MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'detachment'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:38:14 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5028213&cid=t_135044_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fthe-age-of-medical-disconnect%2F2011.07.14 It’s the age of medical disconnect. The disconnect describes the emotional and intellectual detachment that physicians feel from their patients and patients from their doctors.  This disconnect is the result of a confluence of factors, some from within the profession itself, others are more broadly social and economic. To understand the disconnect you need look no further than your neighbor or your parents.  Dissatisfaction is evolving as the norm.  Patients feel increasingly marginalized in their experiences with physicians.  Shrinking length of visits, indifferent attitudes, poorly coordinated evaluations, difficulty obtaining test results, an institutional feel to the patient experience, and the overall sense of not feeling at all important. The truth is that many of us are really... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5028213 Thu, 14 Jul 2011 21:00:13 +0100 5028213 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4872489&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F0G0MuxtzXeI%2F Two recovery books in one.Detachment and Enabling combines the two classic, user-friendly texts designed for loved ones, codependents, of chemically dependent people.After you have done all you can to help an alcoholic/ addict and he or she continues to drink or use, it’s time to detach. Detachment tells us how we can continue to love someone who is chemically dependent and, at the same time, no longer focus on that person’s behavior. It is about taking back our lives. Enabling describes the problems we can encounter when we focus on the alcoholic or addict in order to keep peace at any price. The authors encourage us to consider if we are really helping the alcoholic or ourselves when we prevent the alcoholic from feeling the true consequences of his or her actions.- Order to... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4872489 Thu, 05 May 2011 17:18:00 +0100 4872489 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4495248&cid=t_135044_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F02%2F18%2F10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart%2F Bess Myerson once wrote that “to fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.” Especially if you are the one who wanted the relationship to last. Mending a broken heart is never easy. There is no quick way to stop your heart from hurting so much. To stop loving isn’t an option. Author Henri Nouwen writes, “When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful.” But how do we get beyond the pain? Here are 10 tips I’ve gathered from experts and from conversations with friends on how they patched up their heart and tried, ever so gradually, to move on. 1. Go through it, not ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4495248 Fri, 18 Feb 2011 20:56:05 +0100 4495248 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4382953&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F7-cs-for-alcoholic-detachment%2F Image via WikipediaChildren, Adult Children and partners of alcoholics often develop seven ways or attitudes to deal with the drinker. These are;Guilt and shame implied by the alcoholic about causing them to drink excessivelyIf I caused alcoholism, I must be able to find a remedyIf I can’t cure it I can control the behaviour and drinkingAvoiding self-care in deference to the alcoholics needsFearfully not expressing own needs and feelingsMaking poorly considered decisions – unhealthy, irrationalBelittling self, abilities, accomplishments and potentialIn recovery children of alcoholics and co-dependents learn to reverse these attitudes. Quite simply these principles are life attitudes.The Seven C’s of Another Persons Alcoholism – DetachmentI didn’t Cause itI can’t Cur... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4382953 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 15:40:00 +0100 4382953 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4338023&cid=t_135044_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F01%2F12%2Fcritical-thinking-what-is-true-and-what-to-do%2F Many researchers suggest that a key characteristic of critical thinking is the ability to recognize one’s own fallibility when evaluating and generating evidence — recognizing the danger of weighing evidence according to one’s own beliefs.  The expanding literature on informal reasoning emphasizes the importance of detaching one’s own beliefs from the process of argument evaluation (Kuhn, 2007; Stanovich & Stanovich, 2010). The emphasis placed on unbiased reasoning processes has led researchers to highlight the importance of decontextualized reasoning.  For example (Stanovich & Stanovich, 2010, p. 196): Kelley (1990) argues that “the ability to step back from our train of thought . . . . is a virtue because it is the only way to check the results of our thinking... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4338023 Wed, 12 Jan 2011 12:24:20 +0100 4338023 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4119730&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdetachment-from-emotion%2F This article may help. Letting someone else’s behavior determine how we feel at every turn is irresponsible. Our emotions should be determined by us, not by someone else. But no doubt we have spent years confusing the boundaries that separate us from other people. Whether at work or at home, we have too often let someone else’s “insanity” affect how we behave and how we feel. At first, it may seem insensitive not to react to others’ problems or negative behavior. We may fear they’ll think we simply don’t care about them. Learning that it is far more caring to let other people handle their own lives takes time and patience. But with practice, it will begin to feel comfortable. In fact, in time it will feel freeing and wonderful. I will work on detac... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4119730 Sun, 24 Oct 2010 16:08:01 +0100 4119730 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3858387&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdetachment-with-love%2F Alcoholism is a family disease. Living with the effects of someone else’s drinking is too devastating for most people to bear without help. In Al-Anon we learn individuals are not responsible for another person’s disease or recovery from it. We let go of our obsession with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights; lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves. In Al-Anon we learn: Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people; Not to allow ourselves to be used or abused by others in the interest of another’s recovery; Not to do for others what they could do for themselves; Not to manipulate situations so others will eat, go to bed, get up, pay bills, not drink; Not to cover up for an... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3858387 Thu, 12 Aug 2010 06:35:47 +0100 3858387 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3641329&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Ffreedom-from-emotion-2%2F Detachment means "freedom from emotion." Detachment is something all people in recovery seek. Letting someone else’s behavior determine how we feel at every turn is irresponsible. Our emotions should be determined by us, not by someone else. But no doubt we have spent years confusing the boundaries that separate us from other people. Whether at work or at home, we have too often let someone else’s "insanity" affect how we behave and how we feel. At first, it may seem insensitive not to react to others’ problems or negative behavior. We may fear they’ll think we simply don’t care about them. Learning that it is far more caring to let other people handle their own lives takes time and patience. But with practice, it will begin to feel comfort... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3641329 Mon, 07 Jun 2010 20:32:00 +0100 3641329 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3522834&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FiLUMsoNDk3Y%2F Detachment and recovery from alcoholism Like alcoholics themselves, the families and friends of alcoholics display symptoms denial, anxiety, guilt and require treatment. Al-Anon groups have proved to be an excellent resource for these people. But Al-Anon’s central concept, that of detachment, is resented and rejected by many prospective members of Al-Anon. Detachment involves realizing that the family member or friend cannot control the alcoholic’s behavior, accepting this powerlessness, and separating one’s self from the behavior though not from the person. It also means that family life must not revolve around the alcoholic’s problems and behavior and that the alcoholic must be allowed to take the consequences of his or her behavior. It does not m... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3522834 Sat, 01 May 2010 15:31:00 +0100 3522834 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3502988&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Foz6tbCrmAjw%2F Letting Go is easy when you have the parachute of a 12 Step Fellowship Detachment means “freedom from emotion.” Detachment is something all people in recovery seek. Letting someone else’s behavior determine how we feel at every turn is irresponsible. Our emotions should be determined by us, not by someone else. But no doubt we have spent years confusing the boundaries that separate us from other people. Whether at work or at home, we have too often let someone else’s “insanity” affect how we behave and how we feel. At first, it may seem insensitive not to react to others’ problems or negative behavior. We may fear they’ll think we simply don’t care about them. Learning that it is far more caring to let other people handle their own live... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3502988 Sat, 24 Apr 2010 11:48:15 +0100 3502988 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3490704&cid=t_135044_111_f&fid=39123&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fnursingcomments%2Ftdtc%2F%7E3%2F4s8IJdYx6fs%2F           Retinal detachment will affect about one out of 10,000 people each year in the United States.  The retina is a thin layer of light-sensitive nerve fibers and cells that covers the inside and back of the eyeball.  For us to see, light must pass through the lens of the eye and focus on the retina.  The retina then acts like a camera, taking a picture and transmitting the image through the optic nerve to the brain.  The vitreous fluid, the gel-like material that fills the eyeball, is attached to the retina around the back of the eye.  If the vitreous changes shape, it may pull a piece of the retina with it, leaving a retinal tear.  Once a retinal tear occurs, vitreous fluid may seep between the retina and the back wall of the eye, causing the retina to pull away.  Th... Nursing Comments blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3490704 Wed, 21 Apr 2010 00:59:52 +0100 3490704 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3441064&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FPhtNxLg61PM%2F Detachment and Enabling combines the two classic, user-friendly texts designed for loved ones, codependents, of chemically dependent people. After you have done all you can to help an alcoholic/ addict and he or she continues to drink or use, it’s time to detach. Detachment tells us how we can continue to love someone who is chemically dependent and, at the same time, no longer focus on that person’s behavior. It is about taking back our lives. Enabling describes the problems we can encounter when we focus on the alcoholic or addict in order to keep peace at any price. The authors encourage us to consider if we are really helping the alcoholic or ourselves when we prevent the alcoholic from feeling the true consequences of his or her actions. - Order today >> Detachm... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3441064 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 17:18:00 +0100 3441064 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3411292&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fus90hpgupE8%2F Try to adopt the following approaches to your alcoholic / addict; 1. Try to learn the facts about alcoholism and other drug addiction. Keep an open mind. 2. Recognize addiction for what it is-a disease of the body, mind, behavior, and spirit from which people can and do recover. Like other diseases, nobody really intends to get it or wish it upon their loved ones once they have it. Try to remember that the alcoholic / addict in your family isn’t doing this at you. This is a disease beyond will power. 3. Practice detachment. Do not allow yourself to become obsessed with your family member. This is sometimes called “release with love.” In effect, there are times that you simply must let go and let the alcoholic / addict experience the consequences of their drinking and dru... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3411292 Thu, 25 Mar 2010 22:40:43 +0100 3411292 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3390996&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdetachment-with-love-3%2F Alcoholism is a family disease. Living with the effects of someone else’s drinking is too devastating for most people to bear without help. In Al-anon we learn individuals are not responsible for another person’s disease or recovery from it. We let go of our obsession with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights; lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves. In Al-Anon we learn: Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people; Not to allow ourselves to be used or abused by others in the interest of another’s recovery; Not to do for others what they could do for themselves; Not to manipulate situations so others will eat, go to bed, get up, pay bills, not drink; Not to cover up for anyone’s mistakes... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3390996 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 16:42:00 +0100 3390996 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3290996&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F91BwAxbv7tU%2F This article may help. Letting someone else’s behavior determine how we feel at every turn is irresponsible. Our emotions should be determined by us, not by someone else. But no doubt we have spent years confusing the boundaries that separate us from other people. Whether at work or at home, we have too often let someone else’s “insanity” affect how we behave and how we feel. At first, it may seem insensitive not to react to others’ problems or negative behavior. We may fear they’ll think we simply don’t care about them. Learning that it is far more caring to let other people handle their own lives takes time and patience. But with practice, it will begin to feel comfortable. In fact, in time it will feel freeing and wonderful. I will work on detac... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3290996 Sat, 20 Feb 2010 11:05:04 +0100 3290996 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3172209&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FrubghhGQVUk%2F Detachment with love takes on deeper meaning One of the great gifts of the addiction recovery movement is the concept of detachment with love. Originally conceived as a way to relate to an alcoholic family member, detachment with love is actually a tool that we can apply with anyone. Al-Anon, a Twelve Step mutual-help group for friends [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3172209 Wed, 13 Jan 2010 23:01:57 +0100 3172209 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3129685&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcohol-awareness-for-loved-ones%2F Understanding alcohol abuse and alcoholism can be a key step in solving drinking problems Some people worry about their alcohol use but are not convinced that they need help. Friends or relatives might express their concern–”You have a drinking problem.” But often that well-intentioned statement fails to define the issue or suggest a clear solution. To cut through the confusion, it helps to understand the difference between alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence. Making this distinction can help you think clearly about a “drinking problem”–and allow you or a loved one to get the kind of help that makes a difference. Alcohol dependence–often called “alcoholism”–is only one potential complication of drinking. Alcohol abuse can disru... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3129685 Wed, 30 Dec 2009 03:38:02 +0100 3129685 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1294767&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F03%2Fhope-vs-desperation.html "Desperation is the raw material of drastic change. Only those who can leave behind everything behind they have ever believed in can hope to escape."-William S. BurroughsSometimes, especially now that I am a Zen Master Blackbelt Detachment Warrior Of The Order Of Nar-Anon, I feel like I'm watching a race when I watch my husband struggling with his recovery. Yesterday, recovery was leading relapse by a nose...who knows what we'll see today.I watch him wanting to get better but battling such a well of despair, fear, depression, guilt. It sometimes seems like he doesn't think he deserves to have the wonderful life that is waiting for him on the other side of his sickness. Sometimes, I'm so afraid for him.One thing I never understand about him, and about addicts in general, is the need constan... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1294767 Tue, 11 Mar 2008 16:06:00 +0100 1294767 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1279520&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F03%2Fspace.html One of my husband's least favorite parts of my growth is my detachment. He doesn't like it in any of its manifestations, but probably his least favorite part is when I get far away from him. He says he feels like I don't love him.For instance, if he's being insane, I tend to sleep in a different room. If he's throwing a tantrum, I tend to leave the house for a while. My natural inclination is towards him, like a moth to flame. My urge, if left unattended, is to go to him, to try to help him, to try to fix him. Mostly, though, when I go to him, I end up taking on his shit. He doesn't get any better, and I get worse. I get cans thrown at me.I can't figure out how to explain to him that I love him too much to be around him when he's really desperate. I love him so much that his sickness gets ... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1279520 Wed, 05 Mar 2008 02:39:00 +0100 1279520 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=944737&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2007%2F10%2Foh-thank-god.html It's meeting night tonight. I am so very, very much in need of a good meeting. I got charmed out of my last meeting by the garlic bread at G's family's dinner and the very sincere look in his eyes when he told me that he wished I'd stay and eat with his folks.I know better than to skip my meeting, and really, he knows better than to talk me out of my meeting. Without a good dose of Nar-Anon, I end up stomping through our house with rage in my eyes like a zombie. I wake up in the mornings with my mind already agitated, cycling through all the things he's done wrong, worrying about all the things he will do wrong, fretting about how I'm going to find a satisfactory stopping place for this MADNESS.He is in his second day at a job that seems to be going well. I hope this one sticks. I'm sweati... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=944737 Thu, 11 Oct 2007 20:50:00 +0100 944737 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=926368&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2007%2F10%2Ffergies-codie-victory-song.html Edith Whoreton pointed out that Fergie has a codie recovery song. It's great. Her boyfriend has sexy tattoos and he's all skinny and artistic and tortured, so she's put up with his shit for a long time. But now, she's realized that, even though he's fine, he won't stop having Mexican drug dealers in her yard. He won't stop fucking with her car.The best part of the video is her face when she walks outside and sees the Mexican drug dealers and then also his face when he gives her the, "What? I'm just buying heroin! Why are you looking at me like it's a problem?" face. That's a great face.I also like it that she keeps including the recovery code words in the song, like "Serenity" and "Clarity." That line about the blanket is pretty stupid, though. (Source: Heroin Addiction Codependence) Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=926368 Thu, 04 Oct 2007 01:09:00 +0100 926368 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=923822&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2007%2F10%2Frare-form.html My baby was fussy tonight.My husband behaves sometimes as if he were a giant slobbering infant from hell. His mood was foul, which made him break all our plans for the evening to go lie in bed and pout. Generally, I am very good at detaching from this scenario. When he is pissy and miserable and whiny and shitty to be around, I go away and protect my sanity from his bullshit. Tonight, however, he'd had a job interview, and we'd talked about us updating the website where he keeps his portfolio to make it easier for the boss to evaluate his work. I'd agreed to help him with that.While he was hiding in the bed, pouting and pretending to go to bed, I started fretting about how he needs to update the site. I'd volunteered to do it for him, as I'm more proficient with the whole web thing, and he... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=923822 Wed, 03 Oct 2007 04:04:00 +0100 923822 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=816809&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2007%2F08%2Fsong-of-day.html (Question sent me a few cds a couple of weeks ago. One was from Ryan Adams, and one was from Wilco, and they were both the first albums for both artists after kicking heroin...so they are both poignant. This song has been nagging at me all day today...and I like sharing my mental mix tapes with my blog friends. So here's this song...)Either WayMaybe the sun will shine todayThe clouds will blow awayMaybe I won't feel so afraidI will try to understandEither wayMaybe you still love meMaybe you don'tEither you will or your won'tMaybe you just need some time aloneI will try to understandEverything has its planEither wayI'm gonna stayRight for youMaybe the sun will shine todayThe clouds will roll awayMaybe I won't be so afraidI will understandEverything has its planEither way (Source: Heroin Add... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=816809 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 22:28:00 +0100 816809 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=761719&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2007%2F07%2Fi-dream-of-hardwood.html Oh, how I want hardwoods. The puppy has peed the carpet beyond repair, and even if I steam clean twice a week, which is excessive, there are still big pee stains. I want the feel of hardwood under my feet. I want it bad. I take my shoes off at work, where there are hardwoods, just to be able to enjoy the texture under my feet.I like being able to mop the whole house and make it smell like oranges or pine trees or whatever. I like to put oil down and make it shiny and wonderful. I like the clean look of it all, even when it's dirty.We were going to get hardwoods before Heroin Crisis 2007 lead to this stint of unemployment. Maybe I should use my credit and get hardwoods. It would please me so...and maybe I'd feel like we'd moved past something, moved into a new era of hardwood magic.I love t... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=761719 Thu, 26 Jul 2007 19:38:00 +0100 761719 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=761720&cid=t_135044_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2007%2F07%2Fi-dont-care.html I feel like such a wondrous Buddha of detachment lately. I have gotten really good at carving out this space for myself. I got home last night, and the Stray was there. He and my husband were arguing, loudly."You just need to suck it up and go to work and get your shit together. You're not going to start to feel good about yourself until you start acting right.""It's just so hard!""Yeah, but it's what you've got to do. You're a grown man, and you need to act like it."It's strange hearing my husband bucking up his friend with the exact language that I've used with him. I stood in the kitchen, chopping up cabbage, and laughed at the two of them, upstairs, fighting. A part of me wanted to go shake both of them. They're a shit show. They're entertaining, at least. The Stray wasn't hammered, wh... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=761720 Thu, 26 Jul 2007 19:10:00 +0100 761720