MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'guilt'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 01:51:15 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5125808&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F08%2F12%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-august-12-2011%2F Every day can seem pretty ordinary. It can look almost identical on the surface. But if you were to take a magnify glass and zoom in on the individual moments of your day, you may be surprised by what you find. Within those 24 hours, there are mini lessons, opportunities to choose differently and open doors toward self-growth. The problem is we’re usually too busy to notice them. Take today, for example. There was the lady who blatantly and unashamedly pushed me out of the grocery line. I could have chosen to say something. But I didn’t. I was also late for an appointment. I could have carried the guilt I felt throughout the rest of my day. But I didn’t do that either. And there was that darn migraine. The headache that I’ve had since high school-the type that makes... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5125808 Fri, 12 Aug 2011 10:34:34 +0100 5125808 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5028449&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F07%2F15%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-july-15-2011%2F There are some numbers I shy away from. Raise your hands if you occasionally lose your courage over scales, your inbox or the number of visitors on your blog. Anybody? For some reason, I can muster up courage to give presentations, interview people I’ve never met, but scared as heck when it comes to numbers like these. It’s probably that 5 letter word that starts with g. Guilt’s been plaguing me since I was 6 years old. One hot summer day I was on a field trip when I finally found a water fountain. I was so excited. I didn’t care that the water was warm or that I had to stand on my tippy toes to get to it. But when one of the young teachers came up next to me, all I could think of was how guilty I felt that she touched my dirty sweaty hair. It didn’t matter th... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5028449 Fri, 15 Jul 2011 11:08:34 +0100 5028449 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5028461&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F07%2F10%2Fwant-to-feel-happier-by-the-end-of-the-day%2F Do you need a happiness boost — right now? If so, take a look at this menu of options and make your choices. Remember, the more you tackle, the bigger the boost you’ll receive. When you’re feeling blue, it can be hard to muster up the physical and mental energy to do the things that make you happier. Plunking down in front of the TV or digging into a tub of ice cream seems like an easier fix. However, research shows (and you know it’s true) that these aren’t the routes to feeling better. Try some choices below. The more you push yourself, the better you’ll feel; but if you can’t tackle a big task, just do something small. Even a little step in the right direction will give you a lift. According to my ground-breaking happiness formula, to be happy, you need to think about... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5028461 Sun, 10 Jul 2011 16:46:57 +0100 5028461 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5008305&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F07%2F08%2Fbest-of-our-blogs-july-8-2011%2F The stories you tell yourself about yourself are probably not only untrue, but could be hazardous to your health. This is particularly the case where those “stories” are negative and unconscious. I’ll share a personal story to explain what I mean. When I was about 8 or 9 years old, my dad got laid-off from his job. In order to collect unemployment, he needed to show he was actively searching for a job. One week he applied for a job as a courtesy clerk for a local supermarket. He didn’t think he would actually get it nor did he really want it. He assumed being in his thirties and working in management positions prior made him overqualified. But surprise, surprise, he got the job anyway. He remembers it as one of the most embarrassing days of his life and was a... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5008305 Fri, 08 Jul 2011 09:17:44 +0100 5008305 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4934339&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F06%2F12%2Fmoney-problems-6-steps-to-transform-your-money-life%2F I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t have a money problem right now, in this economy. Even the wealthiest of the wealthy are fretting because the fortunes they stashed in bonds and stocks aren’t performing with the same gust of the 90s, and, even if you have 5 billion dollars, seeing that figure change by a half of a billion produces anxiety and pacing. I wouldn’t know. But I’m guessing. So it was with interest I read financial advisor Karen Lee’s book, It’s Just Money, So Why Does It Cause So Many Problems?. Lee has worked in the financial services industry since 1987. During that time, she has worked with hundreds of families, individuals, and small businesses to help them work towards their financial goals. And to boot, she’s a regular guest expert on CNN. Here are... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4934339 Sun, 12 Jun 2011 12:28:50 +0100 4934339 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4911570&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F06%2F08%2Fwhy-these-6-happiness-boosters-might-actually-make-you-feel-worse%2F Everyone has a few tricks for beating the blues. It turns out, however, that several of the most popular strategies don’t actually work very well in the long term. Beware if you are tempted to try any of the following: 1. Comforting yourself with a “treat.” Often, the things we choose as “treats” aren’t good for us. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt, loss of control, and other negative consequences just deepen the lousiness of the day. So when you find yourself thinking, “I’ll feel better after I have a pint of ice cream… a cigarette… a new pair of jeans,” ask yourself — will it really make you feel better? It might make you feel worse. In particular, beware of… 2. Letting yourself off the hook. I’ve found that I sometimes ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4911570 Wed, 08 Jun 2011 15:45:45 +0100 4911570 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4828988&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F05%2F14%2Fthe-interventionist-an-interview-with-joani-gammill-about-addiction%25e2%2580%25a8%25e2%2580%25a8%25e2%2580%25a8%2F Today I have the honor of interviewing a friend of mine who has just written a compelling memoir, The Interventionist, about addiction from the perspective of both an addict and an interventionist. You begin your book with the quote from Khaled Hosseini’s book, The Kite Runner: “And that, I believe, is what true redemption is … when guilt leads to good.” Do you believe your work with other addicts is partly what keeps you clean and sober? Why compels you to enter into such hopeless situations and try to fix things? Joani: I think as the quote infers “when guilt leads to good,” my work with addicts and alcoholics assuages my own continued ambivalence about my responsibility about having this disease. It is not at all logical. There is no “choice” about having this ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4828988 Sat, 14 May 2011 10:29:48 +0100 4828988 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4744912&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=39016&url=http%3A%2F%2Fturquoisegates.blogspot.com%2F2011%2F04%2Fcrooked-paths-made-straight.html Every valley shall be filled, and every mountain and hill shall be made low, and the crooked shall become straight, and the rough places shall become level ways. (Luke 3:5)The night of my overdose, I sat down on one of beautiful antique white lawn chairs and slowly sank to the ground. The legs suddenly too fatigued to hold me up. This chair, along with it's occupant, legs too tired to do anything but sag.I remember a small sketch my pastor often drew when I was a child - a chair with only three legs. The illustration had something to do with lack of faith.It's been difficult to go through this season wondering if it is simply this...lack of faith...that has crumbled me. On the other hand, if my faith is strong, what could be so mighty as to crumple my faith?I rest in verses that show me be... Turquoise Gates blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4744912 Sat, 23 Apr 2011 10:00:00 +0100 4744912 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4693398&cid=t_101473_129_f&fid=36035&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Flife-with-chronic-pain%2Flearning-to-live-with-the-gremlins-called-fear-and-guilt%2F There are two little gremlins that sit on my shoulder each day and night. I swat at them like pesky flies, but they continue to stick. It’s as if they had glue on their feet, sharp little claws, and such extreme staying power that I would admire them under different circumstances. Their names are fear and guilt. These persistent little buggers came to me many years ago — or maybe I was born with them, as most of us are who are full of the normal human foibles. Fear of heights, fear of failure, fear of the next unknown event flying at you — list goes on and on. When you suffer disease and chronic pain, there is much to be afraid of. You can’t dispel fear. You have to confront it and look it squarely in the eyes. Fear is normal under many circumstances. Many actors always hav... Life with Chronic Pain blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4693398 Fri, 08 Apr 2011 14:04:59 +0100 4693398 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4676784&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fthe-psychological-price-of-surviving-cancer%2F2011.04.04 One of my closest friends is a two-time breast cancer survivor. Terry (as I’ll call her) has been cancer free for eight years—long enough to be considered cured (generally defined as being in remission at least five years). But in no way is she “free” of cancer. Every abnormal blood test, every callback for another mammogram terrifies her so badly she can’t sleep until doctors rule out a recurrence. In some ways, the ongoing psychological and emotional challenges she faces have been worse than the physical treatments she endured. I thought about Terry when I read the latest government statistics on the number of cancer survivors in this country. Nearly 12 million Americans—4% of the population—are still alive after a cancer diagnosis. In many respects this is terrific news, a... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4676784 Mon, 04 Apr 2011 23:00:47 +0100 4676784 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4664229&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F03%2F31%2Fhistory-of-a-suicide-an-interview-with-jill-bialosky%2F Today I have the pleasure of interviewing Jill Bialosky, author of the new book History of a Suicide: My Sister’s Unfinished Life, in which she brilliantly weaves together her sister’s inner life and brings an awkward but essential topic of discussion out of the shadows. 1. If you could have readers leave with one piece of truth about suicide, what would it be? Jill: Suicide is a multi-faceted, complex event and though there may be a present catalyst that triggers it, ultimately it is a psychological drama that happens within the mind of a suicidal individual resulting from intense inner pain. This is a theory developed by Dr. Edwin Shneidman, one of the leading figures in the study of suidiology and it is the one theory that makes sense to me. We must recognize the inner pain ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4664229 Thu, 31 Mar 2011 15:24:08 +0100 4664229 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4600801&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Faggression-and-hostility-in-recovered-alcoholics-2%2F This study was designed to examine aggression in a group of socially well-adapted recovering alcoholics. The question addressed was whether the treatment, together with long-term abstinence from alcohol, could reduce aggression and hostility in recovered alcoholics. Sixty four male stable alcoholics with at least 3 years sobriety were compared with 69 non-alcoholics. Neither group had any other psychological problems.Both groups were given a questionnaire on general characteristics as well as aggressive and hostility traits.After a 3-year abstinence, men from the recovering alcoholics group displayed greater signs of hostility and covert aggression.  They were different from non-alcoholics on measures for indirect aggression, irritability, negativism, suspicion, resentment, and guilt.... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4600801 Wed, 16 Mar 2011 09:33:23 +0100 4600801 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4575249&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fweeding-out-toxic-relationships%2F Keep in mind that I’m not discussing all difficult relationships; some challenging relationships are well worth keeping. I’m specifically discussing toxic relationships, which are characterized by the following.Toxic relationships; take heavily from us without giving anything back. sap our joy as well as our mental and emotional energy. represent people who are hateful, hurtful, critical and discouraging the vast majority of the time you are around them. constantly leave you feeling empty, guilty, incompetent and ashamed represent people who are verbally and emotionally abusive to you. bring out the absolute worst in you.Weeding out Toxic Relationships. Share, print or e-mail this articleStress ReliefWHAT IS ANXIETY?Alcohol Awareness for Loved OnesReleasing ResentmentThe Dark Side of G... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4575249 Sat, 12 Mar 2011 03:05:40 +0100 4575249 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4575097&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F03%2F11%2Fstressed-out-working-from-home-join-the-club%2F I love it when I read a study that confirms what I’ve been feeling or thinking. Psych Central’s Senior New Editor Rick Nauert discussed a few days ago a new study in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior that says women find it especially stressful to receive work-related communication at home, even when the phone calls or emails are within the working hours they defined. Much more so than men. Meaning, if the boss emails or calls a guy, even if it’s outside normal working hours, the typical male doesn’t think much of it, takes care of it, no problem. A woman? Even it happens within 9 to 5, she frets a little. Why? Think long and hard, even if you aren’t Catholic… Guilt. And here it is again … Guilt. Guilt. Guilt. Boy do I know that feeling. B... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4575097 Fri, 11 Mar 2011 17:22:26 +0100 4575097 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4498394&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fwhat-are-stages-of-sex-addiction%2F Addicted people often feel handcuffedProblems in controlling sexual behavior usually reveal themselves in four distinct stages:Preoccupation: The person continually fantasizes about sexual prospects or situations. Constant sexual focus results in a high level of arousal which can trigger an episode of sexual “acting-out.”Ritualization: A preferred sexual activity or situation is often stereotyped and repetitive, and may include a wide variety of activities intended to keep arousal at a high pitch, rather than being aimed at sexual release.Compulsion: The person continues to engage in sexual activity despite negative consequences and a sincere desire to stop. A sex addict can feel as powerless as an alcoholic or drug addict over his or her addiction.Despair: Sex addicts experien... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4498394 Thu, 17 Feb 2011 15:23:02 +0100 4498394 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4445985&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=39016&url=http%3A%2F%2Fturquoisegates.blogspot.com%2F2011%2F02%2Falternative-to-affectation-and.html My friend calls it a fingernail moon, the last lingering slip of crescent as we fade into the new moon. It sets somber white against the cobalt twilight in midwinter. Edging into the long cold night one beautiful moment at a time.The white bleeds blurred brightness onto film as the stars peek through the velvet and the yellow sunlight whispers secrets to the hilltops picketed with naked trees. Ragged horizon like the frayed yarn of a favorite scarf, worn by the harshness of winter and the fingering blaze of the sun as she winks goodbye to our side of the world each afternoon and begins her ascent into the heavens of someone else's morning.I look at the world of color, and it's a warm moon and twilight is a blanket I can wrap my shoulders in, a tangible testimony of Creator God. It is close... Turquoise Gates blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4445985 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 10:20:00 +0100 4445985 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4442093&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=39016&url=http%3A%2F%2Fturquoisegates.blogspot.com%2F2011%2F02%2Fseeds-of-doubt.html Tomorrow I allow doubt to creep through my words for a day. It all starts with this song. I think back to childhood, the years I spent wandering around my own brain as a young adult. It hurts to remember the hurts inflicted on others as I tried to disown my own skin. The only answer then was Grace. And the only answer now is Grace. But in between the question and the answer is that sick-stomach phase when you sink in your shame and forget that the ladder is still sitting in the muck with you. The same ladder you crawled out on last time.Nothing scalds like the memory of wrongsI did when I was youngHow could I?How could I?I see the eyesof the others that I so carelessly abusedHow could I?How could I?I'm sorry.Well, I've carried this a long timeIn a well-hidden bundle on my backBut I've real... Turquoise Gates blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4442093 Sun, 06 Feb 2011 11:11:00 +0100 4442093 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4382953&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F7-cs-for-alcoholic-detachment%2F Image via WikipediaChildren, Adult Children and partners of alcoholics often develop seven ways or attitudes to deal with the drinker. These are;Guilt and shame implied by the alcoholic about causing them to drink excessivelyIf I caused alcoholism, I must be able to find a remedyIf I can’t cure it I can control the behaviour and drinkingAvoiding self-care in deference to the alcoholics needsFearfully not expressing own needs and feelingsMaking poorly considered decisions – unhealthy, irrationalBelittling self, abilities, accomplishments and potentialIn recovery children of alcoholics and co-dependents learn to reverse these attitudes. Quite simply these principles are life attitudes.The Seven C’s of Another Persons Alcoholism – DetachmentI didn’t Cause itI can’t Cur... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4382953 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 15:40:00 +0100 4382953 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4013426&cid=t_101473_134_f&fid=35187&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FDiabetesDaily%2F%7E3%2Fn6YgZAj2hJE%2Fdiabetes-guilt.php At church this past Sunday we were talking about the missions opportunities we support. We have been training local leaders to establish small home churches in Asia and they are now expanding into Africa as well. It costs about $150 to fully support one of these churches.Later Sunday night all of my diabetes technology needed to be "changed". I refilled my reservoir, changed my infusion set, and inserted and calibrated a new CGM sensor.I was quickly struck by the amount of money involved - the cost of insulin, of my pump, reservoirs, infusions sets, medical tape, CGM sensor, CGM receiver, and test strips.To be totally honest, the feeling that struck me most was one of guilt. How do I reconcile the fact that the same amount of money I just used here (most of which will last for less than a ... Diabetes Daily blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4013426 Wed, 29 Sep 2010 12:37:43 +0100 4013426 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4018447&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fbenefits-of-recovery-from-alcoholism%2F There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains. The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately. We can wake up in the morning, read for a few minutes in our meditation book, and feel lifted. We can work a Step and often notice an immediate difference in the way we feel and function. We can go to a meeting and feel refreshed, talk to a friend and feel comforted, or practice a new recovery behavior, such as dealing with our feelings or doing something good for ourselves, and feel relieved. There are other benefits from recovery, though, that we don’t see immediately on a daily or even a monthly basis. These are the long-term gains, the larger progress we make in our life. Over the years, we can see tremendous... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4018447 Sun, 26 Sep 2010 16:15:03 +0100 4018447 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3812974&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fa-doctors-guilt-about-healthcare-costs%2F2010.08.02 Times are tight and we’re all looking to save money, be it our own or someone else’s. Many will say that when it comes to the skyrocketing costs of healthcare, doctors are responsible for part of the problem. Doctors order too many tests, either to cover ourselves in the event of a malpractice suit, or because patients pressure us, or because we genuinely believe that the tests are necessary for patient care, but in many circumstances, a cheaper option is available. We order medications that are expensive when cheaper medications are available. And psychiatrists offer care — like psychotherapy — that could be done by clinicians who are cheaper to educate and willing to work for less money. (more…) *This blog post was originally published at Shrink Rap*... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3812974 Tue, 03 Aug 2010 01:00:00 +0100 3812974 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3776351&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fhow-to-let-your-to-do-list-slide-gracefully%2F Most of us know how to make a to-do list, and chances are you’ve got five different places you can do it: Your phone, your computer, a notebook, your daily planner, and the back of a receipt in your wallet are all good places to start. But sticking to the (usually long) list of tasks that you promise to complete in a day is the real problem, and for everything you DO accomplish, there always seems to be something that you forgot or didn’t have time for. Instead of letting your unchecked items bring you down and stress you out, care2 has some suggestions for giving your to-do list, and yourself, a break: 1. Make a list of everything you plan to do in the next week - Be specific, and list each thing by day. 2. Review the list, and decide how much of it you think you’ll REAL... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3776351 Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:03:16 +0100 3776351 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4060653&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34859&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.davemsw.com%2Farchives%2F2010%2F07%2Fgazing_in_the_looking_glass_without_selfpunishment.php This is the seventh in a series of articles about emotional intelligence for personal growth. Many people are unsure what they feel. Some deny feeling anything at all. Others report boredom much of the time and seek reckless excitement when they can. Still others have never felt like they fit in. They may have experienced being ignored, picked on, or even being treated like scapegoat. Others seem to have an emotional on/off switch; they're either rational or raging.Some people seem to carry a fowl mood with them where ever they go. All it takes is a bad experience, and they spiral down into an emotional hole. Others get so emotional at times they feel like they're going crazy. They become so desperate to escape their feelings that they'll do anything to escape, even things they'll feel bad... Ψ Dare To Dream... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4060653 Tue, 20 Jul 2010 01:38:10 +0100 4060653 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3753777&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fmend-your-conscience-call-the-apology-hotline%2F photo: Thinkstock A few weeks ago, my roommates and I ordered Thai food. We went to pick it up, and once we got home, we realized that we’d been given someone else’s order as well as our own. Rather than call and admit our error, we had a Thai feast, with enough leftovers for lunch and dinner the next day. You could say we went Thai crazy. So, I’m sorry, Pagoda Thai Food. And I’m sorry to the customer who probably had to wait for ten minutes while their food was remade. Even though you probably got some free spring rolls to make up for the error. (Consider that my gift to you.) Phew. It feels good to have that out in the open. Most of us have an apology lurking deep within us, but for whatever reason, we can’t say it. Whether it’s coming years too late, ... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3753777 Wed, 14 Jul 2010 21:20:58 +0100 3753777 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3714449&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fcompulsive-overeater-2%2F This series of questions may help you determine if you are a compulsive overeater. Many members of Overeaters Anonymous have found that they have answered yes to many of these questions. Do you eat when you’re not hungry? Do you go on eating binges for no apparent reason? Do you have feelings of guilt and remorse after overeating? Do you give too much time and thought to food? Do you look forward with pleasure and anticipation to the time when you can eat alone? Do you plan these secret binges ahead of time? Do you eat sensibly in front of others and make up for it alone? Is your weight affecting the way you live your life? Have you tried to diet for a week (or longer), only to fall short of your goal? Do you resent others telling you to "use a little willpower&... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3714449 Thu, 01 Jul 2010 04:57:11 +0100 3714449 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3672056&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcohol-collateral-damage%2F Al-anon  Studies have found that when actively drinking, an alcoholic affects at least four people around him or her. According to members of Alanon (a 12-step support group for relatives and friends of alcoholics), spouses and children of alcoholics often suffer from depression, mood swings, anger, guilt, and resentment of their situation and a feeling of isolation. Ariel S., a long-time member of Alanon, said, "My husband was addicted to alcohol and I was addicted to him." She said that after she went to her first Alanon meeting, she learned what is called the "3 Cs." I didn’t cause alcoholism, I can’t control it and I can’t cure it,’" she said. Learning that alcoholism was a disease helped her understand her husband’s ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3672056 Wed, 16 Jun 2010 16:09:00 +0100 3672056 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3656941&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsay-no-to-guilt%2F Today I will say no without guilt. Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so.  Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful. My attempts to separate from my parents were met with threats of abandonment.  As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection.  Deep within me now, I feel a strong desire to become my own person, to stand free of all unhealthy attachments and discover who I am.  When I disregard my limitations and permit others to violate my boundaries, I harm myself. Today I will love myself enough to say no when I find it necessary.  I will reassure the child within me that those who truly love me will not abandon me when I must tell them no.  No matter what the response, today... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3656941 Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:01:00 +0100 3656941 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3655633&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2010%2F06%2F12%2Fobesity-or-an-eating-disorder-which-is-worse%2F I fear that I’m giving my daughter an eating disorder with intentions of teaching her how to eat right. Which begs the question: which is more harmful — obesity (and diabetes) or an eating disorder? I’ve implemented a “one-treat rule” in our home, which simply means that if my kids get ice-cream after school, they have already had their treat and don’t get dessert after dinner. I try to explain as delicately as I can that too many sweets and too much junk food makes you sick. Fat too, yes. But, more importantly, sick. “What happens when you eat more than one treat?” my daughter asked me awhile back. And, well, I’m not proud of this, but I think I said, while my mind was somewhere else: “You blow up.” So yesterday she had a s... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3655633 Sat, 12 Jun 2010 11:19:08 +0100 3655633 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3635994&cid=t_101473_137_f&fid=39091&url=http%3A%2F%2Falzheimmers.blogspot.com%2F2010%2F06%2Fhelplessness-of-alzheimers.html The process of living through Alzheimer's disease in a loved one is essentially an emotional prison. You are stuck behind the walls of helplessness. You can't stop the disease from progressing, you can't reverse it, you can't cure it. you have no control of the situation. You are involved  very passively and helplessly in a process. Sort of like being caught in a tornado, and waiting for the storm to end, wondering how much destruction will be there, and if you will even make it, and of course in the middle of the storm you are not sure it will ever end.Prison, you freedom, your control is taken away. It leads to anger and frustration, we often end up lashing out at those whom are closest to us, the guilt leads to more anger. You remember the loved one in better times and you wan... Caregiver Survival: I Hate Alzheimers blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3635994 Sun, 06 Jun 2010 21:17:00 +0100 3635994 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3621632&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fpiper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black-on-therapy-after-prison-more-exclusive-video%2F Check out more of our exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman, where she talks about the surprising and unexpected friendships she developed while in prison. At age 34, Piper Kerman was sent to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth Gilbert (not bad for a first-time writer). Piper sat down with Blisstree for the afternoon to discuss all aspec... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3621632 Wed, 02 Jun 2010 14:00:47 +0100 3621632 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3612067&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FsnhLJWVg7u0%2F Roles hide behind normal There are several roles that alcoholics/addicts and their partners adopt with each other. Some of these are; Controller – Person who cannot allow anyone to grow or be anything other than what they want them to be Dual Personality – Person who can change “hats” at the drop of a dime, between portraying a rational person and the other one irrational. It’s like living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Evil Person – or narcissist, Total disregard for human characteristics of anyone around them including abusing and destroying any hopes and dreams of those around them. This person has absolutely no conscience and uses whatever laws, Biblical references, and popular social theories to support whatever convoluted ideas that they have about the ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3612067 Fri, 28 May 2010 14:36:32 +0100 3612067 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3603551&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Ffriendships-in-prison-more-exclusive-video-of-piper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black%2F See more of our exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman, where she talks about the guilt and shame that resulted from her prison ordeal. At age 34, Piper Kerman went to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth Gilbert (not bad for a first-time writer). Piper sat down with Blisstree for the afternoon to discuss all aspects of her time in the clink,... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3603551 Thu, 27 May 2010 14:00:02 +0100 3603551 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3599345&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fmore-exclusive-video-piper-kerman-author-of-orange-is-the-new-black-on-guilt-forgiveness-and-redemption%2F Check out more of our exclusive video chat with Piper Kerman here, where she talks about staying fit behind bars. At age 34, Piper Kerman went to federal prison for a ten-year-old drug smuggling and money laundering offense. She spent 13 months in a minimum-security correctional facility for women in Danbury, CT, which isn’t necessarily what you’d expect from a blonde-haired, blue-eyed Smith graduate and Red Sox fan from a nice, New England family. Piper’s excellent memoir about her prison experience, Orange Is the New Black, was just published by Random House – with back cover blurbs by Dave Eggers and Elizabeth Gilbert (not bad for a first-time writer). Piper sat down with Blisstree for the afternoon to discuss all aspects of her time in the clink, from skincare in prison... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3599345 Tue, 25 May 2010 17:32:40 +0100 3599345 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3534113&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fd0u1Yissuus%2F Guilt, Resentment, Fear, Inadequacy, Loneliness: The five areas that seem to cause the most serious problems for people in recovery from alcoholism. Several years ago, Clancy I., was explaining to me that guilt, resentment, fear, feelings of personal inadequacy and loneliness were the five areas that seem to cause the most serious problems for people in recovery. He shared with me seven questions that he uses to help a person start writing and he emphasised that the questions and the writing are not intended to replace A.A.’s Step 4, they just help the person get started. Most of the people who approach Clancy or are referred to him, are very hardcore cases who have tried numerous times and approaches to solve their problems. I have been using these “Seven Questions” with the peo... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3534113 Tue, 04 May 2010 16:01:00 +0100 3534113 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3522835&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F5IzP5iQf_3c%2F There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains. The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately. We can wake up in the morning, read for a few minutes in our meditation book, and feel lifted. We can work a Step and often notice an immediate difference in the way we feel and function. We can go to a meeting and feel refreshed, talk to a friend and feel comforted, or practice a new recovery behavior, such as dealing with our feelings or doing something good for ourselves, and feel relieved. There are other benefits from recovery, though, that we don’t see immediately on a daily or even a monthly basis. These are the long-term gains, the larger progress we make in our life. Over the years, we can see tremendous... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3522835 Sat, 01 May 2010 13:54:00 +0100 3522835 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3480956&cid=t_101473_180_f&fid=38619&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FALifeCoachsBlog%2F%7E3%2FmHsUi53dXbc%2F If you asked most people when they first learned to drive, they’d probably tell you about the first time they actually got behind the wheel of a car under the supervision of either an instructor or family member. Personally, I think we only really start to learn when we get out on the open road on our own after we have passed our driving test. Prior to that, sure we re picking up some basic skills, but we’re also in a protective bubble. Life Coaching is a bit like that. Getting qualified  as a life coach is all well and good, but you can’t really learn the craft until you get in front of clients and listen to real world issues and concerns. It really doesn’t matter how many books you’ve read, courses you’ve attended or workshops you’ve taken, nothing fully prepares you fully... Life Coach Blog: The Discomfort Zone : blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3480956 Sun, 18 Apr 2010 16:16:24 +0100 3480956 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3448844&cid=t_101473_87_f&fid=36438&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FCato-at-liberty%2F%7E3%2FbFVtG7fuqj4%2F By Daniel J. MitchellA Washington Post columnist reports on a group of limousine liberals who are lobbying to pay more taxes. Of course, there’s no law that prevents them from writing big checks to the government and voluntarily paying more, so what they’re really lobbying for is higher taxes on the vast majority of investors and entrepreneurs who don’t want more of their income confiscated by the clowns in Washington and squandered on corrupt and inefficient programs: A group of liberals got together Tuesday and proved that they, too, can have a tax rebellion. But theirs is a little bit different: They want to pay more taxes. “I’m in favor of higher taxes on people like me,” declared Eric Schoenberg, who is sitting on an investment banking fortune. He c... Cato-at-liberty blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3448844 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 17:01:20 +0100 3448844 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416329&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fremoving-guilt-and-shame%2F Recovery from alcoholism, codependency and addiction encompasses getting rid of the guilt and shame of past actions. This is done in Step 4 of the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, Adult Children of Alcoholic (ACOA) and Narcotics Anonymous. The list below is taken from the Step 4 section of the book ‘The 12 Steps for Adult Children’.  The different areas to be examined in Step 4 work suggested in the book above are: Repressed Anger Approval Seeking Caretaking Control Fear of Abandonment Fear of Authority Figures Frozen Feelings Isolation Low Self-Esteem Overdeveloped Sense of Responsibility Repressed Sexuality And from Clarence S. of Alcoholics Anonymous The inventory is of our defects, not our incidents. Here are the defects: Resentment, A... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416329 Mon, 29 Mar 2010 15:47:00 +0100 3416329 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3383089&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F_3LzNn85eJ8%2F All work, no play, no way All Work, No Play: No Thanks by Jenni Schaefer (Pictured) True recovery from my eating disorder meant saying no thanks to “All work, no play.” Our world celebrates work, constant activity, and being productive. We tend to ignore and even look down upon renewal, recovery, and play. I used to feel unbearably guilty if I were not working. While occasionally relaxing or having fun, I would think to myself, “I should be doing something productive.” The guilt was often so unbearable that I would stop whatever I was doing that seemed unproductive and would get back to work. Of course, when I worked in this way, I was stressed out, lacked passion, and was actually less productive. I had heard person after person and book after book say that I needed more recovery ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3383089 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:44:00 +0100 3383089 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3363824&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F9woPO90eBhY%2F Addicted people often feel handcuffed Problems in controlling sexual behavior usually reveal themselves in four distinct stages: Preoccupation: The person continually fantasizes about sexual prospects or situations. Constant sexual focus results in a high level of arousal which can trigger an episode of sexual “acting-out.” Ritualization: A preferred sexual activity or situation is often stereotyped and repetitive, and may include a wide variety of activities intended to keep arousal at a high pitch, rather than being aimed at sexual release. Compulsion: The person continues to engage in sexual activity despite negative consequences and a sincere desire to stop. A sex addict can feel as powerless as an alcoholic or drug addict over his or her addiction. Despair: Sex addicts exp... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3363824 Sat, 13 Mar 2010 22:26:00 +0100 3363824 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3273085&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FI7z4bxsaj_k%2F Twenty Questions to help identify sexually compulsive actions Sexual addiction can be a problem for people in recovery from alcoholism, gambling, addiction or co-dependency. This can be so whether one is gay, lesbian or straight. These questions may help identify or dismiss the problem. The Twenty Questions Do you frequently experience remorse, depression, or guilt about your sexual activity? Do you feel your sexual drive and activity is getting out of control? Have you repeatedly tried to stop or reduce certain sexual behaviors, but inevitably you could not? Are you unable to resist sexual advances, or turn down sexual propositions when offered? Do you use sex to escape from uncomfortable feelings such as anxiety, fear, anger, resentment, guilt, etc. which seem to disappear when th... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3273085 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 01:35:00 +0100 3273085 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3243965&cid=t_101473_134_f&fid=34841&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.diabetesmine.com%2F2010%2F02%2Fsubtle-accusations.html Sometimes it’s the incessant sense of failure with diabetes that gets me down.  It’s not so much about strangers making stupid comments, or even me beating myself up for not doing a perfect job of managing my BG levels every day…  it’s more about the subtle accusations of people closer to me, those who I [...] (Source: Diabetes Mine) Diabetes Mine blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3243965 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 13:00:08 +0100 3243965 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3235973&cid=t_101473_129_f&fid=36035&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Flife-with-chronic-pain%2Fchoices-you-can-make-in-a-life-of-chronic-pain%2F Either I accept my limitations and challenge them Or I use them as an excuse to lose my life, without putting up a fight. Either I lie here and feel the full weight of my self-pity Or I rise up and do just one thing that is productive. Either I sit here during this commercial Or I arise off my seat and perform one quick chore. I either water that pot of African violets Or I watch them wither and die. I either walk down the stairs to let the dog out to pee Or face the consequences with paper towels in hand. I either snatch a small fragment of time to be productive Or I achieve nothing, willingly and without guilt. What’s with all this guilt, anyway? Either I consider the act of resting to be healing and do it without guilt Or consider it wasteful and of little importance. I’m the judge ... Life with Chronic Pain blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3235973 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:12:53 +0100 3235973 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3231811&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=36896&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FSuboxoneTalkZone%2F%7E3%2FHpCUpOKhqP0%2F I will share some thoughts that I left at a discussion at a ‘linked in’ group about addiction.  I was responding to someone who was equating addiction and physical dependence in a baby born to an opiate-addicted mother.  My feeling is that such women are given way too much of an attitude by the nurses and others who care for them, and that was the motivation behind my response.  Read on: There are many differences between physiological dependence and addiction to substances. For example, people who take effexor are dependent– and will have significant discontinuation-emergent side effects– but they are not ‘addicted’, which consists of a mental obsession for a substance. The same is true of beta-blockes, in that discontinuation results in rebound hypertension... Suboxone Talk Zone blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3231811 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:42:36 +0100 3231811 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3189413&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F9vrGHTij_so%2F This article puts to rest some of the guilt and shame generating myths that we may have in our heads. Masturbation still gets a bad rap in society, probably because it is a private behavior rarely shared or discussed in public with even the closest of friends. But masturbation is a normal part of sexuality in people, even if they are involved in a relationship with another person. In this article we answer the top ten myths regarding masturbation. Does masturbation cause blindness? Do spouses continue to masturbate after marriage? Why are people so embarrassed about masturbation? Why do women often have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse? How much masturbation is too much? What do I tell my “touchy” toddler? Will eating Kellogg’s cornflakes make me stop doing it? Is shower m... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3189413 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 23:57:04 +0100 3189413 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3176071&cid=t_101473_134_f&fid=34841&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.diabetesmine.com%2F2010%2F01%2Fflashback-friday-true-confessions-of-a-good-diabetic.html Due to recent exciting news events, I’ve moved my trip down memory lane to Friday this week… Another wonderful fellow D-blogger, Lee Ann Thill, recently posed a question on Facebook: “who exactly is responsible when people with diabetes aren’t ‘good’ diabetics?”  Over 30 replies ensued, as this perennial question brings up all sorts of fundamental issues [...] (Source: Diabetes Mine) Diabetes Mine blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3176071 Fri, 15 Jan 2010 14:00:25 +0100 3176071 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3164058&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2ForEkgB6Yi08%2F Forgiveness is the art of releasing resentment in  life and in 12 Step Fellowships. One day, long after their abusive father died, Kate asked her brother Kevin how he felt about their painful childhood. “I can’t condone how we were treated,” said Kevin, “but I’ve finally forgiven dad.” Kate was astonished. “Not me. I’m so consumed with [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3164058 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:03:31 +0100 3164058 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3115298&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FNoQULeiZ7z8%2F Adult Child of Alcoholism The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List These are some characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfil our sick abandonment needs. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves. This enables us not to look too close... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3115298 Tue, 22 Dec 2009 11:53:39 +0100 3115298 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3083191&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholic-co-dependent-roles%2F There are several roles that alcoholics/addicts and their partners adopt with each other. Some of these are; Controller – Person who cannot allow anyone to grow or be anything other than what they want them to be Dual Personality – Person who can change “hats” at the drop of a dime, between portraying a rational person and [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3083191 Sun, 13 Dec 2009 04:15:45 +0100 3083191 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3079588&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fworkaholism%2F Many people in recovery develop a work ethic that seems to over compensate for past deeds. This usually comes from a sense of guilt about the past and will not usually be lessened until they do Steps 4 through 9. These steps have an additional function of reducing guilt and shame. Workaholism can be seen as [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3079588 Wed, 09 Dec 2009 18:36:00 +0100 3079588 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3067116&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2009%2F12%2F08%2F9-holiday-depression-busters%2F My “9 Holiday Depression Busters” are featured in a Beliefnet gallery. You can get to it by clicking here. It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year–but not if negative emotions take hold of your holidays. So let’s be honest. The holidays are packed with stress, and therefore provoke tons of depression and anxiety. But there is hope. Whether I’m fretting about something as trite as stocking stuffers or as complicated as managing difficult family relationships, I apply a few rules that I’ve learned over the years. These 9 rules help me put the joy back into the festivities–or at least keep me from hurling a mistletoe at Santa and landing myself on the “naughty” list. 1. Expect the Worst Now that’s a cheery thou... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3067116 Tue, 08 Dec 2009 13:33:46 +0100 3067116 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3056893&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2F2TH7s4bNQDc%2F Say no to guilt Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so.  Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful. My attempts to separate from my parents we met with threats of abandonment.  As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection. Deep within me now, I feel a strong desire to become my own person, to stand free of all unhealthy attachments and discover who I am.  When I disregard my limitations and permit others to violate my boundaries, I harm myself. Today I will love myself enough to say no when I find it necessary.  I will reassure the child within me that those who truly love me will not abandon me when I must tell them no.  No matter what the response, today I will treat myself well by saying no without gu... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3056893 Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:34:00 +0100 3056893 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3044804&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2009%2F12%2F01%2Fdealing-with-eating-too-much-guilt%2F It’s the week after Thanksgiving and as you try and get back into your daily routine, you can’t help but feel that maybe you ate too much. At our house, it was the celebration of Pie-a-palooza that did us in. (Is there such a thing as too much pie?!) So you’re sitting there thinking, “Gosh, I’m full. I must’ve gained 10 pounds over the holidays. Why did I eat so much?” The dark specter of guilt raises it’s ugly head… What can you do?! Weightless blogger Margarita Tartakovsky has six suggestions on how to make it stop: 1. Accept your feelings and move on. OK, acknowledge that you feel guilty and realize that this is just another feeling. But like other feelings, it will go away. 2. Tell yourself you’ll go back to eating healthfully. N... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3044804 Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:39:03 +0100 3044804 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3040026&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2Fzzzi7y9SE58%2F ACOA hands For Adult Children of Alcoholics / Addicts and, in fact, all people. Bill of rights I do not have to feel guilty just because someone else does not like what I d0, say, think, or feel. It is OK for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways. I do not have to assume full responsibility for making decisions, particularly where others share responsibility for making the decision. I have the right to say, “I don’t understand” without feeling stupid or guilty. I have the right to say “I don’t know” I have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty. I do not have to apologize or give reasons when I say no. I have the right to ask others to do things for me. I have the right to refuse requests which others make of me. I hav... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3040026 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:51:00 +0100 3040026 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3012569&cid=t_101473_134_f&fid=34841&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.diabetesmine.com%2F2009%2F11%2Fguest-post-have-a-little-respect.html My D-blogger friend and intermittent correspondent Allison Blass has been living with diabetes since she was 8 years old. It’s pretty much all she knows. She copes with it her way, and strives to let others do the same. That’s why, this week, she’s musing on the theme of respecting each others’ choices in this [...] (Source: Diabetes Mine) Diabetes Mine blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3012569 Fri, 20 Nov 2009 13:00:48 +0100 3012569 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3003845&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F11%2F18%2Fthe-situation-of-mortgage-defaults%2F This article suggests that most homeowners choose not to strategically default as a result of two emotional forces: 1) the desire to avoid the shame and guilt of foreclosure; and 2) exaggerated anxiety over foreclosure’s perceived consequences. Moreover, these emotional constraints are actively cultivated by the government and other social control agents in order to encourage homeowners to follow social and moral norms related to the honoring of financial obligations – and to ignore market and legal norms under which strategic default might be both viable and the wisest financial decision. Norms governing homeowner behavior stand in sharp contrast to norms governing lenders, who seek to maximize profits or minimize losses irrespective of concerns of morality or social responsibilit... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3003845 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 04:01:17 +0100 3003845 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2931052&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F10%2F27%2Fthe-painful-situation-of-guilt%2F From Eureka Alert: The rationale behind torture is that pain will make the guilty confess, but a new study by researchers at Harvard University finds that the pain of torture can make even the innocent seem guilty. Participants in the study met a woman suspected of cheating to win money. The woman was then “tortured” by having her hand immersed in ice water while study participants listened to the session over an intercom. She never confessed to anything, but the more she suffered during the torture, the guiltier she was perceived to be. The research, published in the “Journal of Experimental Social Psychology,” was conducted by Kurt Gray, graduate student in psychology, and Daniel M. Wegner, professor of psychology, both in Harvard’s Faculty of Arts and Scien... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2931052 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:01:29 +0100 2931052 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859105&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2009%2F09%2Fmy-foundation-dads-response%2F Not too long ago, I wrote about my father. He called me yesterday and asked if I was ready to hear his response yet. I said, “Sure.” I was curious. He actually read this to me over the phone. Can you say emotional? Between him choking up and me reaching for tissues…well, I’ll let you read it. He left this as a comment on the blog yesterday, but I’m elevating it to full-on blog post, baby! My comments are in GREEN. His reply: Hi mi hijo, After I read “My Foundation” I was crying for awhile, and so many memories to to my mind and heart. I remember how many of my plans (as a dad) for you suddenly collapsed right before my eyes. I figured maybe you would be a great soccer player. But, most of all, a martial artist that I could be teaching and coaching. (My Dad... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859105 Thu, 17 Sep 2009 20:12:51 +0100 2859105 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2796703&cid=t_101473_134_f&fid=35187&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FDiabetesDaily%2F%7E3%2FacE7kzrwWpA%2Fit-wasnt-the-insulin-literally.php I figured out what put me in the hospital.  I actually figured it out a few days ago, but I was so embarrassed that I didn't want to talk about it. After a short talk with one of my board members yesterday, I've decided that to hold back would be bad.  I feel I have a responsibility to share what really happened. I made a really stupid mistake, and it cost me a lot of pain and misery.  While it's too early to tally up the financial figures (I haven't received any of the hospital bills yet),  I'm sure it cost me a pretty penny as well.The thing is, I feel that I was a victim of my own over-complication.  I feel that the whole experience was my fault.  There's that guilt thing again.  I was just trying to make things work for me. In the end, it was a perfec... Diabetes Daily blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2796703 Tue, 15 Sep 2009 15:29:00 +0100 2796703 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859118&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2009%2F07%2Fa-sick-boys-guilt%2F If I could have said this then, I would have. Better late than never: Sisters: I am sorry for all the playtime you lost because of me. You must have wasted so many hours in boredom, on my behalf. I am sorry for worrying you. I am sorry for any tears I caused you. Little brother: I am sorry for stealing your spotlight. You were the baby, and you should have been spoiled. Instead, it was me everyone worried about. If I had it my way, I would have chosen invisibility over disability. I am sorry for not being there to play catch with you. I am sorry I couldn’t be the big, strong one to teach you ropes. Mom and Dad: I am sorry for the sleepless nights you had because of me. I am sorry for the massive strain I added to your already heavy load. I wish it could have been easier for you. I wi... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859118 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:18:27 +0100 2859118 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2576651&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2009%2F07%2F06%2Fguilt-shame-and-public-life%2F Several public figures passed away last week, including Ed McMahon, Billy Mays, Farrah Fawcett and of course, Michael Jackson. Each of them made a difference for people and we don’t have to go into how they were important. The point is, they were and will remain important for years to come. When I consider the tragic life that Michael Jackson led, and how he told his former wife, Lisa Marie Presley, that he was afraid he would die the way her father Elvis did, one wonders how many other people have had the internal struggles that Jackson did. People get addicted to innumerable things. Alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, sex, shopping, video games—each is problematic and each can lead to destruction. But in Jackson’s case it was a combination of problems. He struggled with self-este... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2576651 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:38:00 +0100 2576651 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2405393&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34958&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.counsellingresource.com%2F%7Er%2Fpsychology-philosophy%2F%7E3%2Fob9jEC_8D-I%2F Is the reason why we don't do in a small group what we will do in a crowd, different to the reason that we will do things in a small setting we wouldn't want to do in public?Tags: guilt, relationships, society (Source: Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life) Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2405393 Tue, 12 May 2009 09:58:51 +0100 2405393 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2390222&cid=t_101473_134_f&fid=35187&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FDiabetesDaily%2F%7E3%2FtY7jGBEBmcE%2Fmaking-the-same-mistakes.php I've been wresting with myself the past few days.I did something I knew very well I shouldn't.  In fact I did it three times.  And each time I was miserable and scared afterward.  And once I was done being scared I felt guilty.Mistakes in life happen, and are necessary.  We need to make mistakes in order to learn.  We are supposed to learn from our mistakes, and then not repeat... (Source: Diabetes Daily) Diabetes Daily blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2390222 Mon, 04 May 2009 23:17:58 +0100 2390222 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2277217&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F03%2Fi-posted-sign-of-apocolypse.html Oh mah gah! Where do I begin? I think with a fresh cup of tea. I’ll be right back. Ok, now I am back but not before getting distracted by 3 different things. And, that, in a nutshell, is the story of the last 3 months. So many things have happened that I guess I will eventually get them put on paper (cyber paper, that is) but they likely will take on a crazy criss cross pattern easy to spew out but difficult to read. Bear with me. January- Honestly, I don’t remember very much of January. It was pretty mellow after being snowed in for a lot of December. Christmas was nice and full of low key visits with my dear friend Tina who was here with her husband and parents from London, England for a family wedding. Then my other best friend, Pablo, came out for Christmas very last moment... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2277217 Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:59:00 +0100 2277217 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2216701&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2009%2F02%2F26%2Fobama-preaches-personal-responsbility%2F  Personal responsibility….. It’s a common theme in Obama/Biden speeches. WE ALL are suppose to take personal responsibility for our choices. Right? Who chose to leave all of this crappy trash laying on the ground after Obama’s speech???????   The Mall after  Obama’s followers listened to him talk about the new era of personal responsibility. CINCINNATI — Barack Obama received a [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2216701 Thu, 26 Feb 2009 14:37:33 +0100 2216701 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2222548&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34958&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.counsellingresource.com%2F%7Er%2Fpsychology-philosophy%2F%7E3%2Fvh0CEO_yW_s%2F Neurotics try hard not only to project a positive image, but also to do the right thing. Disordered characters know this very well. So, when the person with a disturbed character wants to manipulate a good neurotic, all they have to do is somehow convince them that they've done wrong or behaved in a manner they should feel ashamed of.Tags: bullying, CBT, character disturbance, guilt, neurosis, therapy (Source: Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life) Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2222548 Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:22:54 +0100 2222548 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2210745&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2009%2F02%2F23%2Fsean-penn%2F I liked you better when you were  this guy…..Spicoli. Spicoli wouldn’t hang out with Hugo or Fidel. Spicoli was stupid enough to be honest. Spicoli wouldn’t haven’t spouted his left-wing propaganda at the Academy Awards. Spicoli would have realized the irony in what he was saying if he did spout off at the AW. Spicoli would have [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2210745 Tue, 24 Feb 2009 03:48:04 +0100 2210745 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2113656&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2009%2F01%2F18%2Frsvpmy-i-suck-really-suck-party%2F First, let me hereby acknowledge that I certainly do really, really suck as a person sometimes. Why deny it? It is what it is. At least, I’ve got the balls to admit it. But, let me assure you that I do not really, really suck as a person most of the time.   I wish that I could [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2113656 Mon, 19 Jan 2009 07:37:02 +0100 2113656 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2100910&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2009%2F01%2F13%2Fvideo-unload-your-guilt%2F This article was originally published on Beyond Blue at Beliefnet.com and is reproduced here with permission. (Source: World of Psychology) World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2100910 Tue, 13 Jan 2009 13:11:26 +0100 2100910 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2065351&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F12%2Fmerry-christmas-everybody.html It is 11pm and I've finally finished wrapping all the gifts and have a moment to sit down to write a little note. I'll be posting soon now that things have settled down a bit.Here is what has been happening with me:-still working the part-time job.-trying desperately to sell calendars in a horrific economic climate (and failing dismally).-organizing a large gala fund-raising event as well as participating in it.-getting my Occupational First Aid Level 1 certificate.-making Christmas gifts as well as shopping.-working some free-lance jobs to attempt to pay off my huge calendar printing bill.-yelling at Dexter (all 9lbs of him!) to GET DOWN! and LEAVE YOSHI ALONE!-volunteering as much as I can.-driving down to the US for business.-hanging out with my friends who are visiting from London, Eng... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2065351 Thu, 25 Dec 2008 07:01:00 +0100 2065351 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2061098&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F12%2F23%2Fwhy-i-really-hate-christmas-part-deux%2F Hey Luuuuuuucy….. I got some splain-ing to do. Let me elaborate…. I’m not sure I really HATE Christmas per se. I think I hate the idealized, commercialized IDEA of Christmas. I’m a Christian, and proud to say so. I believe in Christ, and I believe I will spend eternity in heaven with Him because I believe He [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2061098 Wed, 24 Dec 2008 00:22:41 +0100 2061098 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1943413&cid=t_101473_133_f&fid=35096&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAutismVox%2F%7E3%2F-lyjpR51Ujg%2F Linking autism to rates of rainfall could be said to be a quite extensive attempt to find an environmental cause of autism, and one that is clearly external and not genetic. Since the study was reported earlier this week, it’s been getting a lot of press. Two genetic studies were also recently noted this week: Ars Technica looks closely at one study on language genes. Another study published in the Archives of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine looks at parents’ concerns about their own risk and their children’s risks for genetic disease. With the development of genetic testing and, too, of direct-to-consumer genetic tests, parents can find out a lot more about their genetic profile and quite readily. Is there a tendency to shy away from genetic theories of autism because ... Autism Vox blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1943413 Fri, 07 Nov 2008 21:23:36 +0100 1943413 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1943357&cid=t_101473_134_f&fid=34841&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.diabetesmine.com%2F2008%2F11%2Ftrue-confessions-of-a-good-diabetic.html I read other PWD’s blogs, and they always seem like they have it so together.  But then again, when fellow diabetics meet me in person, they seem to think I have it all figured out, too.  Closer to the truth is probably that we’re all just taking it day by day.  And man, do I [...] (Source: Diabetes Mine) Diabetes Mine blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1943357 Fri, 07 Nov 2008 15:15:30 +0100 1943357 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1888269&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F10%2Fcornucopia-of-feline-delight.html A Cute Photo To Reduce Your IreOk, I am sorry I haven't posted. Very very VERY sorry. But after I spill my brain onto this blog about what has happened over the last month you may regret your recent inquiries into my, Yoshi's and Dexter's well being.We all all good.Now that I got that out of the way I'll get into a little more detail.I've been heinously busy. Partly because I am a terrible procrastinator, partly because I am a good citizen and partly because I need to pay the bills. Against all promises I made to myself, my graphic designer, my family and my friends I once again left the creation of the 2009 Iconic Women By Yoshi Calendar to the last minute. What can I say? I work better under pressure. Just not this much pressure. So it is almost done and will be sent to the printer by ne... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1888269 Sat, 18 Oct 2008 19:16:00 +0100 1888269 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2513542&cid=t_101473_177_f&fid=38133&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FTubalReversalBlog%2F%7E3%2F_taQZpckDMk%2Fmenstrual-problems-tubal-ligation.html Women who have menstrual problems after tubal ligation surgery may or may not have Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome. Many will have undiagnosed medical conditions. The ligation reversal experts of Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center outline the most common medical conditions that are associated with menstrual disorders. (Source: Tubal Reversal Blog) Tubal Reversal Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2513542 Mon, 15 Sep 2008 17:24:15 +0100 2513542 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1764019&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F09%2F05%2Fb-rabbit%2F *fusion post* merging mental health & whatever the hell I want “Here-tell these people somethin’ they don’t know about me” ‘B-Rabbit’/Eminem ~ 8 Mile ****************************************** I had a conversation with my mom the other morning. Not a long one, in order to get into that we would have ended up talking for hours; but that is why this [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1764019 Fri, 05 Sep 2008 08:41:01 +0100 1764019 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1742777&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F08%2Fcrush-your-cats-head-friday-you-can.html Here is the kitteh update you’ve all been asking for. How is Yoshi doing? Well…not great but not terribly awful either. She stopped eating all together a couple days ago and still occasionally (meaning pretty much every day) yaks bile which, I’ve discovered, leaves a lovely green stain on my carpet. Who said having cats was not like having kids? My berber disagrees. So I started getting desperate and bought all sorts of yummy things Yoshi might successfully ingest with no luck. I vacillated wildly between guilt and exasperation. It was not pretty around here. I tried to push the limits a little by keeping the cats separated all of the time except in the evenings when I allowed them to be in the same room with each other-supervised for fair play and safety. And the thing is t... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1742777 Sat, 30 Aug 2008 05:37:00 +0100 1742777 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1729495&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F08%2F23%2Fdoll-face%2F Have any of you seen this video? What’s your interpretation of it? I think that it says a lot about each of us (The Chicks). I find myself feeling more and more like the ending. Reaching for ……what?……to fit in? perfection? to become someone else? or perhaps the “who I used to be but can no [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1729495 Sun, 24 Aug 2008 02:52:35 +0100 1729495 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1729460&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F08%2Fkitteh-update.html Day 3 of Kitteh Intro Hell:Yoshi is really, really, REALLY pissed. She has taken to barfing twice a day on a 12 hour-you-could-time-your-watch-to-it schedule. She also will froth at the mouth to make a point of her displeasure. She won't eat. Not even tuna. Today she has taken to her bed with the vapors. In Yoshi world that means she is in her Snoozen Housen and won't come out. Last night after a little hissing but mostly curious sniffings I brought the kitten out and I think that is when Yoshi realized that he was not even remotely phased by her growlings and might actually be hanging around. Things got nasty when the kitten went to jump up on the sofa where Yoshi was. She literally screamed, punched the kitten in the head and then levitated off the couch to behind the plant knocking over... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1729460 Sun, 24 Aug 2008 01:57:00 +0100 1729460 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1686287&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F08%2Fone-of-those-life-posts-filled-with.html Do you ever find yourself in the same difficult and perplexing situations over and over again? You start to wonder if the universe is trying to teach you something or it is some heinous personal defect since the only constant element in all these situations is you. Or in this case, me. My particular situation is that am finding it increasingly difficult to be in the company of people. I have a couple things going against me. First of all I have terrible social anxiety complicated by some pretty weird phobias. Any social situation is pretty agonizing on most levels. Secondly I am very sensitive to the emotions of others and so called ‘vibes’. Just very aware of the undercurrents of most interactions. Some therapists think this is why I have such bad anxiety. It is like I am lacking s... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1686287 Thu, 07 Aug 2008 07:12:00 +0100 1686287 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1668525&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F07%2F30%2Fcome-one-come-allsnack-on-my-remains%2F I feel like I’m being eaten alive lately. So, before, there’s nothing left but my asshole poontang body cavities, come on in and get a nibble, too!   I’m sick and tired of being a buffet for hungry losers and starving crazies.   I QUIT I QUIT I QUIT I QUIT I QUIT I QUIT and, all yeah…..I FRIGGIN’ QUIT! WTF has happened to me? When [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1668525 Thu, 31 Jul 2008 02:38:46 +0100 1668525 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1655760&cid=t_101473_129_f&fid=36038&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.healthtalk.com%2Fmultiple-sclerosis%2Flife-with-ms%2Fworking-while-on-ss-disability-insurance%2F When we find the need or ability to go back to work with MS, many are frightened at the thought of losing all of the hard-earned disability benefits. Who could blame us when it can sometimes be such a difficult task to be deemed worthy by “the system.” Yesterday, before our monthly HealthTalk MS webcast on “Letting Go of Your MS Guilt,” I spent an hour and a half with a local non-profit counselor on the very topic. I’m a pretty savvy guy and have done a fair amount of reading on the topic. Reading the Social Security “Red Book” can, however, be like reading Egyptian hieroglyphs prior to the discovery of the Rosetta Stone. I learned so much from that meeting that I’ve invited the counselor to speak at my MS Poker Night on the topics of leaving... Life with MS blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1655760 Fri, 25 Jul 2008 21:39:23 +0100 1655760 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1649369&cid=t_101473_129_f&fid=36038&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.healthtalk.com%2Fmultiple-sclerosis%2Flife-with-ms%2Fan-important-webcast-on-ms-guilt%2F Snowflake to snowball in three months - we’re quite the community here at Life with MS! In April, after a meeting with a friend at our local National MS Society “Walk MS” event I posted my thoughts on “MS survivor guilt.” Your comments took the subject on a bit of a ramble and the editorial board of HealthTalk took notice. Tomorrow night, we’re going to have a go at the WHOLE gambit of feelings of guilt, shame and inadequacy that multiple sclerosis can load into our personal baggage. The MS webcast, entitled, “Letting Go of Your MS Guilt” airs live on Thursday evening. We’ve assembled a panel of three experts in the field: a therapist, a man living with advanced MS and his wife/care partner (who is also a founder of a national caregiver... Life with MS blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1649369 Wed, 23 Jul 2008 23:33:48 +0100 1649369 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1637852&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F07%2F18%2Fnice-fck-nice-im-sick-of-the-drama%2F  Beginning To The End Of My Niceness An update to an update on my journey of trying to be a good person. That’s what this post is about. Wanna know where my phone is at the moment? Buried under a mound of pillows to stiffle the ring. Wanna know why? Because, I was nice to a person [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1637852 Sat, 19 Jul 2008 01:59:13 +0100 1637852 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1635026&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F07%2F17%2Fbeing-nice-is-screwing-up-my-life%2F This is another update to the SIL Post. Y’all made me do some self-assessment thinking with your comments and encouragement to help crack-head, dillusional, grief stricken SIL.  I let myself be swayed by the image in my head of birds singing, butterflies landing on my shoulders, rainbows in a clear blue sky, and the voice of [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1635026 Fri, 18 Jul 2008 02:21:09 +0100 1635026 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1605989&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F07%2F09%2Fdepression-is%2F            When Depression Owns the Heart A depression so deep it finds a way into the Soul, and travels through every pore of your Heart. A depression so large it encompasses every bit of your Reality, and leaves Reality a cloudy memory. A depression so dense it compresses every will you once had, and bows you down to accept it as it’s own. A [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1605989 Fri, 11 Jul 2008 07:16:47 +0100 1605989 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1603140&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F07%2F09%2Fits-bigger-than-me%2F she wanted to be thin, so she melted clear away but it doesn’t seem so clear today it doesn’t seem so clear today… Taken from : “Carries On” It’s not easy to be, me…” ©Cat Ginn ‘08 (Can be found in BPChicks Blog-May 2008) Late June: “I wonder if she would change this? -Just for me, privately, if I asked. It doesn’t quite fit me…well, nothing in my [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1603140 Wed, 09 Jul 2008 20:46:00 +0100 1603140 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1593917&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F07%2F07%2Fi-dont-know-how-she-feels%2F by UM/TPB I’ll make this first part quick. Kinda like Cliff notes only BP Chick notes. Same thing. Except Cliff notes are about books that we were suppose to read in school. Much of the time, we needed those Cliff notes to pass our English class.  BP Chick notes are much the same but use language [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1593917 Tue, 08 Jul 2008 03:39:44 +0100 1593917 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1450334&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F05%2F17%2Fi-am-my-worst-enemy%2F Numb to real thoughts or emotions. I’m OK with writing silly stuff that doesn’t matter at all in the long run. But, the part of my mind, soul, heart, etc. that means anything is gone/hiding/killed/abducted or something. And…..”deep breath”……I have kept this to myself because it is the nature of my beast. I had an [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1450334 Sat, 17 May 2008 17:05:43 +0100 1450334 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1449627&cid=t_101473_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2F10-masturbation-myths%2F This article puts to rest some of the guilt and shame generating myths that we may have in our heads. Masturbation still gets a bad rap in society, probably because it is a private behavior rarely shared or discussed in public with even the closest of friends. But masturbation is a normal part of sexuality in people, even if they are involved in a relationship with another person. In this article we answer the top ten myths regarding masturbation. Does masturbation cause blindness? Do spouses continue to masturbate after marriage? Why are people so embarrassed about masturbation? Why do women often have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse? How much masturbation is too much? What do I tell my “touchy” toddler? Will eating Kellogg’scornflakes make me stop doing it? Is shower m... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1449627 Sat, 17 May 2008 10:36:20 +0100 1449627 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1408268&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F04%2Fscoop-poop-skinny.html *big sigh*You have no idea how many times I've said to myself that I HAVE to update my blog and then get totally distracted and, well, don't.So sorry.Here is what is happening with me lately.I am EXTREMELY busy.Specifically I have, with very little notice, committed to participating in a craft fair. In theory this is a great thing. In practice it means I've been up to 2-2:30 am every night madly sewing stuff to sell. I've got lavender owls (Nighty Night Owls), little zippered pouches, fabric magnets and fabric grocery bags.I seriously lost my mind and bought a total shit load of incredibly beautiful designer fabric (like several hundred dollars worth [I am a total fabric whore at the best of times but I went overboard with this]) planning to make billions of these bags. Well, it takes abou... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1408268 Wed, 30 Apr 2008 06:40:00 +0100 1408268 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1404130&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F04%2F28%2Fhey-guess-what%2F We’re kind of here…..but we’re kind of not. Go figure. We’re not re-directing. My sacrificial dummy test (my own) blog I did one way is doing as expected….it’s not. This one….WTF? Well…okay then. Cause I tried to RE-save/backup/export this blog and it crashed my computer. (Does it matter? NO-’cause it is only backing up last year’s March….whoop-de-doo!) Wordpress has no support on [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1404130 Mon, 28 Apr 2008 10:41:35 +0100 1404130 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1401392&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F04%2F26%2Fsomeone-kill-me-please%2F This_isn’t_going_well It is 4am, I’m “importing” our blog….uncool. Now I seem to look as if I am the author of all of our posts. The author names did not transfer over… (evidently the program cannot do that, now I am the fucking program)…and that is just for the ones that are importing, key word “are” [...] (Source: bipolar chicks blogging) bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1401392 Sat, 26 Apr 2008 09:53:54 +0100 1401392 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1389075&cid=t_101473_133_f&fid=35096&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAutismVox%2F%7E3%2F275154746%2F “And then the guilt starts again because I have brain-eating blood that attacked Hayden.” So says Dee Cogdill of Benton, Ohio in the April 21st Cleveland Banner; Hayden is 11 years old and autistic. Cogdill and her husband, Ed, took Hayden to Johns Hopkins University to participate in a research study about maternal antibodies (more about this here). In the study that the Cogdills participated in, “an antibody in all mothers of autistic children was found in their blood that was not present in mothers with typical children.” It’s from this finding that Dee Cogdill’s comment about “guilt” comes in, and also the worry that she may have contributed or even caused her son to become autistic. I’ve noted a similar line of thinking in parents ... Autism Vox blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1389075 Tue, 22 Apr 2008 05:57:59 +0100 1389075 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1389295&cid=t_101473_129_f&fid=36038&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.healthtalk.com%2Fmultiple-sclerosis%2Flife-with-ms%2Fmultiple-sclerosis-survivor-guilt%2F If there is one thing the doctors told me from the get-go, the thing they let me know no matter how hard I pressed them for answers was this: No one knows how MS is going to affect any one person over another. The next page of my disease isn’t written, let along the next chapter, so there is no way for anyone to read it. Still we ask, ponder and wonder. The truth, awful truth if you ask me, is that some people get clubbed by MS while others only receive the occasional switching. It hurts me deeply to see friends, dear people I’ve met since my diagnosis, slip faster and further than my disease course currently sails. I had my time; I was forced to use a cane from diagnosis and it took 5 years before that piece of furniture became a less frequent accessory. My disease progressed so rapid... Life with MS blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1389295 Mon, 21 Apr 2008 21:04:31 +0100 1389295 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1358565&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F04%2Flengthy-excuse.html My typical Crush Your Cat's Head Friday post is MIA because of an unscheduled change in plans. Without warning it became Fall Asleep On The Couch Ridiculously Early Friday which unexpectedly turned into a Pukey Migraine From Hell Saturday. The next thing I knew it was the afternoon of Brutal Painkiller Hangover Sunday which then predictably lead to Catch Up On My Whole Life Monday.Here is hoping that Running Errands All Over The City Tuesday will allow for an Obsessively Reflecting On My Boring Mundane Life Wednesday post.Bet you can't wait. (Source: Von Krankipantzen) Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1358565 Tue, 08 Apr 2008 20:53:00 +0100 1358565 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1338077&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F03%2F31%2Fhey%2F Yeah, I’m alive…I’m around. Waking up too early, staying up too late. Not keeping up with reading “all ya’ll’s” blogs…much less commenting. Not to mention posting anything of great value; and I have a few things I’d like to post about….really! I swear I do! This is rare for me, an off the cuff (is that even a saying?) post. Just typing whatever. As long as this winter has been. I’ve kept myself busy. It’s not as if I’ve been slacking; but why is it that everything always hits the fan at once? I have started projects inside and now look….! I need to go outside and get a few things started as well; but first I must shop. Yes shop or I will be doing yard work naked. I have NO spring or summer clothes. NONE. I ... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1338077 Mon, 31 Mar 2008 06:37:56 +0100 1338077 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1320547&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F03%2Fcrush-your-cats-head-friday-about-that.html Yoshi has the most uncanny sense of time. About 3 minutes before her usual dinner hour she wakes up, climbs all over me like a monkey, thrusts her face within inches of mine and gives me this...THIS LOOK!Feeeeeed Meeeeeeeeeeeee! *urgent grunting noises* (Source: Von Krankipantzen) Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1320547 Sat, 22 Mar 2008 01:05:00 +0100 1320547 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1309092&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F03%2F18%2Fit-was-my-birthday-i-could-cry-if-i-wanted-to%2F by the feline….. The 14th of this month was my birthday… just last Friday… Know who forgot my birthday? My mother. ROFLMAO! She’s now officially forgotten most everyone in the family’s birthday. I believe the memory of every single person on this earth has been affected by the hormone’s in the chickens we eat. I’m dead serious. What else could it be? We can’t ALL have Alzheimer’s. (shakes head emphatically). And she’s not taking the old standby, Topamax (Dopamax, to us oldtimers)… so she can’t even use THAT excuse that we BP’ers use, can she? She’s not THAT old…. 66… so senility is out of the question. She’s not THAT busy, having retired just a year or two back… and she’s not e... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1309092 Tue, 18 Mar 2008 06:58:59 +0100 1309092 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1259966&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F02%2Fspooky.html So I like to think I am a very enlightened, tolerant and open minded sort of gal. I have my own little quirky life filled with my own little quirky likes and dislikes and as such maintain a motto of, “Whatever melts your butter.” While I may not agree with or even remotely understand others and what they do in their lives I also don’t like to harsh on anyone’s mellow by being all judgmental and shit. Everybody has to do their own thing, right? So along with being enlightened, tolerant and open minded I am also mentally about as mature as a teenaged boy. A very poorly brought up, over imaginative, and under stimulated adolescent male. Combine that with an uncontrollable reflex to joke about inappropriate things and I am exactly the wrong person to take to a funeral, bris, beat poet... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1259966 Wed, 27 Feb 2008 08:34:00 +0100 1259966 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1252664&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F02%2F23%2Fa-post-about-search-terms-and-teeth%2F Just a quick post to lighten the mood. Then, we can get back to serious self examination and exposing our “uglies”. d….who the f*** is THE GUY who keeps ending up here with his rather, shall we say “strange as a snake with big tits” search terms? does a car crash effect bi-polar 3 rights of bipolar people 2 red sexy lips 1 granny tells it like it is 1 treat her like crap and she sleeps with 1 what deer terds look like 1 big push lips Does a car crash effect bi-polar…..The obvious answer is HELL NO! We’re superhuman. I thought everybody knew that. We can leap tall piles of turdcakes aka bullshit diagnosis, in a single bound. We have super hearing (that’s why we know what pdocs are saying out in the hallway or adjacent exam room... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1252664 Sun, 24 Feb 2008 08:08:26 +0100 1252664 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1238187&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F02%2Fcrush-your-cats-head-friday-sunday.html I've been busy shopping and cleaning and getting ready for my cousin to visit on Monday. She is almost 20 years old so I have to make my pad as cool and groovy as possible. This is no small feat and I am, frankly, exhausted already.Yes, I know by saying cool and groovy and pad I've just earned all 20 year olds' distain forever. Like, who totally cares?Yoshi has been helping me out by sleeping the whole weekend and keeping her shedded fur in a small easily contained area. However, she has resorted to some creative coping postures to avoid the pungent stench caused by me scrubbing and wiping with vinegar. My apartment smells like a salad. Environmentally safe for everybody but none too pleasant for sensitive noses.Regular cute sleeping posture.Smell avoidance sleeping posture. (Source: Von K... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1238187 Mon, 18 Feb 2008 02:32:00 +0100 1238187 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1226792&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2008%2F02%2F12%2Fan-education-in-incoherent-thoughts%2F This post is for those of us who will “get it”. And, it’s also for anyone who has a close relationship with a BP person. First….be aware that we look like you, shop like you, go to church like you, have jobs like you, but frankly, there are plenty of times that we do NOT think like you. If you do not believe that…..go read the post right before this one. It’s brilliant. Today, I felt myself slip, slidin’ away into the HHOD (hell hole of depression). Besides feeling the sadness creeping up, I, also, have a lot of random, totally unconnected thoughts. And those suckers come and go fast. This is know as rapid thinking. Today, I knew that it was fight or slide down. I did not want to go back in the hole. NONONONONONO!!!! So, I decided to write down the... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1226792 Wed, 13 Feb 2008 04:51:37 +0100 1226792 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1162034&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F01%2Fcrush-your-cats-head-friday-yoshis.html Every blue moon I cook up a huge pot of tomato sauce to spoon into small serving sized containers for my freezer. I hate cooking so this is the only way I can avoid scurvy. One nasty cooking hour resulting in several wondrous microwaving minutes at later dates.Yoshi should count her blessings that this phenomenon doesn't happen more regularly because her aversion to the smell of onions being cut up is very dramatic and fraught with anguish and despair.As I start chopping the onions (said in a Creole accent-Onyons!) I can see her out of the corner of my eye sniffing the air with a decidedly peevish cast to her ears.Then the obsessive head tossing and lip smacking begins.This part lasts for several minutes.By this time most likely the onions are in the skillet and the worst is over. My strea... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1162034 Sat, 19 Jan 2008 05:05:00 +0100 1162034 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1079801&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F12%2F07%2Fsosive-got-a-situation%2F by UM Those of you who have known me for awhile know that I have a totally screwed-up dysfunctional family. We were brought up to take care of number 1 (ourselves). We were not taught closeness to our siblings.  We were not taught to look after one another. Apparently, I was not a good student in that school of thought. I am the sibling who gets the calls for SOS…HELP ME! And, most of the time, it comes from my brother. A little background on M for those of you who don’t know. M has always been the real black sheep of the family. He is a loner and has a hard time forming relationships that last.  Not just romantic relationships, but friendships. He is the poster boy for mood swings. Sometimes, he seeks treatment and sometimes, not. He has bought and sold stuff at flea markets... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1079801 Fri, 07 Dec 2007 18:46:27 +0100 1079801 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1073201&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F12%2F05%2Ftwas-the-month-before-christmas%2F (feline9….I didn’t write it, but I wish I had) *Twas the month before Christmas* *When all through our land,* *Not a Christian was praying* *Nor taking a stand.* *See the PC Police had taken away,* *The reason for Christmas - no one could say.* *The children were told by their schools not to sing,* *About Shepherds and Wise Men and Angels and things.* *It might hurt people’s feelings, the teachers would say* * December 25th is just a ‘ Holiday ‘.* *Yet the shopper s were ready with cash, checks and credit* *Pushing folks down to the floor just to get it!* *CDs from Madonna, an X BOX, an I-pod* *Something was changing, something quite odd! * *Retailers promoted Ramadan and Kwanza * *In hopes to sell books by Franken & Fonda.* *As Targets ... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1073201 Thu, 06 Dec 2007 03:59:54 +0100 1073201 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=874966&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F09%2F16%2F300-am-while-you-are-sleeping%2F   UM I’m sitting here listing all the reasons that I don’t like hate myself. The list is getting fairly long. First, I listed all the reasons that I shoul like myself. Came up with nothing. Well, one……I can be slightly amusing at times. Maybe, two…..I do care about other people. Is this a pity post? Dunno…..hope not. Would rather think of it as one of my rare soul searching honest post. The numbness is creeping back into my life. Not feeling a lot of emotion about anything. Sometimes, I wanna buy a one way ticket out of here. But, I won’t. At least not now. Very few things Nothing makes me happy anymore. I’ve lost that ability. Oh, I’ll laugh when I’m suppose to. I’ll tae parts in coversations as long as they are abstract... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=874966 Sun, 16 Sep 2007 10:55:04 +0100 874966 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=867368&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F09%2F12%2Fare-you-as-old-as-i-am%2F pilfered and discovered by C Just in case you weren’t feeling too old today, this will certainly change things. The people who are starting college this fall across the nation were born in 1989. My Son was born in 1988…. The only Purple Rain THEY remember is when Barney came to visit. They are too young to remember the space shuttle blowing up. They do not pass the sewer and think about “Pennywise The Clown” Their lifetime has always included AIDS. The CD was introduced two years before they were born. They have always had an answering machine . They have always had cable. Jay Leno has always been on the Tonight Show. Popcorn has always been cooked in the microwave. They never took a swim and thought about Jaws. They don’t know who Mork was or where he was fro... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=867368 Thu, 13 Sep 2007 00:41:51 +0100 867368 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=853165&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F09%2F08%2Fsnatchedit-could-happen-to-you%2F HAVE I GOT YOUR ATTENTION NOW???????? Had to edit the damn title 3 or 4 times to stay out of trouble. So, READ THIS! Sorry about the name calling. But, nobody was reading this when it was titled, “My Daughter Was The Vicitim of A Failed Abduction”. And, this is important.  I want you to know that this could happen to you………….. You see it on the news. You read about it in the newspapers. You might shudder and think, “Oh, that poor girl”. And, you think that it can’t happen to you. But, it can. My daughter was a victim of an attempted abuction today. I waver between shock and terrible sadness thinking that her picture could have been on the following video. It was a normal Saturday here. Rushing around to get stuff done. For some reall... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=853165 Sun, 09 Sep 2007 02:08:55 +0100 853165 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=835513&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F08%2F31%2Fbig-aha-momentpersonal-self-hate%2F    By UM I’ve always thought that depression was my worst enemy. It is an evil companion. But, in doing some soul searching, I have found that  my most reliable “friend “is self-hate. Awww. yeah……self destruction. Self destruction is reliable. Self destruction is always ready to be pulled out of it’s hiding place. I have been practicing self-destruction and self-hate for many years without putting a name or a face to it. Self destruction is a much a part of me as my arm or leg. It needs to be amputated. “You will never amount to anything. You’re lazy! Find a man that makes good money and be a good wife.” Great words of wisdom from my dad. And…..I subconsciously believed this for a long, long time. Now, I realize that his statem... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=835513 Fri, 31 Aug 2007 15:57:16 +0100 835513 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=832614&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F08%2F30%2Fis-keeping-the-faith-hard-for-bipolars%2F  By UM Fix Me Jesus Oh yes, fix me, Jesus, fix me. Fix me so that I can walk on a little while longer. Fix me so that I can pray on just a little bit harder. Fix me so that I can sing on just a little bit louder. Fix me so that I can go on despite the pain, the fear, the doubt, and yes, the anger, I ask not that you take this cross from me, only that you give me the strength to continue carrying it onward ’til my dying day.  Oh, fix me, Jesus, fix me. For those with bipolar disorder (manic depression) religion often plays a distinct role in their lives. Many find comfort and healing through prayer and find the support of their church families to be invaluable. However, some have also faced misunderstandings, judgment, and even accusations of demon possession. From about.com &#8220... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=832614 Thu, 30 Aug 2007 15:35:12 +0100 832614 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=823673&cid=t_101473_109_f&fid=35677&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.feedburner.com%2F%7Er%2FBrainBasedBusiness%2F%7E3%2F148711110%2Fresearcher_who_redefined_free.html What separates people who steal from the public purse and those who give back millions to help others? That moment of choice ... which makes some a sinner and others a saint … consumed Benjamin Libet’s research until his July 23 death at the age of 91. Libet’s well respected research points to a smaller window on choices than once observed, according to latimes.com. After 20 years of studying the brain, Libet concluded that instead of a free will, the mind has a free won’t. Through a series of experiments Libet and his research team observed electrodes imbedded deep in the brains of epilepsy patients - and measured neural circuits stimulated.He compared how long a signal is required to elicit a response and how long that response took. Electrical sti... BrainBasedBusiness blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=823673 Mon, 27 Aug 2007 09:48:43 +0100 823673 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=822016&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F08%2F24%2Fdepression-nipping-at-my-heels%25e2%2580%25a6-losing-my-baby-boy%25e2%2580%25a6%2F by feline9 I saw him in the rear view mirror… , much as I did fifteen years ago, the day he started Kindergarten… barely a backwards glance… off to explore strange new worlds… conquer new horizons… did he stop to think about me and how I would be feeling? No. It was, as it SHOULD be… he barely took notice that day, as the other little four and five year olds fell in step behind the teacher also… barely noticed, if at all, the tears streaming down my face… the stronghold on my heart as the air was being squeezed out of my lungs… I couldn’t breathe… Surely this was how it felt to strangle on your own love? I felt that, fifteen years ago… I felt that, on his first date… I felt that on Prom night, I felt that today, as we said goodbye to him in Dallas at his new apar... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=822016 Sat, 25 Aug 2007 04:10:07 +0100 822016 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=819579&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F08%2F23%2Flife-is-like-a-box-of-chocolates%2F                          “I could eat about a million and a                          half of these. My momma always said,                          “Life was like a box of chocolates.                          You never know what you’re gonna                          get.”  Forrest Gump By UM Had a pdoc appt. today. Actually, had one with Sarah, the PA.  Stopped by Wally-Hell on the way and got caught up in the clearance stuff. I’m so addicted to clearance shopping. I’ve got to stop this habit.  As I’ve told you before, I buy shit that I don’t need and have no real use for. Why? Because it’s 75% off and ya never know ... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=819579 Fri, 24 Aug 2007 03:35:31 +0100 819579 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=811225&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F08%2F20%2Fhow-do-you-fix-a-mindache%2F   By UM My mind aches. Not my head…..my mind. It’s too full. It’s overloaded. Short-circuiting. What do you take for a mindache? Does Head-On make Mind-On? So much stress, tension, thingstodothingstodothingstodothingstodothingstodothingstodo! I wish I could hire a Professional Thinker. Let him/her do the cerebreal work and let my mind float wherever the hell it wants to. Does anybody else ever have Mindaches? Sometimes, my mindache is in black and white and sometimes in color. Sometimes, in slow motion and sometimes, in fast motion. And….it hurts like HELL! I know this will not be taken well by some, but honestly, sometimes I envy slow-minded people. Don’t know what the PC term is now. Can’t say retarded anymore. But, whatever the PC term is…&#823... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=811225 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 00:50:45 +0100 811225 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=736334&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=35448&url=http%3A%2F%2Fseemedlikeagoodideathetime.com%2F2007%2F07%2F15%2Fsoul-searchingexamining-my-ugly%2F BY UM I have a lot of things. I buy a lot of things. Things to give others, things to keep, and things that get tossed in a corner somewhere and forgotten about.  I’ve been soul searching. Wondering why do I do this?  A famous man, and I don’t remember who, once said that giving is a selfish act.He said that we give to make ourselves feel better. I use to think that was an absurd statement. Now, I think there is some wisdom in his words.Megan was my golden child. She was/is spectacular. She excelled/excels in everything she strives to do. Megan was/is anorexic.  And, Megan likes things. Megan likes things because I unintentionally taught her to not only like things but to value them.Soul searching is hard. You have to lay it out on the table…..the good, the bad, and the ugly. I�... bipolar chicks blogging blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=736334 Mon, 16 Jul 2007 13:14:28 +0100 736334 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=728466&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F07%2Five-got-nothing.html It is hot and I am in the middle of a craft project that is making my brain hurt with concentration. Yoshi is either sleeping or being really crabby. The only thing going on right now is the electric fan.However, we both got over our pitiful selves long enough to do some much needed housework last night.In the style of this. (Source: Von Krankipantzen) Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=728466 Thu, 12 Jul 2007 03:01:00 +0100 728466 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=675919&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F06%2Fgetting-all-betty-crocker-on-your-ass.html Over the last few years I seem to be in constant conflict with the food I eat. I have a lot going against me as I am a picky eater, a vegetarian and a disinterested cook. The good news is that while fussy I still like lots of fairly adventurous flavours and I no longer get one of those looks saying, “You goddammed freakin’ hippy-dippy moron.” when I tell people I don’t eat meat. I am still usually the only vegetarian in the bunch but not quite the pariah I was 15 years ago at dinner parties. Of course recently a whole new wrench has been thrown in the works with my cancer diagnosis. There is a lot of data out there that suggests that diet plays a huge part in disease and eating well is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Now being a veghead I’ve never eaten a lot of ... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=675919 Fri, 08 Jun 2007 04:31:00 +0100 675919 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=638155&cid=t_101473_136_f&fid=35315&url=http%3A%2F%2Fkrankipantzen.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F05%2Fincoherant.html I am a total asshole. There is a serious lack of posting around these parts and it is completely my fault. I owe a photo of myself to Sharkey to celebrate her 5th Re-Birthday and I thought this would also be an excellent way to show you all how much my hair has grown out as well as a bit of cleavage with the new hooties. I even have the outfit picked out and everything. Here is the problem; being a single genteel lady living on my own who the fricking hell can I get to take my photo? I tried to set up some timer balancing act with my camera on various surfaces with crappy results. I have to get one of my parents over to take the photo. Or go to Sears Portrait Studio. So I’m sorry but you all will have to wait. I cooked up some CDs for Kristine per her heartfelt request but both yesterda... Von Krankipantzen blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=638155 Thu, 24 May 2007 02:20:00 +0100 638155 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=478197&cid=t_101473_140_f&fid=34846&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpuddlejumper.wordpress.com%2F2007%2F03%2F03%2Fghosts%2F Weird night last night. I met my son’s biological father… I probably should start a bit further back. Eight years ago I was having an affair with a married guy. Yeah I know. I should probably go shoot myself right now. We were in a band together, there was chemistry, I fell in love. I never planned to get pregnant but these things happen. This ended the affair. His wife found out and he agreed to stop seeing me. I took on the pregnancy knowing I was going to be doing it without him. I’ve never asked for (or wanted) money from him but I’ve never stopped him from seeing his son. He visited a couple of times when my son was a baby, out of curiosity, mostly I think. We live in a small town and occasionally will give each other a nod. His mum waves to me from her car. B... Puddlejumper's Bipolar World blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=478197 Sat, 03 Mar 2007 17:49:46 +0100 478197 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=493331&cid=t_101473_135_f&fid=35263&url=http%3A%2F%2Fronhudson.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F02%2Fblog-post.html This child is infected with HIV/AIDS. He just happens to live inside me. When each of us can look at a child and see the innocence that is there and find compassion for all sorts of ills, why is it that we can not do the same for those of us who carry an inner child inside? Each of us has a history of choices, mistakes, good and bad luck and interactions with others from our pasts which leaves us changed in fundamental ways despite the fact that our inner child is still there...desiring love, hoping for a hug, and just wanting to be made to feel safe. Why is it that we have to judge people living with HIV/AIDS based on how they were infected? Isn't this an illness? Is it any different than cancer, heart disease, or diabetes in the respect that we make daily choices that increase or decreas... 2sides2ron blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=493331 Wed, 14 Feb 2007 20:13:00 +0100 493331