tue, 20 Apr 2010 13:56:27 +0100 3487413 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3480956&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FmHsUi53dXbc%2F If you asked most people when they first learned to drive, they’d probably tell you about the first time they actually got behind the wheel of a car under the supervision of either an instructor or family member. Personally, I think we only really start to learn when we get out on the open road on our own after we have passed our driving test. Prior to that, sure we re picking up some basic skills, but we’re also in a protective bubble. Life Coaching is a bit like that. Getting qualified  as a life coach is all well and good, but you can’t really learn the craft until you get in front of clients and listen to real world issues and concerns. It really doesn’t matter how many books you’ve read, courses you’ve attended or workshops you’ve taken, nothing fully prepares you fully... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3480956 Sun, 18 Apr 2010 16:16:24 +0100 3480956 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3476117&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F_o4gdJnUvp4%2F The idea for the post entitled 7 Self Development Myths was inspired after reading a review in American Scientific Mind of the book ’50 Great Myths of Popular Psychological’  A book by the way I immediately bought and have almost finished reading. Well worth checking out. Some of the myths in the book are obvious (I really don’t believe anybody genuinely thinks mental institutions take more patients during a full moon and if they do it’s probably because they themselves were admitted during a full moon) and some fairly obscure or just plain uninteresting. I have a theory they titled the book before they wrote it and got stuck on about 35 and had to scurry around trying to make the numbers up. Well it just so happened when studying my web stats recently that it was my most ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3476117 Thu, 15 Apr 2010 18:46:41 +0100 3476117 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3449216&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2Fy199L101EG0%2F I’ve never done a life coaching case study before, largely because it’d never crossed my mind until somebody recently suggested it. Even then I was doubtful because there are obvious client confidentiality issues and I wasn’t even sure I could make one interesting to read. The latter reason evaporated when talking to a client recently. She had me literally begging her to let me put her under the microscope and use her story as an example in demonstrating that we’re all greater than we often think we are. The thing is I don’t think she even realizes how amazing her achievements are and how much courage she demonstrated. She was just getting on with her life in the only way she knew how. Jean e-mailed me in early February. She had just read ‘Don’t Ask Stupid Questions’ (click... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3449216 Thu, 08 Apr 2010 02:13:00 +0100 3449216 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3436415&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FhuOQiiJ6F6s%2F The following post started off life as an introduction to a case study about a recent life coaching client. However, as is my tendency I got sidetracked and rambled on and on and ended up with a post in its own right. So, if you want to know what the client in question told me recently that truly had me open-mouthed in disbelief, speechless with admiration and then begging her to let me write about, I’ll tell you next time. Better still sign up to get posts via e-mail and beat the rush (in my mind). I think most people that come to me for Life Coaching are amazing. I know that sounds like gold plated premium grade bullshit and a way of sucking up to people that pay me good money, but it isn’t, well not completely anyway. It’s because anybody that’s prepared to ask for help has my ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3436415 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 14:47:07 +0100 3436415 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3420788&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FExZncIlxqdg%2F There are lots of changes going on behind the scenes here at the moment. The result will be a new blog design, new domain name and sadly, the demise of the cartoons I have been using for the last 18 months or so. The style of writing will NOT change (stop groaning at the back!), but I really want to generate some actual clients from my blog rather than relying so heavily on referral work as I do now. There are too many mixed messages here for new readers and I have a feeling some first time visitors that may be looking to hire a Life Coach think I don’t take what I do very seriously. The fact is, I take Life Coaching and my clients needs very seriously indeed. It’s life that I don’t take so seriously, but I throughly understand why people may not realize that from my blog. I have als... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3420788 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 16:08:31 +0100 3420788 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416397&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FZqtZHx9ioYw%2F Like any industry, the self-development industry is rampant with half-baked ideas, poor advice and urban myths. It’s not always easy to pick the wheat from the chaff because some of them have become so ingrained in popular belief that to question them is almost seen as heresy. Well I for one love a bit of heresy (everything in moderation), so I thought I’d take a look at some of the more popular myths and offer my take on them. Feel free to disagree or even offer some cool ones of your own because trust me, there’s plenty more out there. 1. We Only Use 10% Of Our Brain I still see this one Tweeted from time to time decades after it has been proven to be completely untrue. It would be somewhat closer to being true if people said, “we only use 10% of our brain at any given time”, b... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416397 Sun, 28 Mar 2010 20:02:09 +0100 3416397 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3366460&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FaqYyXOncEbo%2F I was watching 24 the other night and thinking to myself Jack Bauer is a bit mental. I know as a Life Coach it’s not really the done thing to make such derogatory statements about people I don’t know (or even those I do know for that matter), but I’ll make an exception for the gravelly voiced one, because he really does have a few kangaroos loose in his upper paddock. If he finally breaks free of CTU he’s going to need a small army of psychotherapists, life coaches and probably even magicians to help him get his life back on track. And that’s presuming he doesn’t kill them all first for glancing at him in the wrong way, denying they’re in possession of weapons grade nuclear material or overacting more than he is. Then I thought to myself; “No, he doesn’t need a team of pe... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3366460 Sun, 14 Mar 2010 20:56:24 +0100 3366460 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3358927&cid=t_104501_86_f&fid=36669&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffadelibrary.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F03%2F12%2Fjournal-of-evaluation-in-clinical-practice-2010-vol-16-no-1%2F contents page Fade Fave: Motivational interviewing-based health coaching as a chronic care intervention Fade Skinny: Evaluates the impact of motivational interviewing-based health coaching on a chronically ill group of participants compared with non-participants. Specifically, measures that could be directly attributed to a health coaching intervention on chronic illness were assessed. The results support motivational interviewing-based health coaching as an effective chronic care management intervention in impacting outcome measures that could also serve well as a proxy in the absence of other clinical or cost indices. (NHS Athens is required to access this article online) Filed under: Athens Password, Current Awareness, E-Journals Tagged: Athens Password, Chronic Diseases, Coaching, Cur... Fade Library blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3358927 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 07:28:21 +0100 3358927 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3358928&cid=t_104501_86_f&fid=36669&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffadelibrary.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F03%2F12%2Fbritish-journal-of-healthcare-management-2010-volume-16-issue-2%2F Contents Page Fade Fave: Organisational leadership development for less Fade Skinny: Outlines the argument for the strategic development of internal coaching capacity within NHS trust and social care contexts. This is in anticipation of the likely impact of reduced public sector spending on health and social care budgets, and the consequences of this on organisational leadership development activity in the future. (NHS Athens is required to access this article online) Filed under: Athens Password, Current Awareness, E-Journals Tagged: Athens Password, Coaching, Current Awareness, E-Journals, Education, Financial Management, NHS, Organisational Leadership, Training (Source: Fade Library) Fade Library blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3358928 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 07:13:00 +0100 3358928 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3362596&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FeNOz8e1dGZk%2F I probably do the values exercise with about 95% of my clients and as a rule, they love it. However, they’ve usually paid hundreds of dollars for life coaching and as such they are heavily invested in and committed to the idea of self development and improving their life. Getting that kind of buy-in from the average blog reader exposed to “7 Guaranteed, Killer Ways To be Happy For Every Second of Your Entire Life Even When A Doctor Is Shoving His Gloved Hand Up Your Arse” kind of posts is a tad trickier. Now I’m pretty sure you’re not one of those instant gratification type people, but if you really want to know the potentially huge payback that knowing your values can offer before you commit to it, scroll to the bottom and read on from: How Can My Values Motivate Me? Then if you... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3362596 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:03:13 +0100 3362596 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3350622&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FeNOz8e1dGZk%2F I probably do the values exercise with about 95% of my clients and as a rule, they love it. However, they’ve usually paid hundreds of dollars for life coaching and as such they are heavily invested in and committed to the idea of self development and improving their life. Getting that kind of buy-in from the average blog reader exposed to “7 Guaranteed, Killer Ways To be Happy For Every Second of Your Entire Life Even When A Doctor Is Shoving His Gloved Hand Up Your Arse” kind of posts is a tad trickier. Now I’m pretty sure you’re not one of those instant gratification type people, but if you really want to know the potentially huge payback that knowing your values can offer before you commit to it, scroll to the bottom and read on from: How Can My Values Motivate Me? Then if you... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3350622 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:03:13 +0100 3350622 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3342940&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E5%2FbpIdWg7HrTo%2Ftimb_howtoberichandhappy.wav The cool thing with writing in depth on Life Coaching is that I know I have the really hardcore people with me. People that actually intend to make changes rather than talking about doing so, or hoping they will happen by reading a post and doing nothing else. Newsflash: Positive change will not happen from staring at a list of bullet points or sitting on your arse watching TV. Trust me, I spent 40 years trying the latter! So if you read my previous post, What Are Values? and have come back for more, then you my fine friend are up for it and a very rare breed indeed. So give yourself a hearty pat on the back and let’s get going. You now know what a value is and what impact they are having on your life on a daily basis, so how can you use that knowledge to make life hunky dory? When I d... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3342940 Sun, 07 Mar 2010 23:00:08 +0100 3342940 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3335406&cid=t_104501_109_f&fid=35044&url=http%3A%2F%2Fadultaddstrengths.com%2F2010%2F03%2F05%2F11th-annual-adhd-resource-conference-chadd-calgary-march-6th%2F Post from: Adult ADD Strengths CHADD Calgary is holding their 11th Annual ADHD Resource Conference, ADHD See It Through My Eyes on March 6th from 8am to 4.30pm at the Red and White Club, McMahon Stadium. Why not check it out if you have a chance? I will be on of the 3 speakers. My topic is Adult ADHD Coaching: One size never fits all. The other speakers are Dr. Declan Quinn, Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, Associate Professor at the University of Saskatchewan. He’ll be speaking on Developing Character Strengths and Virtues in ADHD. Also Heidi Bernhardt, RN, Director of CADDAC, the Center for ADHD Advocacy Canada, and the Executive Director of CADDRA, the  Canadian ADHD Resource Alliance.  She’ll be speaking about ADHD organizations in Canada and how they can help people ... Adult ADD Strengths blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3335406 Fri, 05 Mar 2010 10:41:52 +0100 3335406 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3335594&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FsVCNZVsH3q4%2F I have finally decided to give the Life Coaching farm away and take the time to explain the process I use to help a client understand his or her values and how that knowledge can benefit them. If you aren’t that keen on in-depth posts I suggest you check out 7 Killer Life Coaching Questions, because that has lots of lovely sub-headings and bullet points for you to admire. This one isn’t scannable, because to do it justice I’m also (probably) going to use video to explain the process I take clients through. So what I’m really saying is this is some heavy personal development shit that needs your total concentration and commitment if you’re going to get the most out of it. And make no mistake, it’s the single most powerful thing you can do if you genuinely want to understand ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3335594 Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:36:06 +0100 3335594 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3302683&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FKQ1UO-lI42w%2F Somebody posed the question on Twitter the other day and I’m paraphrasing because I can’t remember the exact wording, but it went something like this: “How long does it take for you to trust somebody?” My immediate response was one of bewilderment as the question acted like a brilliant pattern interrupt on me. A pattern interrupt is a technique that is frequently used in hypnosis. It’s purpose is to confuse the conscious mind for a few seconds with a non sequitur. A sentence that doesn’t quite make sense, but at the same time sounds like it should and isn’t so preposterous that it can simply be dismissed out of hand. That way, with the conscious mind tied up trying to understand what the hell is going on, it’s possible for the hypnotherapist to communicate directly with the... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3302683 Tue, 23 Feb 2010 19:09:50 +0100 3302683 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3298377&cid=t_104501_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F02%2F23%2Fpilfered-lunches-point-to-a-bigger-employee-problem%2F Stealing lunches from the office frig could be a symptom of a more serious problem — low employee engagement. “Hunger does crazy things to you,” was the comment made by an employee interviewed on the Today Show segment, “Pains in the Office.” While physical hunger is one reason employees pilfer lunches, I suspect that employees who steal from each other have a different kind of hunger. If your office is experiencing a rise in the number of stolen lunches, you are not alone. Recently several call center managers told me that they’re getting a lot more “stolen lunch” complaints. It’s no coincidence that these are the same managers who are plagued by low employee morale. Low morale can have disastrous effects. When employees are dissatisfied and chronically unhappy they ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3298377 Tue, 23 Feb 2010 13:05:41 +0100 3298377 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3288066&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FJoeae4jX2K4%2F The title of this post is somewhat strange and not the kind of thing you’d expect from a Life Coach writing a self development blog, but sometimes it’s necessary to push the boundaries. Today I’m going to explain why I think capital punishment is not just useful, but fundamental for the success of any modern society. I’m also going to explain why we should stop pussy-footing about and put the many hundreds of people on death row out of their misery as soon as logistically possible. The purpose of incarceration isn’t to exact revenge, or least no Government would ever admit as such. The purpose is to reform or ‘correct’ people. To show perpetrators the error of their ways and help rehabilitate them so that they can return to society without posing a threat. If we presume the a... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3288066 Fri, 19 Feb 2010 13:45:22 +0100 3288066 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3283860&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FOw-hS8pgcpQ%2F Did you know that skin damage caused through over exposure to the suns rays is irreparable? Did you also know that most damage is done before somebody reaches the age of 18, but often doesn’t manifest itself until years, sometimes even decades later. If you are a parent I’m guessing you may well have already known both those facts and as such you take precautions with your kids. You make sure they wear adequate sunscreen and hopefully even a hat in the summer months and you keep them covered up during the hottest times of the day. After all, it’s what any responsible parent would do because you quite rightly want the best for your kids and developing melanoma doesn’t really fit into that category. If you have kids under the age of 7 or 8 I have some good and some bad news for you. ... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3283860 Wed, 17 Feb 2010 21:38:37 +0100 3283860 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3283861&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F3SuYAMGA0j4%2F At least a couple of times per month I get an e-mail asking which Life Coach training companies I can recommend. Unfortunately, as I trained in the UK I can only point people towards businesses that I’ve no real first hand knowledge of, but seem to be reputable. Obviously I also suggest reading my insightful post How To Become a Life Coach for more in-depth information, but other than that, I’m struggling. After another e-mail this week I started to wonder whether it would be worthwhile to join an affiliate scheme with a training company that I trusted and knew could offer a brilliant introduction to Life Coaching. With that in mind I started trawling Google to see which training companies I could talk to and get a feel for. There was one in particular calling itself The Coach Trai... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3283861 Sun, 14 Feb 2010 22:44:02 +0100 3283861 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3273119&cid=t_104501_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2F3SuYAMGA0j4%2F At least a couple of times per month I get an e-mail asking which Life Coach training companies I can recommend. Unfortunately, as I trained in the UK I can only point people towards businesses that I’ve no real first hand knowledge of, but seem to be reputable. Obviously I also suggest reading my insightful post How To Become a Life Coach for more in-depth information, but other than that, I’m struggling. After another e-mail this week I started to wonder whether it would be worthwhile to join an affiliate scheme with a training company that I trusted and knew could offer a brilliant introduction to Life Coaching. With that in mind I started trawling Google to see which training companies I could talk to and get a feel for. There was one in particular calling itself The Coach Trai... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3273119 Sun, 14 Feb 2010 22:44:02 +0100 3273119