MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'family recovery'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:31:16 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4893923&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstages-in-the-alcoholic-family%2F Chaos in alcoholic familiesA family with an alcohol in its midst will go through several stages in dealing with the chaos and disruption caused by the alcoholic. These stages are described below in order of appearance.Denial: Early in the development of alcoholism, occasional episodes of excessive drinking are explained away by both marriage partners. Drinking because of tiredness, worry, or a bad day is not unbelievable. The assumption is that the episode is isolated and is, therefore, not a problem.Attempts to Eliminate the Problem:The non-alcoholic spouse realizes that the drinking is not normal and tries to pressure the alcoholic to quit, be more careful, or cut down. At the same time, the spouse tries to hide the problems from the outside and keep up a good.front. Children may start t... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4893923 Fri, 03 Jun 2011 19:03:25 +0100 4893923 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4872487&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F44G-oFFWOsQ%2F A classic recovery book for adult children of alcoholics.Have you ever said that to yourself? Or, I’ll never be like …? First published 20 years ago, It Will Never Happen to Me is the definitive book/workbook for adult children of alcoholics. With her reassuring and informative approach, Claudia Black expertly identifies common issues faced by children who grew up in alcoholic families–shame, neglect, unreasonable role expectations, and physical abuse. Using narratives and profiles, she describes survival techniques characteristic of children raised in alcoholic families, including the unspoken laws of don’t talk, don’t trust, and don’t feel. First explaining how such learned responses cause difficulties in adulthood, Black carefully guides readers in identifyi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4872487 Fri, 06 May 2011 15:50:00 +0100 4872487 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4653610&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstigma-and-alcoholism%2F There is no physical or psychiatric condition more associated with social disapproval and discrimination than alcohol and/or other drug (AOD) dependence. Alcoholism/ addiction-related social stigma constitutes a major obstacle to personal and family recovery, contributes to pushing addiction professionals to the fringes therapy and their organizations, and limits the funding and community provisions allocated to AOD-related problems.Efforts to develop “recovery-oriented systems of care” inevitably confront social stigma as a barrier to shaping community attitudes and policies supportive of long-term addiction recovery.Stigma Defined Stigma is the experience of being held in contempt (shunned or rendered socially invisible) because of a socially disapproved position. It involves process... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4653610 Sun, 27 Mar 2011 16:37:08 +0100 4653610 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4470532&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholism-affects-the-entire-family-2%2F …Not Just the AlcoholicHow many people are involved in the life of any one alcoholic? Family, friends, employer, co-workers… It is important to remember that all these people are affected by alcoholism-not just the alcoholic. Many of them spend a lot of time and energy trying to "fix" the alcoholic: covering up for them, punishing them, taking responsibility for them.For over 56 years, Al-Anon Family Groups (including Alateen for younger members) has been providing help and hope to families and friends of alcoholics. In non-professional, mutual support meetings, members share their own experience, strength, and hope to help one another to recover from the effects of alcoholism. Living with alcoholism has been described as living on a merry-go-round, where each family memb... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4470532 Sat, 12 Feb 2011 15:25:00 +0100 4470532 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4302288&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FtI6xyf80gfQ%2F Recovery Is Sexy has had a record year in visitors and page views. Here are the 15 most popular posts in 2010.10 Reasons for Low Libido12-Step Speaker Tape Links5 Ways to Please Your Man In BedAddictive RelationshipsAddictive Thinking, Stinking ThinkingAlcohol & SexualityAlcoholic Family RolesSensual MassageSex for Men Over 50Sexuality in SobrietyStinking ThinkingThirteenth SteppingTwelve Step SponsorshipWomen’s Sexual ArousalWomen’s Sexual Fantasies- Share, print or e-mail this articleThirteenth SteppingStinking ThinkingAddictive Thinking, Stinking ThinkingDistorted, Stinking Thinking (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4302288 Wed, 29 Dec 2010 15:45:00 +0100 4302288 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3816763&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fserving-productive-jail-time%2F Serving Productive Time Are you or have you ever been incarcerated? Do you have a loved one in jail or prison? Do you work or volunteer at a correctional facility? Have you ever been the victim of a crime? Do you understand that we all share the responsibility of helping others—no matter who they are, where they live, or what they have done? If so, you understand that incarceration affects everyone and that only through positive change can people begin to heal and grow. In Serving Productive Time, you’ll read about extraordinary people who are taking tangible steps to make positive changes in their own lives and who are reaching out to help others do the same. Some stories will help you gain a new perspective on those who are incarcerated. Some will help you understand t... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3816763 Tue, 03 Aug 2010 18:56:00 +0100 3816763 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3754087&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FZ3I0Htc4n_M%2F New research has examined the cost of raising kids from birth to age 17 years in America. The results are stunning as they compared normal, non-delinquent teens with the abused, the delinquent, the violent and the homicidal. Each group of 30 teenagers were assessed for total expenses, victimization costs, and criminal justice expenditures. The 17 years cost were; Normal, non-delinquent youth – $150,754 Abused, delinquent, and violent youth – $301,508 Homicidal youth – $3,935,433 Incredibly the cost to society of homicidal youth is 26 times the cost of a normal non-delinquent youth. While the severe personal costs to the victims and to the youth themselves needs to be addressed public health policies need to work on these issues more effectively. Personal costs i... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3754087 Mon, 12 Jul 2010 15:59:00 +0100 3754087 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3699710&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-enabling-2%2F Enabling is doing for others what they are capable of doing for themselves. When we enable alcoholics / addicts, we prevent them from experiencing the consequences of their own actions. When we do this, we discourage them from learning from their own mistakes which, in turn, prevents them from realizing they have a problem. The alcoholic / addict has made drugs / drinking their whole life. The normal, natural things every person needs to learn have been put aside. When we continue to reach in and do even the simple things for people we love, how will they learn to do for themselves? When we begin to enable an addict / alcoholic it can spiral into a never ending co-dependency trap. How do we enable? We enable alcoholics / addicts by doing things such as: Paying their bills, making ca... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3699710 Fri, 25 Jun 2010 16:10:00 +0100 3699710 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3687363&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fspouses-of-alcoholics%2F Alcoholic Partner’s Criticism Linked to Relapse – ‘But not All’ A new study published in Behavior Therapy apparently confirms that Ala-anon’s purpose of offering "understanding and encouragement" to those with drinking problems is best approach family members can take in dealing with the situation. The study, conducted by William Fals-Stewart of the State University of New York at Buffalo, found that men recovering from substance abuse are less successful if they believe their spouse or partner is critical of them, rather than supportive. The study found that of 106 married men studied, those who reported greater criticism from their partners were more likely to have relapsed, regardless of the severity of their drug problem, age or race. Al-Anon is a support group... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3687363 Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:55:00 +0100 3687363 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3687365&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Ffamily-stages-of-alcoholism%2F A family with an alcoholic in its midst will go through several stages in dealing with the chaos and disruption caused by the alcoholic. These stages are described below in order of appearance. Denial: Early in the development of alcoholism, occasional episodes of excessive drinking are explained away by both marriage partners. Drinking because of tiredness, worry, or a bad day is not unbelievable. The assumption is that the episode is isolated and is, therefore, not a problem. Attempts to Eliminate the Problem:The non-alcoholic spouse realizes that the drinking is not normal and tries to pressure the alcoholic to quit, be more careful, or cut down. At the same time, the spouse tries to hide the problems from the outside and keep up a good.front. Children may start to have problems in resp... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3687365 Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:42:00 +0100 3687365 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3679917&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faa-for-youth-2%2F • “If I could have stayed cool, I’d still be drinking. Very quickly, though, I started getting into trouble. Going to sixth grade got in the way of my life, which consisted of getting drunk as much as possible.” [After rehab] “I was going to A.A. meetings. Everyone was older, even most of the kids at the young people meetings. But I found that alcoholics understand other alcoholics. . . . Regardless of how young or old or ‘special’ I am, in A.A. I’m just a drunk.” Tina, who joined A.A. at 13 • “I loved drinking and was as addicted to the lies, the shady people and places as I was to the alcohol. My grades suffered until I stopped going to school altogether. . . . I found myself in places without any idea of how I had gotten there. I overdosed on alcohol.” Since comi... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3679917 Sun, 20 Jun 2010 16:48:00 +0100 3679917 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3672056&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcohol-collateral-damage%2F Al-anon  Studies have found that when actively drinking, an alcoholic affects at least four people around him or her. According to members of Alanon (a 12-step support group for relatives and friends of alcoholics), spouses and children of alcoholics often suffer from depression, mood swings, anger, guilt, and resentment of their situation and a feeling of isolation. Ariel S., a long-time member of Alanon, said, "My husband was addicted to alcohol and I was addicted to him." She said that after she went to her first Alanon meeting, she learned what is called the "3 Cs." I didn’t cause alcoholism, I can’t control it and I can’t cure it,’" she said. Learning that alcoholism was a disease helped her understand her husband’s ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3672056 Wed, 16 Jun 2010 16:09:00 +0100 3672056 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3641331&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholism-is-a-family-disease%2F Family Recovery Family recovery is one of the keys to treatment for alcoholism. Alcoholics and alcohol abusers attract more public attention, but their families and friends also suffer long-term effects from alcoholism-and their recovery may be essential to the alcoholic’s recovery, according to a leading researcher in the field. “Alcoholism is a family disease. While it is important for the family to support the alcoholic’s recovery, it is also important for members of the family to get involved in their own recovery. Family recovery decreases the chances that the children of alcoholics will repeat the pattern and engage in unhealthy relationships,” said Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D., cofounder of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics and director of the Mid-Atla... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3641331 Sun, 06 Jun 2010 17:07:01 +0100 3641331 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3614692&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FEufvLioMtWU%2F Grief may be expressed–without the aid of alcohol, drugs When Joanne and Bob (not their real names) came to the Center for Grief in St. Paul, Minn., after their daughter’s death, they were paralyzed by loss. They couldn’t sleep or work, and their relationship was eroding. "We also quickly discovered they were attempting to anesthetize their pain by drinking it away," said Tom Ellis, the nonprofit center’s executive director and the author of an upcoming book, "The Heart of Grief: New Understandings of Loss." "They had adopted the ritual of consuming several bottles of wine with dinner and would come to therapy exhausted, overwhelmed, and ‘stuck’ in the grieving process. Before we could deal with issues of loss, they needed to deal ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3614692 Mon, 31 May 2010 15:02:21 +0100 3614692 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3595906&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F4Qym_uF4kqw%2F / A recovery book Are you one of the growing number of people who serves as a caregiver for an aging or chronically ill friend or family member? If so, you probably struggle to meet both their special needs and still find time and resources for yourself. But now there is reason to take heart. The authors of this down-to-earth, encouraging book can help you make the most of the experience without losing yourself in the process. Using the Twelve Steps as a guide, the authors conduct readers through the pitfalls of caregiving–the emotional snarls and strains, daily struggles, competing needs, and questions about confronting pain–providing hope and tangible suggestions on how to stay strong and sane while providing healthy support and love. “Self-Care for Caregivers offers ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3595906 Sun, 23 May 2010 22:03:00 +0100 3595906 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3585842&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fthe-forgotten-kids-of-alcoholism%2F Families of people with substance problems are too often “forgotten kids”. It was several months ago, after a long running breakdown in family relationships, that my father admitted to suffering from alcoholism – something we, his family, had always known about, and had learned to live with it as part of our everyday life… It is hard to know when his drinking became a problem. He did not always drink excessively; it crept up so slowly that we did not realise its effects until it became too much to cope with. Growing up seeing my father drinking was normal to me; in many ways, it feels as if “alcoholism” is a recent issue. One of the main problems I faced after my father’s admission to alcoholism was that I did not see him as an alcoholic. I had a stereotyped image of alco... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3585842 Wed, 19 May 2010 01:54:46 +0100 3585842 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3545633&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fmommys-gone-to-treatment%2F Mommy’s Gone to Treatment Addiction is a devastating and all-embracing disease. Family members are often as profoundly affected by the illness as the person who suffers from it. Imagine what a child must think watching a parent descend deep into addiction, changing from a loving and nurturing mother into a hostile, screaming stranger. But there is hope for addicts and their families. This book is about Janey, a young girl whose mother has entered a center for addiction treatment. Written in easy-to-understand language with brightly colored illustrations, Mommy’s Gone to Treatment addresses issues children often face when an addicted parent seeks help. Included is a parent’s guide with important talking points on easing a child’s apprehension when someone they lov... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3545633 Thu, 06 May 2010 16:02:00 +0100 3545633 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3499317&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcodependent-no-more%2F – A Classic in the recovery field, a recovery book for family and friends of alcoholics and addicts. Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent–and you may find yourself in this book. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healin... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3499317 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 19:23:00 +0100 3499317 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3480938&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FDPgFXdr9R1w%2F Bill W. and wife Lois sharing their story as the co-founders of Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-anon. Go to this link to see more video’s of Bill and Lois. See also; Bill’s Story in the book ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’ Alcoholism, Addiction & Codependency Recovery Bookstore Hazelden Books, DVD's & Medalions (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3480938 Sat, 17 Apr 2010 10:47:45 +0100 3480938 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3454207&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fadult-children-of-alcoholics-can-practice-being-normal%2F Don't let the trust stop at birth “Sometimes I feel like I was raised by wolves,” sighed James, a 55-year-old man who grew up in a home with two alcoholic parents. “I know what it is to be codependent. I’ve gone through so much of my life guessing at what ‘normal’ is. It’s like trying to find your way through a dark woods without a compass.” According to Rosemary Hartman, supervisor of the Hazelden Family Program, reactions like James’ are typical for people who grew up in dysfunctional families. But acknowledging that there were issues that deeply affected the whole family system is an important first step toward emotional and spiritual healing. Hartman said this acknowledgment frequently happens when adults have their own children. “They want to be good parent... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3454207 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 15:25:00 +0100 3454207 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3441066&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FR7KyD9xcl-Q%2F Have you ever said that to yourself? Or, I’ll never be like …? First published 20 years ago, It Will Never Happen to Me is the definitive book/workbook for adult children of alcoholics. With her reassuring and informative approach, Claudia Black expertly identifies common issues faced by children who grew up in alcoholic families–shame, neglect, unreasonable role expectations, and physical abuse. Using narratives and profiles, she describes survival techniques characteristic of children raised in alcoholic families, including the unspoken laws of don’t talk, don’t trust, and don’t feel. First explaining how such learned responses cause difficulties in adulthood, Black carefully guides readers in identifying self-defeating, destructive behaviors and findin... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3441066 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 15:50:00 +0100 3441066 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3420763&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdaily-affirmations-for-adult-children-of-alcoholics%2F The messages that we give to ourselves are the most important messages we hear. The internal briefings and conversations we hold determine our attitudes, our behavior and the course of our lives. If, as children, we were criticized and shamed, our internal dialogue will be self-deprecating. If we are used to large doses of self-imposed sarcasm and negative reviews of our daily performance, we gradually mutilate our self-esteem, our creativity and our spirit. As adult children of alcoholics, we can continue to remain in the past and believe the negatives that we were taught; or we can change our beliefs with affirmative thoughts that can set us free into better and more expansive experiences. What we choose to believe will ultimately rule our world. Affirmations are a way to wake us up&#8... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3420763 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 14:41:00 +0100 3420763 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3412598&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FQwehwTiyEqs%2F There is no physical or psychiatric condition more associated with social disapproval and discrimination than alcohol and/or other drug (AOD) dependence. Alcoholism/ addiction-related social stigma constitutes a major obstacle to personal and family recovery, contributes to pushing addiction professionals to the fringes therapy and their organizations, and limits the funding and community provisions allocated to AOD-related problems. Efforts to develop “recovery-oriented systems of care” inevitably confront social stigma as a barrier to shaping community attitudes and policies supportive of long-term addiction recovery. Stigma Defined Stigma is the experience of being held in contempt (shunned or rendered socially invisible) because of a socially disapproved position. It involves p... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3412598 Sat, 27 Mar 2010 17:10:00 +0100 3412598 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3363826&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FkVKVZ4s7nvk%2F You’re learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else’s problems. And yet you find you’ve just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie, author of the classic Codependent No More, help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, Beyond Codependency is dedicated to those struggling to master the art of self-care. It is a book about what to do once the pain has stopped and you’ve begun to suspect that you have a life to live. It is about what happens next. In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality. With personal stories, hard-won insights, and a... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3363826 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:30:00 +0100 3363826 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3350589&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FOPq8rP7kjJE%2F A Woman’s Guide to Recovery How Free Do You Want to Be? Recovery Transforms Lives If you are a woman who has found the courage to start down the road of recovery, know that you are never alone. Others have walked before you and have experienced recovery’s promises of radical change. This book, written by the director of the Hazelden Women’s Recovery Center, explains how you, too, can live a life “beyond your wildest dreams.” Its pages are filled with expert advice, caring support, and personal stories of women who have found their way out of the mess of addiction. Here you’ll read about • the basics of addiction, the principles of the Twelve Step Fellowship program, and how to get started in recovery • how addiction and recovery are differe... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3350589 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:11:34 +0100 3350589 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3307101&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FKTy2Ta1GID0%2F Based on the public television series of the same name, Bradshaw On: The Family is John Bradshaw’s seminal work on the dynamics of families that has sold more than a million copies since its original publication in 1988. Within its pages, you will discover the cause of emotionally impaired families. You will learn how unhealthy rules of behavior are passed down from parents to children, and the destructive effect this process has on our society. Using the latest family research and recovery material in this new edition, Bradshaw also explores the individual in both a family and societal setting. He shows you ways to escape the tyranny of family-reinforced behavior traps–from addiction and co-dependency to loss of will and denial–and demonstrates how to make conscious c... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3307101 Wed, 24 Feb 2010 13:08:05 +0100 3307101 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3307103&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FXX-8CyylmOY%2F I Found My True Self I grew up in a middle-class family in Australia. We had a three-story home with an indoor swimming pool and I had a pony. But home was not as it looked from the outside. Not How It Looked My family looked very successful, but my mother drank alcohol daily and my dad drank beer and got drunk. Mum and Dad had weekly arguments. My brother was a qualified Chemist at 21. He committed suicide one night— the disease of alcoholism got him. It took me years to seek my own recovery after two marriage break-ups, loss of homes and a life of unmanageability that I did not recognize. My third husband, whom I love very much, is still out there drinking, although he has been in AA. I have been in Al-Anon (12 Step group for relatives and friends of alcoholics) for nine years. Recogn... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3307103 Wed, 24 Feb 2010 12:21:44 +0100 3307103 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3294817&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Ftiger-woods-truths-his-greatest-legacy%2F Tiger Woods at his public appology Patrick Smith writing in the Australian newspaper concludes that the Tiger Woods experience carries messages for all celebrities and sports stars. It also carries messages for us all in 12 Step Fellowship recovery plus life for all in general. Tiger’s immense and clean celebrity status affirmed the cliché ‘The bigger they are, the harder they fall’. And, as all people in recovery know, the fall from grace is devastating. Most recovering alcoholics, addicts and co-dependents fear making amends to some people they have hurt. And, Tiger Woods did not appear to be any less fearful at his press conference. Woods said “… I know I have bitterly disappointed all of you. I have made you question who I am and how I could have done the things I did. I am ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3294817 Sun, 21 Feb 2010 23:58:20 +0100 3294817 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3291002&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FS_He3JOGmhQ%2F Enabling of Alcoholism / Addiction Questionnaire During the past 12 months how often have you; Given money to your partner thinking he/she might buy alcohol or drugs with it? Purchased alcohol or drugs for your partner? Taken over your partner’s typical chores and responsibilities neglected because of his/her drinking or drug use? Lied or made excuses to family or friends to hide your partner’s drinking or drug use? Drank or used drugs with your partner, or in your partner’s presence? Told your partner that it was okay to drink or use drugs on certain days or for special family or social gatherings? Borrowed money to pay bills caused by your partner’s drinking or drug use? Changed or cancelled family plans or social activities because your partner was drinking, us... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3291002 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:38:00 +0100 3291002 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267205&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FJIqYh2Sos6A%2F Al-Anon Speaks for Itself A wife, father, husband, and daughter describe what it is like to love someone who has a drinking problem. The wife says, “I didn’t live in reality at all. I covered up and made believe.” The father says, “When the police came and told me the charges against my son, it was unbelievable. To see my son taken away in handcuffs was the most difficult day of my life.” To the right of the YouTube panel you will find other videos about Al-anon. Click here for the YouTube video; Al-Anon Speak Part 1 Al-anon Speak part II Al-anon Speak part III Al-anon Speak part IV See also; Al-anon / Alateen Recovery MP3 tracks for all 12-Step Fellowships Self-care Boundaries Language of Letting Go A Woman’s Way Through The Twelve Steps Related R... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267205 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 19:01:47 +0100 3267205 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3259274&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fb8KIc93kKXM%2F Always more work to be done It is very difficult to relax. We often, if not always, feel the need to get just a few more tasks done before we can feel good about ourselves and allow ourselves to relax. When we do complete these tasks we find just a few more that we need to complete, and then a few more…. These uncontrollable desires often result in frantic, compulsive working. We are powerless to control this pattern. We are so used to doing what we are expected to do that we are often unable to know what it is that we really want to do and need to do for ourselves. We often feel that we must complete certain tasks, even though we do not want to, yet we are too scared to stop. We often feel resentment about having to complete tasks when we would rather relax or play. At these times... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3259274 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:16:31 +0100 3259274 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3251404&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F6-signs-of-co-dependency%2F Co-dependent emotional chaos What is co-dependency? The term “co-dependency” was coined more than 20 years ago by authors who studied the negative impact of drug and alcohol use on families. Since then, use of the term has been expanded to include a pattern of psychologically unhealthy behaviors that are learned by individuals as a way of coping with a family environment marked by ignored or denied emotional turmoil. Most people are able to enjoy a sense of healthy, mutual interdependence in their lives. However, people with co-dependency seem to habitually form relationships that are one-sided and emotionally destructive. The central feature of co-dependency is an unhealthy dependence on relationships, usually in an attempt to avoid the feeling of abandonment. Signs and sympt... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3251404 Mon, 08 Feb 2010 12:16:56 +0100 3251404 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3248706&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FyPnwBo9z5uo%2F Sex addicts tug of war Addicted to Love: Sex, Love & Compulsion Their stories are the stories of addicts. See if any look familiar. Ben is a successful attorney. Married with three children, his life looks exemplary and he seems destined for great public achievement. But Ben also leads a secret life, revolving around visits to prostitutes and adult book stores. Lately, he’s taken to cruising the World Wide Web, downloading porn and searching for partners in electronic chat rooms and online hook-up sites. Susan is a mid-level administrator and a single mother. Every few weeks or months she goes on a sexual binge, dressing provocatively and acting out exhibitionistic fantasies in local bars. She has sex with at least one man each night, and sometimes more. Charles spends hours each... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3248706 Sun, 07 Feb 2010 11:14:23 +0100 3248706 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3247080&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FeMKSi0uKrnY%2F We examined the processes through which 20 committed members (aged 29-52 yrs) of self-help groups for adult children of alcoholics experience alterations in their perceptions of family of origin. Results suggest that world view transformation in the family of origin domain involves; learning to define the family as pathological, assigning responsibility for this pathology to a disease, forgiving oneself, accepting that one was adversely affected by the family’s problem, and ultimately learning to accept one’s parents’ shortcomings. Humphreys, Keith. World view change in Adult Children of Alcoholics/Al-Anon self-help groups: Reconstructing the alcoholic family. International Journal of Group Psychotherapy. Vol 46(2), Apr 1996, 255-263. See also; ACOA’s have Streng... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3247080 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 11:15:54 +0100 3247080 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3244055&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FiHF5EFs4q6g%2F AA can be a bridge to recovery The recovery process in Alcoholics Anonymous includes several general phases that people may pass through. These are not time related but are usually dependent on the persons particular circumstances. Initial Sobriety Surrenders to alcohol – accepts alcoholism Begins humble search for self Restoration of physical health begins Restoration of memory begins Restoration of mental functions begins Begins to practice self-honesty Is pre-occupied with sobriety Growth of open-mindedness Lessening of needless guilt Freely discusses alcohol and its problems Mild depression and anxiety lessens Mental functions are more alert Learning Sobriety Accepts and owns their alcoholism Loss of freedom acknowledged and accepted Alibis replaced by sound reasons for sobriety S... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3244055 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:49:22 +0100 3244055 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3223492&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FOXJ56Txguc8%2F Family Recovery Family recovery is one of the keys to treatment for alcoholism. Alcoholics and alcohol abusers attract more public attention, but their families and friends also suffer long-term effects from alcoholism-and their recovery may be essential to the alcoholic’s recovery, according to a leading researcher in the field. “Alcoholism is a family disease. While it is important for the family to support the alcoholic’s recovery, it is also important for members of the family to get involved in their own recovery. Family recovery decreases the chances that the children of alcoholics will repeat the pattern and engage in unhealthy relationships,” said Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D., cofounder of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics and director of the Mid-Atla... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3223492 Sat, 30 Jan 2010 11:20:31 +0100 3223492 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3185633&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcomputer-addiction%2F What are physical or medical problems associated with Computer Addiction? Being addicted to the computer also can cause physical discomfort or medical problems such as: Carpal Tunnel syndrome (pain, numbness, and burning in your hands that can radiate up the wrists, elbows, and shoulders) Dry eyes Backaches Severe headaches Eating irregularities, such as skipping meals Failure to attend to personal hygiene Sleep disturbances Who is most at risk for Internet addiction? According to the Center for Internet Addiction Recovery, Internet addiction affects people of varying ages, cultural backgrounds, occupations, and educational levels. The following problems are likely triggers for internet addiction: Triggers for Internet Addiction Substance Abuse Over half of Internet addicts suffer from... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3185633 Mon, 18 Jan 2010 07:58:44 +0100 3185633 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3164056&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FcUN42S3iZUs%2F Some methods A.A. members have used for not drinking About that title… Even the words "stay sober" -let alone live sober-offended many of us when we first heard such advice. Although we had done a lot of drinking, many of us never felt drunk, and were sure we almost never appeared or sounded drunk. Many of [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3164056 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:46:29 +0100 3164056 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3142848&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FO4kMak-Y5Js%2F FASDs are 100% preventable if a woman doesn’t drink alcohol while she is pregnant. Learn more about the cause, signs, and treatments and what you can do if you think your child might have an FASD. The Story of Iyal This video tells the story of one family living with FASDs. Every family has unique experiences, challenges, and [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3142848 Sun, 03 Jan 2010 21:45:19 +0100 3142848 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3115298&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FNoQULeiZ7z8%2F Adult Child of Alcoholism The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List These are some characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfil our sick abandonment needs. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves. This enables us not to look too close... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3115298 Tue, 22 Dec 2009 11:53:39 +0100 3115298 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3083189&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F7-list%2F This is something we should all read at least once a week. Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio. "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written" My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3083189 Sun, 13 Dec 2009 05:36:47 +0100 3083189 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056891&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fuj4gwIKxXkY%2F Canadian Maole Leaf The Twelve Steps may help the alcohol abuser, but what about those who have been abused? Substance abuse is an issue in a number of Canadian families. The abuse of alcohol is known as alcoholism, and can be recognized by several symptoms according to the Mayo Clinic, a large medical research and treatment group, based in several U.S. cities, including Phoenix, Ariz. Symptoms include “drinking alone or in secret, blacking out, feeling a need or compulsion to drink, becoming intentionally intoxicated to feel good or drinking to feel ‘normal’.” These symptoms, however, are just that, symptoms. They are not the cause of the alcohol dependence. “Genetics, emotional state, psychological factors and social and cultural factors” can all lead to a state of alcohol de... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056891 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:53:48 +0100 3056891 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859156&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FsvuZno-0vWY%2F Test Yourself Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behavior? That you’d be better off if you didn’t keep “giving in”? That sex or stimuli are controlling you? Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong in your sexual behavior? Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, [...] [[ This is a content summary only. Visit my website for full links, other content, and more! ]] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859156 Wed, 16 Sep 2009 17:55:12 +0100 2859156 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2804237&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FVWXM8Tyxi_U%2F Is there Sex after Menopause? Many women come into recovery from alcoholism / addiction having passed through menopause or in the middle of it. As this article discusses menopause can be a traumatic experience for any woman; and even more so for women undergoing profound changes to their social life through recovery. New treatments offer [...] [[ This is a content summary only. Visit my website for full links, other content, and more! ]] [[ This is a content summary only. Visit my website for full links, other content, and more! ]] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2804237 Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:56:25 +0100 2804237 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2741607&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fself-assessment-drinking%2F Individual drinking habits may be found on a process from responsible drinking through alcohol abuse to alcoholism, or physical dependence. There are many signs that may point to an alcohol problem. Drunkenness on its own or solitary drinking does not necessarily indicate alcoholism. The questionnaire will be meaningful to you only if you are honest with yourself when taking it. The important question is: Is your use of alcohol creating significant negative consequences in your life? Do you sometimes drink heavily after a setback or an argument, or when you receive a poor grade? When you experience trouble or are undergoing stress, do you always drink more heavily than usual? Can you handle more liquor now than you could when you first began drinking? Have you ever awakened the &quo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2741607 Fri, 28 Aug 2009 05:20:00 +0100 2741607 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2685378&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-can-you-do-for-your-alcoholic-suggestion-8%2F This article is broken down into Ten Suggestions as follows; Don’t make it easy for the drinker to keep on drinking Don’t stop loving them Don’t nag, criticize, preach, or complain Address the drinking problem directly Seek help Detach, separate, walk away Set a good example Take care of yourself Be there for them when they’re ready Learn about the disease Suggestion #8: Take care of yourself "Live a full life of your own." "Make sure you live a life of your own that does not depend on the undependable person." "Carry on with your life after you’ve let the alcoholic know you aren’t babysitting anymore." "Let them go, and focus on your own health and peace of mind. These comments from masters underline the im... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2685378 Sun, 09 Aug 2009 14:11:18 +0100 2685378 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2280078&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35805&url=http%3A%2F%2Ftwelvestepfacilitation.com%2Fsigns-of-inhalant-abuse%2F Inhalants Inhalants are common products found right in the home and are among the most popular and deadly substances kids abuse. Inhalant abuse can result in death from the very first use. Health Hazards Health Effects and Risks. Nearly all abused inhalants produce effects similar to anesthetics, which act to slow down the body’s functions. When inhaled in sufficient concentrations, inhalants can cause intoxicating effects that can last only a few minutes or several hours if inhalants are taken repeatedly. Initially, users may feel slightly stimulated; with successive inhalations, they may feel less inhibited and less in control; finally, a user can lose consciousness. More Information Signs of Inhalant Abuse Parents and healthcare workers can be aware of the following signs of an... Twelve Step Facilitation.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2280078 Tue, 17 Mar 2009 18:14:13 +0100 2280078 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2269143&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcanadian-al-anon%2F Al-Anon provides support to families dealing with alcoholism in Canada The Twelve Steps may help the alcohol abuser, but what about those who have been abused? Substance abuse is an issue in a number of Canadian families. The abuse of alcohol is known as alcoholism, and can be recognized by several symptoms according to the Mayo Clinic, a large medical research and treatment group, based in several U.S. cities, including Phoenix, Ariz. Symptoms include “drinking alone or in secret, blacking out, feeling a need or compulsion to drink, becoming intentionally intoxicated to feel good or drinking to feel ‘normal’.” These symptoms, however, are just that, symptoms. They are not the cause of the alcohol dependence. “Genetics, emotional state, psychological factors and social and cultur... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2269143 Sat, 14 Mar 2009 17:47:02 +0100 2269143 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2261025&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwomens-sexual-addiction%2F Sex addiction: not just for men Any time I met a guy who didn’t respond to me sexually, it would make me determined to have him,” confesses Valerie, 35, a human-resources manager in the City. “It became a challenge, a game, regardless of whether he was married or with someone. The lowest point came when I tried to seduce my best friend’s fiancé. I couldn’t bear the fact that, when they were together, he wouldn’t so much as look at me. It was an itch I had to scratch.” “Sex addict” is the last phrase that would come to mind if you met the demure and sober-suited Valerie. Yet she is in 12-step recovery for that very issue. “Everyone used to tell me how lucky I was, as I could get any man I wanted. I’m quite a competitive person and it was important for me to know that... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2261025 Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:39:30 +0100 2261025 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2249453&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fphysical-abuse%2F What is physical abuse of a spouse or intimate partner? When someone talks of domestic violence, they are often referring to physical abuse of a spouse or intimate partner. Physical abuse is the use of physical force against another in a way that ends up injuring that person or putting him or her at risk of being injured. Physical abuse ranges from physical restraint to murder. Physical assault or physical battering is a crime, whether it occurs inside or outside the family. The police are empowered to protect you from physical attack. Physical abuse includes: Pushing, throwing, tripping. Slapping, hitting, punching, kicking. Grabbing, choking, shaking. Pinching, biting. Holding, restraining, confinement. Assault with a weapon. Burning or freezing. Throwing things. Subscribe to Re... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2249453 Sun, 08 Mar 2009 12:38:29 +0100 2249453 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2211430&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fhelp-for-families-of-alcoholics%2F What help is available for the families of individuals with alcohol abuse problems? The biggest obstacle to treatment of alcoholism is getting the alcoholic to break through the denial that is a hallmark of this condition - to realize that help is needed. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism suggests that you ask the following questions to help your loved one determine if he or she has a drinking problem: Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking? Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking? Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking? Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover? More than one "yes" answer means it is highly likely that a problem exists. If you think tha... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2211430 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 07:13:48 +0100 2211430 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1472723&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsex-after-menopause%2F Is there Sex after Menopause? Many women come into recovery from alcoholism / addiction having passed through menopause or in the middle of it. As this article discusses menopause can be a traumatic experience for any woman; and even more so for women undergoing profound changes to their social life through recovery. New treatments offer ways to treat symptoms and improve sexual function Fear of change Nothing strikes fear in the hearts of women like the thought of menopause. The shifting hormone levels that are associated with “the change” can lead to everything from mood swings, insomnia and weight gain to decreased sex drive. However, despite the common dread most women have for this time, the truth is that menopause does not have to be the end of the world … or the end of a w... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1472723 Wed, 28 May 2008 10:56:25 +0100 1472723 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1458876&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-can-you-do-for-your-alcoholic-suggestions-4%2F This article is broken down into Ten Suggestions as follows; Don’t make it easy for the drinker to keep on drinking Don’t stop loving them Don’t nag, criticize, preach, or complain Address the drinking problem directly Seek help Detach, separate, walk away Set a good example Take care of yourself Be there for them when they’re ready Learn about the disease Suggestion #4: Address the drinking problem directly Over and over, people shared comments like these: "Let them know that you are aware of their drinking problem. I thought I had everyone fooled, and they never told me otherwise." - alcoholic lady. "Hold a mirror up to the person, showing his or her behavior clearly and honestly." - wife. "Be open to discussing the behavior - ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1458876 Wed, 21 May 2008 14:24:23 +0100 1458876 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1265321&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fstopping-self-injury-self-help%2F How can a self-injuring person stop? Self-injury is a behavior that becomes compulsive and addictive. Like any other addiction, even though other people think the person should stop, most addicts have a hard time just saying no to their behavior - even while realizing it is unhealthy. There are several things to do to help yourself: Acknowledge that this IS a problem, that you are hurting on the inside, and that you need professional assistance to stop injuring yourself. Realize that this is not about being bad or stupid - this is about recognizing that a behavior that somehow was helping you handle your feelings has become as big a problem as the one it was trying to solve in the first place. Find one person you trust - maybe a friend, teacher, minister, counselor, or relative - and say ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1265321 Thu, 28 Feb 2008 13:17:35 +0100 1265321 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1261839&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fself-injury-and-suicide%2F What is the relationship between self-injury and suicide? Self-injury is not suicidal behavior. In fact, it may be a way to reduce the tension that, left unattended, could result in an actual suicide attempt. Self-injury is the best way the individual knows to self-sooth. It may represent the best attempt the person has at creating the least damage. However, self-injury is highly linked to poor sense of self-worth, and over time, that depressed feeling can evolve into suicidal attempts. And sometimes self-harm may accidentally go farther than intended, and a life-threatening injury may result. Understanding Self-Injury: A Workbook for Adults Subscribe to Recovery Is Sexy by Email (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1261839 Wed, 27 Feb 2008 12:56:21 +0100 1261839 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1237797&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fself-care-and-boundaries%2F Self-care is about setting boundaries, letting go "Some of us have so many voices in our heads, we could hold group therapy by ourselves," said Rokelle Lerner, a popular speaker and trainer on relationships, women’s issues, and addicted family systems. This internal chorus is often composed of voices from our family of origin, voices of critical teachers or bosses, voices from past relationships or current situations. Often these voices are drowned out by our own voice-nagging, reprimanding, berating, but rarely praising us. In times of stress or chaos, the voices grow louder and it’s easy to go numb, Lerner recently told the audience at Hazelden’s Women Healing Conference in Minneapolis. "We become estranged from our purpose and our passion. Our response i... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1237797 Sun, 17 Feb 2008 13:04:57 +0100 1237797 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1035739&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fdomestic-violence%2F Domestic Violence and Abuse: If you need help immediately, call emergency phone number in your area found in your phone book. Domestic abuse by a spouse or intimate partner knows no age or ethnic boundaries. Domestic abuse can occur during a relationship or after a relationship has ended. The victims of domestic violence and spousal abuse are five to eight times more likely to be women than men. However, men can also be the victims of domestic abuse. A common pattern of domestic abuse is that the perpetrator alternates between violent, abusive behavior and apologetic behavior with apparently heartfelt promises to change. The abuser may even be very pleasant most of the time. Therein lies the perpetual appeal of the abusing partner and why many people are unable to leave the abusive re... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1035739 Mon, 19 Nov 2007 12:22:50 +0100 1035739 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1034701&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-is-stalking%2F Stalking is “virtually any unwanted contact between two people that directly or indirectly communicates a threat or places the victim in fear.” Stalking of an intimate partner can take place during the relationship-with intense monitoring of the partner’s activities-or after a break-up. The stalker may be trying to get their partner back, or they may wish to harm their ex as punishment for their departure. Stalkers employ a number of threatening tactics, including: Making repeated phone calls, sometimes with hang-ups. Following and tracking the victim (possibly even with a global positioning device). Sending unwanted packages, cards, gifts, or letters. Monitoring the victim’s phone calls or computer use. Watching the victim with hidden cameras. Contacting friend... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1034701 Sun, 18 Nov 2007 12:17:10 +0100 1034701 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1021432&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fspiritual-abuse%2F What is spiritual abuse of a spouse or intimate partner? Spiritual abuse includes: Using the spouse’s or intimate partner’s religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate them. Preventing the partner from practicing their religious or spiritual beliefs. Ridiculing the other person’s religious or spiritual beliefs. Forcing the children to be reared in a faith that the partner has not agreed to Subscribe to Recovery Is Sexy by Email (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1021432 Tue, 13 Nov 2007 00:05:16 +0100 1021432 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=971533&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35795&url=http%3A%2F%2Fknowanewfreedom.com%2F2007%2F10%2F23%2Fconflict%2F As a rule I don’t handle conflict very well. It stresses me out and makes me nervous. Yesterday was chock full of conflict, and it’s no surprise that today I’m feeling unsettled. The first incident had nothing to do with me; my coworkers and boss had some strong words in our weekly department meeting. I was able to notice my discomfort, yet mind my own business and keep my mouth shut. That is a lot of progress for me. My instinct is to either antagonize or appease. I want to pick sides, roll up my sleeves and get in the thick of it, letting the side I didn’t choose know how wrong they are. Or I want to crack a joke to ease the tension in the room, distract the offending parties and move on to more pleasant items of business. I was a bit rattled up after the meeting... Know A New Freedom blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=971533 Tue, 23 Oct 2007 12:15:26 +0100 971533 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=937248&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsymptoms-of-wounded-spirituality%2F The relationship within our ‘self’ of body, mind and emotions shapes our ability to relate to other people, and to the spiritual power in the universe. Depression, addictions, compulsive behaviour and low self-esteem are but symptoms, signs of a broken relationship within our ‘self’. They are symptoms of a ‘wounded spirituality’. When this connection between our body, mind and emotions is broken, our ability, our ‘response-ability’, to respond healthily to life’s circumstances is limited. In recovery our task is to identify and undo the broken parts of ourselves and learn to respond positively and creatively - to say YES to life in a way which enables serenity to grow and be maintained. Some of these symptoms are; Alcoholism / drug addiction / compulsive gambling... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=937248 Tue, 09 Oct 2007 10:58:26 +0100 937248 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=923819&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Freality-in-alateen%2F Whenever we Alateen members met with Al-Anon, I felt doubtful. I didn’t think adults could help me in any way, because they were sure to have the same sick attitudes as my alcoholic parents. I would think to myself, “Oh great, here we go again.” But I was the one with the sick attitude. I had closed my mind, not only to my parents, but to all adults. I brought this attitude to meetings, so I didn’t learn a thing. I had to deal with my old resentments before I could recognize the wonderful gift Al-Anon was offering. Here were people who could help me heal the wounds my parents’ drinking had left, and help me to know that it is safe to be a part of my world. It took discipline and courage to stop pushing every adult away, but because I made the effort, I began to see that a... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=923819 Wed, 03 Oct 2007 11:13:24 +0100 923819 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=835513&cid=t_326753_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F08%2F31%2Fbig-aha-momentpersonal-self-hate%2F    By UM I’ve always thought that depression was my worst enemy. It is an evil companion. But, in doing some soul searching, I have found that  my most reliable “friend “is self-hate. Awww. yeah……self destruction. Self destruction is reliable. Self destruction is always ready to be pulled out of it’s hiding place. I have been practicing self-destruction and self-hate for many years without putting a name or a face to it. Self destruction is a much a part of me as my arm or leg. It needs to be amputated. “You will never amount to anything. You’re lazy! Find a man that makes good money and be a good wife.” Great words of wisdom from my dad. And…..I subconsciously believed this for a long, long time. Now, I realize that his statem... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=835513 Fri, 31 Aug 2007 15:57:16 +0100 835513 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=777917&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fnew-aa-stories-speak-directly-to-very-young-alcoholics%2F If I could have stayed cool, I’d still be drinking. Very quickly, though, I started getting into trouble. Going to sixth grade got in the way of my life, which consisted of getting drunk as much as possible. [After rehab] I was going to A.A. meetings. Everyone was older, even most of the kids at the young people meetings. But I found that alcoholics understand other alcoholics. . . . Regardless of how young or old or ’special’ I am, in A.A. I’m just a drunk. Tina, who joined A.A. at 13 I loved drinking and was as addicted to the lies, the shady people and places as I was to the alcohol. My grades suffered until I stopped going to school altogether. . . . I found myself in places without any idea of how I had gotten there. I overdosed on alcohol. Since coming to A.A., I have bee... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=777917 Fri, 03 Aug 2007 20:45:43 +0100 777917 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=758806&cid=t_326753_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fabout-recovery-is-sexy-com%2F Recovery Is Sexy discusses recovery from alcoholism, addiction, gambling, overeating, anorexia, codependency and sex addiction. Subjects include self-help, treatment, 12-Steps, sexuality, medical, spirituality, psychology, rehabilitation and mutual-help. Suggested books to read are included with all articles. The sexual identities of heterosexual, gay, lesbian and bisexual are included. All drugs that can be addictive are included such as alcohol, heroin, marijuana, speed, amphetamines, Ice, extacy, prescription drugs, opiates, LSD, nicotine, Behavioral addictions discussed are compulsive gambling, codependency, sex addiction, Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA), emotions, Internet and grandchildren of alcoholics and addicts. Self-help groups discussed are Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcot... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=758806 Thu, 26 Jul 2007 10:07:43 +0100 758806