MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'denial'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 01:52:57 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5103517&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fco-dependent-relapse%2F A Checklist of Symptoms Leading to Co-dependent Relapse: Co-dependent : A Person who has let someone else’s behavior affect him or her and is obsessed with controlling others behaviour Denial Patterns: I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel. I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others. Low Self-esteem Patterns: I have difficulty making decisions. I judge everything I think, say, or do harshly, as never “good enough.” I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts. I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires. I value others’ approval of my thinking, feelings, and behaviors over my own. I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person. Compliance Patterns: I c... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5103517 Sat, 06 Aug 2011 15:48:00 +0100 5103517 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5051245&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdifferent-types-of-stress-in-recovery%2F People in 12 Step Fellowships need to be aware of the different types of stress that can affect their recovery. What are the different types of stress? Acute stress Acute stress is the most common and most recognizable form of stress, the kind of sudden jolt in which you know exactly why you’re stressed: you were just in a car accident; the school nurse just called; a bear just ambled onto your campsite. Or it can be something scary but thrilling, such as a parachute jump. Along with obvious dangers and threats, common causes of acute stressors include noise, isolation, crowding, and hunger. Normally, your body rests when these types of stressful events cease and your life gets back to normal. Because the effects are short-term, acute stress usually doesn’t cause severe or permanent... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5051245 Thu, 21 Jul 2011 13:51:54 +0100 5051245 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5029221&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Frecovery-self-awareness%2F Meditating Mindfulness for Recovery Mindfulness is a form of self-awareness training adapted from Buddhist mindfulness meditation. It has been adapted for use in treatment of depression, especially preventing relapse and for assisting with mood regulation. Mindfulness has been described as a state of being in the present, accepting things for what they are, i.e. non-judgementally. It was originally developed to assist with mood regulation and relapse prevention in depression and has been found to have considerable health benefits. These exercises are designed to introduce the principles and can be used by anyone recovering from a mood altering disease such as alcoholism, compulsive gambling, food problems, addiction, codependency or adult children of alcoholics.. If you let cloudy water s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5029221 Fri, 15 Jul 2011 00:01:05 +0100 5029221 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5029223&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsurrender-to-win-2%2F Willingness is the key The Higher Power Is Good “Before Alcoholics Anonymous, I could not, or would not, admit I was wrong. My pride would not let me. And yet I was ashamed of me. Caught in this conflict, I banished the Higher Power from my life because I felt He asked me to adhere to a behavior pattern too high for a man of my human frailty. Somehow, I believed that there could be no forgiveness of any failure, that he Higher Power required me to be all good. The moral of the story of the Prodigal Son eluded me. “Since I thought trying was not enough, I stopped trying. That made me feel guilty. For a while, alcohol blotted out the guilt. Then alcohol became the greatest cause of my guilt. I had to be beaten to a pulp physically, mentally and emotionally, become bankrupt in all... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5029223 Wed, 13 Jul 2011 11:25:41 +0100 5029223 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4997829&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fbig-book-quick-reference%2F A quick reference guide to the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book. We offer this quick guide in the hope that it may help another. It is not complete but may serve as a starting point. The Principles of the 12 Step Program Step 1 Honesty  Step 2 Hope Step 3 Faith Step 4 Courage Step 5 Integrity Step 6 Willingness Step 7 Humility  Step 8 Brotherly Love Step 9 Justice Step 10 Perseverance Step 11 Spirituality Step 12 Service Helpful Index of References AA Origin:  XV-XVII AA Organization:  XIX, 567 AA Program Summary:  164 Acceptance:  14, 30, 449, 452 Admission:  25, 72-73 Agnostics:  44-57 Alcoholic:  XXIV-XXVII Alcoholism:  30-43 Aloneness:  17, 89 Ambition:  68, 7... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4997829 Sun, 03 Jul 2011 15:14:00 +0100 4997829 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4934339&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F06%2F12%2Fmoney-problems-6-steps-to-transform-your-money-life%2F I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t have a money problem right now, in this economy. Even the wealthiest of the wealthy are fretting because the fortunes they stashed in bonds and stocks aren’t performing with the same gust of the 90s, and, even if you have 5 billion dollars, seeing that figure change by a half of a billion produces anxiety and pacing. I wouldn’t know. But I’m guessing. So it was with interest I read financial advisor Karen Lee’s book, It’s Just Money, So Why Does It Cause So Many Problems?. Lee has worked in the financial services industry since 1987. During that time, she has worked with hundreds of families, individuals, and small businesses to help them work towards their financial goals. And to boot, she’s a regular guest expert on CNN. Here are... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4934339 Sun, 12 Jun 2011 12:28:50 +0100 4934339 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4893923&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstages-in-the-alcoholic-family%2F Chaos in alcoholic familiesA family with an alcohol in its midst will go through several stages in dealing with the chaos and disruption caused by the alcoholic. These stages are described below in order of appearance.Denial: Early in the development of alcoholism, occasional episodes of excessive drinking are explained away by both marriage partners. Drinking because of tiredness, worry, or a bad day is not unbelievable. The assumption is that the episode is isolated and is, therefore, not a problem.Attempts to Eliminate the Problem:The non-alcoholic spouse realizes that the drinking is not normal and tries to pressure the alcoholic to quit, be more careful, or cut down. At the same time, the spouse tries to hide the problems from the outside and keep up a good.front. Children may start t... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4893923 Fri, 03 Jun 2011 19:03:25 +0100 4893923 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4893924&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdaily-moral-inventory%2F Twelve Step Fellowships suggest we ‘continue to take personal inventory’ as part of the program of continuing recovery.One way that many use is when we retire at night, we constructively review our day.Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest, or afraid?Tick Boxes daily. There might be one tick per line or there might be a tick in both sides or none Characteristics of Self Will     Characteristics of Higher Power’s Will Selfish & Self-Seeking  Interest In OthersDishonesty  HonestyFrightened  CourageInconsideration  ConsiderationPride  Humility – Seeking God’s WillGreed  Giving Or SharingLust  What We Can Do For OthersAnger  CalmnessEnvy  GratitudeSloth&#... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4893924 Fri, 03 Jun 2011 15:29:00 +0100 4893924 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4862545&cid=t_104519_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fwhen-physicians-have-to-say-no-does-patient-satisfaction-suffer%2F2011.05.25 The short answer: No. At least not in the context of a strong physician-patient relationship. Many physicians have legitimate concerns about the prospects of having their salary or level reimbursement linked to patient satisfaction. I would too given the way most health care providers go about measuring and interpreting patient satisfaction data. A major concern of physicians is the issue of patient requests – particularly the impact of unfulfilled (and unreasonable) requests upon patient satisfaction. According to researchers, explicit patient requests for medications, diagnostic tests and specialty referrals occur in between 25% to 40% of primary care visits. This figure is much higher when requests for information are factored in. (more…) *This blog post was originall... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4862545 Wed, 25 May 2011 14:00:01 +0100 4862545 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4848004&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F05%2F20%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-may-20-2011%2F You probably noticed by now, but we’re all excited that it’s not only Mental Health Awareness Month, but a few days ago on May 18, our bloggers participated in blogging for mental health. It’s been a wonderful week spreading information about mental health and busting stigma that still exists on mental illness. Why is spreading mental health awareness and fighting prejudice so important? About ten years ago, I was talking to a college classmate about depression. He was just 20 years old and I was a few years older and several years ahead of him in terms of my experience with mental illness. I had witnessed the impact depression had on my grandfather when I was 16. When the topic of mental illness and depression came up, he passionately voiced his opinions to me. He felt t... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4848004 Fri, 20 May 2011 10:24:20 +0100 4848004 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4753689&cid=t_104519_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fdr-steve-novella-defends-science-and-reason-on-the-dr-oz-show%2F2011.04.26 I must say I was a bit shocked two weeks ago when I was contacted by a producer for The Dr. Oz Show inviting me on to discuss alternative medicine. We have been quite critical of Dr. Mehmet Oz over his promotion of dubious medical treatments and practitioners, and I wondered if they were aware of the extent of our criticism (they were, it turns out). Despite the many cautions I received from friends and colleagues (along with support as well) – I am always willing to engage those with whom I disagree. I knew it was a risk going into a forum completely controlled by someone who does not appear to look kindly upon my point of view, but a risk worth taking. I could only hope I was given the opportunity to make my case (and that it would survive the editing process). The Process Of course, e... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4753689 Tue, 26 Apr 2011 22:36:35 +0100 4753689 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4684770&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcoping-depression-in-adult-children-of-alcoholics%2F Coping Behavior and Depressive Symptoms in Adult Children of AlcoholicsThis research examined whether adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs) would report more depressive mood symptoms as compared to non-ACOAs, whether coping behaviors differed as a function of ACOA status, and whether specific coping behaviors were related to depressive mood symptoms in ACOAs.Participants were 136 college students categorized as ACOAs and 436 college students categorized as non-ACOAs.As compared to non-ACOAs, ACOAs reported significantly more symptoms of depressive mood.On the COPE Inventory, ACOAs reported higher use of the following coping strategies:Withdrawal and defend themselves physically, cognitively and emotionally,Denial,Focus on Venting of Emotions,Humor, andSubstance Use.For both the ACOA and non... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4684770 Tue, 05 Apr 2011 14:51:08 +0100 4684770 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4653610&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstigma-and-alcoholism%2F There is no physical or psychiatric condition more associated with social disapproval and discrimination than alcohol and/or other drug (AOD) dependence. Alcoholism/ addiction-related social stigma constitutes a major obstacle to personal and family recovery, contributes to pushing addiction professionals to the fringes therapy and their organizations, and limits the funding and community provisions allocated to AOD-related problems.Efforts to develop “recovery-oriented systems of care” inevitably confront social stigma as a barrier to shaping community attitudes and policies supportive of long-term addiction recovery.Stigma Defined Stigma is the experience of being held in contempt (shunned or rendered socially invisible) because of a socially disapproved position. It involves process... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4653610 Sun, 27 Mar 2011 16:37:08 +0100 4653610 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4522296&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F30-workaholic-questions%2F Workaholism or Work Addict?Answer yes or no to each questionIs your work very important to you?Do you like things done ‘just right’?Do you tend to see things as black or white, not grey?Are you competitive and often determined to win?Is it important for you to be right?Are you overly critical of yourself if you make a mistake?Are you afraid of failing?Are you restless and impulsive and easily bored?Do you drive yourself, and have high levels of energy and stamina?Do you suffer periodic bouts of extreme fatigue?Do you take work home and work nights and/or weekends?Do you feel uneasy or guilty if there is nothing to do?Do you think you are special or different from other people?Do you read work related material when you eat alone?Do you make lists of things to do or keep a daily diary?Do... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4522296 Wed, 23 Feb 2011 16:07:01 +0100 4522296 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4489985&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FEsEBu0zngAk%2F These symptoms and characteristics of the thoughts and actions of a codependent are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation.Denial Symptoms: I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel.I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others.Low Self Esteem Symptoms: I have difficulty making decisions.I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never “good enough.”I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.I value others approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own.I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.Compliance Symptoms: I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others anger... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4489985 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 15:17:02 +0100 4489985 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4464708&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdefence-denial-mechanisms%2F Denial is Hazy ThinkingAlcoholics, addicts and co-dependents use many and varied combinations of these. Identify yours and work to eliminate them.When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us – Alexander Graham BellDefence and denial mechanisms are used by all human beings and may be necessary for survival in some situations.We’ve all used defences and denial to distance ourselves from distressing feelings and maintain a sense of emotional stability. Our defence and denial patterns began in childhood when they prevented us from becoming overwhelmed with anxiety. However, as an adult we outgrow their usefulness. If we continue to use outgrown defences or denial, we are more... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4464708 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 14:56:01 +0100 4464708 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4450525&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fthe-high-functioning-alcoholic%2F Understanding the High Functioning Alcoholic: Professional Views and Personal InsightsWho is the typical alcoholic among the 12.5 million living in the United States now? Many, if not most of us when asked that question, would envision a skid row bum or someone at least out of work or with little education locked into a low-skill, low-paying job. But that is not accurate, according to the results of a national study released in June, 2007 by the National Institutes of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.The NIAAA determined that alcoholics in the United States really fall into five subtypes, including nearly 20 percent who are "highly functional alcoholics, well-educated with good incomes." They include corporate presidents, powerful politicians, police, lawyers, doctors, scientists, an... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4450525 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 16:48:51 +0100 4450525 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4439026&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Frecognizing-co-dependency%2F Alcoholism may be a disease of isolation, but it is rarely an individual problem. Understanding how "enabling" works is the first step in helping both the alcoholic and the co-dependent seek help.Enabling is any action by another person or an institution that intentionally or unintentionally has the effect of facilitating the continuation of an individual’s addictive process.Who Is An Enabler? Most often, enablers are persons who genuinely care about the alcoholic — family, friends, co-workers, clergy.Their love and concern, unfortunately, often leads them to do things that actually help the alcoholic stay that way.They "cover" for the alcoholic, inventing excuses for absenteeism, tardiness, or inappropriate behavior.They "save" the alcoholic by taking... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4439026 Sat, 05 Feb 2011 15:12:00 +0100 4439026 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4399623&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=34958&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.counsellingresource.com%2F%7Er%2Fpsychology-philosophy%2F%7E3%2FfqFzfxE0PuE%2F The latest crop of reality TV tells stories of people suffering because their homes are filled with useless junk and filth. But how many of us treat our time as badly as these people treat their spaces? You may be a "time hoarder" and not even know it.Tags: applying psychology, decision making, denial, OCD, positive psychology, work-life (Source: Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life) Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4399623 Wed, 26 Jan 2011 16:16:16 +0100 4399623 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4399832&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-reasons-for-change-stagnation%2F Image via Wikipedia“We must become the change we want to see.” Mahatma GandhiTop Ten Reasons for Change Resistance, Rebellion or Objection. In alcoholics, addicts or co-dependents these may be deliberate or subconscious – part of the denial syndrome.THE RISK OF CHANGE IS SEEN AS GREATER THAN THE RISK OF STANDING STILLPEOPLE FEEL CONNECTED TO OTHER PEOPLE WHO ARE IDENTIFIED WITH THE OLD WAYPEOPLE HAVE NO ROLE MODELS FOR THE NEW ACTIVITYPEOPLE FEAR THEY LACK THE COMPETENCE TO CHANGEPEOPLE FEEL OVERLOADED AND OVERWHELMEDPEOPLE HAVE A HEALTHY SKEPTICISM AND WANT TO BE SURE NEW IDEAS ARE SOUNDPEOPLE FEAR HIDDEN AGENDAS AMONG WOULD-BE REFORMERSPEOPLE FEEL THE PROPOSED CHANGE THREATENS THEIR NOTIONS OF THEMSELVESPEOPLE ANTICIPATE A LOSS OF STATUS OR QUALITY OF LIFEPEOPLE GENUINELY BELIEVE T... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4399832 Tue, 25 Jan 2011 15:28:00 +0100 4399832 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4386473&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-lame-condom-excuses%2F Condoms are Fun to UseTen reasons why these are lame excuses not to use a condom…I don’t have any infectionsMake sure it stays that way – use a condom every time you have sexI can’t find one that fitsCondoms can stretch to around 3 feet long and 18 inches wide – don’t boast!I have superb controlWith a condom you don’t need to – accidents do happen and you can really get carried away by the passion of the momentSex doesn’t feel as goodUsing a condom stops those niggling worries about pregnancy or STIs – great sex is safer sexCondoms cut off my circulationCondoms can hold 40 litres of air – more inflated than your ego!If you love me you wouldn’t ask me to wear oneIf you loved me you’d protect meThey smell terribleNot any more – they’re vi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4386473 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 15:40:01 +0100 4386473 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4324905&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcharacteristics-of-sexual-compulsion-2%2F Sexual compulsion may seem like a life locked in battle with selfSexual Compulsives Anonymous is a 12 Step Fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other, that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from sexual compulsion.These are the characteristics most of us seem to have in common:As adolescents, we used fantasy and compulsive masturbation to avoid feelings, and continued this tendency into our adult lives with compulsive sex.Compulsive sex became a drug, which we used to escape from feelings such as anxiety, loneliness, anger and self-hatred, as well as joy.We tended to become immobilized by romantic obsessions. We became addicted to the search for sex and love; as a result, we neglected our lives.We sought oblivion in... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4324905 Fri, 07 Jan 2011 06:18:11 +0100 4324905 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4294708&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F12%2F28%2Fwhen-you-see-hoofprints%2F One of the best instructors I had in grad school was the first person to say the phrase “when you see hoofprints look for horses, when you don’t find horses, look for zebras.” The importance of this did not strike me until I was deeper into practicing as a psychologist. I have a lot of people come into my office at various stages of explaining what is happening with them. Some people will say “I don’t know” straight away, whereas others have created a complex narrative. But we can have a tendency in our search for explanations to latch onto things that we read online or heard about on a TV show that have very little probability of being accurate. That is looking for zebras before horses. Sometimes the zebra explanations can be comforting because we can put a name to so... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4294708 Tue, 28 Dec 2010 18:09:06 +0100 4294708 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4287590&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FlQa8_FSAwnc%2F .A new research study reveals a strong link between alcohol dependency and gambling problems, Reuters reported.According to researchers at the Research Institute on Addictions at the University at Buffalo, N.Y., adults with an alcohol addiction are 23 times more likely to have a gambling problem than those who do not drink.“If you’re in trouble with alcohol, the odds you’re also in trouble with gambling increase enormously,” said lead author Dr. John W. Welte. “Most of that correlation is that problem behaviors tend to cluster in the same people.”The study also found factors that identified which racial and ethnic groups were more likely to have a gambling problem. “Gambling is more common among lower socioeconomic people, blacks and Hispanics, than among ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4287590 Fri, 17 Dec 2010 17:57:02 +0100 4287590 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4253457&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FfdFyZa5Rz4M%2F • “If I could have stayed cool, I’d still be drinking. Very quickly, though, I started getting into trouble. Going to sixth grade got in the way of my life, which consisted of getting drunk as much as possible.” [After rehab] “I was going to A.A. meetings. Everyone was older, even most of the kids at the young people meetings. But I found that alcoholics understand other alcoholics. . . . Regardless of how young or old or ‘special’ I am, in A.A. I’m just a drunk.” Tina, who joined A.A. at 13• “I loved drinking and was as addicted to the lies, the shady people and places as I was to the alcohol. My grades suffered until I stopped going to school altogether. . . . I found myself in places without any idea of how I had gotten there. I overdosed on alcohol.” Since comin... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4253457 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 03:37:34 +0100 4253457 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4225668&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcompulsive-gambling%2F Image via Wikipedia Compulsive gambling is being unable to resist impulses to gamble, which can lead to severe personal or social consequences. Symptoms: People with Compulsive gambling often feel ashamed and try to avoid letting others know of their problem. Compulsive gambling is assed as having five or more of the following symptoms: Committing crimes to get money to gamble Feeling restless or irritable when trying to cut back or quit gambling Gambling to escape problems or feelings of sadness or anxiety Gambling larger amounts of money to try to make back previous losses Having had many unsuccessful attempts to cut back or quit gambling Losing a job, relationship, or educational or career opportunity due to gambling Lying about the amount of time or money spent gambling Need... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4225668 Thu, 02 Dec 2010 15:29:00 +0100 4225668 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4225669&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdisturbing-denial%2F Denial Breaking through denial is alcoholic’s first step in recovery Looking in the mirror and accepting what we see can be one of the hardest things we ever do. It’s especially hard when the image staring us in the face is painful or doesn’t fit with how we want to see ourselves. Sometimes, the truth is so painful that we avoid it at any cost. Refusing to accept a painful reality that alters the perception of ourselves is a psychological defence called denial. As human beings, we may use denial to protect ourselves from knowledge, insight or awareness that threatens our self-esteem, mental or physical health, or security. The term “denial” is often used in the chemical dependency field to describe people who deny substance abuse problems. “Denial is the tendency of... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4225669 Sat, 27 Nov 2010 16:15:01 +0100 4225669 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4187058&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faccepting-our-feelings%2F Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we work so hard to deny our emotions, especially concerning other people? They are only feelings! In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated in reaction to someone who is selling us a service. We may deny that we feel frustrated, angry, or hurt in reaction to a friend. We may deny feelings of fear, or anger, toward our children. We may deny a whole range of feelings toward our spouse or the person with whom we’re in a love relationship. We may deny feelings provoked by people we work for, or by people who work for us. Sometimes the feelings are a direct reaction to others. Sometimes people trigger something deeper – an old sadness or frustration. Regardless of the source of our feelings, they are still our feelings. We... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4187058 Sat, 20 Nov 2010 16:31:48 +0100 4187058 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4164706&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=36896&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FSuboxoneTalkZone%2F%7E3%2FAyGgGWX2hlQ%2F Some distorted thinking You see where this is going. My behavior was an example of cross addiction, where an addict stops one substance but continues to use another, only to find that the previously safe substance becomes the drug of choice. My use of alcohol increased, and soon I was drinking as soon as I got home from work, to ‘unwind.’ When my wife protested I started sneaking small bottles of whiskey and hiding them in places once reserved for bottles of cough syrup.  Once again I knew that I had a problem, and I also knew that I was in denial. The funny thing is that simply knowing that I was in denial did nothing to stop the denial. I would pause for a moment and think to myself that there were problems ahead, but I would quickly sweep the thought aside to be dealt with on anoth... Suboxone Talk Zone blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4164706 Sun, 14 Nov 2010 18:09:10 +0100 4164706 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4106070&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FSOGO1b6PgNk%2F Medication addiction Prescription medications can sneak up on you and lead to addiction. Many celebrities have recently fallen victim to prescription medication addiction and/or overdose. But its not just celebrities that need to be cautious its everyone who takes mood changing, psychoactive or pain medications. Every day medicines hold a punch that may be life changing, life changes you may not normally choose. A drug addict used to be someone who bought illegal fixes from a shady character in a back alley. But with more and more people admitting addiction to prescription drugs, your ’dealer’ can be the person you least expect to harm your health – your GP or chemist. Many doctors agree that powerful tranquillisers, sleeping pills and painkillers are addictive, and that the bo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4106070 Sat, 23 Oct 2010 16:26:01 +0100 4106070 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3999304&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fexperiences-of-alcohol-dependence%2F Despite the increasing incidence of alcohol misuse and the costs it incurs, British society continues to hold equivocal and ambiguous attitudes towards drinking, and understanding of the nature of alcohol dependence and related issues is limited. This qualitative study aimed to investigate the experiences of alcoholics to enhance understanding of the illness, identify key issues and common themes and provide insight into the experiences of the participants during their alcohol dependent period and recovery. Eight participants, all members of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), were interviewed by the researchers. While participants continued to deny the existence of a problem to those around them, their behaviours indicated that they were aware of the problem but were afraid to admit it openly t... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3999304 Thu, 23 Sep 2010 15:29:00 +0100 3999304 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3994224&cid=t_104519_134_f&fid=35187&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FDiabetesDaily%2F%7E3%2FxUF_A4Z_sD8%2Fthe-demon-complacency.php As a Type 2 diabetic who gets pretty good control with oral medication, the diabetes itself isn't a huge issue on most days: it's the progressive nature of T2 and the possibility of greater problems in the future that's the larger concern. As such, it would be pretty easy to pretend most of the time that I don't really have a problem at all, to just relax and let the medications do the work.  I used to think of the temptation to do this as a form of denial, and I suppose that it is, but I think a better word might be 'complacency'. For me, complacency is a demon, an evil little creature tempting me into habits that would harm me. My efforts to take better care of myself are burdensome and frustrating, especially since I often feel like I'm not having the success that I feel that I sho... Diabetes Daily blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3994224 Wed, 22 Sep 2010 02:42:58 +0100 3994224 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3961816&cid=t_104519_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fcardiac-stents-alone-don%25e2%2580%2599t-work%2F2010.09.12 I have a friend who had a blocked cardiac artery. A couple of years ago he had angioplasty on it, and his doctor inserted stents. The stents got rid of his chest pain and other symptoms, but didn’t do anything to get at the underlying cause of the blockage, which had to do with an unhappy combination of genetics and a –- perfectly admirable –- taste for rich, fatty foods. Like steak. (More on that in a moment.) Before having the procedure, his doctors spent a lot of time with him explaining what the surgery would and wouldn’t do. In particular, the doctors explained that the stents would do their job, but he had to do his. He needed to eat better, exercise more, and take his medications. He’s followed most of that advice, and is doing well. Unfortunately, his experience is ... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3961816 Sun, 12 Sep 2010 12:00:42 +0100 3961816 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3885344&cid=t_104519_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fthe-selectiveness-of-science-denialism%2F2010.08.19 Statement #1: The holocaust never happened. Hitler loved Jews and respected Jewish culture. The photographic evidence of the camps, including the bodies and atrocities, were all fakes designed by the State of Israel to generate international sympathy. Statement #2: Traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) is an effective treatment for numerous medical conditions. Acupuncture has been around for centuries and is widely practiced in China and elsewhere. Science has proven its efficacy in controlled experiments. With any luck, that first statement should generate dozens of hits from watchdog groups berating me for spreading the vile lie of Holocaust denial. The second statement, or words perilously close to that effect, has appeared in the New England Journal of Medicine, a previously-prestigious ... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3885344 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 18:00:13 +0100 3885344 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3876715&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F08%2F17%2Fwhere-do-friends-go-when-youre-coping-with-a-crisis%2F Have you ever noticed that when something bad happens to you or to someone close to you in your life (like a son or daughter, or a parent), some friends might offer help, while others disappear? This seemingly becomes more the case as we get older. I was reading this interesting essay in The New York Times today and stumbled upon an explanation for this behavior — the guy quoted in the article called it “stiff arming” or “pseudo-care.” A friend offers help to you in your time of need, but then disappears. Why do people do this? Are they afraid bad luck is “catching”? The author of this essay describes how both her daughters suffered serious health problems in the same year — one from a rare disease, and the other from anorexia. Then she notic... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3876715 Tue, 17 Aug 2010 19:11:01 +0100 3876715 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3876898&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fadult-children-of-alcoholics-can-practice-being-normal-2%2F “Sometimes I feel like I was raised by wolves,” sighed James, a 55-year-old man who grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents. "I know what it is to be codependent. I’ve gone through so much of my life guessing at what ‘normal’ is. It’s like trying to find your way through a dark woods without a compass.” According to Rosemary Hartman reactions like James’ are typical for people who grew up in dysfunctional families. But acknowledging that there were issues that deeply affected the whole family system is an important first step toward emotional and spiritual healing. Hartman said this acknowledgment frequently happens when adults have their own children. “They want to be good parents, but struggle with how to do it. They have some notions that are guided by prin... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3876898 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 17:57:00 +0100 3876898 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3786273&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FWFi3vr4CYkc%2F Styles of Distorted Thinking Throughout addictive / alcoholic / codependent living one tends to pick up dysfunctional styles of thinking to cope with every day life. Using them often ends in some sort of confrontation. These are some that many have noticed. They are born out of anger, anxiety and denial; or just plain damaged thinking. Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all the positive aspects of a situation. Polarized Thinking: Things are black or white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you are a failure. There is no middle ground. Over-generalization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once you expect it to happen over and over again. (If something good happens it is... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3786273 Sat, 24 Jul 2010 13:19:01 +0100 3786273 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3726786&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwill-will-power-higher-power%2F Will power, will and higher power are terms discussed in 12-Step programs of recovery. I for one did not understand the differences between the various attitudes and actions I adopted. Then I came across something similar to the following and I was able to tell the difference between them – at least in theory. I took such a list to my sponsor and have been discussing these ever since. Counter will Opposition to ‘other’ will (other being spiritual guidance, another person, parent, boss or what one ‘must’ do) Child will (As when a child defies its parental guidance) Rebellion Positive will Willing what one ‘must’ do Disciplined will Parental will Creative will Willing what one ‘wants’ rather than what one needs Passionate will Higher will Spiritual will Higher Po... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3726786 Sat, 03 Jul 2010 17:24:01 +0100 3726786 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3714451&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F5-stages-of-alcoholism-2%2F The Disease of Alcoholism There are, and have been, many theories about alcoholism. The most prevailing theory, and now most commonly accepted, is called the Disease Model. Its basic tenets are that alcoholism is a disease with recognizable symptoms, causes, and methods of treatment. In addition, there are several stages of the disease which are often described as early, middle, late, treatment and relapse. While it is not essential to fully define these stages, it is useful to understand them in terms of how the disease presents itself. This series of articles describes the signs and symptoms of each stage as well as exploring treatment options. Early or Adaptive Stage Middle Stage Late Stage Treating Alcoholism Relapse to drinking 1 – The Early or Adaptive Stage of Alcoholis... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3714451 Wed, 30 Jun 2010 15:28:00 +0100 3714451 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3710801&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fthe-late-stage-of-alcoholism%2F The Disease of Alcoholism There are, and have been, many theories about alcoholism. The most prevailing theory, and now most commonly accepted, is called the Disease Model. Its basic tenets are that alcoholism is a disease with recognizable symptoms, causes, and methods of treatment. In addition, there are several stages of the disease which are often described as early, middle, late, treatment and relapse. While it is not essential to fully define these stages, it is useful to understand them in terms of how the disease presents itself. This series of articles describes the signs and symptoms of each stage as well as exploring treatment options. Early or Adaptive Stage Middle Stage Late Stage Treating Alcoholism Relapse to drinking 3 – The Late Stage of Alcoholism The late, o... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3710801 Tue, 29 Jun 2010 15:11:00 +0100 3710801 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3707006&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Finjured-fantasies%2F Many people have dysfunctional beliefs. Not all of these are in one person but if there is a great many then that person may be dysfunctional. Alcoholics, addicts, codependents and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) may identify. Some of these dysfunctional beliefs are; That I can control my emotions. That I can control someone else’s emotions or actions or thoughts. That I deserve: . . .to get something good. . . .to get something bad. . . .to be punished for mistakes. . . .to be rewarded for perfection. . . .to be rewarded for good behaviour, intentions, thoughts, feelings, whatever. That I can "make" sense out of anything. That I am responsible for . . .for achieving other peoples success. . . .for other people’s feelings, thoughts... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3707006 Mon, 28 Jun 2010 13:53:21 +0100 3707006 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3703109&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-alcoholic-myths-2%2F The alcoholic denies there is a problem in many statements to themselves and others. I have heard all of these statements and more by people who later decided they were alcoholic. "I’m not a real alcoholic. I haven’t missed a day’s work in five years." "Real alcoholics lose their jobs, houses and families. That hasn’t happened to me." "Drinking is part of the culture where I work." "I only drink because I’m under pressure at work." "I have a drink to escape from my partner’s nagging." "It’s not my fault I got into an accident. The other driver was going too fast." "I’ll stop drinking as soon as I get out of this relationship." "I’ll be fine as soon as I... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3703109 Sun, 27 Jun 2010 17:38:00 +0100 3703109 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3699710&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-enabling-2%2F Enabling is doing for others what they are capable of doing for themselves. When we enable alcoholics / addicts, we prevent them from experiencing the consequences of their own actions. When we do this, we discourage them from learning from their own mistakes which, in turn, prevents them from realizing they have a problem. The alcoholic / addict has made drugs / drinking their whole life. The normal, natural things every person needs to learn have been put aside. When we continue to reach in and do even the simple things for people we love, how will they learn to do for themselves? When we begin to enable an addict / alcoholic it can spiral into a never ending co-dependency trap. How do we enable? We enable alcoholics / addicts by doing things such as: Paying their bills, making ca... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3699710 Fri, 25 Jun 2010 16:10:00 +0100 3699710 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3687365&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Ffamily-stages-of-alcoholism%2F A family with an alcoholic in its midst will go through several stages in dealing with the chaos and disruption caused by the alcoholic. These stages are described below in order of appearance. Denial: Early in the development of alcoholism, occasional episodes of excessive drinking are explained away by both marriage partners. Drinking because of tiredness, worry, or a bad day is not unbelievable. The assumption is that the episode is isolated and is, therefore, not a problem. Attempts to Eliminate the Problem:The non-alcoholic spouse realizes that the drinking is not normal and tries to pressure the alcoholic to quit, be more careful, or cut down. At the same time, the spouse tries to hide the problems from the outside and keep up a good.front. Children may start to have problems in resp... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3687365 Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:42:00 +0100 3687365 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3676901&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F11-ways-to-detect-and-solve-internet-addiction-2%2F This article may help if one follows the tips before a real addiction develops. I’m not a psychiatrist: if you fear your problem is so serious you need professional help, go out and see one. I’m going to write this article for those who might have trouble leaving the computer behind when the back of your eyes are telling you it’s definitely bedtime, but your spouse hasn’t packed up and left yet as a result of it – not quite a full-blown addiction, just on your way there. Detecting the Problem The problem with many addictions is that it can be hard to tell when a hobby has become more than just that, and taken a hold on you. It can also be hard to be honest with yourself when facing a list of symptoms, so make the extra effort now – we’re going to go through a few. Yo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3676901 Fri, 18 Jun 2010 13:58:30 +0100 3676901 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3659160&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-alcoholism-warning-signs-2%2F The following symptoms of alcohol abuse and alcoholism may indicate a problem. Not everyone will have all the signs, but if there are many present then it would be worthwhile to seek help from a therapist or Alcoholics Anonymous. If some one you love has these signs seek help from Al-anon or a specialist alcohol family counselor. Withdrawing from family and friends. Lying about how much they drink. Drinking to “get going” in the morning. Drinking to calm down. Problems at work or school. Doing things they regret while drinking. Getting in fights while drinking. Engaging in risky behavior while drunk. Developing physical tolerance. Having “blackouts” while drinking. See also; Spiritual Health Blockages Disease Concept of Alcoholism Codependent No More The Lois Wilson ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3659160 Sun, 13 Jun 2010 20:50:06 +0100 3659160 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3659162&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FUhLiEJoG9r0%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife lying about their drinking habits even to their own doctor? If you suspect this, what can you do? Call your spouse’s family doctor or psychiatrist and let the doctor know much your spouse is drinking. Basically, “tattle” on them. As a psychiatrist specializing in addiction, I appreciate when a family member of a patient calls me and lets me know their alcoholic spouse is “hiding” their alcohol problem from me. I recognize that the patient may be trying to self-medicate unresolved anxiety or depression. However, alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. Drinking alcohol reduces the beneficial effects of the antidepressants and can cause depression. If a patient’s relative ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3659162 Sat, 12 Jun 2010 00:26:48 +0100 3659162 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3632440&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FgyIFytA3Ees%2F Researchers propose a model of development whereby a person moves from voluntary dieting through a number of stages to reach a fully entrenched eating disorder. Stage 1: Normal, voluntary dieting behaviour. Unfortunately dieting behaviours have become the “norm”, with 47% of people in Australia having tried to lose weight in the past twelve months. 68% of fifteen year old girls are dieting at any one time, 8% of these are on a severe diet. While these diets are severe enough to be considered an eating disorder, they are unhealthy and result in rapid weight changes, disrupted metabolism, dehydration, low energy and lack of essential vitamins, minerals and nutrients. Stage 1B: (in Bulimia Nervosa only). The hunger associated with dieting and restriction leads to severe and con... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3632440 Thu, 03 Jun 2010 15:17:02 +0100 3632440 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3629879&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fone-resentment-was-too-many-and-1000-were-not-enough%2F Emotional Sobriety My name is Nick and I’m an alcoholic.” How many times have I said that at a meeting over the last ten years. Yes we have to keep it simple and there is nothing more simple than the statement “I’m an alcoholic’’ but how incomplete that statement really is. It took a very large proportion of my time in Alcoholics Anonymous to realise I never knew how sick I was in a moral sense in the mind and in the emotions, In fact the alcoholic part is a very small part of the trouble it is merely the outward symptom of a very complex confused and deep inner disturbance Fortunately for me I never had a drink from my first meeting of AA, but it was many years before I realised that there was a second sobriety to be achieved what I call emotional sobriety. To paraphrase the ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3629879 Wed, 02 Jun 2010 18:25:26 +0100 3629879 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3538393&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FsNpK-M5xyRo%2F Everyone is in denial about something; just try denying it and watch friends make a list. Varieties of denial include inattention, passive acknowledgment, reframing and willful blindness. For Sigmund Freud, denial was a defense against external realities that threaten the ego, and many psychologists today would argue that it can be a protective defense in the face of unbearable news, like a cancer or addictive diagnosis. D - Don’t E - Even N – Notice I – I A – Am L – Lying In the modern vernacular, to say someone is “in denial” is to deliver a savage combination punch: one shot to the belly for the cheating or drinking or bad behavior, and another slap to the head for the cowardly self-deception of pretending it’s not a problem. Yet recent studies fro... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3538393 Wed, 05 May 2010 16:42:00 +0100 3538393 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3522834&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FiLUMsoNDk3Y%2F Detachment and recovery from alcoholism Like alcoholics themselves, the families and friends of alcoholics display symptoms denial, anxiety, guilt and require treatment. Al-Anon groups have proved to be an excellent resource for these people. But Al-Anon’s central concept, that of detachment, is resented and rejected by many prospective members of Al-Anon. Detachment involves realizing that the family member or friend cannot control the alcoholic’s behavior, accepting this powerlessness, and separating one’s self from the behavior though not from the person. It also means that family life must not revolve around the alcoholic’s problems and behavior and that the alcoholic must be allowed to take the consequences of his or her behavior. It does not m... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3522834 Sat, 01 May 2010 15:31:00 +0100 3522834 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3508455&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FdbHOGtT78vE%2F Denial The alcoholic denies there is a problem in many statements to themselves and others. I have heard all of these statements and more by people who later decided they were alcoholic. “I’m not a real alcoholic. I haven’t missed a day’s work in five years.” “Real alcoholics lose their jobs, houses and families. That hasn’t happened to me.” “Drinking is part of the culture where I work.” “I only drink because I’m under pressure at work.” “I have a drink to escape from my partner’s nagging.” “It’s not my fault I got into an accident. The other driver was going too fast.” “I’ll stop drinking as soon as I get out of this relationship.” “I’ll be fine... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3508455 Sun, 25 Apr 2010 13:03:17 +0100 3508455 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511787&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fmn5QlmEPVKo%2F A common sign of an alcohol problem is hiding alcohol. Alcoholic spouses who are hiding drinking typically lie about their drinking, often will drink alone (common in women), and are secretive about how much they drink and where they drink. Have you noticed any of the following signs with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Hiding empty alcohol bottles around the house or car (ex:laundry hampers, under clothes in a drawer.) Filling a thermos bottle with orange juice and liquor. Using the extra refrigerator in the garage to store alcohol. Going to different places to buy booze. Your alcoholic spouse goes to great lengths to cover up the smell of alcohol (as you know from living with an alcoholic- NOTHING covers up the strong smell of alcohol). Why do alcoholic spouses hide their dr... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511787 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:12:25 +0100 3511787 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3480939&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FzTMCp0nR5j4%2F This article may help men with such desires. Many men accept cross dressing as normal Every year, several hundred traditional husbands, fathers and businessmen come together for parties, seminars and workshops exploring the thorny issue of how to buy the right wig and hide a 5 o’clock shadow with the foundation and blush-on. Heterosexual married men from suburbia with families who cross dress? What’s going on? Apparently a much more common practice than most people would imagine. It’s estimated that at least 1% of the male population cross dresses. And even as we approach the 21st Century, the idea of a heterosexual man in heels is still more than a little threatening. And confusing even for the cross dressers themselves. As JoAnn Roberts, founder of Renaissance, a Delawa... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3480939 Sat, 17 Apr 2010 10:47:44 +0100 3480939 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3476086&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Ffamily-female-alcoholism-2%2F Women’s Alcoholism Has Big Impact on Families The topic of alcoholism and the damage it causes to families are most frequently looked at from the standpoint of the alcoholic male. Less in focus is the phenomenon of the alcoholic woman, even though the recorded cases are steadily growing in numbers. Denial and Stigma The social stigma attached to drunkenness in women is much more severe than for men. The stigma encourages everybody to deny that something is wrong. Even husbands cover up the reality of their wives’ drinking, and the children, confused and anxious, learn not to believe their own perceptions. For the woman herself the social attitude is a strong incentive to hide reality from all, including herself. The profile of the woman who abuses alcohol is surprisingly simi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3476086 Fri, 16 Apr 2010 11:53:39 +0100 3476086 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3454207&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fadult-children-of-alcoholics-can-practice-being-normal%2F Don't let the trust stop at birth “Sometimes I feel like I was raised by wolves,” sighed James, a 55-year-old man who grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents. “I know what it is to be codependent. I’ve gone through so much of my life guessing at what ‘normal’ is. It’s like trying to find your way through a dark woods without a compass.” According to Rosemary Hartman, supervisor of the Hazelden Family Program, reactions like James’ are typical for people who grew up in dysfunctional families. But acknowledging that there were issues that deeply affected the whole family system is an important first step toward emotional and spiritual healing. Hartman said this acknowledgment frequently happens when adults have their own children. “They want to be good parent... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3454207 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 15:25:00 +0100 3454207 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3441063&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fc-e8awKCTnM%2F Set a good example and flow around drinking From her own experience, a wife thinks it’s important for family and friends not to drink in front of people they’d prefer not to be drinking. Indeed, one of the common themes in advice to loved ones is to be good role models, setting an example by taking steps like avoiding drinking around them and not bringing alcohol into the house. She adds, “Don’t let your good times revolve around drinking.” She recalls how many of the things she and her husband did together used to involve alcohol: “Every event I perceived as a good time revolved around booze. And he just went along with me. We would go to his softball games and out for beer afterward. And if we went to parties or summer picnics, alcohol was always involved.” In short, if a m... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3441063 Tue, 06 Apr 2010 15:59:00 +0100 3441063 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3435253&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcodependent-and-alcoholic-games%2F Codependents and alcoholics/ addicts adopt behaviours and temporary personality traits. These behaviours are not deliberate or premeditated. They are built up very slowly over a period of time, bit-by-bit. Adult children of alcoholism may have started their process in childhood. Other codependents may have begun adapting when they set out on a relationship with an alcoholic/ addict. Alcoholics, addicts, gamblers, workaholics often report they started changing soon after they began their particular addictive behaviour. All of these people only report their actions in retrospect. That is after they have begun recovery and returned to spiritual lives. While they are practicing these abnormal activities they cannot see their own pain and the effects on others. This is sometimes called denial ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3435253 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 15:06:00 +0100 3435253 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3420761&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faa-for-youth%2F • “If I could have stayed cool, I’d still be drinking. Very quickly, though, I started getting into trouble. Going to sixth grade got in the way of my life, which consisted of getting drunk as much as possible.” [After rehab] “I was going to A.A. meetings. Everyone was older, even most of the kids at the young people meetings. But I found that alcoholics understand other alcoholics. . . . Regardless of how young or old or ‘special’ I am, in A.A. I’m just a drunk.” Tina, who joined A.A. at 13 • “I loved drinking and was as addicted to the lies, the shady people and places as I was to the alcohol. My grades suffered until I stopped going to school altogether. . . . I found myself in places without any idea of how I had gotten there. I overdosed on alcohol.” Since comi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3420761 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 15:46:59 +0100 3420761 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3412598&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FQwehwTiyEqs%2F There is no physical or psychiatric condition more associated with social disapproval and discrimination than alcohol and/or other drug (AOD) dependence. Alcoholism/ addiction-related social stigma constitutes a major obstacle to personal and family recovery, contributes to pushing addiction professionals to the fringes therapy and their organizations, and limits the funding and community provisions allocated to AOD-related problems. Efforts to develop “recovery-oriented systems of care” inevitably confront social stigma as a barrier to shaping community attitudes and policies supportive of long-term addiction recovery. Stigma Defined Stigma is the experience of being held in contempt (shunned or rendered socially invisible) because of a socially disapproved position. It involves p... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3412598 Sat, 27 Mar 2010 17:10:00 +0100 3412598 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3411295&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2osR98ZZUnQ%2F Awareness, Acceptance and Action “The Three A’s” can be an extremely powerful tool in coming to terms with our alcoholism/ addiction or codependency. The first part of this tool is Awareness. We shatter our denial by becoming aware of our feelings and the nature of our disease. We do this by listening at meetings and identifying with other members’ feelings and experiences. As our contact with others who have similar issues increases and our willingness to participate in our recovery increases, we find that our awareness also increases. The temptation to take action at this point is strong. Yet, it is wise for us to wait until we truly know what it is we are trying to change! Acceptance comes when we are willing to admit our feelings and experiences to ourselves and... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3411295 Thu, 25 Mar 2010 10:37:10 +0100 3411295 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3403927&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F03%2F24%2Fwomen-and-mens-defensiveness-impacts-health%2F You probably already know that men and women deal and react to stress differently. What you may not have realized is just how different we are when it comes to dealing with stress. And one of the keys appears to be how defensive we are: Defensiveness is a trait characterized by avoidance, denial or repression of information perceived as threatening. In women, a strong defensive reaction to judgment from others or a threat to self-esteem will result in high blood pressure and heart rate. But in older men, the researchers found those with low defensive reactions have higher cardiovascular rates. This is not a finding that has previously been noted in the research. Conventional wisdom would have expected that one’s defensiveness would have a similar impact on health, regardless of gend... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3403927 Wed, 24 Mar 2010 19:19:53 +0100 3403927 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3387061&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2KRf2BZu2ZU%2F My name is Louis and I’m a 79 year old alcoholic in AA I guess I’ve always been an alcoholic. At least, I’ve always drunk alcohol. My mother used to put a few drops of whiskey in a bottle of warm water and give it to me when I was a baby. And that was a long, long time ago. I quit school young and went to work on the horsecars as both conductor and driver. At that time, six tickets cost a quarter and so did a half-pint of rye. Every day, I had to make a hard decision. Should I pocket the first quarter I collected, or the second? On good days, I let the company have the first one, and I’d wait until I had sold 12 tickets before stopping the car at Dailey’s saloon. On bad days, I took the first quarter. In any case, service on my car stopped while I went into D... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3387061 Sat, 20 Mar 2010 17:12:18 +0100 3387061 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3391000&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fi-am-a-cocaine-addict-2%2F My name is Paul and I am a Cocaine Addict. I was born in Liverpool, the second son in a family of five boys and one girl. My father was a Liverpool dockworker who used to come home from work via the pub every night. I remember my parents would fight physically, and more often than not my Dad would be so drunk my Mum would win. My elder brother used to climb out of the window and go to the phone box at the top of our street. Using a false name he would call the police to report a disturbance at our address then calmly climb back through the window and go to sleep. I knew the effect alcohol had on people I had seen first hand the destructive nature of drunkards and I swore I would never drink and I would never be like my Dad. I was going to be famous a rock star or an actor. I didn’t reall... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3391000 Sat, 20 Mar 2010 17:00:55 +0100 3391000 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3378740&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-compulsive-hoarding%2F Animal hoarding Hoarding is defined as the acquisition of, and inability to discard worthless items even though they appear (to others) to have no value. Hoarding behaviors can occur in a variety of psychiatric disorders and in the normal population, but are most commonly found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Those people who report compulsive hoarding as their primary type of OCD, experience significant distress or functional impairment from their hoarding. They have symptoms of indecisiveness, procrastination, and avoidance, are classified as having compulsive hoarding syndrome. An estimated 700,000 to 1.4 million people in the United States are believed to have compulsive hoarding syndrome. More than a Hobby Compulsive hoarding is not just an enthusiast’s passi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3378740 Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:04:23 +0100 3378740 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3378741&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fadult-children-of-hoarders%2F The mess of hoarding About growing up and adult children of hoarders (COH): For many, growing up in an environment of constant chaos and disorganization has effects that go far beyond living amongst the accumulation of possessions or not being able to have friends over. Our parents who hoard often hid behind closed blinds isolating themselves from the world outside. Adult children of Hoarders  are just now finding our voices to speak up about growing up with our parents having a serious and very misunderstood disorder. Lack of Insight – Denial This is often the “elephant in the living room” that is not easily discussed, if at all. Compulsive Hoarders often lack insight to having a problem at all.  Children sometimes get blamed for the state of the house-that it’s th... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3378741 Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:39:37 +0100 3378741 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3374389&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fthe-loneliness-of-an-alcoholic-doctor%2F The way I see it My very first drink loosened my previous, ever present inhibitions. Medical school facilitated my growing reliance on this chemical. Six years later, after qualifying, I found an identity to hide behind, at least during the day. I was the all knowing, devoted, and respected professional, who daily appeared red eyed and trembling. But I was forgiven by supervisors because I worked hard. After all, I was in my house jobs. Then I worked as a casualty officer, on the front line, mistakenly believing that I could cope with the stress, long hours, and unpredictability and daily masking my sensitivity to the extremes of human pain and suffering—until I left work. There was always an excuse to reward myself after a stressful day, such as spending the whole shift in “resus&... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3374389 Mon, 15 Mar 2010 23:55:00 +0100 3374389 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3366260&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F03%2F15%2Fyou-deplete-me-10-steps-to-end-a-toxic-relationship%2F “You complete me.” You know that line, right … from Jerry McGuire? It comes right before “You had me at hello” (another puker). The completing-the-other bit nauseates me a tad because we relationship-analyzers (some with the right initials after their names and some self-declared experts who can type) like to classify that type of dialogue with a term known as “codependency.” Ideally, you shouldn’t need anyone to complete you. You should be whole going into a relationship, right? My guess is that those who feel like they are getting fixed are actually getting ripped off. That’s why they keep coming back, hoping that THIS time their partner will make the ouches go away, making them feel all sunshiny and warm inside. Instead, the ouch is ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3366260 Mon, 15 Mar 2010 10:00:08 +0100 3366260 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3362581&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FPQRAlayKel0%2F People in 12 Step Fellowships need to be aware of the different types of stress that can affect their recovery. What are the different types of stress? Acute stress Acute stress is the most common and most recognizable form of stress, the kind of sudden jolt in which you know exactly why you’re stressed: you were just in a car accident; the school nurse just called; a bear just ambled onto your campsite. Or it can be something scary but thrilling, such as a parachute jump. Along with obvious dangers and threats, common causes of acute stressors include noise, isolation, crowding, and hunger. Normally, your body rests when these types of stressful events cease and your life gets back to normal. Because the effects are short-term, acute stress usually doesn’t cause severe or permanent... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3362581 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:57:00 +0100 3362581 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3350588&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FtsXUPQhJGc4%2F Sexual compulsion may seem like a life locked in battle with self Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a 12 Step Fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other, that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from sexual compulsion. These are the characteristics most of us seem to have in common: As adolescents, we used fantasy and compulsive masturbation to avoid feelings, and continued this tendency into our adult lives with compulsive sex. Compulsive sex became a drug, which we used to escape from feelings such as anxiety, loneliness, anger and self-hatred, as well as joy. We tended to become immobilized by romantic obsessions. We became addicted to the search for sex and love; as a result, we neglected our lives. We sought obli... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3350588 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:20:00 +0100 3350588 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346728&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FLtrGQj2b7y4%2F Alcoholism is characterized by a preoccupation with alcohol and impaired control over alcohol intake. Alcoholism is a chronic, often progressive disease. Left untreated, alcoholism can be fatal. You may continue to abuse alcohol despite serious adverse health, personal, work-related and financial consequences. Alcoholism usually involves physical dependence on alcohol, but genetic, psychological and social factors contribute to the addiction as well. It’s possible to have a problem with alcohol, but not display all the characteristics of alcoholism. This is known as “alcohol abuse,” which means you engage in excessive drinking that causes health or social problems, but you aren’t dependent on alcohol and haven’t fully lost control over the use of alcohol. Stat... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346728 Tue, 09 Mar 2010 08:42:23 +0100 3346728 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346729&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FqgkjAm7exAg%2F Willingness is the key The Higher Power Is Good “Before Alcoholics Anonymous, I could not, or would not, admit I was wrong. My pride would not let me. And yet I was ashamed of me. Caught in this conflict, I banished the Higher Power from my life because I felt He asked me to adhere to a behavior pattern too high for a man of my human frailty. Somehow, I believed that there could be no forgiveness of any failure, that he Higher Power required me to be all good. The moral of the story of the Prodigal Son eluded me. “Since I thought trying was not enough, I stopped trying. That made me feel guilty. For a while, alcohol blotted out the guilt. Then alcohol became the greatest cause of my guilt. I had to be beaten to a pulp physically, mentally and emotionally, become bankrupt in all... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346729 Tue, 09 Mar 2010 08:17:56 +0100 3346729 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346734&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FlDrVlpX0kpM%2F On-line Gaming Withdrawal Symptoms Withdrawal symptoms – these things can/may happen when a person quits gaming. Anger (if forced to leave by parents or someone else) Feeling of emptiness Depressed Relief Sleep pattern interrupted Have fantasies and dream about the game Urge to go back to gaming and try to control the time played Think about the game for extended periods of  time Feelings become uncontrolled Rampant mood swings Crying excessively Feel anxious Feel afraid Feel irritable Feel distressed Feel sad, in mourning Feeling lonely, bored Don’t know what to do next Without direction Very restless Sleep a lot, to catch up. Feel sick to stomach Procrastinate in real life Feeling afraid and wanting to run, instead of facing the fears Feel empty and grey, and in a lot of pa... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346734 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 06:35:42 +0100 3346734 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3346735&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fl3snMy8Kcw0%2F My name is Michael and I’m a clergy alcoholic in AA I am a Roman Catholic priest, a pastor of souls with the title of monsignor. I am also an alcoholic. A few months ago, I celebrated an anniversary of ordination. A month before that, I celebrated a more important anniversary, my fourth as a member of A.A. Why do I say that my anniversary in A.A. is a more important date than my ordination anniversary? The answer is that through A.A. my Higher Power, God, has not only saved my life and restored me to sanity, but has given me a new way of life and has immeasurably enriched my priesthood. Thus, thanks to God and A.A. I am today striving honestly and sincerely, despite many shortcomings, to fulfil my priestly vocation in the manner that God intended. My sobriety has to be the most impor... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3346735 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 06:18:54 +0100 3346735 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3339813&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FV-dxDYRUr1Q%2F Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior by the codependent designed to take over the abuser’s personal responsibilities, such as household chores or employment. Rationalizing and accepting: Any behavior by the codependent conveying a rationalization or acceptance of the significant other’s drug use. Cooperating and collaborating: Any assistance or involvement by the codependent in the buying, selling, adulterating, testing, preparing, or use of drugs. ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3339813 Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:34:14 +0100 3339813 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3327309&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholism-and-fear-2%2F Curiosity about recovery Fear Mixed with Alcohol The primary cause of alcoholism is not positively known in the present knowledge of the problem. Nor do we believe that the cause in most instances is singular, but usually a combination of causes. However, we are of the opinion that to date that one of the best-defined psychological cause for alcoholism is the one given in Sobriety and Beyond that defined the cause of alcoholism as “Fear mixed with alcohol.” By this is meant that the average alcoholic is a drinker who has an abnormal fear. Although this tendency is present in most human beings to a certain extent, it is emphatically obvious in the alcoholic personality, and because of emotional damage, which now may not even be in the consciousness, will cause abnormal insecurity and fe... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3327309 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 18:16:00 +0100 3327309 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3318668&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FdEcBaxgrVdI%2F Meditating Mindfulness for Recovery Mindfulness is a form of self-awareness training adapted from Buddhist mindfulness meditation. It has been adapted for use in treatment of depression, especially preventing relapse and for assisting with mood regulation. Mindfulness has been described as a state of being in the present, accepting things for what they are, i.e. non-judgementally. It was originally developed to assist with mood regulation and relapse prevention in depression and has been found to have considerable health benefits. These exercises are designed to introduce the principles and can be used by anyone recovering from a mood altering disease such as alcoholism, compulsive gambling, food problems, addiction, codependency or adult children of alcoholics.. If you let cloudy water s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3318668 Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:12:25 +0100 3318668 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3316251&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F88P5BFtVgzE%2F My name is George and I’m a Jewish alcoholic in Alcoholics Anonymous A startling, four-color advertising poster appeared some time ago in the New York subways. Staring at the viewer was a “typical Irish cop” about to eat a luscious delicatessen sandwich on Levy’s rye bread, and the legend was “You don’t have to be Jewish to like Levy’s.” As countless subway stations flew by, and as the rusty gears in my head meshed, the whole idea of that Irish cop (and by now in my mind’s eye he had become a Catholic-Irish cop named O’Toole, with a thick brogue, 14 children, and a grandmother in Kilkenny) had turned itself upside down. One evening, while talking to my closest friend in A.A. (whose name is so Irish I can preserve his anonymity onl... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3316251 Sun, 28 Feb 2010 04:23:24 +0100 3316251 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3314797&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fpn5hiGOwqIs%2F Denial is Hazy Thinking Alcoholics, addicts and co-dependents use many and varied combinations of these. Identify yours and work to eliminate them. When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us – Alexander Graham Bell Defence and denial mechanisms are used by all human beings and may be necessary for survival in some situations. We’ve all used defences and denial to distance ourselves from distressing feelings and maintain a sense of emotional stability. Our defence and denial patterns began in childhood when they prevented us from becoming overwhelmed with anxiety. However, as an adult we outgrow their usefulness. If we continue to use outgrown defences or denial, we are ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3314797 Sat, 27 Feb 2010 04:30:50 +0100 3314797 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3314801&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FoibCtFGC5e4%2F You are not alaone Some methods A.A. members have used for not drinking About that title… Even the words “stay sober”-let alone live sober-offended many of us when we first heard such advice. Although we had done a lot of drinking, many of us never felt drunk, and were sure we almost never appeared or sounded drunk. Many of us never staggered, fell, or got thick tongues; many others were never disorderly, never missed a day at work, never had automobile accidents, and certainly were never hospitalized nor jailed for drunkenness. We knew lots of people who drank more than we did, and people who could not handle their drinks at all. We were not like that. So the suggestion that maybe we should “stay sober” was almost insulting. Besides, it seemed unnecessarily drast... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3314801 Fri, 26 Feb 2010 09:51:01 +0100 3314801 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3302656&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcan-an-alcoholic-be-forced-into-treatment%2F You can be a bridge to recovery If an alcoholic is unwilling to get help, what can you do about it? This can be a challenge. An alcoholic can’t be forced to get help except under certain circumstances, such as a traffic violation or arrest that results in court-ordered treatment. But you don’t have to wait for someone to “hit rock bottom” to act. Many alcoholism treatment specialists suggest the following steps to help an alcoholic get treatment: Stop all “cover ups.” Family members often make excuses to others or try to protect the alcoholic from the results of his or her drinking. It is important to stop covering for the alcoholic so that he or she experiences the full consequences of drinking. Time your intervention. The best time to talk to the drink... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3302656 Tue, 23 Feb 2010 09:18:49 +0100 3302656 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3298610&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fin4Rkogn-SQ%2F Who me? “When the idea was first presented to me that I was an alcoholic, my mind simply refused to accept it. Horrors! How disgraceful! What humiliation! How preposterous! Why, I loathed the taste of liquor – drinking was simply a means of escape when my sorrows became too great for me to endure. Even after it had been explained to me that alcoholism is a disease, I could not realize that I had it. I was still ashamed, still wanted to hide behind the screen of reasons made up of unjust treatment, unhappiness, tired and dejected, and the dozens of other things that I thought lay at the root of my search for oblivion by means of whiskey or gin. In any case, I felt quite sure that I was not an alcoholic.” (A Feminine Victory; Personal Story from the First Edition of the book Alcoho... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3298610 Mon, 22 Feb 2010 12:21:50 +0100 3298610 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3290997&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F_tEBqAuhaMQ%2F Relapse often happens alone Relapse is defined as returning to drinking after a period of not drinking – abstinence. Relapse to drinking or drug use does not come on suddenly and without warning, it is a process over time. Staying clean/sober is not recovery, working a program and finding some serenity and peace is sobriety. Relapse cannot be avoided by shear willpower of self-discipline. SELF-TEST FOR RELAPSE WARNING SIGNALS. Here is a simple list of relapse symptoms. Lack of personal confidence to remain clean/sober or abstinent. Denial Convincing yourself that you will never ever drink or use again. You start imposing recovery on other people. You become defensive when talking about your problem is recovery. Compulsive behavior appears, you adopt a non-structured lifestyle. You s... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3290997 Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:31:10 +0100 3290997 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3271202&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FqEcnPjY-dAg%2F Self propelled merry-go-round Some people, known as co-dependents, act to protect the alcoholic or attempt to make the drugging stop in ways that at first seem to disable the drinking. But, paradoxically, the effect on the addict is the opposite. What usually happens is more drinking. Enabling can take several forms, such as; Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior by the codependent designed to take over the abuser’s personal responsibilities, such as hous... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3271202 Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:30:16 +0100 3271202 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3269883&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F12-steps-to-insanity%2F A storm of insanity slowly takes over As opposed to the 12-Steps to recovery here is the suggested program to insanity. I decided I could handle my emotional problems if other people would just quit trying to run my life. I firmly believed that there is no greater power than myself, and anyone who said so was insane. I made a decision to remove my will and my life from God who didn’t understand me anyhow. I made a searching and thorough moral inventory of everyone I knew so they couldn’t fool me and take advantage of my good nature. I sought these people out and tried to get them to admit to me, by God, the exact nature of their wrongs. I became willing to help these people get rid of these defects of character. I was humble enough to ask these people to remove their shortcom... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3269883 Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:37:15 +0100 3269883 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3259274&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fb8KIc93kKXM%2F Always more work to be done It is very difficult to relax. We often, if not always, feel the need to get just a few more tasks done before we can feel good about ourselves and allow ourselves to relax. When we do complete these tasks we find just a few more that we need to complete, and then a few more…. These uncontrollable desires often result in frantic, compulsive working. We are powerless to control this pattern. We are so used to doing what we are expected to do that we are often unable to know what it is that we really want to do and need to do for ourselves. We often feel that we must complete certain tasks, even though we do not want to, yet we are too scared to stop. We often feel resentment about having to complete tasks when we would rather relax or play. At these times... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3259274 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:16:31 +0100 3259274 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3251401&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Facceptance-and-surrender%2F Compliance and Acceptance; Submission and Surrender By Dr Harry Tiebout, an early friend of AA who wrote extensively about alcoholism and AA. This edited article illustrates an often subtle but devastating state of mind in recovering alcoholics. Dr Harry Tiebout In alcohol treatment and recovery one fact must be kept in mind, namely the need to distinguish between submission and surrender. In submission, an individual accepts reality consciously but not unconsciously. He accepts as a practical fact that he cannot at that moment conquer reality, but lurking in his unconscious is the feeling, “There’ll come a day” — which implies no real acceptance and demonstrates conclusively that the struggle is still going on. With submission, which at best is a superficial yieldi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3251401 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 13:08:41 +0100 3251401 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3251406&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fundoing-denial-is-first-step%2F Denial is distorted reality Breaking through denial is alcoholic’s, addict’s first step in recovery Looking in the mirror and accepting what we see can be one of the hardest things we ever do. It’s especially hard when the image staring us in the face is painful or doesn’t fit with how we want to see ourselves. Sometimes, the truth is so painful that we avoid it at any cost. Refusing to accept a painful reality that alters the perception of ourselves is a psychological defense called denial. As human beings, we may use denial to protect ourselves from knowledge, insight or awareness that threatens our self-esteem, mental or physical health, or security. The term “denial” is often used in the chemical dependency field to describe people who deny substanc... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3251406 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 08:19:29 +0100 3251406 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3244057&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FH46FlvSkMSk%2F Alcoholic Denial as a Psychological Defence Denial takes two major forms. First, the alcoholic insists that he or she can drink like other people – socially, normally. This means that there are always ready excuses for the exceptional times-for the fights, the arrests, the blackouts, the hangovers. It’s someone else’s fault. It’s harassment, bad luck, or just too much pressure. Secondly, the alcoholic insists that he or she is different from “real” alcoholics. Drinking alcoholics are usually experts at picturing “real” alcoholics. They’re different somehow: jobless, homeless, friendless, and usually feeble-minded. Not like themselves at all. That’s why you’ll find, if you look far enough, that the scotch and water alcoholic ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3244057 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 02:09:04 +0100 3244057 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3212609&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FC0AzMtxjw-4%2F occurs when a person with sobriety makes sexual overtures to a newcomer or someone newly sober, sometimes under the guise of "sponsoring" or working with the newcomer. Newcomers are vulnerable and need guidance not exploitation. Thirteenth Stepping violates the principle that we should help others without expectation of reciprocity or return favours, sexual or otherwise. Thirteenth Stepping taints the apparent motives of other AA members who really desire nothing other than to help the newcomer get sober. Thirteenth Stepping can give an entire group the undeserved reputation as a "meat market," and it can deprive the newcomer of the feeling that there is at least one safe place to be. Thoughts Do we at the very least avoid 13th stepping ourselves? Do we help ne... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3212609 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:25:00 +0100 3212609 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3201908&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fpartner-enabling-of-alcoholism-2%2F Enabling is like a dam holding back responsibility Enabling is the ideas, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors that unintentionally continue to foster drinking, alcohol related problems or make matters worse by not allowing the alcoholic to deal with the consequences of their alcoholism. Enabling is part of the set of behaviors practiced by codependents of alcoholism. Researchers report that the majority of partners took over chores or duties from the alcoholic client at some point during the relationship, drank or used other drugs with the client, and lied or made excuses to others to cover for the drinker. Moreover, particular relationship beliefs were associated with higher behavioural enabling scores. Enabling Behaviors are practiced in four forms; Direct Enabling The behavior that acts ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3201908 Sun, 24 Jan 2010 03:53:00 +0100 3201908 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3197892&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-practical-points-of-recovery%2F Think about it In the Big Book of AA members talk of practical attitudes that help in recovery from alcoholism. Some of these are; “…thoroughly followed our path.” p.58 line 2. Referring to the ‘Suggested Program of Recovery’. “…completely give themselves to this program…” p.58 line 3. “…developing…rigorous honesty.” p.58 line 9 – instead of denial and lying. “…willing to go to any length…” p.58 line 18. A very pragmatic strategy. “…fearless and thorough…” p.58 line 23. With courage. “…let go absolutely.” p.58 line 25. With faith in the fact that millions of people have already done just that. “…asked His protection and care with complet... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3197892 Fri, 22 Jan 2010 00:10:17 +0100 3197892 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3197894&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fself-injury-patterns%2F Self-Injury Why do people engage in self-injury? Even though there is the possibility that a self-inflicted injury may result in life-threatening damage, self injury is not suicidal behavior. Although the person may not recognize the connection, SI usually occurs when facing what seems like overwhelming or distressing feelings. The reasons self-injurers give for this behavior vary but ALL ARE SUBCONSCIOUS MOTIVES. The reasons given are; Self-injury temporarily relieves intense feelings, pressure or anxiety Self-injury provides a sense of being real, being alive – of feeling something Injuring oneself is a way to externalize emotional internal pain – to feel pain on the outside instead of the inside Self-injury is a way to control and manage pain – unlike the pain experienced throug... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3197894 Thu, 21 Jan 2010 08:34:06 +0100 3197894 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189412&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FClRqp2NkoRc%2F Workaholism or Work Addict? Answer yes or no to each question Is your work very important to you? Do you like things done ‘just right’? Do you tend to see things as black or white, not grey? Are you competitive and often determined to win? Is it important for you to be right? Are you overly critical of yourself if you make a mistake? Are you afraid of failing? Are you restless and impulsive and easily bored? Do you drive yourself, and have high levels of energy and stamina? Do you suffer periodic bouts of extreme fatigue? Do you take work home and work nights and/or weekends? Do you feel uneasy or guilty if there is nothing to do? Do you think you are special or different from other people? Do you read work related material when you eat alone? Do you make lists of things to do or keep... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189412 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:00:55 +0100 3189412 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189414&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F6yp9ytTXQ5I%2F It is important to put the responsibility for dealing with the alcohol problem squarely on the person in question while continuing to love him or her. What works depends on the individual. Doing the “right” thing can depend on how severe the alcohol problem is and on how in touch with it the person in question seems to be. What works for someone who is highly functional in daily life and who knows that alcohol is causing trouble, for instance, may not be the solution for someone who denies that there is a problem. Don’t make it easy for the drinker to keep on drinking Discontinuing “enabling,” along with putting the onus for the drinker’s behavior and its consequences on the drinker. Do not cover up for them. Let them be responsible for their actions. Accept yo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189414 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 05:14:00 +0100 3189414 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189415&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fd1nSuXbFK9Q%2F Clues about alcohol related brain damage can be gathered by observing the person’s mood, behaviour, daily functioning and coping skills. Here are some examples of common indicators: Mood changes – anxiety, agitation or depression Behavioural changes – difficult behaviour, acting out, suspicious or paranoid behaviour, withdrawal, inappropriate behaviour Confusion and disorientation Talking excessively about, and living in, the past Problems carrying through with plans and getting around to chores Disconnection of gas, electricity or the phone Missed appointments Repetitious conversation Problems staying focused in conversation Resistance to change Confabulation Irrational reasoning Inability to change even when the person desires to These symptoms of brain impairment wil... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189415 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 04:02:00 +0100 3189415 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189416&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FZdOs3r5afxQ%2F Self-care. The bike is waiting! Self-care is about setting boundaries, letting go “Some of us have so many voices in our heads, we could hold group therapy by ourselves,” said Rokelle Lerner, a popular speaker and trainer on relationships, women’s issues, and addicted family systems. This internal chorus is often composed of voices from our family of origin, voices of critical teachers or bosses, voices from past relationships or current situations. Often these voices are drowned out by our own voice nagging, reprimanding, berating, but rarely praising us. In times of stress or chaos, the voices grow louder and it’s easy to go numb, Lerner recently told the audience at Hazelden’s Women Healing Conference in Minneapolis. “We become estranged from our pur... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189416 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:51:00 +0100 3189416 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3185633&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcomputer-addiction%2F What are physical or medical problems associated with Computer Addiction? Being addicted to the computer also can cause physical discomfort or medical problems such as: Carpal Tunnel syndrome (pain, numbness, and burning in your hands that can radiate up the wrists, elbows, and shoulders) Dry eyes Backaches Severe headaches Eating irregularities, such as skipping meals Failure to attend to personal hygiene Sleep disturbances Who is most at risk for Internet addiction? According to the Center for Internet Addiction Recovery, Internet addiction affects people of varying ages, cultural backgrounds, occupations, and educational levels. The following problems are likely triggers for internet addiction: Triggers for Internet Addiction Substance Abuse Over half of Internet addicts suffer from... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3185633 Mon, 18 Jan 2010 07:58:44 +0100 3185633 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3185636&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fa-full-cup-of-tea%2F Modern Zen Master Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen. Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then kept on pouring. The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. “It is overfull. No more will go in!” “Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?” More like this at; http://www.101zenstories.com/ See also; Affirmations 9 Recovery Destinations Children with Alcoholic Fathers The HBO Addiction Program Self-will run riot (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3185636 Mon, 18 Jan 2010 07:10:41 +0100 3185636 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3182377&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FcR2NBrU3sL4%2F The Dry Drunk can be a problem to themselves and others. Alcoholics Anonymous informally refers to the alcoholic who has stopped drinking, but who still demonstrates similar alcoholic attitudes and behaviors, as a “dry drunk.” They say that such an individual has abstinence but not sobriety. This concept has been adopted by most twelve-step Fellowships such as Narcotics Anonymous, Gamblers Anonymous and Marijuana Anonymous . It appears on almost all of the Web sites devoted to the different addictions, although characteristics of the dry drunk syndrome differ widely from site to site. Most often mentioned are: (1) depression; (2) anxiety; (3) irritability, anger; (4) grandiosity, pomposity, an inflated ego; (5) an inability to delay gratification, impatience and impulsivity; (6... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3182377 Sun, 17 Jan 2010 10:13:47 +0100 3182377 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3180408&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F2-days%2F There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is Yesterday with all its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed. We cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone forever. The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow. with all its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and its poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control. Tomorrow’s sun will rise either in splendour or behind a mask of clouds, but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow, for it is yet ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3180408 Sun, 17 Jan 2010 08:10:23 +0100 3180408 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3167460&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FQhVfZeBtE8Y%2F “My sponsor was a living damper on my intolerance. But even more, he told me that it would be all right for me to doubt God, that A.A. was not a religious program and, to belong, I did not have to adhere to any set of beliefs. “He suggested that for me a good starting point [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3167460 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:01:09 +0100 3167460 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3159803&cid=t_104519_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F01%2F11%2Fglobal-climate-change-and-the-situation-of-denial%2F Situationist Contributor John T. Jost together with Irina Feygina and Rachel E. Goldsmith have recently completed a fascinating article examining the motivations behind some people’s unwillingness to take climate change seriously.  The article, titled “System Justification, the Denial of Global Warming, and the Possibility of ‘System-Sanctioned Change’” will be published later this year in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. Here’s the abstract. * * * Despite extensive evidence of climate change and environmental destruction, polls continue to reveal widespread denial and resistance to helping the environment. It is posited here that these responses are linked to the motivational tendency to defend and justify the societal status quo in the face of ... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3159803 Mon, 11 Jan 2010 04:01:16 +0100 3159803 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3164055&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fq-GdCaOVheM%2F My life is better when I act responsibly. I am responsible for myself; my recovery, my well-being, my happiness, all these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility. Anonymous Our Higher Power does not lay claim to our free will. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3164055 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 16:00:33 +0100 3164055 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3164056&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FcUN42S3iZUs%2F Some methods A.A. members have used for not drinking About that title… Even the words "stay sober" -let alone live sober-offended many of us when we first heard such advice. Although we had done a lot of drinking, many of us never felt drunk, and were sure we almost never appeared or sounded drunk. Many of [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3164056 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:46:29 +0100 3164056 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3164057&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fskr3BwGQku8%2F DEFENSES to PROGRESS in Recovery and Living If, instead of being honest, we respond without naming a feeling, we are hiding. The ways we hide our feelings are many, and we call them defences. Each defence prevents us from being known. These behaviours are typically practiced by alcoholics, addicts, co-dependents, adult children of alcoholics, compulsive gamblers, sex [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3164057 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:16:18 +0100 3164057 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3153647&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FenZsvsgumXY%2F My name is Paul and I am a Cocaine Addict. I was born in Liverpool, the second son in a family of five boys and one girl. My father was a Liverpool dockworker who used to come home from work via the pub every night. I remember my parents would fight physically, and more often than [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3153647 Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:47:21 +0100 3153647 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3153650&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FQhE9pUK_mtU%2F The biggest obstacle to treatment of alcoholism is getting the alcoholic to break through the denial that is a hallmark of this condition (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3153650 Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:08:02 +0100 3153650 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3149329&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcaution%2F Typical signs of alcoholism; confusion, bad behaviour, denial, cloudy thinking and recovery.     I don’t get it!   Yea, I’ve had a few drinks.   Don’t they?   What’s Happening? ———————————————— Welcome! Is this your first time at a meeting? See; What is AA? What is alcoholism? Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3149329 Tue, 05 Jan 2010 15:03:36 +0100 3149329 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3142842&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FMgQgtQ4HG6M%2F Relapse is a sign that we have a reservation in our program.” Narcotics Anonymous, Basic Text, p. 76 A reservation is something we set aside for future use. In our case, a reservation is the expectation that, if such-and-such happens, we will surely relapse. What event do we expect will be too painful to bear? Maybe we think [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3142842 Tue, 05 Jan 2010 14:11:31 +0100 3142842 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3142843&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FlqOdqgyldXw%2F Enabling is a behaviour that promotes, overlooks or allows an alcoholic to escape from the reality (denial) of their situation. Some Examples of Enabling Behaviors Denying that the drinking or drug use constitutes a primary problem. Avoiding problems and conflicts which might “cause” the dependent to use alcohol or drugs. Minimizing the problems associated with use or the amount [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3142843 Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:37:26 +0100 3142843 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3142844&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FaPO0--aRceE%2F These myths would be of interest to anyone involved with alcoholism – wives, partners, parents, children, adult children (co-dependents) and of course the alcoholic. Myth 1: An alcoholic is the falling-down drunk on skid row. Answer: Only three percent of alcoholics are on skid row. Those alcoholics on skid row are undoubtedly in the last stages of [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3142844 Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:21:09 +0100 3142844 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3139253&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fthe-12-steps-to-insanity%2F The 12 Steps to Recovery have often been countered by this tongue-in-cheek 12 Steps to Insanity We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else that would allow it. Came to believe that there was no power greater than ourselves, and the rest of the [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3139253 Sun, 03 Jan 2010 16:55:54 +0100 3139253 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3139257&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholic-recovery-narcissism%2F Narcissism A Barrier to Personal Acceptance of the Spiritual Aspect of Alcoholics Anonymous Twenty-nine newly recovering alcoholic outpatients drawn from a Minnesota-Model type treatment program in the United Kingdom completed the NPI narcissism scale and the “Steps Questionnaire.” Results showed the narcissistic “authority” subscale showed a very strong inverse relationship to level of personal acceptance of [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3139257 Sun, 03 Jan 2010 15:59:44 +0100 3139257 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3137650&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F9E99MCwDzMg%2F Of all the behaviours compulsive or addicted to helping can be the most difficult to understand. This is further hindered by the confusing terminology used to describe it. Just as addiction means as many different things to as many people so do terms like co-dependency. We have tried to help clarify the situation by using [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3137650 Sun, 03 Jan 2010 07:14:52 +0100 3137650 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3136718&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FYNki-y1FF94%2F Relapse is not total failure; its only a stage Failure rates to comply with treatment for alcoholism do not differ significantly from other chronic diseases. People with disease such as diabetes, asthma and hypertension frequently fail to comply with treatment. (Lewis 2002) Relapse can range from a return to chronic heavy drinking to binge drinking, to a [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3136718 Sat, 02 Jan 2010 16:11:27 +0100 3136718 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3139258&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fhuffing-inhalants-by-kids%2F Inhalants: The new, convenient high for kids and teens Today children and teens are finding new, inexpensive and more convenient ways to get high by using products – found under the kitchen sink or in the bathroom of their homes – that are just as harmful and potentially deadly as drugs like marijuana, cocaine and heroine. [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3139258 Sat, 02 Jan 2010 15:50:51 +0100 3139258 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3136724&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fjt7iZ9SMzQ4%2F Alcoholism is a disease affecting people of all races, nationalities, social strata, and sexual orientations. Though sometimes viewed historically as a self-indulgence, a lack of personal control or other character weakness, our modern understanding of alcoholism as a disease has opened the door to a wide range of options for those seeking recovery and sobriety. Alcoholics [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3136724 Fri, 01 Jan 2010 10:54:40 +0100 3136724 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3133806&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsymptoms-of-co-dependence%2F These symptoms and characteristics of the thoughts and actions of a codependent are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. Denial Symptoms: I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling. I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel. I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others. Low Self Esteem Symptoms: I have difficulty making decisions. I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never “good enough.” I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts. I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires. I value others approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own. I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person. Compliance Symptoms: I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejecti... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3133806 Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:46:03 +0100 3133806 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3129684&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Flegal-but-lethal%2F Medication addiction Prescription medications can sneak up on you and lead to addiction. Many celebrities have recently fallen victim to prescription medication addiction and/or overdose. But its not just celebrities that need to be cautious its everyone who takes mood changing, psychoactive or pain medications. Every day medicines hold a punch that may be life changing, life changes you may not normally choose. A drug addict used to be someone who bought illegal fixes from a shady character in a back alley. But with more and more people admitting addiction to prescription drugs, your ’dealer’ can be the person you least expect to harm your health – your GP or chemist. Many doctors agree that powerful tranquillisers, sleeping pills and painkillers are addictive, and that the bo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3129684 Wed, 30 Dec 2009 10:12:24 +0100 3129684 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3129685&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcohol-awareness-for-loved-ones%2F Understanding alcohol abuse and alcoholism can be a key step in solving drinking problems Some people worry about their alcohol use but are not convinced that they need help. Friends or relatives might express their concern–”You have a drinking problem.” But often that well-intentioned statement fails to define the issue or suggest a clear solution. To cut through the confusion, it helps to understand the difference between alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence. Making this distinction can help you think clearly about a “drinking problem”–and allow you or a loved one to get the kind of help that makes a difference. Alcohol dependence–often called “alcoholism”–is only one potential complication of drinking. Alcohol abuse can disru... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3129685 Wed, 30 Dec 2009 03:38:02 +0100 3129685 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3126799&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdysfunctional-families%2F Dysfunctional families maintain a false facade in public Dysfunctional Families; Types, Symptoms and Effect on Children A dysfunctional family is a family in which conflict, misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur continually, leading other members to accommodate such actions. Children sometimes grow up in such families with the understanding that such an arrangement is normal. Dysfunctional families are most often a result of the alcoholism, substance abuse, or other addictions of parents, parents’ untreated mental illnesses/defects or personality disorders, or the parents emulating their own dysfunctional parents and dysfunctional family experiences. Behavior patterns Dysfunctional family members have common symptoms and behavior patterns as a ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3126799 Tue, 29 Dec 2009 05:03:22 +0100 3126799 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3123517&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FKblcwlkk_mw%2F Who has attitude? “I am convinced that attitude is the key to success or failure in almost any of life’s endeavours. Your attitude – your perspective, your outlook, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about other people – determines your priorities, your actions, your values. Your attitude determines how you interact with other people and how you interact with yourself.” – Carolyn Warner - The greatest change that I experienced in recovery is my attitudes to all of life’s situations. One of the best books I read and reread in early sobriety was Sobriety and Beyond. I get it out about once a year and brush up on my attitudes. Related Reading: Share/Save (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3123517 Sun, 27 Dec 2009 12:56:26 +0100 3123517 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3124702&cid=t_104519_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsteroids-shrinking-testicles%2F The Shrinker Steroids (Anabolic-Androgenic) Anabolic-androgenic steroids are man-made substances related to male sex hormones. “Anabolic” refers to muscle-building, and “androgenic” refers to increased masculine characteristics. “Steroids” refers to the class of drugs. These drugs are available legally only by prescription, to treat conditions that occur when the body produces abnormally low amounts of testosterone, such as delayed puberty and some types of impotence. They are also prescribed to treat body wasting in patients with AIDS and other diseases that result in loss of lean muscle mass. Abuse of anabolic steroids, however, can lead to serious health problems, some irreversible. Today, athletes and others abuse anabolic steroids to enhance performance and also to improve... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3124702 Sun, 27 Dec 2009 12:46:44 +0100 3124702