MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'forgiveness'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:00:17 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5118928&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=39016&url=http%3A%2F%2Fturquoisegates.blogspot.com%2F2011%2F08%2Fsea-grass.html Seagrass holds the natural sand dunes that perform as dykes against the powerful ocean for seafront homes. It is illegal to harvest it. Unless you are Gullah, a group of African-Americans who have maintained their culture and language for over 300 years now. They speak Geechee, a creole language that developed out of African loanwords and the English vernacular of the 1700's.I met her in the open air market that once served as a slave trade hall. She is quiet, and I admire her baskets (most priced over $100) and ask her if I can take photos of her hands at work. She nods with a toothless grin, and we muddle through a conversation in English and Geechee as she asks if I'll send her my photos. Sure, I can do that, I say. She takes one of her brochures and writes a name and street address on ... Turquoise Gates blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5118928 Wed, 10 Aug 2011 19:52:00 +0100 5118928 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5029326&cid=t_103950_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FhZ63N4VJaDk%2F I don’t know about you, but I’ve done made some dumbass decisions and done some stupid things in my life. Only just this last week I bought an iPad without doing any research and not realizing that the antennas have less strength than Monty Burns after a 7 day water fast. The bemused look on the face of the techie at the Apple store when I whined “But my phone and laptop work just Continue reading... (Source: Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone :) Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5029326 Sun, 10 Jul 2011 18:23:42 +0100 5029326 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4852939&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F05%2F22%2Fbummer-the-world-didn%25e2%2580%2599t-end-now-what%2F “What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.” ~Richard Bach If I owned a restaurant I would have the morning after brunch special for Sunday, May 22.  It would, of course, be called The Day After Brunch, in honor of the day most of us knew would come –in spite of the media frenzy.  The meal would be a chance to celebrate and cope. On the menu? Eggs benedict, for those who felt betrayed by the hype. Glazed donuts for those who really didn’t see it coming. A Forgiveness Frittata for anyone needing to absolve themselves or others. And, yes, you are allowed to groan when you hear this, but the drink of the day would be: Orange Juice glad the world didn’t end? If you are reading this the end of the world hasn’t taken place.  Of cour... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4852939 Mon, 23 May 2011 01:31:35 +0100 4852939 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4853121&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=39016&url=http%3A%2F%2Fturquoisegates.blogspot.com%2F2011%2F05%2Fwhat-if-you-cant-forgive.html Some of the pain is leeching out, day by day, the soul pain, the kind you can do nothing for. Friends lost slowly become benign memories, and are replaced by the sweet faces of those who ran toward you in your darkest hour.Dam on Chippewa River, near paper plantII Corinthians 2:4-10 has been a beachhead for my sanity throughout the conflict as we left our last church. The simplicity of God-given forgiveness confuses the intellectual, and sometimes even the person doing the forgiving. It is a supernatural experience to have God's love flowing out of your heart in an unstoppable rush when common sense should leave you reeling from the damage done. The assassin of your peace does not know one key component to this God-breathed forgiveness: with God there is nothing, short of true blasphemy, t... Turquoise Gates blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4853121 Sun, 22 May 2011 10:08:00 +0100 4853121 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4477815&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F02%2F15%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-february-15-2011%2F You can come out from your hiding place. Valentine’s Day is officially over! Yes, a surprising amount of our Facebook friends said they hated the holiday. Some found it to be too commercial. Others found it to be lonely for singles. There were also many who thought it was a good excuse to celebrate love. In general, while everyone had their own reasons for loving or hating the holiday, I thought it was a great discussion about love and an opportunity to reflect on the four letter word itself. Our bloggers were no exception. Everyone had their own take on love. One blogger talked about how Valentine’s Day can bring up unexpected pain and sorrow in our lives. Another discussed the various stages of a romantic relationship (a perfect post for couples). A third mentioned the import... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4477815 Tue, 15 Feb 2011 12:53:34 +0100 4477815 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4445972&cid=t_103950_135_f&fid=35247&url=http%3A%2F%2Fmyjourneywithaids.wordpress.com%2F2011%2F02%2F07%2Funpacking-more-personal-baggage%2F Pardon me for the humourless dissecting of my neuroses Have I mentioned before having used, for many years, the esteem-busting mantra “If anyone deserves AIDS, I do!”  (Looking at it now I feel like each word should be italicized for emphasis, rather than just one or two.) What a message: If anyone deserves AIDS, I [...] (Source: My journey with AIDS) My journey with AIDS blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4445972 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 05:21:00 +0100 4445972 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4399759&cid=t_103950_135_f&fid=35247&url=http%3A%2F%2Fmyjourneywithaids.wordpress.com%2F2011%2F01%2F25%2Fthe-shack-allegory-and-empathy-but-forgiveness%2F “I brought a book I think you’ll find interesting,” my cousin said as we sat down for lunch recently, handing me a paperback copy of The Shack by Wm. Paul Young. I will not suggest motives she might have had in giving me this book other than the fact that she knows, perhaps as much [...] (Source: My journey with AIDS) My journey with AIDS blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4399759 Tue, 25 Jan 2011 10:08:17 +0100 4399759 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4119727&cid=t_103950_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fforgiveness-of-self-2%2F Image via Wikipedia I have studied many ways to self-forgiveness and have found this to be the definitive document on the why, who, how and where of forgiveness. Recovering members of 12-Step fellowships, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, ACOA, Gamblers Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, may find this helpful. It is important to forgive ourselves for our own confusion and unhappiness. It’s important to forgive ourselves for our own failures and stuckness––for the dreams, desires and visions that did not come true. If it seems that we may go unfulfilled in the ways we expected or strived for, we must be especially kind to ourselves in self-forgiveness. It is also important to forgive ourselves for the wounds we carry and the harm we caused others. Through the medium of prayer or me... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4119727 Wed, 27 Oct 2010 16:53:00 +0100 4119727 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4098057&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F10%2F22%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-october-22-2010%2F Anyone catch the Oprah Winfrey show yesterday? Tyler Perry was on. I was running around checking my computer, looking at my iPhone and cleaning up with the show running in the background. When I finally sat down to watch, I was moved by what I saw. Perry revealed the pain and struggle he endured from his traumatic childhood. While it was heartbreaking and difficult to watch, what he said was also hopeful. He talked about forgiveness, his ability to use writing as his escape and how he was able to empower himself and the little boy he lost when he was abused. It’s a touching piece. One that reminded me of the impact inspiring people can have on us and the importance of support through times of adversity. It’s a hope we all have for you as well. That you’ll read these posts... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4098057 Fri, 22 Oct 2010 13:20:28 +0100 4098057 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4086525&cid=t_103950_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fz1oRVEIjTvQ%2F Image via Wikipedia Moving from anger to forgiveness is a healing experience Adults who grew up with alcoholic parents probably have plenty to be mad about. As children, they were virtually powerless to stop the forms of abuse and neglect they often suffered. They couldn’t express their anger or outrage in a healthy manner. Instead, many either acted out their anger by getting into trouble or reacted inwardly by converting anger into shame, depression or low self-esteem. It can take years of hard work to discover how deep the wounds really go. If anger isn’t eventually dealt with responsibly, it can be a major block to personal growth. Unresolved anger is often a factor in addictive and compulsive behaviors and relapse. Holding on to old anger can cause people to avoid conf... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4086525 Sun, 17 Oct 2010 13:25:21 +0100 4086525 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4077536&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=39016&url=http%3A%2F%2Fturquoisegates.blogspot.com%2F2010%2F10%2Fhoney-in-my-cup.html The half-moon hangs like a dollop of gold, the honey in the bottom of my tea cup.It is late at night, past midnight really, and we are heading home from a night bathed in music.  Just me and my oldest girl.  She sleeps now, beside me in the front seat of our 1984 beater, bathed in the warm light of the dashboard lights.  I am surrounded by the glory of God in the nightscape, and my heart is at peace tonight.It's been a few weeks since I felt His peace so deep.My seven-year-old, with her delightfully still dimpled hands the only remnant of babyhood about this blossom of a girl - she lifts those hands into the dark haze of the arena as we worship, and sings aloud with all her heart, her two grown-up teeth glittering in the stage lights with two matching black gaps where the te... Turquoise Gates blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4077536 Sun, 17 Oct 2010 00:43:00 +0100 4077536 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4003442&cid=t_103950_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fforgiveness-and-anger%2F Moving from anger to forgiveness is a healing experience Adults who grew up with alcoholic parents probably have plenty to be mad about. As children, they were virtually powerless to stop the forms of abuse and neglect they often suffered. They couldn’t express their anger or outrage in a healthy manner. Instead, many either acted out their anger by getting into trouble or reacted inwardly by converting anger into shame, depression or low self-esteem. It can take years of hard work to discover how deep the wounds really go. If anger isn’t eventually dealt with responsibly, it can be a major block to personal growth. Unresolved anger is often a factor in addictive and compulsive behaviors and relapse. Holding on to old anger can cause people to avoid conflict, procrastinate, ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4003442 Mon, 27 Sep 2010 14:19:09 +0100 4003442 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3915084&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F08%2F31%2Fthe-situation-of-forgiveness%2F Ryan Fehr, Michele Gelfand, and Monisha Nag, recently posted their paper, “The Road to Forgiveness: A Meta-Analytic Synthesis of its Situational and Dispositional Correlates” on SSRN. Here’s the abstract. * * * Forgiveness has received widespread attention among psychologists from social, personality, clinical, developmental and organizational perspectives alike. Despite great progress, the forgiveness literature has witnessed few attempts at empirical integration. Toward this end, we meta-analyze results from 175 studies and 26,006 participants to examine the correlates of interpersonal forgiveness (i.e. forgiveness of a single offender by a single victim). A tripartite forgiveness typology is proposed, encompassing victims’ cognitions, affect, and constraints followin... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3915084 Tue, 31 Aug 2010 04:01:03 +0100 3915084 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3710606&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F06%2F29%2Fgender-and-forgiveness%2F “The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. “ – Henny Youngman But a new study published in a recent issue of the Journal of Positive Psychology may shed some light. Positive marriages are those determined to have resiliency, courage and strength of perseverance to endure, with the added virtue of partners being able to accept or forgive each other when the feces hits the oscillator. The usual transgressions that a typical marriage encounters assure that every couple will be tested, but statistics show that not all pass the forgiveness test. Once a betrayal has occurred and trust has been broken, forgiveness, or lack thereof, will determine the couple’s future. Experts report that in the United States, the marriage failure rate increases with the number of tri... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3710606 Tue, 29 Jun 2010 16:20:22 +0100 3710606 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3687164&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F06%2F22%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-june-22-2010%2F How was your Father’s Day? Was it all you wanted, expected and hoped it would be? The activities of the day, however, are less important than the memories associated with Father’s Day. Even if you’re not a father yourself or were unable to spend time with your dad due to death or distance, there’s still a lot that can be celebrated. Things like treasured memories and happy moments and taking time to remember the fatherly figures in your life and how they have influenced who you are today. On Sunday, I spoke with my dad. He talked about his life as a child growing up in Hawaii. He reminisced about the way things were. The neighbors he knew, the small local-owned stores that used to be in existence, and the truck that sold produce picked from local farms. How simple l... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3687164 Tue, 22 Jun 2010 11:26:46 +0100 3687164 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3658933&cid=t_103950_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fexclusive-piper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black-reads-a-prison-letter-to-her-then-fiance-on-video%2F Watch last week’s exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman, where she opens up about how she sustained her relationship with her then-boyfriend/fiance throughout her six-year pre-prison limbo period, and later during her actual 13-month incarceration. When Piper Kerman was 34, she was sent to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3658933 Mon, 14 Jun 2010 15:00:25 +0100 3658933 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3632247&cid=t_103950_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2F6-years-in-limbo-before-prison-exclusive-video-of-piper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black%2F Check out more of our exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman, where she talks about why she never sought therapy throughout her prison ordeal. When Piper Kerman was 34, she was sent to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth Gilbert (not too shabby for a first-time writer). Piper sat down with Blisstree for the afternoon to discuss all asp... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3632247 Fri, 04 Jun 2010 18:11:17 +0100 3632247 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3629880&cid=t_103950_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fself-forgiveness-in-recovery%2F Self-forgiveness is part of the process of recovery using the 12 Step Fellowship program. An important part of recovery that is often overlooked. What is self-forgiveness? Self-forgiving is: Accepting yourself as a human who has faults and makes mistakes. Letting go of self anger for your past failures, errors, and mistakes. No longer needing penance, sorrow, and regret over a grievous, self-inflicted, personal offense. The act of self love after you have admitted your failure, mistake, or misdeed. The spiritual self healing of your heart by calming self rejection, quieting the sense of failure, and lightening the burden of guilt. The act of letting go of the need to work so hard to make up for your past offenses. Negative consequences of the absence of self-forgiveness In the ab... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3629880 Wed, 02 Jun 2010 16:30:21 +0100 3629880 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3621632&cid=t_103950_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fpiper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black-on-therapy-after-prison-more-exclusive-video%2F Check out more of our exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman, where she talks about the surprising and unexpected friendships she developed while in prison. At age 34, Piper Kerman was sent to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth Gilbert (not bad for a first-time writer). Piper sat down with Blisstree for the afternoon to discuss all aspec... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3621632 Wed, 02 Jun 2010 14:00:47 +0100 3621632 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3603551&cid=t_103950_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Ffriendships-in-prison-more-exclusive-video-of-piper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black%2F See more of our exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman, where she talks about the guilt and shame that resulted from her prison ordeal. At age 34, Piper Kerman went to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth Gilbert (not bad for a first-time writer). Piper sat down with Blisstree for the afternoon to discuss all aspects of her time in the clink,... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3603551 Thu, 27 May 2010 14:00:02 +0100 3603551 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3599345&cid=t_103950_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fmore-exclusive-video-piper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black-on-guilt-forgiveness-and-redemption%2F Check out more of our exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman here, where she talks about staying fit behind bars. At age 34, Piper Kerman went to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth Gilbert (not bad for a first-time writer). Piper sat down with Blisstree for the afternoon to discuss all aspects of her time in the clink, from skincare in prison... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3599345 Tue, 25 May 2010 17:32:40 +0100 3599345 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3588914&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F05%2F21%2Fthe-power-of-forgiveness%2F In the 1980s psychologist Everett L. Worthington, Jr. Ph.D., began studying forgiveness while working with troubled couples. On New Year’s Eve, 1995, his mother was murdered. Dr. Worthington then dedicated his life to encouraging and educating people about forgiveness. He turned grief into mission by writing books, speaking, and founding A Campaign for Forgiveness, which has raised millions of dollars to support the search of forgiveness. In her book, “The Law of Forgiveness,” author Connie Domino devotes a chapter to the scientific evidence for the power of forgiveness. Some of the studies she includes are fascinating, and will have you dump your righteousness and mend the strained relationships in your life before you’re ready. For example, Dr. Fred Luskin, direc... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3588914 Fri, 21 May 2010 18:00:33 +0100 3588914 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3440856&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2010%2F04%2F06%2Fmichael-mccullough-on-the-situation-of-revenge-and-forgiveness%2F From TempletonFoundation: Why is revenge such a pervasive and destructive problem? Why is forgiveness so difficult? In “Beyond Revenge,” Michael E. McCullough argues that the key to creating a more forgiving world is to understand both the evolutionary forces that gave rise to these intimately human instincts and the social forces that activate them in our minds today. Drawing on the latest breakthroughs in the social and biological sciences, McCullough offers practical and often surprising advice for how individuals, social groups, and even nations might move beyond our deep penchant for revenge. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * To read a sample of related Situationist posts, see “The Situation of Punishment (and Forgiveness),” “The Situation of Revenge,” �... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3440856 Tue, 06 Apr 2010 15:57:36 +0100 3440856 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3435254&cid=t_103950_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fbedtime-stories-for-grown-ups%2F Is Goldilocks a manipulator? Do Hansel and Gretel have abandonment issues? And what happens after “happily ever after” anyway? Therapist Sue Gallehugh and her son Allen adapt classic fairy tales to illustrate the fundamental principles of self-love through mental health and psychological growth. Through wit and humor, these tales tackle serious issues such as anger, isolation, taking responsibility, bitterness, labeling, emotional boundaries, staying connected, abandonment, manipulation, fear and forgiveness. This little gem of a book cuts through the dreary mire of conventional self-help books to help you discover real solutions to the common problems that prevent us from growing. You’ll laugh out loud while reading “The Low Self-Esteem Duckling,&#822... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3435254 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 14:52:00 +0100 3435254 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3290998&cid=t_103950_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FkbiPHTe68SM%2F Foregiveness and rebirth I have studied many ways to self-forgiveness and have found this to be the definitive document on the why, who, how and where of forgiveness. Recovering members of 12-Step fellowships, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, ACOA, Gamblers Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, may find this helpful. It is important to forgive ourselves for our own confusion and unhappiness. It’s important to forgive ourselves for our own failures and stuckness––for the dreams, desires and visions that did not come true. If it seems that we may go unfulfilled in the ways we expected or strived for, we must be especially kind to ourselves in self-forgiveness. It is also important to forgive ourselves for the wounds we carry and the harm we caused others. Through the medium of prayer o... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3290998 Sat, 20 Feb 2010 00:34:00 +0100 3290998 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3269716&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F02%2F13%2Fwhat-to-do-when-life-falls-apart-the-essential-6-step-program%2F What constitutes life falling apart? The death of a beloved spouse or family member? A marriage or relationship that has withered away or perhaps ended abruptly? A job loss potentially leading to financial ruin (or so you might think right now)? Whichever situation is closest to yours, there are some steps that you must go through to come out the other side with your heart — and new life — intact.   The 6 Steps Wallow in it. This step is essential. Repeat everything you went and are still going through many times to anyone who will listen. Good friends and family will be very patient with this part of the process. If your big life change included a cheating spouse, self-righteous indignation is appropriate at this point. Part of this step includes getting out of bed and... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3269716 Sat, 13 Feb 2010 13:22:56 +0100 3269716 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3247054&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=39016&url=http%3A%2F%2Fturquoisegates.blogspot.com%2F2010%2F02%2Fallegory-redeemed.html Perspective is to flowers in a dark room as Grace is to love between sinners. (Source: Turquoise Gates) Turquoise Gates blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3247054 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 14:00:00 +0100 3247054 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3194050&cid=t_103950_180_f&fid=38616&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Flifelearningtoday%2Fwlyf%2F%7E3%2F-vxoWCKbaCM%2F photo credit: Selma90 Certainty = Security = Good Certainty = Same-Old-Thing = Boring = Bad Little Surprises = Something New = Exciting = Good We want to feel safe in our relationships. We want safety on all levels: emotional, physical, spiritual, etc.  We also crave things that are new.  Over time, in our relationships we start to take for granted all the good things about the other person. We get caught up in life and don’t take the time to do special things for each other. Sometimes this is because we think that it will take too much time, energy, or even resources (like money). Here is a very simple way to add newness to your relationship. It takes little time, energy, and it’s free. The little surprise that will keep your relationship like new is (drumroll please…&... Life Learning Today blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3194050 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:15:07 +0100 3194050 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189287&cid=t_103950_129_f&fid=36035&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Flife-with-chronic-pain%2Fthe-power-of-forgiveness-in-a-life-with-chronic-pain%2F Self-pity and resentment are parasites that live on a life that is suffering with chronic pain. Any of us who have daily pain know this and know they both have a strong voice that often whispers into our ears. They both whisper loudly with a hissing breath and say provocative things like, “Why you?” and “Who do they think they are?” as well as “Why don’t you give them a piece of your mind.” At other times those same resentful feelings are suppressed by us but they chatter on, deep within ourselves. Driven down, they can fester and become resentment, anger and quite frankly, become quite ugly. Like any parasite, they draw their sustenance from the host and live on, sucking the life out of us. I know it’s difficult for others who live healthy, “normal” lives to understand... Life with Chronic Pain blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189287 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 22:48:12 +0100 3189287 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3164058&cid=t_103950_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2ForEkgB6Yi08%2F Forgiveness is the art of releasing resentment in  life and in 12 Step Fellowships. One day, long after their abusive father died, Kate asked her brother Kevin how he felt about their painful childhood. “I can’t condone how we were treated,” said Kevin, “but I’ve finally forgiven dad.” Kate was astonished. “Not me. I’m so consumed with [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3164058 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:03:31 +0100 3164058 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3039963&cid=t_103950_133_f&fid=35128&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthiswayoflife.org%2Fblog%2F%3Fp%3D399 Many years ago, I learned something that changed my life.  I had no idea how profound this was at the time, although I did immediately see the power of the change.  It’s simple: I decided to move on from the abuse.  In my case, I did this with God’s help, although I think non-religious people could probably find other ways to make this possible. Let me explain what I mean when I say I “moved on”.  I did not forget the abuse (I still sometimes wish I could), nor did I simply put a smile on my face and pretend what happened to me wasn’t “really” all that bad.  No, part of moving on requires acceptance that what I went through was something nobody should ever experience, a crime that showed the evil humanity is capable of towards others.  I do n... NTs Are Weird blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3039963 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 07:48:53 +0100 3039963 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2862714&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=36469&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fespeciallyheather%2FEH%2F%7E3%2F3fpmmkZB_eQ%2F The amazing thing about this song is that it was written by a man who claimed to have cancer yet did not. He faked his illness for 2 straight years, deceiving not only his parents congregation, but his wife and parents, yet the Lord turned it around for good. I first heard about this back when I was on chemo and it was honestly to close to home for me at the time. I wondered how in the world someone could take something so vile such as cancer and use it for monetary gain.. and sympathy. He even went so far as to dawn oxygen and walk with a cane to elude his symptoms were real. So I chose not to write about it because of the state of mind I was in at that time. It was too close to home for me at that time. Then I heard about this 10 year girl who sang it after receiving her heart transplan... Especially Heather blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2862714 Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:49:58 +0100 2862714 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2796751&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F09%2F14%2Fare-you-living-a-life-you-have-chosen%2F Photo Credit Life is like a taxi. The meter just keeps a-ticking whether you are getting somewhere or just standing still. ~Lou Erickso Are you living a life you have chosen? Or … Just livin’ the one that happens — as it happens? Or … Are you waiting for something? Longing for a change? Mulling over conversation starters to reconcile a relationship? Any of these situations hands us a proverbial basket of eggs. Small units of emotions, solutions, lessons-to-be-learned, refining, agony. Each one fragile — and  once even cracked on the surface leads to a sticky mess. The clock is ticking … What will you do with your basket? Carefully choose your eggs for the day? Planning out your resources — your steps — as you journey in the direction of your dreams. Rando... The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2796751 Mon, 14 Sep 2009 20:15:30 +0100 2796751 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2662623&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F08%2F01%2Fwhat-do-you-see-4%2F Perspective. Perception. Patience. Persistence. Purpose. Sort of my word-summary of how to get-there (where ever “there” is for you), to live your life out loud, to discover your place in the sun … How ever you elect to term the process of seeing The Big Picture as you let go of all the snapshots of the proverbial Before. And while I have so-o many words I could add to those five — I am of the opinion that “it” has already been said, in so many ways during so many lives — over so many decades and centuries. So, I leave you with quotations that I hope will inspire you to see beauty and inspiration within your own Big Picture of Today (as you let go of all the snapshots of Before). ‘Cause The Precious Present is something you give to yourself as your e... The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2662623 Sat, 01 Aug 2009 15:06:08 +0100 2662623 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2639699&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=35302&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FWhitePebble%2F%7E3%2FprxYqnEcJJQ%2F Forgiveness is the answer to the child’s dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again. — Dag Hammarskjöld Technorati Tags: Forgiveness (Source: white pebble) white pebble blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2639699 Sun, 26 Jul 2009 04:52:42 +0100 2639699 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2424414&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F05%2F20%2Fa-picture-is-worth-a-thousand-words%2F Photo Credit There is certainly truth to this statement:  A picture is worth a thousand words. I know because I have viewed several thousand “words” over the past several months! Interesting revelations, affirmations and hidden sorrows revealed in the process of sorting family photos. The image of merely one photo can trigger memories of the day it was captured on film — the people and places involved … The emotions of that moment in time. The process of organizing photographs and a walk down memory lane can also inspire forgiveness, and gift one with closure. It can introduce one to the process of  “Letting Go and Holding On” at the same time. ♥ The seasons of Life change and introduce us to new seasons … Of growth, of pruning and of harvest. Pho... The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2424414 Wed, 20 May 2009 15:43:53 +0100 2424414 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4060685&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34859&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.davemsw.com%2Farchives%2F2009%2F04%2Fforgiveness_therapy_endorsed_by_a_skeptic.php Since I heard of all the excitement in the therapy literature about forgiveness therapy, I've been a skeptic. I've worked with a lot of people who have experienced unforgivable abuse. Often they are tortured by their feelings of anger, resentment, helplessness, violation, and shame for allowing themselves to be a victim. They also feel guilt about their anger with the perpetrator so much so they feel morally obligated to forgive the perpetrator. When they do, they seem to feel no personal relief from forgiveness except for less anger and guilt and a better relationship with the perpetrator. But they seem no closer to recovery than before. I work with persons with depression and anxiety, as well as long standing serious problems with relationships (personality disorder) due to growing up ... Ψ Dare To Dream... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4060685 Mon, 20 Apr 2009 00:01:41 +0100 4060685 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2326600&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F04%2F06%2Farriving-at-amazing-by-way-of-goals-part-1%2F Photo Credit So, raise your hand if your life feels like a Three-Ring Circus. It goes something like you swinging by the seat of your pants — three rings of multi-tasking, with a crowd of people watching while you work away. And there are lions and tigers and bears! Oh, my! Most of us assume the role of Ring Master for years until we realize how close that keeps us to absolute chaos. This realization is likely repeated during said years — until one day (as you pull your head out of the lion’s mouth one last time …) you make the connection! You realize you have never really been in control. You have been lost in a maze of dictated “must’s, should’s and shall’s” … And you are tired. Very tired. And probably angry. Very angry? You have been running around �... The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2326600 Mon, 06 Apr 2009 15:01:35 +0100 2326600 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2268010&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F03%2F16%2Fwhat-is-your-guide-word-for-this-week%2F If you could select a theme, an adjective, a mood to be your guide word for this week … What would it be? Life is about attitude. Attitudes are determined by what we focus upon. What has your focus? Your attention? Your time? Who — or what — is guiding your life? Are your intentions guiding your life? Or [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2268010 Mon, 16 Mar 2009 13:37:09 +0100 2268010 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2224566&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F28%2Fmotivation-to-change-the-road-forms-a-t%2F Living in a rural area, I am used to a road dead-ending … Usually at a barbed-wire fence border around a country field; the pavement forms a “T” … A place where I will have to make a turn — take a new direction — in order to get back to the direction I was [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2224566 Sat, 28 Feb 2009 18:47:59 +0100 2224566 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2207438&cid=t_103950_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F23%2Fmoving-on%2F Where the hell have I been you ask?  Well?  I guess I don’t really have a good answer for that at all.  I’ve been here.  Last week would have been Ashley’s 2nd birthday.  That kinda took up my thoughts for a lot of the week, but I was trying really hard not to get all obsessed with it.  I know some might say I have a right to, but I just don’t want to.  You can’t move on if you’re stuck in the past and I want to have a good life AD. That wasn’t meant to piss anyone off.  Some people definitely feel differently and that’s ok with me.  I just have a very hard time dwelling forever.  I do dwell for sure, but do I want to be celebrating Ashley’s 30th birthday all sad and wishing she was here?  No I don’t.  I hope that at t... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2207438 Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:25:09 +0100 2207438 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2207533&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F23%2Fmake-the-choice-the-hard-choice%2F We all face The Hard Choice. The Hard Choice to pull off the layers of complaint, of self-loathing, of disdain for everyone else and the overall sense of discontent, emptiness and a sorrow that goes beyond words. To get-real. To put aside what we are feeling and to ask God, “What are You doing?” and “What [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2207533 Mon, 23 Feb 2009 13:38:28 +0100 2207533 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2196346&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F18%2Frhythms-of-grace-how-to-avoid-crashing-waves-and-other-adventures%2F Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2196346 Wed, 18 Feb 2009 22:03:30 +0100 2196346 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2185033&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F13%2Fyou-have-today-what-will-you-do-with-it%2F So many times we get caught up in the notion that we don’t have time. A odd notion that somehow we have time to worry about the time we don’t have — instead of merely doing something with the time we have! You have today. What will you do with it? I know from my [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2185033 Fri, 13 Feb 2009 13:05:35 +0100 2185033 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2175253&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F10%2Fmothers-and-daughters%2F Breakfast in Bed, Mary Cassatt There are specific topics, such as politics and religion, that seem to strike a loud and resounding cord within us. The subject of mothers and daughters is probably one most of us include in that musical genre and host of melodies … And perhaps we more frequently hear it as clanging [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2175253 Tue, 10 Feb 2009 18:57:50 +0100 2175253 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2169034&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F07%2Fno-parking-anytime%2F Is there a part of you that cannot simply be? Able to shift gears, and park … And be still? Does the absence of words and activity sound an alarm in your head that results in immediate (idle and endless!) chatter and frantic movement? Do these circumstances seem to scream: “Quick!! Say something! Do something! [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2169034 Sat, 07 Feb 2009 14:10:19 +0100 2169034 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2158083&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F03%2Fgratitude-is-a-many-splendored-thing%2F splen´dor n.    —    Great brightness; brilliant luster; brilliancy; as, the splendor of the sun. Right up front, let me be clear: I am writing this more as a reminder to myself more than a proclamation. Because I am so-o not feelin’ it right now! And while it is accurate to see gratitude as a [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2158083 Tue, 03 Feb 2009 21:38:21 +0100 2158083 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2142577&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F01%2F29%2Fis-there-ever-enough%2F ♥ In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it. ~Robert Heinlein There are so many tasks, situations and people literally demanding our time, money and energies. How about just for today, we promise one another to do only what we have “enough”  [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2142577 Thu, 29 Jan 2009 15:30:44 +0100 2142577 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2096242&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F01%2F11%2Fa-topiary-and-a-monster%2F to·pi·ar·y adj.  — Of or characterized by the clipping or trimming of live shrubs or trees into decorative shapes. What can I say? I get these keywords in my head and I just begin writing … It is all because of those three Hershey bars and three words! [Do.Fail.Read] Although I must admit that inspiration today comes [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2096242 Sun, 11 Jan 2009 23:01:20 +0100 2096242 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2090857&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F01%2F08%2Fconnect-the-dots%2F The necessity of bed-rest and sleep for the past four days has granted me a lot of time to “connect the dots” — to draw lines between the points on the page of my Life Plan. Said points (and squiggles and visual cues) include: Securing a work-from-home, part-time, paid staff position Continuing to work freelance and to [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2090857 Thu, 08 Jan 2009 19:15:26 +0100 2090857 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2077160&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F01%2F03%2Fthree-hershey-bars-three-words-inspired%2F Yesterday was a cold, colorless, cloudy day here. Blah! Double blah! Just the sort of day that beckons you to curl up with a cozy down comforter and simply nap through the hours. Except even that didn’t even sound appealing! Actually — nothing seemed appealing! So … I did what any women does in the [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2077160 Sat, 03 Jan 2009 17:46:57 +0100 2077160 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2077161&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F01%2F01%2Fa-boarding-pass-for-2009%2F I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. ~Thomas Alva Edison I remember the first time I flew on an airplane. It was a gloomy, rainy, cloudy day. I boarded, found my seat and prepared for take-off. As the plane ascended through the clouds … the bright rays of the sun filled [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2077161 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 17:50:26 +0100 2077161 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2066309&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F12%2F25%2Fits-a-wonderful-life%2F Admittedly, going into this Christmas season, I have been somewhat in need of my own Clarence — my own guardian angel to remind me what is truly important. And she would have most certainly earned her wings last night! Actually, I have several precious guardian angels. Every day they remind me what is important and are ever-faithful [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2066309 Thu, 25 Dec 2008 15:03:38 +0100 2066309 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2063229&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F12%2F24%2Fdreaming%2F Becoming mature means learning to accept what you cannot change, facing unresolved sorrows and learning to love life as it really happens, not as you would have it happen. When someone attaches unkindness to criticism, she’s angry. Angry people need to criticize as an outlet for their anger. That’s why you must reject unkind criticism. [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2063229 Wed, 24 Dec 2008 12:16:00 +0100 2063229 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2056758&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F12%2F22%2Fmaybe-christmas-doesnt-come-from-a-store%2F And the Grinch, with his grinch-feet ice-cold in the snow, Stood puzzling and puzzling: “How could it be so?” “It came without ribbons! It came without tags!” “It came without packages, boxes or bags!” And he puzzled three hours, `til his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before! “Maybe Christmas,” he thought, “doesn’t come from a [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2056758 Mon, 22 Dec 2008 14:21:37 +0100 2056758 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2054836&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F12%2F19%2Fnew-day%2F Ever carry baggage from the previous day with you into the “today”? As I sip on my mug of café mocha (will post some recipes later …) I am pondering this about myself. Why do we do that? Why do we insist of beating ourselves over yesterday? Today has quite enough worries and anxieties of [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2054836 Fri, 19 Dec 2008 14:04:30 +0100 2054836 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2036246&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F12%2F15%2Fwe-cant-do-everything-but-we-can-set-priorities%2F Winter Sky During the past couple of months, I have challenged myself to live up to my bio. What does that mean? Well, if I say I am a gardener, that means I enjoy time in my gardens. Other selected habits in my bio: writing; photography; beading; collage art; various activity and miscellany regarding social entrepreneurism. That [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2036246 Mon, 15 Dec 2008 15:10:27 +0100 2036246 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2008293&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F12%2F03%2Ffirst-days%2F Today is the first day of the rest of your life. I have always liked that saying. It inspires me to consider new beginnings, letting go, moving on … New directions! What will you do with today? Pursuing one’s dreams — making little micromovements — too often begins “someday” or tomorrow. Got dreams? Why not [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2008293 Wed, 03 Dec 2008 14:18:27 +0100 2008293 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1964994&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F11%2F17%2Fitsy-bitsy-spider%2F So, I am a nature nut … Spiders in my gardens are a blessing since they help with unwanted insects. Besides they are fascinating! This particular spider was spinning away at the intricate lines of his web one morning while I was nearby planting pansies in my garden. The very same morning I had just reached [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1964994 Mon, 17 Nov 2008 15:24:02 +0100 1964994 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1907012&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F10%2F25%2Ffull-spectrum-resilience-energy%2F A year ago I discovered something I refer to as full-spectrum living: Embracing and experiencing one’s life within the bounds of black and white — delighting in every color in between! Full-spectrum living acknowledges the dark times; however, it also can be still in said times as there is an assurance of proverbial color [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1907012 Sat, 25 Oct 2008 16:03:27 +0100 1907012 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1868734&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F10%2F11%2Fthe-situation-of-punishment-and-forgiveness%2F Benedict Carey had an interesting piece last week in the New York Times, titled “Citizen Enforcers Take Aim.”  Here are some excerpts. * * * The public urge for punishment that helped delay the passage of Washington’s economic rescue plan is more than a simple case of Wall Street loathing, according to scientists who study the psychology of forgiveness and retaliation. The fury is based in instincts that have had a protective and often stabilizing effect on communities throughout human history. Small, integrated groups in particular often contain members who will stand up and — often at significant risk to themselves — punish cheaters, liars and freeloaders. Scientists debate how common these citizen enforcers are, and whether an urge to punish infractions amounts to an... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1868734 Sat, 11 Oct 2008 11:03:18 +0100 1868734 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1865543&cid=t_103950_134_f&fid=35187&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.feedburner.com%2F%7Er%2FDiabetesDaily%2F%7E3%2F415755327%2Fyom-kippur-lessons-for-non-jews-too.php Today is the Jewish Holiday of Yom Kippur. Whether you are Jewish or not, it represents an important principle that you can apply to your life. It may also jive nicely with your personal diabetes goals. First, let me review... (Source: Diabetes Daily) Diabetes Daily blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1865543 Thu, 09 Oct 2008 13:30:41 +0100 1865543 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1827262&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F09%2F25%2Fseriously%2F The conclusion of the day when I realized … It’s time to start living the life you’ve imagined ~Henry James        (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1827262 Thu, 25 Sep 2008 13:03:38 +0100 1827262 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1827263&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F09%2F24%2Fstrength-%25e2%2580%2594-in-good-times-and-bad%2F Goldilocks napping in the place of “Just Right” This morning as I sipped on my extra chocolaty café mocha — in not-so Autumn-like temperatures (::pout::) and steadily moving toward The Whiney Place — I had an epiphany! While we would simply prefer fair weather and good times — easy times, times without struggle — [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1827263 Wed, 24 Sep 2008 15:44:58 +0100 1827263 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1818952&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F09%2F23%2Fcome-hell-or-high-water%2F Life is the art of drawing without an eraser. ~John W. Gardner The truth is more important than the facts. ~Frank Lloyd Wright Somewhere in my personal history I came to know about this phrase. I can hear my maternal grandmother’s distinct, and rather loud, voice broadcasting these words. Perhaps this is the personal origin for [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1818952 Tue, 23 Sep 2008 15:33:59 +0100 1818952 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1813232&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F09%2F22%2Fthe-key%2F Well I know it wasn’t you who held me downHeaven knows it wasn’t you who set me freeSo often times it happens that we live our lives in chainsAnd we never even know we have the key ~The Eagles, Already Gone Vision is not enough; it must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1813232 Mon, 22 Sep 2008 13:20:14 +0100 1813232 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1810565&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F09%2F20%2Fin-check-as-in-chess%2F This morning as I sipped my café mocha (comfortably situated on my patio … embraced by the soothing, crisp Autumn air …) the concept of “in check” (as in Chess) popped in my head. As I am not much of a Chess player, when I came inside I googled for clues as to what this [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1810565 Sat, 20 Sep 2008 14:27:48 +0100 1810565 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1728182&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F08%2F21%2Fmoving-day%2F Photo Credit It is moving day for me! (Figuratively not literally!) However there is some literal decluttering going on throughout my house as I walk around with large, heavy-duty garbage bags — and an attitude of raw forward thinking! I have been here before … And I hope to be here again. It is a wonderful adventure [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1728182 Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:21:53 +0100 1728182 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1728185&cid=t_103950_136_f&fid=37858&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdessertyears.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F08%2F17%2Fgood-bye-yellow-brick-road%2F Achievement seems to be connected with action. Successful men and women keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit. ~Conrad Hilton Farewell to the road of yellow bricks that merely takes me back to where I came from (and never want to return). Mentally revisiting my roots (beginnings; things familiar; experience) merely as a springboard [...] (Source: The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel)) The Dessert Years . . . (the sequel) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1728185 Sun, 17 Aug 2008 22:54:24 +0100 1728185 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1701537&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F08%2F12%2Fdenial%2F Last November, Benedict Carey of the New York Times penned an intriguing piece on the psychology of denial. As discussed by Carey, recent research suggests that denial helps form and cultivate close relationships, including those between spouses and siblings. We excerpt his piece below. * * * Everyone is in denial about something; just try denying it and watch friends make a list. For Freud, denial was a defense against external realities that threaten the ego, and many psychologists today would argue that it can be a protective defense in the face of unbearable news, like a cancer diagnosis. * * * [R]ecent studies from fields as diverse as psychology and anthropology suggest that the ability to look the other way, while potentially destructive, is also critically important to forming and ... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1701537 Wed, 13 Aug 2008 06:16:32 +0100 1701537 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1683564&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F08%2F06%2Fthe-situation-of-revenge%2F Michael McCullough has a fascinating and important new book: “Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct.” Here’s a summary. * * * For centuries, people have held several misconceptions about the nature of humanity’s desire for revenge and the human potential for forgiveness. First, from the earliest Greek tragedies to the modern mental health professions, revenge has been depicted as a disease or a poison that takes control of human minds and then plunges people into personal ruin and social chaos. Second, the capacity to forgive has been depicted as an “invention” that was deliberately created as a solution to the “problem” of revenge. Third, people have been led to believe that the key to making the world a more forgiving place is to help indi... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1683564 Wed, 06 Aug 2008 05:13:40 +0100 1683564 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1625857&cid=t_103950_129_f&fid=36035&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.healthtalk.com%2Fchronic-pain%2Flife-with-chronic-pain%2Fgot-chronic-pain-let-go-of-resentment%2F I’m revealing my age when I admit I remember the Good Humor Man ice cream trucks. I also recall, as a little girl, when the Helms Bakery trucks used to drive around the neighborhoods in California, selling their freshly baked goods. My dad had his upholstery and custom built furniture shop behind our house, so I knew I could always run out there when I heard the whistle from the bakery truck and knew Dad was always a soft touch for their goods. They sold freshly baked cream puffs, cookies and donuts, freshly baked bread and at Christmas, the best fruitcake known to man. It’s the reason I love fruitcake. It had none of that bitter citron or fruit peel but was, instead, filled with candied cherries, candied pineapple and large raisins and pecans. I’ve come very close, over the years, t... Life with Chronic Pain blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1625857 Tue, 15 Jul 2008 19:53:06 +0100 1625857 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1259927&cid=t_103950_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2008%2F02%2F26%2Fla-recuperation-de-mme-trudeau%2F Margaret Trudeau, Canada’s lively and lovely former first lady turned bipolar advocate, talks about her recovery (récupération in French) process to stay balanced. “You need to develop a sense of forgiveness,” she says. “Forgiving myself and forgiving others for abandoning me, for hurting me, for their lack of understanding. I have to ask for forgiveness, and I have to forgive myself.” The other essential ingredient to recovery, Trudeau says, is gratitude. “When you are a grateful person, you are a generous person, and then you are a happy person. When you give, you get—you certainly do.” “I know what it was like to be so low, and to have that flame of hope—the one you should always have—go out. I have such gratitude for being well... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1259927 Wed, 27 Feb 2008 01:34:44 +0100 1259927 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=483332&cid=t_103950_111_f&fid=34712&url=http%3A%2F%2Fdigitaldoorway.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F03%2Fbirthdays-loss-and-forgiveness.html Today would have been the 43rd birthday of our dear friend Woody, unjustly killed in his prime by the police five years ago. He and I had always talked about celebrating our 40th together---we were both born in 1964. Sadly, he never made it to 40, so these subsequent birthdays and holidays can sometimes be like salt in a wound.Today, his family came to Mary's inner city senior center to celebrate the English as a Second Language (ESL) class which they have funded in his memory. The students demonstrated their learning, expressed their gratitude, and we all shared carrot cake (Woody's favorite) together. His death has brought to life so much, and his memory fuels the dreams of many.Time is an interesting agent in this human world of ours, and its passing can bring many things: healing, forg... Digital Doorway blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=483332 Tue, 20 Mar 2007 01:31:00 +0100 483332