MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'dating'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 01:55:13 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4734208&cid=t_112826_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F04%2F19%2Fwant-a-happier-marriage-unrealistically-idealize-your-partner%2F If ignorance is bliss, then delusion is even better — if you’re in a new marriage, anyways. So says new research from investigators at the University at Buffalo, who examined 193 newly-married couples over three years to see what kinds of variables might predict greater marital satisfaction. How could this be? Weren’t we always told the common wisdom — that we needed to be realistic in our relationships, and not look for that Knight in Shining Armor who comes to our rescue (or a Maiden trapped in a castle tower who needs rescuing)? Apparently the common wisdom may need to be revisited, because continuing to idealize your partner long after the glow of the wedding fades away seems to help keep you happy. Read on to learn more… This isn’t the first resear... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4734208 Tue, 19 Apr 2011 17:59:56 +0100 4734208 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4720026&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FiBMRZjV4TbM%2F Relationship dynamics are a-changing. Lovertines these days are less concerned with the right time to profess their undying devotion in the course of the relationship, and more concerned with who will succumb and say it first. Those three little words seem to weigh heavily on everyone’s mind. What if you say it and they don’t say it back? What if they say it to you and you’re just not ready yet? If you’re the first to admit the L-O-V-E, does that mean you’ve given your partner all the status in the relationship? These questions used to be seen as something only women thought about, but a new study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggests that not only are men preoccupied with these questions, they are statistically more likely to ... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4720026 Fri, 15 Apr 2011 19:52:35 +0100 4720026 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4714945&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F41F6bKHSawM%2F Yesterday, M.D. and board-certified psychiatrist Dale Archer talked to me about ten ways to tell someone the painful truth. Now, those ten techniques are all well and good and helpful and necessary, but then I started wondering how and when to know if spilling a painful truth is just a bad idea all around — for everyone involved. (I recently told my loved one about their chronic bad breath. Was that a misstep? No? Whew.) So I asked the good doctor to tell us when we never, ever should tell someone a painful truth, regardless of how much and how well we think it may serve them. (Opt for that little white lie instead!) Dr. Archer gave us two good pieces of advice, and I’ve added eight of my own suggestions to round out the list. Do you agree or disagree? Have any more specific ex... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4714945 Thu, 14 Apr 2011 15:28:52 +0100 4714945 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4709334&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FtyCGaRD07AE%2F I’m a pretty happy person, if I do say so myself. I have great relationships, I enjoy my line of work, I’m pretty active in my city’s social scene, and (knock wood) I have no major medical problems to speak of. Yet according to the Action for Happiness movement, whose followers include the Dalai Lama, I’m headed for a major case of the sads. Why? Because I enjoy modern technology and online socializing, that’s why. Damn you Mark Zuckerberg. I knew I would one day be able to sue you for something. Action for Happiness encourages smile-seekers to turn off their cell phones, step away from their computer consoles, and discard the individuality-based lifestyle, in favor of forming and nourishing relationships person-to-person. Sounds like utopic bliss when you put... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4709334 Wed, 13 Apr 2011 14:16:09 +0100 4709334 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4684626&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FVhlFz39_DHg%2F Last night on NBC’s Parenthood, Crosby learned a valuable life lesson the hard way. Or, rather, Crosby didn’t learn a valuable life lesson at all. He had cheated on his fiancee, Jasmine (pictured), in a sloppy one-night stand, which caused her to kick him out of their apartment, and pretty much say: It’s over. Crosby then reacted by doing what most men do when they realize that they’ve been caught or they messed up or they understand that they’re about to lose someone or something that’s very important to them: He panicked. When this kind of thing happens, the cheater (in this case a man, but could easily be a woman) tends to overcompensate. He acts rashly — kind of like he did when he had the one-night-stand in the first place. He’s suddenly... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4684626 Wed, 06 Apr 2011 15:38:55 +0100 4684626 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4693450&cid=t_112826_133_f&fid=37107&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Faspiewebnet%2F%7E3%2FUg54B0T8rx8%2F Since I took over this website (about two months ago), I have received around a dozen emails from people who don’t have Asperger’s, but either [a] ARE in a relationship with someone who has Asperger’s, or [b] WERE in a relationship with someone who has Asperger’s. The majority of the emails are actually quite long [...] (Source: AspieWeb.net) AspieWeb.net blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4693450 Mon, 04 Apr 2011 18:23:28 +0100 4693450 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4600800&cid=t_112826_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-aa-is-not%2F AA is not an institutional clearing program. It does not promise that we will receive suspended sentences, probations, or paroles. AA does not promise conditional releases, stays of proceedings, or the early releases from prisons or hospitals.AA is not a "dating game" nor is it a lonely hearts club or a place to find a temporary or permanent lover.AA is not an employment agency or manpower training program. It does not promise that we’ll all find jobs, get rich, or even become financially solvent.AA is not a charitable organization like the welfare system or the Salvation Army. It doesn’t promise that we’ll be loaned money or given cigarettes. AA is not a bank or a credit union, and is not set up to provide funds for anyone.AA is not a church program or a religi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4600800 Wed, 16 Mar 2011 16:18:00 +0100 4600800 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4592456&cid=t_112826_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F03%2F15%2Fhistory-of-psychology-americas-first-eharmony%2F It all started with the Marital Rating Scale. Physician and psychologist George W. Crane, MD, PhD (1901-95) created a questionnaire called the Marital Rating Scale in the 1930s to help couples assess their marriages. (Crane maintained a private practice and wrote the newspaper column “The Worry Clinic.”) According to an article in APA’s Monitor on Psychology, to create his scale, Crane asked 600 husbands about their wives’ positive and negative attributes. (Husbands were also questioned, so there’s a scale for them, too.) Then he listed the 50 qualities that came up most often. While Crane tried to make the process scientific, he “did admit to using a personal bias in weighting the items that he thought were most important in marriage.” How did the scale work? According to t... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4592456 Tue, 15 Mar 2011 17:04:22 +0100 4592456 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4592605&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FEp-DUw9o_8o%2F Irritable Bowel Syndrome. Spastic Colon. My large intestine needs to see a shrink. It could use some benzos, or at the very least, Haldol. Maybe a stint in the psych ward. Unfortunately, my colon doesn’t have a separate brain and I can’t take it for psychoanalysis. (I probably wouldn’t want to hear the diagnosis anyway.) Fortunately, my brain (addled and atrophied as it may be) has been able to uncover all the wonders and horrors of dealing with and treating Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS). In 1971, I was born a seemingly healthy, properly-pooping nine-pound baby. But things soon changed. In my terrible twos I was at least easily potty-trained. (You couldn’t get this kid on the toilet fast enough.) I skipped the entire Freudian anal-retentive stage. What was going on? Wa... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4592605 Mon, 14 Mar 2011 13:58:36 +0100 4592605 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4549875&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FOhvRkM0JHPY%2F photo: Thinkstock I didn’t mean to become a junkie. It just kind of happened. My addiction to the prescription drug Ambien occurred back in 2001. There I was, in my late 20s, happily traveling to a lot of cool domestic and international locations thanks to my job as an editor at a travel magazine. But I’d planned to cut back on my usual 10-day-a-month work jaunts just for the summer, so I could do some serious hanging out at a pretty house I’d rented with a few other friends in New York’s Hudson Valley. It was going to rule: Long weekends, bike rides, nightly barbecues, cold beers, fireflies, picnics on the grounds of historic mansions, inordinate amounts of time logged at local swimming holes, and plenty of nights of good sleep in our sprawling, 19th-century careta... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4549875 Fri, 04 Mar 2011 15:30:14 +0100 4549875 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4536148&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FF75_wy2FKG0%2F Therese Borchard This is author Therese Borchard’s second post for Blisstree; she’ll be blogging for us on a weekly basis about all kinds of mental health, depression, and therapy issues. Find her debut post here. Have a question for Therese? Leave it in our comments section, below. Maybe it’s because I just turned 40 over the weekend, or maybe it’s because I was asked to be a “relationship expert” for a dating website a few days ago (LOL), or that TV writer Tracy McMillan’s recent HuffPo piece “Why You’re Not Married” got under my skin, but I can’t stop thinking about how I ended up married with two kids when I was the one labeled in college “most likely to become an old maid” because 1. I preferred a tiny closet of a room for me and only me over a roomy ... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4536148 Tue, 01 Mar 2011 16:26:25 +0100 4536148 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4532256&cid=t_112826_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F03%2F01%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-march-1-2011%2F Do you know how many times a day I quote an article I read on Psych Central? I don’t know the exact number, but it’s quite often. I feel pretty lucky that I get to read so many articles on a daily basis. I read everything from the way people think to the latest research findings. Absorbing all that information not only makes me sound smart at parties, but I feel like I’m learning a lot professionally and personally as well. Take this week’s basket of blogs, for example. Adventures in Positive Psychology’s Joe Wilner discusses the importance of finding “flow” in your career-something my work here at Psych Central has definitely given me.  And although I’m not a parent, Family Mental Health teaches us something about parenting that we could al... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4532256 Tue, 01 Mar 2011 13:19:26 +0100 4532256 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4495440&cid=t_112826_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fenhance-your-romance%2F This study suggests that if your romantic relationship has a case of the doldrums, having fun with another couple may help make your own relationship more satisfying,” said Slatcher.To review the full study, visit When Harry and Sally met Dick and JaneRelated articlesHealthy & Unhealthy Friendships in Sobriety (recoveryissexy.com)Hazelden’s Jewellery & Gifts Page Healthy Friendships A Lifeline to Sobriety (recoveryissexy.com)Romance and To Thine Own Self be True (recoveryissexy.com) Share, print or e-mail this articleA Kiss Is A Kiss – Or Is It?It’s the Little ThingsSexual Recovery Anonymous (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4495440 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 15:23:00 +0100 4495440 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4464639&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F17TlkMs2XSw%2F photo: Thinkstock A few years ago, a friend of mine broke up with a terrific guy. Smart, funny, successful, and good-looking, he was, in anyone’s eyes, a great catch. So when I asked her why she let him go, I was completely and utterly shocked by her answer. “He’s just not romantic,” she said. My jaw hit the floor. Why? I’m just not a romantic. I don’t enjoy flowers. I hate candy. And I would quite literally cringe if someone ever attempted to sing me a love song or write me a poem. My husband is the same way. We don’t (and hopefully never will) stare lovingly at each other or whisper sweet nothings into each other’s ears. In fact, when we make an attempt at romance it usually goes completely awry. Case in point: Years ago, on our honeymoon, my husband set up a full can... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4464639 Fri, 11 Feb 2011 21:02:56 +0100 4464639 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4464640&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FuRF9oFnD0iA%2F photo: Thinkstock I have a dirty little secret. As with many things, I blame it on my parents and my Catholic school upbringing. I went to an all-girls Catholic high school, and yes, we all wore bouncy little checked skirts of the variety that child molesters favor and yes, there were nuns, though it’s worth noting that we never washed our super sexy wool (winter) or polyester (spring) skirts, and that the nuns got called back to the nunnery shortly after I graduated due to some unspecified scandal. They never returned. In my high school, there were also bathrooms that smelled distinctly of vomit around prom time, and a strange importance placed on Valentine’s Day. It was a big, creepy deal in teen-girl prison. The flowers – mostly garish, generic red roses or carnation bouquets of t... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4464640 Fri, 11 Feb 2011 15:36:50 +0100 4464640 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4460104&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FYjQdcM2GQFM%2F photo: Thinkstock Couples may be ahead of singles when it comes to frequency of sex, but that doesn’t mean it’s good sex. In fact, we all know that when you’ve been in a relationship for long enough, sometimes sex is just…sex. And though we all have friends who are uninhibited when it comes to pushing the boundaries of bedroom behavior, I’m willing to bet that the majority of us aren’t ordering sex toys online on a regular basis. (But if you are, check out our 10 Eco-Friendly Sex Toys for Valentine’s Day.) For those of us with a shallow sexually adventurous streak, we called on Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., research scientist at Indiana University and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction, to give us her top five sex ... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4460104 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 18:22:00 +0100 4460104 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4450332&cid=t_112826_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F02%2F08%2Fim-a-skeptic-not-a-cynic%2F “Jamie why are you so skeptical?” “Why do you have such a negative view of the world?” “You are so cynical.” I hear comments and questions such as these on a regular basis.  My answers to these questions: It is not a bad thing to be skeptical. I am not cynical (at least not most of the time). What is a skeptic? Some people believe that skepticism is the rejection of new ideas. Often people confuse “skeptic” with “cynic.” Skeptic is derived from the Greek skeptikos, which means, “inquiring” or “to look around.” The skeptic requires evidence before claims are accepted as fact (fact, not in layman terms, but fact as tentative). It is important to consider who’s making the claim, but no matter who it may be, evidence is required. The person�... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4450332 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 22:36:45 +0100 4450332 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4445955&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F11OGbU5IKqI%2F Victor the Cat is back to attempt to solve all your romantic relationship problems. If you have a tough question you’d like Victor to tackle, just leave it in our comments section, below (anonymously, if you like), and he’ll try to answer it next time. Dear Victor the Cat: I have an ex-boyfriend who I’m still friends with – we’ll call him Ted. Ted and I aren’t BFF, but we’ve stayed friendly and have a lot of friends in common. A few weeks ago, he and his new girlfriend hosted a dinner party that I attended. During the dinner, I noticed I had gotten some text messages – they were from Ted, telling me how hot I looked that night and how he couldn’t stop staring at me. I didn’t respond, and I split as soon as dinner was over, but I have no idea how to handle th... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4445955 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 19:43:16 +0100 4445955 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4433242&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FQd6J9PlIhk0%2F So it turns out love actually does mean having to say you’re sorry. But the good news is it doesn’t mean having to say: “I forgive you.” New research published from The Journal of Family Psychology says that absolute forgiveness may not always be the best route to a happy relationship. While forgiveness is often touted as the enlightened path to true happiness and peace, the study shows that “newlyweds who forgave their partner’s bad behavior were more likely to face additional bad behavior the next day compared with those who stayed mad.” Here’s the breakdown: Study author James McNulty, a psychologist at the University of Tennessee, asked 135 heterosexual newlywed couples to keep a diary for a week, including any instances of their partner upsetting them, and whether ... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4433242 Thu, 03 Feb 2011 21:14:52 +0100 4433242 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4424375&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FoWnfWNZJPSY%2F Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr in "An Affair to Remember" I’m a reality TV show junkie. Bravo is my visual drug of choice. My husband and I watch Top Chef as if it were a contact sport. My friends and I have parties for every Real Housewives reunions. I’ve already set my DVR for the latest season of Million Dollar Listing. Being mildly obsessed with one of cable’s leading reality networks, it came as no surprise when I stumbled across the latest Bravo casting call for a new show tentatively titled What If. Reveille Productions, the same people who produce MasterChef, Tabatha’s Salon Takeover and The Biggest Loser, is looking to cast professional women who “want to connect with their past in order to change their future” for this new concept show. The idea behind What If ... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4424375 Tue, 01 Feb 2011 14:30:32 +0100 4424375 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4394605&cid=t_112826_129_f&fid=36038&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Ftrevis-life-with-multiple-sclerosis-ms%2Fmultiple-sclerosis-love-and-other-debilitating-disorders%2F I We are still three weeks away from what my favorite jazz DJ calls “Our National Day of Emotional Extortion” – St. Valentine’s Day. You wouldn’t know it, however, as the pharmacy where I pick up my multiple sclerosis meds and other supplies has, for more than a month, been decorated with pinks and reds and lace and enough heart-shaped boxes of bad chocolate to pay off the collective mortgage of members of the American Dental Association! Couple that with an odd confluence of events – a couple of comments on an older “Dating with Multiple Sclerosis” blog and an inquiry from a major newspaper about a relationship blog from our first year of blogging (which is still our most “re-posted” blog to date) and I think it’s time to re-address the topic of multiple sclerosis in... Life with MS blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4394605 Mon, 24 Jan 2011 22:06:20 +0100 4394605 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4382908&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F9Z0mSmjJPZQ%2F Recently, a man I had been dating for four months dumped me. Yes, that’s just a short-term relationship, but things had moved fast. We talked—almost weekly—about visiting the other coast so I could meet his family and childhood friends, and eat numerous burritos the size of my cranium at his favorite San Francisco taquerias. I’d already introduced him to both of my parental units. I was falling in love; apparently he was not. He delivered the news one night in a dark, packed bar—the kind of bar you must shoulder your way through to get to the bathroom or the front door, where it’s easy to accidentally take someone else’s coat when you do finally find that front door. This was definitely not the kind of bar where you dump a girlfriend unless it’s vital that your evening’s ... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4382908 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 21:26:09 +0100 4382908 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4372193&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FOrHgpUU4o0A%2F photo: Thinkstock I’ve been 30 for one week. I have a new driver’s license. Thanks to my age, I now check a different box on questionnaires. Thirty doesn’t feel that far removed from 28 or 29, but the fact that I’ve entered a new decade has given me the heebie-jeebies and has me asking, “Now what?” Lately, I’ve find myself concerned about weird things, like anti-wrinkle skin cream and decreasing metabolism. But beyond the vanity-related anxieties about aging, a few serious thoughts also have been bothering me, like the status of my professional career and motherhood — issues I thought would be resolved by my 30th birthday. Exactly one month prior to “the day,” I sat on my couch wide-awake at 1 a.m., struggling with a range of emotions about exiting my 20s. As so... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4372193 Wed, 19 Jan 2011 18:17:35 +0100 4372193 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4343273&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F4FE6UEhL7Cs%2F photo: Thinkstock My husband and I are in couples counseling. We’ve been married for almost a decade, and have been seeing a therapist together for three of those years. The twist? We don’t hate each other. We don’t fight any more than most couples. And we’re not separated or contemplating divorce. In short, our marriage really isn’t in trouble. So if there’s nothing wrong, why on earth have we been dropping our hard-earned dollars once a week (or sometimes every other week) on a pricey clinical psychologist with a PhD who specializes in solving relationship issues between committed couples? Because our marriage really isn’t in trouble, that’s why. And we’d like to keep it that way. Most people probably think of couples counseling as a ... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4343273 Thu, 13 Jan 2011 21:15:32 +0100 4343273 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4338179&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FFoY8kRvlcQI%2F photo: NFL.com Last Monday night men and women across America faced a serious dilemma: The Bachelor or football? For couples without two TVs or DVR service, this could be a potentially relationship-ending argument. Not only do these broadcasts provide entertaining, high-stakes TV, but missing them is also a major setback when it comes to Tuesday’s water cooler and/or Facebook gossip fests. At first viewing, these shows sit on the opposite ends of the entertainment spectrum. The Bachelor is a money-making reality franchise for ABC where women self-destruct on national television under the pressure of dating a man with multiple girlfriends. The NFL (and college games) display gladiator-like athletes taking the field (or model-like, where the Patriots’ Tom Brady is concerned) in order... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4338179 Wed, 12 Jan 2011 23:01:49 +0100 4338179 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4338180&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FlDV9YKpJmsU%2F photo: Thinkstock Lately, we’ve been talking a lot about couples who live together and the taboo idea of having separate bedrooms. Several of you have made your thoughts on this controversial subject known, so we thought we’d give the rest of you a chance to air your opinions (anonymously) about whether you think couples who choose to have separate bedrooms are utterly enlightened (maybe your partner just snores loudly?) or completely nuts. (Can you say “heading for divorce court”?) Or perhaps the two of you are simply drifting apart, and separate bedrooms are an early sign of trouble. Regardless, take our separate bedrooms poll and sound off. You can also make more specific (anonymous) comments about separate bedrooms (and share your personal experiences) in the c... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4338180 Tue, 11 Jan 2011 20:10:39 +0100 4338180 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4338181&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FdVhRiTcEUb0%2F Friend or Un-Friend? What to do when your close pal doesn’t respect the boundaries of your sex addiction recovery. (via Slate XX) Post from: BlissTree (Source: Genetics and Health) Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4338181 Tue, 11 Jan 2011 19:00:55 +0100 4338181 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4331163&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FmRDCUlAiUEM%2F photo: Thinkstock On Friday afternoon I wrote a post about my husband’s “dream” to have separate bedrooms, and several Blisstree readers have already made their strong opinions known about the subject in our comments section. (Keep them coming, people!) I’d like to address one specific reader’s comments in this follow-up post. I’m very grateful to this reader (Katie) for sharing her thoughts, because they bring up other important aspects of the separate bedrooms debate. Here’s Katie’s comment, which has been edited for clarity: A marriage or relationship is in trouble when a couple can’t even stand to be in the same room together while sleeping. The wife in this article wants to come to bed after her husband is asleep, then make the room no... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4331163 Mon, 10 Jan 2011 19:04:09 +0100 4331163 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4326997&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FD7z-6yxsFF4%2F Even at its best, dating can be difficult – so check out these 11 dating resolutions to help you take a smarter approach to your love life in 2011. (via Vitamin G) Post from: BlissTree (Source: Genetics and Health) Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4326997 Mon, 10 Jan 2011 02:54:40 +0100 4326997 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4322635&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F_Oz4OgLel1w%2F photo: Thinkstock My husband has a dream: Separate bedrooms. It’s a dream he’s had for a while. It’s a simple dream, yet one that can create serious complications in a marriage. And two single beds in the same room a la Lucy and Ricky won’t do. In his dreamland, my husband requires his own bedroom with his own bed, and a door that closes. But the reality is that we live in New York City, where having an apartment with an extra room is the equivalent of winning a $300 million Powerball lottery (and as likely). Don’t get me wrong: My marriage isn’t in trouble (that I know of). My husband doesn’t want his own bedroom because we fight and slam doors and need to spend time apart. (Although we’re perfectly capable of doing all of the above.) He dre... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4322635 Fri, 07 Jan 2011 22:00:44 +0100 4322635 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4302906&cid=t_112826_117_f&fid=38856&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.timemastermd.com%2F%3Fp%3D1695 Axe Body Spray, is the best-selling deodorant spray on the market and the bane of households—nationwide.  Axe has an overpowering  smell – but that doesn’t mean that is smells good to women.  Women simply have a much better smelling apparatus than guys do.    Men have biology working against them as their noses that are 200 to 1,000 times less sensitive than a woman’s, plus oily skin holds scents much longer than dry skin. Androstenol (testosterone steroid) is the scent produced by fresh male sweat, and is attractive to females. Androstenone  (oxidized testosterone steroid) is produced by male sweat after exposure to oxygen and it is perceived as highly unpleasant by females.  So, men who believe that their ‘macho’, sweaty body-odor is attractive to women ar... Timemaster MD blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4302906 Sat, 01 Jan 2011 19:09:04 +0100 4302906 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4266088&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F2gEqSeAGy_k%2F Our sage feline, Victor the Cat, returns with romantic relationship advice for the weary. This week is all about the complexities of long-distance love affairs. Dear Victor the Cat, This guy I kind of knew in high school and I started Facebooking a little over a year ago. We met up in person in early August and spent an amazing five hours together, after which we kissed. At the time, I lived in Berkeley and he lived in Los Angeles. We then continued communicating on Facebook and texting and also began talking on the phone. Pretty soon we were talking every day for hours. I wasn’t sure how I felt about him in the beginning, but I really began to like him, and he told me he really liked me, too. The problem is that he had to move to New York to do his rotations. (He’s a medical s... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4266088 Thu, 16 Dec 2010 22:00:36 +0100 4266088 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4266091&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FYSGCqNnZ0iE%2F Can you safely (and regularly) sleep with your ex-husband without repercussions? (via The Frisky) Post from: BlissTree (Source: Genetics and Health) Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4266091 Wed, 15 Dec 2010 23:00:08 +0100 4266091 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4266093&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2Fel966iX62Pc%2F photo: Thinkstock Check out this post about Facebook and divorce by Jennifer Barton on Lemondrop. Whatever happened to the good old days when a mysterious expensive jewelry purchase was evidence of cheating? Now, all it takes is a distinctly unglamorous poke on Facebook. In fact, the social networking site has been blamed for its involvement in one in every five divorces, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. Many of these indiscretions involve past lovers reconnecting via the site. 80 percent of divorce lawyers surveyed also said that there’s been a sharp rise in the number of cases using social media as evidence of cheating, with flirty messages and photos cited as proof of irreconcilable differences or inappropriate behavior. Keep reading on Lemondrop. Post fro... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4266093 Wed, 15 Dec 2010 17:30:09 +0100 4266093 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4259093&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FmwQYciAdO_0%2F A recent New York Times Modern Love essay “Honey, Let’s Get a Little Divorced” by Rachel Zucker, was well-written and poetic, which makes sense, because the author is a published writer and poet. But I have issues with her column. I’m very glad that Ms. Zucker and her husband have outlasted the marriages of both their divorced parents. As anyone who’s ever been married for any length of time can tell you, this is an impressive achievement, to be sure. But the article’s clever angle of “let’s act a little divorced so we can become better partners” could just as easily have been couched as: “‘let’s pretend we’re both single and never got married in the first place.” That said, I completely understand the auth... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4259093 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 19:16:43 +0100 4259093 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4259094&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FBTcBYX9J4vg%2F Single and unhappy about it? Here are eight reasons why you may not have a partner – even though you probably don’t want to hear them. (via The Frisky) Post from: BlissTree (Source: Genetics and Health) Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4259094 Tue, 14 Dec 2010 02:08:16 +0100 4259094 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4245478&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FWShIrZ9AvfQ%2F Not looking forward to the holidays so much? You may not be such a terrible person after all. TV commercials show perfect, ecstatically happy families next to a new car with a red bow around it, and we’re bombarded with these absurd images around this time of year. But the reality is that many of us have crazy dads or sisters we don’t talk to or a stepmom we, well, hate. And that’s actually okay. The more we face up to the truth that most families are far from perfect, the more we can embrace ours, however dysfunctional. Then we’ll be able to better cope with the holidays, and perhaps even enjoy them a little. “It’s important to recognize that families are complex and unique,” says Noelle Nelson, a licensed clinical psychologist and author of nine books. “You have to fl... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4245478 Thu, 09 Dec 2010 20:44:30 +0100 4245478 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4238059&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2F-GH7iPJIVSQ%2F Dear Victor the Cat: I got back together with an ex about a year ago, but he didn’t want to commit to a serious relationship, preferring that we keep it casual (meaning he has freedom to sleep with other women). I thought our “relationship” would fade away when he moved to another city this fall to go to grad school. But he’s kept in constant contact, and we talk daily. He even still tells me that he loves me. But whenever I bring up the idea of us becoming exclusive, he refuses to discuss it. I’m dating other people, but it makes me feel guilty. And thinking of him being with another woman makes me feel sick. What should I do? Signed, Stuck and Sad Dear Stuck and Sad: You seem nice, so I’m going to give you some kitty-cat straight talk. Why is this guy ... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4238059 Tue, 07 Dec 2010 20:53:54 +0100 4238059 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4225530&cid=t_112826_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FSfvrbLyKV7Q%2F Maybe I’m over-sensitive to height-related criticism, but the headline on this post on The Frisky yesterday, proclaiming the height difference between tiny female celebs and their towering beaus “freakish,” really upset me. Maybe another adjective is in order. I would have used “funny looking in photos but more acceptable than the alternative.” But I’m guessing “freakish” makes for a better headline. Ironically, the post’s writer seems to be on the same page as me, in that she believes that dating guys who are taller than you can be really hot. So, don’t judge me when I say that I’m 5′2″ and have dated my share of guys 6′ and above — and I love it. Yes, it’s funny to see two people a foot or two... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4225530 Wed, 01 Dec 2010 19:35:33 +0100 4225530 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4219829&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2F9gPzXQlLC-0%2F – Blisstree contributor Jessica Firger on her demands from potential suitors, from her post: Dating Rules: Google Is a Girl’s Best Friend Post from: BlissTree My takeaway here is a little selfish, but it’s simple. If you’re an online sleazebag and a seemingly decent person in the flesh, could you please just be an asshole in the real world and make things a little easier for me? (Source: A Hearty Life) A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4219829 Wed, 01 Dec 2010 13:00:47 +0100 4219829 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4214210&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FLICtA03Zb1A%2F – Blisstree Editor-in-Chief Christine Egan calls bullshit on the dangerous concept of soulmates, in her post: Relationships: The Great Soulmate Debate Post from: BlissTree My wedding vows went something like this: “Hi there. So, I don’t believe that people are “meant to be together.” I also don’t think there’s only one person in the world for you, and if you don’t find that person you’ll never be happy. I’m not into destiny. I’m into choice. You choose the person you want to be with…and I choose him.” (Bride indicates groom.) While nervously gathering my thoughts the night before, I had a feeling this line of reasoning might make a few guests uncomfortable (i.e. mother, mother-in-law-to-be), which is one reason I asked the bartender to open up shop an hour before ... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4214210 Tue, 30 Nov 2010 13:00:26 +0100 4214210 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4197157&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FvoLufeM0-Zs%2F If you’re currently dating or in a relationship, enjoy it while it lasts. You’ll find the cause of its demise on this handy flow chart. Yes, dying old and married is one way your current relationship could end. But don’t worry — it will probably die way before you do. Click the image to enlarge. via Buzzfeed Post from: BlissTree Depressing Infographic: This Is How Your Relationship Will End (Source: A Hearty Life) A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4197157 Tue, 23 Nov 2010 22:41:09 +0100 4197157 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4197159&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FnwdKxUMc2dg%2F Dear Victor: It’s a short work week, so I’ll make this brief. I recently started dating a guy that I actually had a relationship with in high school (for six months), and then again in college (for another few months). Now, eight years after that, we’ve started seeing each other again. (He currently lives in our hometown, but is in the process of moving to my city — but for him, not for me.) It’s only been a few weeks this time around, and we’ve been able to take things slow, which is good. And we’ve been friends for a long time — also good. My question is: How can I make sure we don’t repeat the same mistakes we made in the past? Namely, conflict due to different life goals and communication issues? Signed, Seriously Stumped Dear SS: I... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4197159 Tue, 23 Nov 2010 18:13:42 +0100 4197159 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4190246&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2Ftk6gU1MFdUs%2F photo: Thinkstock Check out this post about the new dating site CanDoBetter.com by Diana Vilibert on Lemondrop. I think I’m great at picking men, but if I had a penny for every time a friend met a guy I was dating and said, “You can do better,” I’d have enough money to bail my ex-boyfriend out of jail. Kidding! No one keeps her pennies. Anyway, my point is, sometimes we ladies don’t choose too well when it comes to guys. True, it’s hard to find someone with a comparable level of Awesome, but I mean, sometimes it’s like we’re not even trying, you know? Well, relationship expert Dr. J.D. Block certainly knows, and he got so tired of hearing you bitch about “personality” and “good sense of humor” and other such nonsense, ... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4190246 Mon, 22 Nov 2010 17:50:11 +0100 4190246 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4190247&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FvswcZzZ58cw%2F – Blisstree contributor Patrick Sauer on how separate Thanksgivings and Christmases can make for happy marriages, from his post: My Wife and I Always Spend the Holidays Apart (And We Like It That Way) Post from: BlissTree My Uncle John always cooks up a nice prime rib on Christmas Day, and the night before, Mom and I go out to eat. One year, the only place we could find open was a Shula’s Steakhouse. Their menu comes on a football, an actual leather football. God bless us, everyone! Kim’s experience is a little more Bedford Falls to my Pottersville, which suits us both just fine. Her upside is the Christmas-y feel of hot cocoa in her pajamas; mine is that Mom no longer has the desire to attend Christmas mass. (Source: A Hearty Life) A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4190247 Mon, 22 Nov 2010 13:00:14 +0100 4190247 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4190248&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2F9i5kjG9e19Y%2F photo: Thinkstock Check out this post about what men look for in women from Lemondrop. A new poll asked single men what they’re really looking for in a woman, and it turns out that it’s okay that you’re totally crazy and don’t know what you want. Neither do they! The guys surveyed said they wanted a successful, career-oriented woman who earns a lot of money, but they also want their partner to stay at home and raise the kids. Ha ha, weird conundrum, right? Whew, good thing this is a paradox men are confronting. Not like we’d want to have to deal with it or anything. A guy also prefers that a woman be ready to go out for the night in ten minutes. (Naturally, considering she’ll be confident and attractive enough to leave the house without makeup, duh.) Add... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4190248 Sun, 21 Nov 2010 16:00:03 +0100 4190248 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4186946&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FBgJAl4EiFDw%2F – Blisstree contributor Hailey Eber on the harsh realities of bringing a new little one home, and the serious strain that can create for you and your partner, from her post: Puppy Love: How My Beloved Pooch Almost Ruined My Long-Term Relationship Post from: BlissTree We laid out pee pads and cleaned up poo. We cuddled, and were nibbled and nipped. We documented exhaustively. We Facebook-ed and Flickr-ed our new bundle of joy. We threw a puppy shower in retaliation for any and all baby showers we’d ever attended, and ever would attend. We went to the park. We potty trained. We befriended strangers who took no interest in us, only in what was at the end of our leash. We "oooohed" and "ahhhhhed" at our adorable new arrival, but less at each other. We awakened in the middle of the night to... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4186946 Sat, 20 Nov 2010 15:00:39 +0100 4186946 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4175801&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FNaNCp8nY3tQ%2F photo: Anwar Hussein/WENN.com Bollocks, Kate Middleton. It was a “total shock” when Prince William proposed to you three weeks ago while you were “on holiday” at a quiet safari lodge in Africa? But you’ve been together (on and off) for almost nine years! Are you telling me that in all that time the subject of marriage never came up? (We know it must have, because in your recent ITV News interview with Tom Bradby, Prince William mentioned that lately you and he had been discussing your future and the possibility of marriage.) So why did Prince William alone get to decide when to take one of the biggest steps of your lives? Because he’s royalty and you’re a commoner – albeit a rich one? Last time I checked, the Queen’s name was Elizabeth, not... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4175801 Wed, 17 Nov 2010 23:29:48 +0100 4175801 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4175807&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FMi6YuPV_GiQ%2F – Blisstree relationship columnist Victor the Cat with pragmatic advice for yet another reader with a complicated love-life issue, from his post: Relationships on the Rocks: Sex, Lies, and Victor the Cat (Ask Him for Advice) Post from: BlissTree Personally, I think your girlfriend owes you an explanation (however brief) about why she uses the secret cell phone in the first place; and why she went “ballistic” and threw you out of the house. However, in a romantic relationship, we rarely get the responses, reactions, and results that we want. (Which is why I’m glad I’m a cat whose balls have been cut off. I don’t require or crave romance, only platonic cuddling.) Unfortunately, you may just have to accept that you and she aren’t together anymore, and that the relationship is ov... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4175807 Wed, 17 Nov 2010 13:00:48 +0100 4175807 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4172135&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FCjjuLS0t3pE%2F Prince William and Kate Middleton are finally getting hitched, according to announcements today by the British royal family. Their wedding, which is expected to happen in spring or summer 2011, will be the biggest royal wedding since Charles and Diana’s fairy-tale ceremony in 1981, and is expected to be one of the most widely-watched television events in years. According to officials at Clarence House, the couple, both 28, got engaged last month while on a trip to Kenya, when Prince William gave Middleton his mother’s sapphire and diamond engagement ring. The royal engagement has sparked a wildfire of media reports, and has us contemplating the past and future of their relationship. The couple met in September 2001 at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland, from which they b... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4172135 Tue, 16 Nov 2010 18:33:32 +0100 4172135 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4168022&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FEqp22W2WCLY%2F Hi Victor. I’ll cut to the chase. My girlfriend and I have been together for about four years. She has two kids and I have one but we treat and see ourselves as a family of five. There have been problems in the distant past, and last April she moved out. That lasted for about three weeks, and we’ve been back together since then. I’m not perfect, but have been trying to be the best guy I can be for her. In the past I was mistrustful, but that was a long time ago. But you know how it is — when an argument starts it always gets brought up. Up until last Tuesday, everything was going well; there had been a bit of, shall we say, distance from her, but all-in-all we spent every day together and knew everything about each other. She then ditched important plans on us, and then I f... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4168022 Mon, 15 Nov 2010 20:49:42 +0100 4168022 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4162962&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2F1ktyMDGe9to%2F – Blisstree contributor Hailey Eber on how one very small adopted dog triggered very big problems in her home and love life, from her post: Puppy Love: How My Beloved Pooch Almost Ruined My Long-Term Relationship Post from: BlissTree Off I went, and no matter how many souvenirs I brought back with me, I couldn’t quite make up for my extended absence. Partly in retaliation, the boyfriend booked a nearly two-week trip abroad of his own home to see his family. He was angry, and I was angry at him for being angry, and that, it seems, is how we went from puppy dreams to a near break-up in approximately the time it took our little miracle to grow a full set of adult teeth and learn how to defecate outside. (Source: A Hearty Life) A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4162962 Sat, 13 Nov 2010 15:00:02 +0100 4162962 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4155276&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2F5c_uZ6QOHBI%2F Sorry, Singles: A new study shows that sex is most satisfying when you’re in a committed relationship. (via Asylum) Post from: BlissTree (Source: A Hearty Life) A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4155276 Wed, 10 Nov 2010 19:01:35 +0100 4155276 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4151908&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FA0ogiPyIoRI%2F – Blisstree contributor Patrick Sauer on the big Christmas traditions that he and his wife of ten years celebrate – separately and in different states – from his post: My Wife and I Always Spend the Holidays Apart (And We Like It That Way) Post from: BlissTree My Uncle John always cooks up a nice prime rib on Christmas Day, and the night before, Mom and I go out to eat. One year, the only place we could find open was a Shula’s Steakhouse. Their menu comes on a football, an actual leather football. God bless us, everyone! Kim’s experience is a little more Bedford Falls to my Pottersville, which suits us both just fine. Her upside is the Christmas-y feel of hot cocoa in her pajamas; mine is that Mom no longer has the desire to attend Christmas mass. The most important part is that ... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4151908 Wed, 10 Nov 2010 13:00:43 +0100 4151908 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4151909&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FgJ9AFbBTWg0%2F Jules, our French Bulldog and long-term relationship tester I’m at my friend K’s apartment, crying and drinking whatever Trader Joe’s wine she happens to have on hand. “We just can’t stop fighting,” I mumble. “We just have different ideas as to how he should be raised. He wants me to stay home more; he doesn’t want us to put him in day care.” K nods. I can see her analytical, lawyer-brain quickly equating my relationship and its issues with the one she left a year or so ago. “This is totally déjà vu,” she says. She’s silently thinking my long-term boyfriend and I are destined for the same fate as her and her ex – and her ex-cat. Across the room, my six-month-old puppy sniffs a pile of junk belonging to K’s annoying roommate, blithely unaware of the drama h... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4151909 Tue, 09 Nov 2010 22:58:48 +0100 4151909 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4142829&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FnFN5Y0QxD8A%2F – Blisstree contributor Patrick Sauer on the unusual holiday tradition that he and his wife have practiced for a decade, from his post: My Wife and I Always Spend the Holidays Apart (And We Like It That Way) Post from: BlissTree Last Christmas Eve, my wife Kim and I performed our annual holiday ritual. No stockings were hung, no champagne was toasted, no duet of “There’s No Place Like Home for the Holidays was sung,” no gifts were exchanged. Just a couple of simple ‘I love yous” before drifting off to sleep. 270 miles apart. For ten years running, we’ve spent the holidays apart. And it’s not just Christmas. We usually go our separate ways for Thanksgiving, too. (Source: A Hearty Life) A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4142829 Sat, 06 Nov 2010 14:00:40 +0100 4142829 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4139305&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2Fmvw2miIxBSU%2F Behind the Smile: What could be secretly killing your relationship. (via YourTango) Post from: BlissTree (Source: A Hearty Life) A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4139305 Fri, 05 Nov 2010 14:23:24 +0100 4139305 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4125085&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FE72ZbOLStt0%2F Back to the weekly grind. Here I am again, Victor the Cat, giving you free relationship advice and expecting nothing in return except a moderately tidy litterbox. Here’s a question from a Blisstree reader named Bri: Dear Victor: I really like a guy from my acting class. I’m a senior in high school and he is a senior in college so it gets complicated from the get-go. He seems to be into me, we talk several times a week, and then he kissed me once. He asked me to hang out but we are both really busy so it never happened. Then once when we were alone rehearsing a scene we ended up making out. It’s been a month since then and even though I kept trying to set things up, we still haven’t hung out. He seems to want to hook up with me again, but I’m starting to feel like he just ... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4125085 Mon, 01 Nov 2010 16:47:38 +0100 4125085 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4119127&cid=t_112826_111_f&fid=36048&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAHeartyLife%2F%7E3%2FyyL-fGftuI0%2F Check out this post from Emily V. Gordon on Lemondrop. Striking a major blow to those of you who think Matthew McConaughey films lack realism, researchers at Syracuse University are here to argue that falling stupid, stupid in love isn’t a social construct and is, indeed, a real biological phenomenon. But before you declare victory over cynics, be warned — these are scientists, so we’re talking about love as a series of chemical processes in the brain. YAY, ROMANCE! Just as you can identify emotions like anger or happiness by figuring out how they correspond to brain function, Dr. Stephanie Ortigue and her crew have been running scans on the brains and bodies of people who claim to be smitten, and they’ve found some amazing things. First, you know all those books w... A Hearty Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4119127 Tue, 26 Oct 2010 18:23:28 +0100 4119127 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4105629&cid=t_112826_87_f&fid=34872&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Ffeel%2Fask-victor-the-cat-our-fat-feline-tackles-your-toughest-relationships-woes%2F People, I have no more teeth. Remember my dental surgery last week? Well, they yanked them all out while I was asleep. me-OWW. (Okay, they left two tiny ones for posterity. How humiliating.) Now I have to eat the cat food equivalent of mashed-up old-people food for a while. And the tall lady I live with is always trying to shove a dropper full of what I understand are antibiotics in my mouth. Nasty business. On the upside, I’ve been sleeping around 20 hours a day. (Thank you, pain meds!) Now, I may not have any teeth left, but here’s what I do have: Relationship advice. And this week, it looks like a deeply troubled reader named Kristen could really use some. (Fair warning: Kristen’s multi-part question is long and very serious, so settle in and make sure your laptop has ... Healthbolt blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4105629 Mon, 25 Oct 2010 19:40:02 +0100 4105629 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4105633&cid=t_112826_87_f&fid=34872&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Ffeel%2Fbut-%25e2%2580%2594-and-this-is-important-%25e2%2580%2594-i-wouldn%25e2%2580%2599t-immediately-jump-into-a-relationship-with-your-best-friend-take-some-time-be-alone-and-get-your-head-together-mourn-your-recently-e%2F – Blisstree’s relationship advice columnist, Victor the Cat, dispensing love-life counsel to a reader (moments before the fat cat’s own dental surgery), from his post Ask Victor the Cat: Our Fat Feline Returns to Solve Your Relationship Troubles Post from: BlissTree But — and this is important — I wouldn’t immediately jump into a relationship with your best friend. Take some time, be alone, and get your head together. Mourn your recently ended relationship. Then, after a while, when you and your best friend are more clear-headed (provided she’s available), you can explore the idea of having a real relationship with each other. Hot damn, I’m good. Best of luck to you, Paul. I’ll think of you as I’m eating my dinner through a straw. (Source: Healthbolt) Healthbolt blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4105633 Mon, 25 Oct 2010 12:00:46 +0100 4105633 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4105634&cid=t_112826_87_f&fid=34872&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Ffeel%2Fa-former-sister-wife-on-why-she-left-the-polygamist-life%2F photo via Lemondrop Check out this post from Susan Ray Schmidt on Lemondrop. I was watching “Sister Wives” on TV. I placed the apple I’d been munching on the lamp table and leaned forward in my chair, thoughtfully staring at my flat-screen. The blue eyes of the woman looking into the camera appeared honest and sincere. Her voice was friendly and steady as she explained to her TV show audience that she, Janelle, was wife number two in her polygamous family. Her husband, Kody, and her sister-wives, Meri and Christine, all lived together in one huge home right in Salt Lake City. Their 12 children ate and romped together. The women valued one another and wouldn’t know what to do without the amazing bond that knit them all together as a family unit. They shared various f... Healthbolt blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4105634 Sun, 24 Oct 2010 15:00:52 +0100 4105634