MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'husband'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 01:54:26 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4742467&cid=t_108507_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F04%2F22%2F9-tips-to-quit-nagging%2F From what I hear from other people, it’s clear that I’m not the only person who struggles with nagging. It turns out that being a nag is just as unpleasant as being nagged — so finding strategies to stop nagging brings a real happiness boost to a relationship. But even though no one enjoys an atmosphere of nagging, in marriage or any partnership, chores are a huge source of conflict. How do you get your sweetheart to hold up his or her end, without nagging? One of my best friends from college has a very radical solution: she and her husband don’t assign. That’s right. They never say, “Get me a diaper,” “The trash needs to go out,” etc. This only works because neither one of them is a slacker, but still — what a tactic! And they have three children! That&#821... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4742467 Fri, 22 Apr 2011 18:30:02 +0100 4742467 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4575097&cid=t_108507_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F03%2F11%2Fstressed-out-working-from-home-join-the-club%2F I love it when I read a study that confirms what I’ve been feeling or thinking. Psych Central’s Senior New Editor Rick Nauert discussed a few days ago a new study in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior that says women find it especially stressful to receive work-related communication at home, even when the phone calls or emails are within the working hours they defined. Much more so than men. Meaning, if the boss emails or calls a guy, even if it’s outside normal working hours, the typical male doesn’t think much of it, takes care of it, no problem. A woman? Even it happens within 9 to 5, she frets a little. Why? Think long and hard, even if you aren’t Catholic… Guilt. And here it is again … Guilt. Guilt. Guilt. Boy do I know that feeling. B... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4575097 Fri, 11 Mar 2011 17:22:26 +0100 4575097 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4309667&cid=t_108507_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F01%2F04%2Faccessing-your-authentic-self%2F “Congruent is one of my favorite words. The word congruent describes someone who is the same on the outside as they are on the inside,” writes psychotherapist Angela Caughlin in her book, Journaling Through: Unleashing the Power of the Authentic Self: Seven Benefits of Unlocking the Wisdom Within. But, as so many of us know, being congruent is far from easy. It means not caring what others think about you. If you’re a chronic people-pleaser (Hi, my name is Margarita), this might as well be like walking a tightrope. (Yes, it’s that dramatic.) It also means knowing who you are. Sometimes, the simple question of “what do I like” is hard to answer, especially if we’ve spent years deferring to someone else and looking for validation from others. Maybe you knew who you were for... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4309667 Tue, 04 Jan 2011 16:58:12 +0100 4309667 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4172047&cid=t_108507_87_f&fid=36941&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mazecordblood.com%2Fblog%2F%3Fp%3D857 Here are some very funny stories about husbands and  pregnancy, babies and all the preparations for baby’s arrival. Our friends at sheknows.com have a lot of information not only on husbands and pregnancy stories but  about motherhood, pregnancy and preparations for the arrival of your little one. (Source: Cord Blood News) Cord Blood News blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4172047 Tue, 16 Nov 2010 18:47:44 +0100 4172047 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4001808&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholism-is-a-disease-of-the-family-2%2F Alcoholism; a disease of families Not only is there a significant genetic component that is passed from generation to generation, but the drinking problems of a single family member affect all other family members. The family environment and genetics can perpetuate a vicious and destructive cycle. Many marriages break up over a husband’s or wife’s drinking. Domestic violence typically erupts when one or both spouses have been drinking, and drinking makes domestic violence more dangerous. Families play a critical role in recovery from alcoholism. They can be instrumental in encouraging a family member with alcoholism to seek treatment. Strong family support also increases the chances for successful recovery. Alcoholism and Problem Drinking – Pervasive in Family Life More than h... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4001808 Sat, 25 Sep 2010 17:39:37 +0100 4001808 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3933269&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fal-anon-on-youtube%2F Al-Anon Speaks for Itself Part 1 A wife, father, husband, and daughter describe what it is like to love someone who has a drinking problem – an alcoholic. The wife says, "I didn’t live in reality at all. I covered up and made believe." The father says, "When the police came and told me the charges against my son, it was unbelievable. To see my son taken away in handcuffs was the most difficult day of my life." To the right of the YouTube panel you will find other videos about Al-anon. Click here for the YouTube video; Al-Anon Speaks for Itself Part 1 See also; Al-Anon May be able to help Alcoholic Family Roles Lifeskills for Adult Children Choicemaking Share, print or e-mail this articleAl-anon Speaks for ItselfAlcohol and the FamilySex Addictio... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3933269 Fri, 03 Sep 2010 13:22:17 +0100 3933269 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3907809&cid=t_108507_180_f&fid=38612&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fpickthebrain%2FLYVv%2F%7E3%2FyF9ti5TJROU%2F Today I thought I would take some time out and share some of the wisdom I have acquired after 4 happy years of marriage with my wife. After some careful consideration I realized that a blank page would not be an interesting post to read at all. It would be just too confusing. So what I do have for you to read today is 5 steps that I think could possibly help you not be as confused as I am written from my vast knowledge in the sanctity of marriage with my extensive 4 years of experience. Now before we dig deeper into these steps I would first like to disclose that the steps discussed here so far have worked for me. They were also written from a man’s perspective. Please use any of them at your own risk. Step 1: Compliment your partner aggressively. I tell my wife she is gorgeous everyday... PickTheBrain | Motivation and Self Improvement blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3907809 Fri, 27 Aug 2010 05:27:14 +0100 3907809 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3862196&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F_FEZFKqrYdc%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? If you have an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife, I can virtually guarantee that one of the major emotions you experience every day is anger. I know this because as a psychiatrist that treats addiction, the spouses of alcoholics are extremely angry and frustrated with the “roller coaster life” they live. What are the reasons you feel angry as h— with your alcoholic spouse? 1. Your alcoholic husband promises to quit and then breaks his promise. 2. Your alcoholic wife hides alcohol and drinks during the day when you are at work. She even drives the kids around when she has been drinking. 3. Your alcoholic spouse is choosing alcohol over you and your kids. 4. He/she lies about so many things you have lost all trust which has been the found... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3862196 Thu, 12 Aug 2010 23:20:19 +0100 3862196 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3845291&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FsEXgBDMjsok%2F Does your alcoholic spouse create opportunities to drink? If you are living with an alcoholic husband, you are well aware of the many excuses he has to drink alcohol. He isn’t fooling anybody, except himself. As a psychiatrist, I hear a lot of complaints from spouses of alcoholics like, “Every time I turn around, he’s drinking”. Many alcoholics hide their drinking, but there are so many “acceptable” reasons in our society for drinking alcohol, it is hardly necessary. Here are 9 typical examples of your alcoholic husband creating opportunities to drink even more (and may be why he is in this “pickle” in the first place): Business dinners (this is a very common excuse) Going to parties Holidays Watching sports (football) Traveling Unwind with... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3845291 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 12:45:44 +0100 3845291 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3833407&cid=t_108507_83_f&fid=34856&url=http%3A%2F%2Finsidesurgery.com%2F2010%2F08%2Fafghan-teen-disfigured-fleeing-abusive-husband-receive-reconstructive-surgery%2F Bibi Aisha, the eighteen year old who was brutally disfigured by the Taliban in retaliation for fleeing an abusive husband is now in the United States, awaiting plastic and reconstructive surgery. The surgery, to be performed by Dr. Peter Grossman at the Grossman Burn Center, will involve either the manufacture and placement of a prosthetic nose or reconstruction from other body tissues. (Source: Inside Surgery) Inside Surgery blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3833407 Sat, 07 Aug 2010 16:44:42 +0100 3833407 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3845292&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FUVi4xUmPzv4%2F Do you have an alcoholic spouse? If you are living with an alcoholic, you are aware of how much denial your alcoholic spouse is in about their disease. No matter how often you bring up their drinking problem, they continue on the same self destructive path. Their choices around drinking are completely irrational. This is called “addiction”. Denial is a major part of the illness. The alcohol dependent brain of your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife “drives” them to drink to combat alcohol cravings and symptoms of alcohol withdrawal. Often an alcoholic spouse will stop drinking alcohol when there is an “event” or epiphany that stops “them” in their tracks. Here are 4 examples of triggers that break through denial: An arrest for a DWI with a ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3845292 Thu, 05 Aug 2010 17:04:40 +0100 3845292 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3816768&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F9sWRDb3n4T0%2F Has your alcoholic spouse only been clean and sober for a few weeks or several months?  Are you wondering what you can expect early on in their sobriety? Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is going through major changes with their alcoholism recovery which can be difficult on the family. If you can adjust your expectations, you will not feel as frustrated than if you are expecting everything to improve. Here are 3 changes to expect the first few months of your alcoholic spouse becoming clean and sober: Your alcoholic husband or wife may be irritable and even depressed and anxious off alcohol. There is no alcohol to numb the uncomfortable feelings that drove them to drink in the first place. They are more focused on alcoholism recovery than on repairing the marriage. 12 step program... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3816768 Wed, 04 Aug 2010 01:37:39 +0100 3816768 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3816769&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F8JRe1A5kakc%2F Has your alcoholic spouse recently quit drinking alcohol? You have waited so so long for this…. You thought you would get your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife back, but your partner still seems out of your reach. Does it feel like your alcoholic spouse is now obsessed with their alcoholism recovery instead of alcohol? Does it feel like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) has kidnapped your spouse because they are at AA meetings instead of with you? This is very common at the beginning of sobriety. Here are 4  reasons explaining what is going on with your recovering spouse since they quit drinking alcohol: Your alcoholic spouse has been spending their time drinking, thinking about drinking, in pursuit of drinking, and suffering the consequences of drinking. Alcoholism recovery (sobriety) ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3816769 Sun, 01 Aug 2010 16:28:46 +0100 3816769 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3816770&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FtQPNrCsTczU%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse? Have you begged and pleaded with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife to get help to stop drinking alcohol, but they have refused (over and over)? You are puzzled. It should be a no brainer for your alcoholic spouse to get help for their alcohol problem. Their reluctance to stop drinking alcohol is so strong, it seems absurd. Here are the 5 most common reasons I encounter in the alcoholics I treat why they resist treatment. Control. Alcoholic spouses want to control when they drink and when they don’t. They do not want anyone else whether it is a therapist or rehab center taking this option away. Denial. Your alcoholic husband is suffering from such incredible denial about his drinking that you cannot fathom the level at which he minimizes... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3816770 Fri, 30 Jul 2010 19:19:21 +0100 3816770 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3816771&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FR0UrB1216g4%2F As a psychiatrist that treats a lot of addiction, I am very familiar with traits that are common to people with a drinking problem. I see “procrastination” (putting things off) in every alcoholic I treat. If it were easy for your alcoholic husband to face his problems, he would not have started drinking in the first place. Turning to alcohol is one way to avoid facing life stresses. Your alcoholic spouse has probably promised to stop drinking alcohol many times, but has broken his promise over and over. What is the effect on you? You take it personally when your alcoholic husband resumes drinking 1-2 days after telling you he will stop drinking alcohol. You feel he should put quitting drinking as his first priority if he truly values you and your marriage. You are wondering if... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3816771 Wed, 28 Jul 2010 19:10:01 +0100 3816771 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3816772&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FT__im5a7hoo%2F Are you married to an alcoholic husband? Are you at the point where you can hardly tolerate your marriage, but you don’t know what to do next? You are finally ready to set some firm boundaries with him. You have had enough of his drinking! You are so filled with anger, you could just scream. His alcohol problem has disrupted every part of your family life. If your next “moves” with him fail, you realize you need to do an alcoholic intervention or just give up on your marriage. Here are 5 examples of boundaries you can set. Start implementing several of these with your alcoholic husband right away. Steps to move forward include: Quit waiting on your alcoholic spouse to come home on time for dinner.You are setting yourself up for disappointment. If he doesn’t show up... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3816772 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 21:06:35 +0100 3816772 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3816773&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FFA3phQ3bQlc%2F Has your alcoholic husband recently quit drinking alcohol or gotten discharged from an alcohol treatment center and already experienced an alcohol relapse? Unfortunately, alcohol relapse is part of the disease. Alcoholism intervention may be necessary again. Start by talking to him (only when he is sober) about the tips I have listed below to help him stay clean and sober. It is beyond frustrating for spouses of alcoholics to witness their alcoholic husband have an alcohol relapse within 24 hours of being discharged from an alcohol treatment center. The feeling must be worse than being punched in the stomach to see all your new hopes for his sobriety dissolve in a bottle of beer. Here are 7 tips to help your alcoholic spouse stay clean and sober: This will be the best alcoholic interventio... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3816773 Sat, 24 Jul 2010 15:03:09 +0100 3816773 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3762901&cid=t_108507_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fsame-sex-vs-opposite-sex-whats-the-rule-on-friendship%2F2010.07.17 I’m stealing a post from Jay at Two Women Blogging entitled “Was Harry Right?” Here’s their post, and I discuss it below: Was Harry Right? Bluemilk got me started thinking about this. I first heard Harry’s thesis advanced by the resident I worked with on my med school psych rotation. She assured me that while I might think I had platonic friendships with men, the men didn’t see it that way. I was pretty sure they did see it that way. I wasn’t naive, I was engaged to be married and had done my share of dating and flirting — I knew what it felt like when a man was interested in me sexually and I knew the difference. I still know the difference, and I still have men friends. For most of my life, my closest friends have been men. (more…) ... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3762901 Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:00:00 +0100 3762901 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3757833&cid=t_108507_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Frelationships-how-to-survive-when-your-spouse-is-your-co-worker%2F photo: Thinkstock The recession forced many married couples out of their previous jobs and into think-mode, with many of them abandoning solo ventures and going into business together. In a recent Wall Street Journal article, author Sue Shellenbarger talked to several wife-husband teams to determine what works and what doesn’t when your spouse is also your co-worker. Draw firm boundaries. Look at your spouse as your business partner during the work week, and your spouse after work. Know your roles. Clearly define the roles each of you take in the business. Otherwise, your management styles will clash. Divide and conquer. If you’re working long hours, there’s no reason for both of you to work 15-hour days. Split up the time. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses. If you ... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3757833 Thu, 15 Jul 2010 21:04:12 +0100 3757833 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3724584&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FOB5VR960wUw%2F Well- today is July 4th. Other families can’t wait for a 3 day week-end. They associate July 4th with family time, barbeque with friends, sleeping in… Not your family. When you have an alcoholic family, 3 day week-ends are a nightmare. You dread them. Here is a description of what your July 4th may shape up to be: Your alcoholic husband is already hung over from July 3rd! Your family is going to a barbeque this afternoon or you are giving one.  Your alcoholic husband has promised not to “get drunk” in front of your parents and friends. However, as the afternoon wears on, he has drunk so many beers you have lost count. His speech is a little slurred and he is talking too loud. As usual, you are so embarrassed by him you want to crawl under a rock. Your kids look to... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3724584 Sun, 04 Jul 2010 15:17:51 +0100 3724584 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3721972&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FPqPRCcYV4hY%2F A number of people suffering from alcoholism cannot afford treatment, especially if they have lost their job and lost their benefits. Some people are in a bind because they can’t even afford to see a psychiatrist or even a psychologist. As you know, an alcoholic family suffers issues that affect every member of the family on a deep level. Don’t lose hope. Here are some free options for your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife to get the help they need:  12 step meetings are free. Here are some 12 step programs: Alcoholics Anonymous meetings (AA). AA meetings are in all major cities and have a variety of locations with different choices of times. It is a spiritually based program. Online Alcoholic Anonymous meetings called ‘intherooms.com”. I encourage this webs... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3721972 Fri, 02 Jul 2010 22:30:39 +0100 3721972 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3707009&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FBHy-aw-WSGw%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Are you trying to get your alcoholic husband  or alcoholic wife to go to Alcoholic Anonymous meetings and your spouse says they hate AA and won’t go? What are the most common complaints that I hear from my patients tbeing treated for an alcohol problem? AA is too religious. A number of people will complain if it is held in a Church. The stories people share about what they have gone through can seem really extreme and can be frightening. Your alcoholic spouse doesn’t feel like he fits in. Your alcoholic wife doesn’t feel comfortable talking about her problems in a group where men are present. Your alcoholic husband claims his problem is not as serious as the other people who attend. The people at Alcoholic Anonymous meetings are now add... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3707009 Mon, 28 Jun 2010 18:08:10 +0100 3707009 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3701813&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FOYHpqU8DdN8%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Do you sometimes have the impression that your alcoholic spouse wants to quit drinking alcohol, but can’t? As a psychiatrist that treats addiction, I see this problem on a frequent basis. What are the obstacles that your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife face? Living sober is a foreign concept to them. The idea is very scary. The only coping skill your alcoholic spouse knows is drinking alcohol to combat stress. Getting through a work day and putting up with his boss’s demands, getting through a day coping with the stress of being a mom with 3 young kids, being alone with a spouse who has been angry with you for many months …this has all been dealt with by relying on a substance; alcohol. The brain of your alcoholic spouse has become ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3701813 Sat, 26 Jun 2010 14:19:01 +0100 3701813 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3695820&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F6WflqCrTvZI%2F Does your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffer from panic attacks? A panic attack is when you can feel your heart racing, you feel like you need more air, you sweat, feel nauseated, and can experience a sense of impending zoom. Does your alcoholic spouse get “beside themselves” when they experience panic symptoms? Why is this happening to them? Your alcoholic spouse may be suffering from an Anxiety Disorder (Panic Disorder). Anxiety Disorders tend to run in families (in others words has a genetic component). The more anxiety someone experiences, the more likely they will self medicate with alcohol to “calm down”. Over time, this can lead to your brain becoming alcohol dependent. If your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife has recently quit drinking alcohol, th... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3695820 Thu, 24 Jun 2010 17:21:03 +0100 3695820 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3687366&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fcav-rXtbPBY%2F There is hope that exercise can help your alcoholic spouse quit drinking alcohol. A recent circadian rhythm study in hamsters showed that hamsters that “exercised” (more “wheel running” ) drank less alcohol than those restricted from exercise. Does your alcocholic husband or alcoholic wife go to sleep at all hours of the night and get up at different times during the day? Has your alcoholic spouse lost a routine for both their sleeping habits and eating habits? Bottom line: their alcohol abuse is disrupting their circadian rhythm which can also trigger alcoholic relapse in someone who has been abstinent. Dr. David Glass, Professor of Biological Sciences came to this conclusion after studying hamsters and “wheel running”. The hamsters that were restricte... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3687366 Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:13:42 +0100 3687366 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3678663&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FEABcc0EnuE8%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife willing to undergo alcohol detox treatment in order to get clean and sober? Are you wondering if they can be treated as an outpatient or if they need to be in a hospital setting? This question can best be answered by a medical professional and is based on how much they have been drinking and if they are a chronic drinker. Alcohol withdrawal symptoms can be life threatening and should be supervised by a medical professional. What are typical alcohol detox symptoms and how long do they last? Typical signs of mild alcohol withdrawal include: Tremulousness Sweating Irritability Abdominal pain Anxiety Nausea Vomiting Insomnia It begins within 6-48 hours after the last drink and can last several weeks. Withdrawal sym... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3678663 Sat, 19 Jun 2010 19:32:08 +0100 3678663 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3666236&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fo6YF5GhsJt8%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse that has always been disorganized and that you have helped keep on track? Does your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife start tasks they never finish or constantly lose their keys, bills, important papers etc? Are they eaasily distracted by noise? Do they procrastinate? If you answered “yes” to most of the questions, your alcoholic spouse may have an Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) diagnosis. I am a psychiatrist that treats a lot of addiction. A number of my patients suffering from alcoholism and addiction have an ADD diagnosis. It seems so common, I have wondered to myself, “What is the deal”?  These two diagnoses seem to go hand in hand. So here’s the scoop: 15% of adults with an ADD diagnosis have a substance use di... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3666236 Tue, 15 Jun 2010 20:39:19 +0100 3666236 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3659162&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FUhLiEJoG9r0%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife lying about their drinking habits even to their own doctor? If you suspect this, what can you do? Call your spouse’s family doctor or psychiatrist and let the doctor know much your spouse is drinking. Basically, “tattle” on them. As a psychiatrist specializing in addiction, I appreciate when a family member of a patient calls me and lets me know their alcoholic spouse is “hiding” their alcohol problem from me. I recognize that the patient may be trying to self-medicate unresolved anxiety or depression. However, alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. Drinking alcohol reduces the beneficial effects of the antidepressants and can cause depression. If a patient’s relative ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3659162 Sat, 12 Jun 2010 00:26:48 +0100 3659162 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3645064&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FqusgXaSiM7o%2F If you are married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife, you are most likely feeling isolated. At first, your spouse probably drank often, but it wasn’t as clear to you that your spouse was an alcoholic. However, over time they have been drinking more and more and you find yourself making more excuses for them to family and friends when they do not show up for planned dinners or special family functions (including important holidays). Your alcoholic spouse has disappointed you so many times that you rarely make plans now with friends to go to lunch or coffee. You have quit even calling many of your friends because you feel embarrassed and ashamed that you put up with your alcoholic wife or alcohol husband. Your marriage centers around your alcoholic spouse’s drinking habit... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3645064 Wed, 09 Jun 2010 12:00:08 +0100 3645064 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3636030&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FH15AVdpwYTM%2F Are you married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Do you feel totally frustrated and resentful watching them drink everyday and throw their lives away; their family life, their marriage, their work, and their health in the process? Addiction makes no sense. It is a chronic, progressive disease. The brain of your alcoholic spouse hears two voices. The biochemical voice in their brain is “screaming”  at them to drink alcohol. Your voice is nagging, pleading, pressuring them, making them promise to quit drinking alcohol. Which voice will your alcoholic spouse ultimately listen to? In my experience as a psychiatrist treating alcoholism, there is only one reason that any addict gives up the substance they are addicted to. The pain of continuing to drink must outweigh the ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3636030 Sun, 06 Jun 2010 14:17:26 +0100 3636030 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3629882&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F3BrhnocKcLA%2F Has your recovering alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife quit going to alcoholic anonymous meetings? At first, they were engaged in their alcoholic recovery, but now they feel disenchanted with 12 step meetings and feel they can remain clean and sober without going to an alcoholics 12-step program. Many alcoholic spouses when they get to this point are not open to discussion about it. What does this mean? Often, this is the first step toward an alcoholic relapse. In my 21 years treating addiction, this represents the alcoholic’s desire to do things “their way” which as you know never worked out well before their recovery. Why are 12 step programs so important? The best chance of maintaining sobriety is participating in AA. Yes, there are some that do well without it. Howev... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3629882 Fri, 04 Jun 2010 14:53:07 +0100 3629882 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3618099&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FnPreDolId6I%2F Do you have an alcoholic husband? How are YOU handling their alcohol problem?  And… why am I asking? As a psychiatrist specializing in addiction, I work a lot with spouses of alcoholics. Many times, the wives of alcoholic spouses tell me how frustrated they feel. They tell me that they have been so supportive of their alcoholic husband that they don’t understand how their alcoholic spouse can keep breaking his promise to quit drinking alcohol. Of course over time, their understanding almost always turns to resentment. If you are married to an alcoholic, do you do any of the following? Run your household by yourself because your alcoholic husband is too drunk to participate? Make excuses for your alcoholic spouse’s behavior to your parents and your friends (such as skipp... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3618099 Mon, 31 May 2010 21:02:07 +0100 3618099 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3614698&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FtECRzFPzuWY%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse who is cheating on you? Unfortunately, this is not uncommon at all. Alcohol abuse  and marital affairs go hand in hand.  Other “alcoholic behavior” includes: Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife demanding to be the center of your life. Your alcoholic spouse showing an unwillingness to compromise and expecting to always get their way. It does not feel like a partnership to you, ever. Your alcoholic spouse having very high expectations of you and wanting to control you. Your alcoholic spouse being unrelaible. Plans which include them are broken. The cycle is promises followed by disappointments. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is sexually promiscuous. Even worse, they do not feel remorse  over their sexual affairs when they ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3614698 Sat, 29 May 2010 16:20:19 +0100 3614698 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3612071&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FtECRzFPzuWY%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse who is cheating on you? Unfortunately, this is not uncommon at all. Alcohol abuse  and marital affairs go hand in hand.  Other “alcoholic behavior” includes: Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife demanding to be the center of your life. Your alcoholic spouse showing an unwillingness to compromise and expecting to always get their way. It does not feel like a partnership to you, ever. Your alcoholic spouse having very high expectations of you and wanting to control you. Your alcoholic spouse being unrelaible. Plans which include them are broken. The cycle is promises followed by disappointments. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is sexually promiscuous. Even worse, they do not feel remorse  over their sexual affairs when they ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3612071 Sat, 29 May 2010 16:20:19 +0100 3612071 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3603879&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F7T2VzTYRWbw%2F Does your alcoholic husband suffer from insomnia symptoms? Insomnia symptoms are difficulty falling asleep and/or difficulty staying asleep. Does your alcoholic spouse rely on alcohol to get to sleep? Is he self-medicating insomnia? This is how alcohol dependency may start. Although alcohol is a depressant and makes your alcoholic spouse feel more relaxed, alcohol actually disrupts the sleep cycle. Here are several ways alcohol affects the sleep cycle: Alcohol disrupts chemical messengers in your alcoholic spouse’s brain that are involved in the sleep cycle. Alcohol causes your alcoholic husband to experience more frequent awakenings (restless sleep). Alcohol decreases REM sleep in the first half of the night. Alcohol causes rebound REM in the latter part of the night. Alcohol may w... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3603879 Thu, 27 May 2010 12:44:27 +0100 3603879 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3595908&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FiPMqNgTqLv8%2F The decision for your alcoholic spouse to go to an alcohol rehabilitation treatment center should be made by a medical professional, a therapist, or interventionist with the support of the family. Professional interventionists are knowledgable about the different treatment centers around the country. As a psychiatrist specializing in addiction, here are factors I take into account in making the decision about the treatment plan for someone struggling with alcoholism: Will it benefit your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife to be away from their home environment and their other triggers for drinking alcohol? In other words, do I think your alcoholic spouse can succeed quitting drinking alcohol if they stay at home? How committed is your alcoholic spouse to quit drinking alcohol? If a person... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3595908 Mon, 24 May 2010 14:29:07 +0100 3595908 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3590504&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FPck5U97nb_w%2F Does your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife refuse to acknowledge they have an alcohol problem and/or refuse to do anything about it? The tough part of this is their alcohol problem has become your biggest problem because it impacts your life and your children’s life daily. Your “alcoholic family” is falling apart. What if you have tried talking to your alcoholic spouse multiple times and despite many promises, nothing has changed? What can you do?It’s probably time to arrange an alcoholic intervention. A professional interventionist does the best job of coordinating and leading an intervention. An alcoholic intervention is complex. Usually family members and close friends of your alcoholic spouse are included. Every one involved writes a letter addressing what yo... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3590504 Sat, 22 May 2010 22:08:43 +0100 3590504 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3585579&cid=t_108507_87_f&fid=36050&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblisstree.com%2Flive%2Fdating-advice-burn-your-relationship-books%2F Read Giulia’s post from last week on friendship etiquette here. And see below for a chance to win a copy of Giulia’s book: I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti! When I was in my mid-thirties and in a bit of a panic about being single, I kept a pile of dating advice books at my bedside that I relocated to the back of a closet whenever a man came over. I studied The Rules as if they were the Gospels – and like the Gospels, I liked the idea of them, but had a very hard time living by them. I read He’s Just Not That Into You, How to Find a Husband at 35 (Based on What I Learned at Harvard Business School), and a little known tome called If I’m So Wonderful Why Am I Still Single? I told myself I was reading those books as a lark, sort of like how, when I was nine, I believed that... Breastfeeding 1-2-3 blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3585579 Thu, 20 May 2010 15:47:48 +0100 3585579 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3585854&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FrsNOjC0-eG8%2F Are you putting up with more inconsiderate, dishonest behavior from your alcoholic husband than you ever imagined in your life? If someone had told you marriage was like this, don’t you think you would have run in the other direction? But here you are, with the man you loved enough to say your vows to and the children you have had with him, and you are left wondering, “O.K., what am I supposed to do?”. The facts: alcoholic husband, alcoholic family, and most likely codependency issues. Not a good combination! How do you deal with an alcoholic? You have whined, yelled, pleaded with him about his drinking to no avail. Despite all this drama, Have you ever really stood up to him? Here are 5 tips to stand up to your alcoholic husband. Talk to him when he is sober in a calm m... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3585854 Thu, 20 May 2010 12:51:56 +0100 3585854 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3577647&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FlWGPn9SmFG8%2F Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffering from depression? If so, your alcoholic spouse is definitely in a bind. Why? Alcohol is central nervous system depressant and can cause depression. What is the scoop on alcoholism and depression? Here are typical situations I face as a psychiatrist treating people with an alcohol problem: 1) Your alcoholic spouse no longer feels depressed after stopping alcohol and they do not need to take antidepressants. 2) Your alcoholic spouse may have started drinking frequently in the first place because the “buzz” from alcohol lifted their spirits temporarily. In other words, they were self-medicating depression with alcohol. 3) Your alcoholic wife may have been depressed, started taking antidepressants and still feels depressed. Even ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3577647 Tue, 18 May 2010 13:47:31 +0100 3577647 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3570069&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F7bnCf9h_FGw%2F Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife taking Xanax or Klonopin? Both these medications are in class of drugs known as the benzodiazepines (anti-anxiety drugs) and they are addicting. If combined with alcohol, the effects of these drugs intensify and someone can have a fatal overdose. Common drugs in this class are Valium, Klonopin, Xanax, and Ativan. They are anti-anxiety drugs. As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, I will not prescribe these addicting drugs to anyone with an alcohol problem for 3 major reasons: Your alcoholic spouse will abuse the drug by increasing the dose prescribed at their own discretion. This class of drugs is a known trigger to the brain for triggering an alcoholic relapse. At high enough doses in combination with alcohol, your alcoholic husband o... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3570069 Sun, 16 May 2010 17:41:52 +0100 3570069 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3567893&cid=t_108507_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fromance-rx-take-one-date-night-a-week%2F2010.05.15 Is there anything more wonderful than date night with the one you love?  Jan and I went out last night. It was a cold rainy May evening, and we drove down the dark highway in my truck. The bench seat is wonderful, because she can sit right next to me, where she has been for nearly 26 years now. We were in jackets, and asked to sit next to the fire at the restaurant. Exhausted from a crazy weekend, we exhaled and ordered chips and cheese dip, then dined on soup.  When we finished we sat awhile longer, our drinks refilled by our attentive waiter. And we reflected, planned, laughed and told stories. We discussed the year past and the year to come. We basked in one another as we basked in the warmth. (more…) *This blog post was originally published at edwinleap.com* (Sour... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3567893 Sat, 15 May 2010 14:00:33 +0100 3567893 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3566817&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FdTJqTqJOn0Y%2F Does your alcoholic spouse love alcohol more than you? The most common theme I hear as a psychiatrist treating alcohol problems and drug addiction is how selfish an alcoholic husband or an alcoholic wife can be. Even people whose  alcoholic spouses have died of alcoholism are still incredibly angry at them for the selfishness they showed during their life. Do you feel like your alcoholic spouse doesn’t love you enough or that you are not worthwhile enough for them to stop drinking? What a terrible feeling! Behind all the anger and frustration you feel is usually a deep sadness at your core and a feeling of uncertainty that you have driven your alcoholic spouse to drink, in some way. Here are examples of typical selfish “alcoholic behavior” that you probably are enduring:... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3566817 Fri, 14 May 2010 13:28:03 +0100 3566817 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3560507&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FThp5lNIh_9s%2F Are you married to an alcoholic? Whether you are married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife, you must wonder how serious is their alcohol problem anyway? Questions that go through people’s minds are : Is your alcoholic spouse hurting their health, is their alcohol problem getting worse, why don’t they seem drunk after drinking so much, are they even thinking about the family anymore or just thinking about alcohol? There are 3 stages of alcoholism. Which stage of alcoholism is your alcoholic spouse at? Early stage: The typical early stage starts out as drinking to unwind. Drinking becomes an escape and is used to boost their mood or relieve stress. Patients in my psychiatric practice will tell me they drink to “forget” their troubles. Middle stage: The middle ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3560507 Wed, 12 May 2010 17:29:26 +0100 3560507 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3552565&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2nbbijLem-c%2F Are you married to a functional alcoholic? My heart goes out to you. What a tough situation. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is able to stay in denial because they are somehow managing their work and home responsibilities despite their alcohol problem. When you confront them about their excessive drinking, you hit a wall. Ask yourself if you are enabling the situation in any way such as: Are you making excuses for them to their work, your family, or your friends? Are you changing your behavior in any way to accommodate their drinking? Have their issues become your issues? Have you become isolated because of their drinking? Have you ever threatened to leave, but not followed through? Do not help or enable your alcoholic spouse be “functional” is my best advice. Let yo... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3552565 Mon, 10 May 2010 18:54:28 +0100 3552565 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3547020&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FiN-seZh5_aM%2F The frustrations of living with an alcoholic spouse leaves you feeling full of anger and resentment. It is easy to forget that your alcoholic husband is a victim of a disease. Alcohol has hijacked his brain. Every time your alcoholic spouse drinks alcohol, it feels like he is choosing alcohol over you which is a terrible feeling. There is no room for his feelings for you or your kids in his alcohol dependent brain. Why? The reality is, you are living with an alcoholic whose brain is craving a substance. The craving is a physiologic response, a primal drive that overrides all reason. Alcoholism is a disease. Our brain plans our actions and your alcoholic husband has a defective brain, of sorts. Let’s face it. Even doctors and lawyers succumb to this disease. Money or status doesn&#8... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3547020 Sat, 08 May 2010 20:51:56 +0100 3547020 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3526957&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2nSBUIzS5fw%2F (If you want additional help turning your marriage around click here to register for my free report on, “The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’s life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very well save your marriage). Share this on del.icio.us Digg this! Buzz up! Stumble upon something good? Share it on StumbleUpon Share this on Technorati Share this on Facebook Tweet This! Share this on LinkedIn Share this on Reddit Share this on Mixx Post this to MySpace Share this on Tumblr (Source: Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help) Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3526957 Sun, 02 May 2010 14:00:49 +0100 3526957 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3524460&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2nSBUIzS5fw%2F (If you want additional help turning your marriage around click here to register for my free report on, “The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’s life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very well save your marriage). Share this on del.icio.us Digg this! Buzz up! Stumble upon something good? Share it on StumbleUpon Share this on Technorati Share this on Facebook Tweet This! Share this on LinkedIn Share this on Reddit Share this on Mixx Post this to MySpace Share this on Tumblr (Source: Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help) Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3524460 Sun, 02 May 2010 14:00:49 +0100 3524460 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3522838&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FDB7O-b9wlLo%2F Living with an alcoholic husband  or alcoholic wife when you don’t drink is particularly difficult because you feel like you are modeling the right behavior to no avail. Maybe you even used to drink too much, but you were willing to stop drinking alcohol. You feel you are being very supportive and keeping the home environment free of triggers for his/her alcohol abuse ( which is more effort than many other spouses make), so what else can you do to help him/her quit drinking alcohol? Recognize that you can’t control your alcoholic spouses alcohol problem. Let your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffer the consequences of their excessive drinking. This is the most positive influence you can have in encouraging alcohol recovery. Do not cancel appointments for them, call the... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3522838 Fri, 30 Apr 2010 17:26:59 +0100 3522838 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511786&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FOsdgkNv5FJU%2F Does your alcoholic husband ever blame his drinking on you? For example, does he say things like, “If you didn’t nag me so much I wouldn’t drink”. “If you took better care of the house and the kids, I wouldn’t be so stressed”. Does he say this often enough, you start to wonder if he’s right? Is his alcohol problem your fault? Of course not, but he wants you to think so. Are you married to an alcoholic spouse and wondering if you are responsible for his alcoholic behavior? As a psychiatrist that treats a lot of spouses in your position, I can tell you this is a very common feeling. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Why do you feel responsible for his alcoholism? Here are 3 common reasons why: He blames his excessive on you because he says you cause him t... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511786 Wed, 28 Apr 2010 14:35:41 +0100 3511786 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3508457&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F9wmNpf3zG5Q%2F Do you ever wonder if your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife will die from alcoholism? The late stages of alcoholism is characterized by a complete obsession with alcohol. Alcoholic spouses by this stage are utterly consumed by drinking. By now, your spouse is no longer working and depends on you for food, shelter, and alcohol. They have withdrawn completely from any kind of social life or even participation in the family. Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffering from any of the following physical problems?  heart problems including high blood pressure? inability to absorb nutrients which has led to malnutrition? alcoholic liver disease such as cirrhosis? chronic pancreatitis? cancer? multiple black outs and poor memory (note: alcohol shrinks the brain)? As a psychiatrist... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3508457 Tue, 27 Apr 2010 00:49:42 +0100 3508457 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511787&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fmn5QlmEPVKo%2F A common sign of an alcohol problem is hiding alcohol. Alcoholic spouses who are hiding drinking typically lie about their drinking, often will drink alone (common in women), and are secretive about how much they drink and where they drink. Have you noticed any of the following signs with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Hiding empty alcohol bottles around the house or car (ex:laundry hampers, under clothes in a drawer.) Filling a thermos bottle with orange juice and liquor. Using the extra refrigerator in the garage to store alcohol. Going to different places to buy booze. Your alcoholic spouse goes to great lengths to cover up the smell of alcohol (as you know from living with an alcoholic- NOTHING covers up the strong smell of alcohol). Why do alcoholic spouses hide their dr... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511787 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:12:25 +0100 3511787 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511788&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FIP2lPTbN7-k%2F An alcoholic husband is often verbally and emotionally abusive to his wife. Some alcoholic spouses are even physically abusive. In my psychiatric practice where I treat many wives with alcoholic spouses, I often will hear that their husband’s personality changes with alcohol. I will hear, “He is like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. He puts me down. He says I have lost all my looks and I’m not sexy anymore or that the house looks like a pig stye. Then he claims if it weren’t for my nagging, he wouldn’t have to drink so much. He will say anything mean he can think of”. What can you do to stop the  emotional/verbal abuse of a controlling spouse? Here are 5 tips to stop your husband’s “alcoholic abuse” of you: Stop making excuses for his verbal... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511788 Tue, 20 Apr 2010 22:01:49 +0100 3511788 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3502997&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FtLae3kukSfY%2F Are you experiencing the nightmare of  living with an alcoholic spouse?  Do you beg or plead with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife to stop drinking alcohol? Does your alcoholic spouse “cave in” under pressure and promise to quit drinking only to have an alcohol relapse within a few days or a few weeks? Why is your alcoholic spouse breaking a promise to you that is more important to you than anything in your life right now? Here are 5 typical reasons why eliciting a promise to stop drinking alcohol fails EVERY time: Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is experiencing alcohol withdrawal symptoms because his/her brain has become alcohol dependent. Drinking alcohol relieves these symptoms. Your alcoholic spouse has strong alcohol cravings. These alcohol cravings pr... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3502997 Sun, 18 Apr 2010 17:19:32 +0100 3502997 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3502998&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fq-jPdOoZjhw%2F Are you wondering how in the world alcoholic spouse, alcohol relapse, and vanilla fudge ice cream are related? If you have ever eaten vanilla fudge ice cream you know that you cannot have the vanilla without eating the chocolate ; they go together, no matter what. An alcoholic spouse and alcohol relapse go together in the same away. You can’t have an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife without the alcohol relapse. Sorry, It just doesn’t work that way. Here’s an example of this “sobering” fact: I just treated a wonderful woman from another state who has a serious alcohol problem. I treated her for alcohol withdrawal and then treated her depression and anxiety with medication. She also was in therapy and participated in an intensive outpatient program. She went ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3502998 Fri, 16 Apr 2010 15:13:55 +0100 3502998 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511789&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fu1BpFb53wa0%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse? Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife unlucky enough to be suffering from another diagnosis in addition to their alcohol problem? The most common dual diagnoses I see in my psychiatric practice that accompany an alcohol problem are an anxiety disorder, depression, attention deficit disorder (ADD), and bipolar disorder. If these underlying mental health disorders are not treated with the appropriate medications, alcohol is often used to self medicate symptoms. Here are some danger signs. Does your alcoholic spouse do any of the following: Drink too much after work to “unwind”. This shows an ability to manage daily stress (anxiety disorder). Drink too much to “feel good”. Your alcoholic spouse is altering his/her depresse... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511789 Wed, 14 Apr 2010 15:45:51 +0100 3511789 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511790&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FEa8oEg1iD6A%2F Does your alcoholic spouse tell you that he drinks to unwind? Does he say that work stresses him out? Is he drinking every day after work? Does your alcoholic husband deny he has an alcohol problem? As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, drinking to relieve stress is a prelude to developing an alcohol problem. Drinking to relax starts out as a “nothing”, but takes on a life of its own over time and often leads to alcohol dependence.  Drinking to unwind is a warning sign of: self medicating an untreated anxiety disorder (which is a common trigger for an alcohol problem). self medicating untreated depression. a sign that your husband does not have coping skills so that he relies on a substance  (alcohol) to numb the way he feels. avoiding problems. He is trying to es... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511790 Tue, 13 Apr 2010 12:22:53 +0100 3511790 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511791&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F5XV596Fga-0%2F Are you “co-dependent “on your alcoholic spouse? Living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is a nightmare. An alcoholic spouse chooses his/her marriage partner carefully. Think of 2 pieces of a puzzle that fit together perfectly. One piece: the alcoholic (selfish tendencies) fits with the other piece: the  ”nurturing, giving” person (who has self esteem issues). This way, the alcoholic spouse can continue to drink alcohol and “get away with it“. Sound harsh? Here are 5 signs of codependency: Fear of abandonment. You will avoid feeling alone at all costs (in other words, not leave your alcoholic spouse even though you are miserable). Low self esteem. You are willing to “put up with” whatever your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511791 Sat, 10 Apr 2010 18:48:31 +0100 3511791 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3443989&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2fnYg4L3Fl0%2F Many times it can feel very lonely living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. You find yourself waiting for your alcoholic spouse to come home in the evening and you are lucky if he/she even shows up at a reasonable hour. Your multiple calls and texts are ignored. Do you feel you have been taken hostage by your spouse’s alcohol problem? Here are examples of why you feel so lonely: Sometimes your alcoholic spouse doesn’t even come home at night and you are left to sleep alone. The sexual intimacy in your marriage is virtually non existent. There is not much emotional intimacy either. You take care of the kids almost to the point that you are in a single parent role- you get your kids up in the morning, take them to school, help them with homework, after school activiti... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3443989 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 16:50:33 +0100 3443989 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3441070&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FAQQ3X0RzLUM%2F One of the hardest parts of living with an alcoholic spouse is the seesaw of hope and disappointment. The spouse of an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife feels hopeful when his/her spouse doesn’t drink for a few days or a week (in response to the non-addicted spouse’s begging and pleading) only to have his/her hopes dashed when the inevitable return to drinking takes place. Do you try and get your spouse to quit drinking alcohol by doing the following? nagging pleading begging yelling instilling guilt threatening to leave the marriage How well are these ways working? Are you approaching your alcoholic spouse when he/she has been drinking? Most alcoholic spouses will learn to ignore your “drama”. Begging , pleading, and yelling don’t work. Empty threats ... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3441070 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 22:26:42 +0100 3441070 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3435258&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F915ximdHU1U%2F So many of the women I treat in my psychiatric practice that are living with an alcoholic husband  take on a parenting role with them. They act like “mommies” instead of wives. They become the ultimate caretakers for their alcoholic husbands and tend to neglect themselves. Check out the following examples to see if you can relate and what you can do about it. You are your alcoholic spouse’s personal alarm clock. You get him up in the morning because he doesn’t get himself up. You make sure he gets the kids to school on time by keeping him on track. If your alcoholic husband is too hungover to get up for work, you call his boss and say he is sick (he doesn’t call of course) You are responsible for all the laundry, the household chores, and most of the respo... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3435258 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 15:13:40 +0100 3435258 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3429463&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FasVuJ34aBbM%2F Are you married to an alcoholic wife or alcoholic husband? If so, do you put up with behaviors that most of your friends and family would be appalled to to find out that you do? For example, does your alcoholic spouse not call you if he/she is late from work? Does he/she stumble in plastered at all hours of the night? Does he/she miss work or neglect the kids because of being hung over? Here are 5 other examples of “alcoholic behavior”: Lying. Hiding alcohol. Denial that he/she has a problem with alcohol. Not responsible about domestic/job/relationship actviites. Doesn’t participate in the family. You most likely have taken over many of your alcoholic spouse’s responsibilities. Do you resent this? Are you surprised over what has happened to your marriage? Do you f... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3429463 Thu, 01 Apr 2010 15:21:15 +0100 3429463 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3425136&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FiM6hBlpEC88%2F Most people I know who are married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife are miserable. Yet, many people stay in this desperate situation even though they are filled with resentment about their spouse’s alcohol problem. Do you wonder why you stay married to your alcoholic spouse? In my experience as a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, here are the 7 most common reasons: Financial dependence- this is especially true in marriages where the woman isn’t working. For example, stay at home Moms have been out of the work force for many years and are often not “marketable” when they return to the work force. Many women in this position do not want to give up the lifestyle they have become accustomed to (the house, the cars, the good schools). Conversely, wome... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3425136 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 22:51:08 +0100 3425136 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416339&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FWqULirAl8t8%2F Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife probably relies on you for so many things that you can’t even count. You are constantly making up excuses for your alcoholic spouse. Are you tired of living this way? What can you do about it? Just say no! Say no the next time your alcoholic spouse asks you to call the boss because he/she is too hungover to go to work. Don’t lie to your friends the next time your spouse asks you to. Don’t give your alcoholic spouse money that he/she can spend on alcohol. Scary to think about saying no, isn’t it? You are both stuck in a rut. This pattern won’t change until you change. It will feel terrifying to say no to your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife for the first time. Your alcoholic spouse will be surprised and angry. He/she... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416339 Sun, 28 Mar 2010 16:36:33 +0100 3416339 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416340&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FyydlGQeyKRQ%2F Is your alcoholic wife or alcoholic husband depressed? Is your alcoholic spouse already on antidepressants, but is still depressed? Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant and can cause depression, It also counteracts the benefits of the antidepressants. Don’t panic, there is still hope that your alcoholic spouse can overcome both depression and his/her alcohol problem! Read on to find out how: The American Journal of Psychiatry published a study on line on March 15, 2010 showing that combining Zoloft, an antidepressant, with natrexone, an anticraving drug was more effective than either treatment by itself. (There were 140 participants who were randomly assigned to 14 weeks of either sertraline (the generic for Zoloft), natrexone, both drugs, or placebo. The group on both drug... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416340 Fri, 26 Mar 2010 16:51:26 +0100 3416340 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416341&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fdh6QuvZWSyk%2F Do you have an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Are you acting more like a parent than  a spouse? Most alcoholic spouses become more and more irresponsible as their alcohol problem progresses. Bills are left unpaid, there are increasing absences from work, not coming home “on time” or not coming home at all, and a lack of participation in family/children activities etc. How do most non addicted spouses handle this? Most non addicted spouses try to “control” these behaviors which tend to backfire. Examples of controlling behaviors are: texting or calling your alcoholic spouse multiple times when they do not “show” up on time. getting them up in the morning. calling their friends to “track them” down. checking their cell phone to see wh... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416341 Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:02:54 +0100 3416341 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416342&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fc8x2MqaIvGI%2F Does your husband have an alcohol problem? Is he in denial about it? If so, are you aware that that you are contributing to this problem by making excuses for him? Are you making the following excuses for him like: Calling his boss that he is sick when he can’t go to work. Telling the kids that Daddy has a stomach virus and can’t be at the soccer game. Telling your family that he is missing the family celebration because he is sick. Paying the family’s bills with money you earned or borrowed because he has lost another job. Paying for an irresponsible impulse buy he made. Bailing him out of jail after a DWI and not telling your family or friends about it. Most  women married to an alcoholic have done most of the things mentioned in this check list more than once. If yo... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416342 Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:20:19 +0100 3416342 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3395377&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FnbVUbymk-gI%2F Alcoholism is a disease experienced by the family. Not only is there a significant genetic component that is passed from generation to generation, but the drinking problems of a single family member affect all other family members. The family environment and genetics can perpetuate a vicious and destructive cycle. Many marriages break up over a husband’s or wife’s drinking. Domestic violence typically erupts when one or both spouses have been drinking, and drinking makes domestic violence more dangerous. Families play a critical role in recovery from alcoholism. They can be instrumental in encouraging a family member with alcoholism to seek treatment. Strong family support also increases the chances for successful recovery. Alcoholism and Problem Drinking Pervasive in Family ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3395377 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:13:17 +0100 3395377 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416343&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fa5F0zGSxXCM%2F You probably never imagined in your wildest dreams that you would be going through the daily turmoil of living with an alcoholic spouse. Your friends complain that their husbands watch too many sports on T.V. or spend too many hours on the computer. Their complaints are so trivial compared to the psychological consequences of living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. What is the main consequence? As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, the main psychological consequence you may suffer from living with an alcoholic spouse is the loss of your self esteem. Why? You probably feel like your alcoholic spouse treats you like a doormat. Do you put up with his/her rude, obnoxious, inconsiderate behavior? Did he/she even come home last night? You probably feel totally unappreciat... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416343 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:35:38 +0100 3416343 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416344&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F_xCb_HFYyCI%2F Are you held hostage by your alcoholic spouse’s addiction? As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, I hear a lot from women married to an alcoholic husband, that they feel trapped in a miserable situation. Is your alcoholic husband drinking every day? Has he basically quit being a husband to you and a father to your children? Is he lying so much about his whereabouts and his activities that you have lost all trust in him? If yes, why do you stay with him? Why are you tied to his lies? Here are the two most common reasons I see why someone stays with their alcoholic husband (besides saying they love him): an intense fear of abandonment and a lack of confidence that they can make it on their own without the financial and emotional support of their husband. Why do you have in... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416344 Tue, 16 Mar 2010 12:11:56 +0100 3416344 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416345&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FWoAsJxJJ1oU%2F As you watch your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife drinking today, do you wonder what in the world will ever get them to quit drinking alcohol? Are you absolutely amazed at how much your alcoholic spouse can drink? How and when did you spouse’s alcohol problem get so bad? Should you give up on your marriage? How long should you brew in your resentment before you pull the plug on your marriage? Don’t lose hope. Here are the 5 most common reasons I see in my psychiatric practice that spur a person with an alcohol problem to  quit drinking alcohol: Loss of job. For your alcoholic husband, this is a big one. Losing a job is losing his ability to support his family, his children. He may be risking losing his home. If his wife doesn’t work, this is an extremely stressfu... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416345 Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:02:15 +0100 3416345 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416346&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F1ykiqK5aBS0%2F Is your alcoholic spouse in recovery and struggling with alcohol cravings? Do they have  a plan in place to prevent an alcoholic relapse? For example, are they going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings on a regular basis? Do they have a sponsor they can call if they feel like relapsing? Are they working the 12 step program? Do you live in fear thinking your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife may relapse? Their alcohol problem impacts you and your children, so you have a vested interest (to say the least) in their success in alcoholic recovery. (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’s life. The information in this... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416346 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:27:32 +0100 3416346 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416347&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fty9GDoyTYls%2F Are you living with an alcoholic spouse? If not, I am sure you have a family member or friend going through this ordeal. I am a psychiatrist that specializes in treating alcohol problems and drug addiction and living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is a nightmare for all involved. Most non addicted spouses feel a great deal of shame about their broken marriage and are very reluctant to share the details of what goes on “behind closed doors”. Are you in this boat? (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’ life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very w... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416347 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:03:21 +0100 3416347 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416348&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FleBkt9NTKT4%2F When you first got married, your husband enjoyed drinking beer here or there and you most likely drank with him. Now he drinks on a daily basis and drinks a lot. Are you wondering how you ended up with an alcoholic spouse? What leads someone to become alcohol dependent in the first place? How come he has developed an alcohol problem and you haven’t? (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’s life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very well save your marriage). Here are the 6 most common reasons that someone develops an alcohol problem: Genetic predisposition toward ... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416348 Mon, 08 Mar 2010 21:39:01 +0100 3416348 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267205&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FJIqYh2Sos6A%2F Al-Anon Speaks for Itself A wife, father, husband, and daughter describe what it is like to love someone who has a drinking problem. The wife says, “I didn’t live in reality at all. I covered up and made believe.” The father says, “When the police came and told me the charges against my son, it was unbelievable. To see my son taken away in handcuffs was the most difficult day of my life.” To the right of the YouTube panel you will find other videos about Al-anon. Click here for the YouTube video; Al-Anon Speak Part 1 Al-anon Speak part II Al-anon Speak part III Al-anon Speak part IV See also; Al-anon / Alateen Recovery MP3 tracks for all 12-Step Fellowships Self-care Boundaries Language of Letting Go A Woman’s Way Through The Twelve Steps Related R... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267205 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 19:01:47 +0100 3267205 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3079466&cid=t_108507_129_f&fid=36036&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Fkelly-building-a-crohns-disease-community%2Fanxiety-and-crohns-disease%2F The phrase that one of our blog community members, Todd, writes often in our comments is, “Keep your mind in the game.”  That has sort of become my mantra lately.  I have to tell myself this so I can remember what is important in the big picture so I will stop worrying about the little stuff.  I have had problems with anxiety for a while now and I think that it has been building up the last few years.  One of my problems (probably due to the fact that I am female) is that I tend to over analyze everything.  Things happen to my husband, he acknowledges them, and then he forgets them and moves on.  Things happen to me and I analyze every facet of every emotion that I felt and what it was or what could I have done differently.   I am now trying to emulate my husband and be more li... Life with Crohn's blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3079466 Thu, 10 Dec 2009 16:37:26 +0100 3079466 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2999779&cid=t_108507_136_f&fid=36032&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Flife-with-breast-cancer%2Fbreast-cancer-and-hot-flashes%2F I have been on Tamoxifen going on five years now, after you account for the breaks I took. At first I experienced hot flashes as a side effect. For the past several months I have to say that the hot flashes have really tapered off. This past week though I noticed that the hot flashes have returned with a vengeance. It seems odd, but I think I know why. I even wrote about this before. My husband is your typical football fan. He loves to spend the weekend clicking from college football games on Saturday to pro football games on Sunday and every game in between. In order to accommodate sitting through 36 hours of football he likes to snack – recreational eating he calls it. One of his favorite snacks is fried spicy hot wings. He buys them frozen and sticks them in the oven with pizza snacks... Life with Breast Cancer blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2999779 Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:57:36 +0100 2999779 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2916136&cid=t_108507_101_f&fid=38980&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.medicthree.com%2F2009%2F10%2Fcotton-anniversary.html Yesterday was Mrs. medicTHREE and I's 2 year wedding anniversary. I spent the night working, sadly, but we still managed to make it special over the last few days.It has been a pretty crazy two years for us, with more changes that I could have imagined. During the past two years, I finished medic school, got my first job, we moved, we moved again, I changed jobs(a few times), we got pregnant, had our son Asher, my wife got promoted, I had surgery, and my wife had a few medical scares too.But we got through it, and are better off because of it. Without her, I couldn't have done any of it. I couldn't have made it through medic school, and I most certainly couldn't do the job I do now. It is so incredible to be able to come home and have someone who understands me and can help me cope with th... medic(THREE) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2916136 Wed, 21 Oct 2009 21:14:00 +0100 2916136 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2846389&cid=t_108507_101_f&fid=38980&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.medicthree.com%2F2009%2F09%2Fawake.html Living days while working nights has proven to be a challenge. It seems as though every night I fall asleep with little effort, but wake up every night between 2 and 3 am--like clockwork--and just can't seem to fall back asleep.Tonight I woke up and it was like a switch had been clicked. Wide awake. I hate it. I want to sleep when I'm home, and want to be able to function during the day when possible. Honestly, I wish when I woke up NORMALLY it was that quick.I am sure part of this is from getting up with Asher for soooooo many nights at nearly that exact time, but I know most of it is from my Night work schedule. It has proven to be a challenge I didn't expect.I know that the final key to the puzzle is a little anxiety. Honestly, we're just skating by financially and have been going throu... medic(THREE) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2846389 Wed, 30 Sep 2009 08:58:00 +0100 2846389 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2790418&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F09%2F12%2Fday-1-2%2F Mark is gone.  He’s really gone.  Word’s cant even explain how disgusting and horrible I feel here. Sunday afternoon I found coke in a small little piggy bank that I gave him.  Two baggies.  While this was a horrific discovery, it turned out to be only the beginning of what has been the worst week of my life.  Some rudimentary digging uncovered what I like to call:  a big f.ing crap pile on top of a pile of shit. Apparently our missing money can be found snuggly nested inside the nasal passages of Mark’s nose.  Along with thousands of dollars his parents secretly sent to him. There is also a girl.  Her name is Jane.  I feel as though we have become really close through the 3 messages that she left him on his phone.  We’re like bff’s now.  Although b... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2790418 Sat, 12 Sep 2009 22:46:16 +0100 2790418 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2788933&cid=t_108507_101_f&fid=38980&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.medicthree.com%2F2009%2F09%2Fon-behalf-of-greatful-nation.html At 0846 AM Eastern Time on 09/11/2001 American Airlines Flight 11 struck the north side of Tower One of the World Trade Center Complex. This was the beginning of one of the worst days in American History.Before this day "hijackings" were about money and power. Before this day you were much less likely to look at a Middle Eastern male the way you do now. Before this day the word "terrorist" wasn't a political buzz word. Before this day there wasn't a burning grave on the tip of Manhattan.I've talked before about 9/11's significance to my family. But now, just one year after that post, it is hitting me pretty hard. I'm sitting here with my son--Asher Harold. Harold for my grandfather--the man we put to rest on this day 8 years ago--and I keep blubbering like a baby. I miss him. I understand ... medic(THREE) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2788933 Fri, 11 Sep 2009 13:48:00 +0100 2788933 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2770274&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F09%2F05%2Ffail%2F OK.  Frankly I’ve been a terrible blogger in 09′.  I know this.  It’s hard to stay positive and upbeat when you’re life is turning into a big pile of donkey shit.  What started out as a blog about trying to have a baby has kinda become a place where I store all my venting about my happy happy hell.  Having a baby has become so far off into fantasy land that it isn’t even remotely recognizable anymore. Somebody probably turned that light off years ago to conserve energy.  I’m really hoping that can count as me being “green”. I strangely take comfort in knowing that the rest of the country is in an economic hell with me.  We’ve all come to play at the same party and somehow found ourselves locked in the basement where the scary S&a... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2770274 Sat, 05 Sep 2009 19:58:36 +0100 2770274 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2788935&cid=t_108507_101_f&fid=38980&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.medicthree.com%2F2009%2F08%2Fwriters-block.html Yup. I'm still alive, just in a perpetual state of writer's block. You might have noticed my twitter updates are a bit slim too. Since starting the new job, stress is better, but still there. The Mrs and I have kind of a lot going on. I'm trying to get the go ahead to do nissen fundoplication for acid reflux, Asher is still batteling his kidney issues and the Mrs has a few medical issues going on too.Hope to be back at it soon, but just wanted to let you all know i'm still alive. Godspeed all. (Source: medic(THREE)) medic(THREE) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2788935 Tue, 25 Aug 2009 12:36:00 +0100 2788935 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2716203&cid=t_108507_137_f&fid=35426&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FTheAlzheimersReadingRoom%2F%7E3%2FLN_2jFhSo1I%2Falzheimers-in-living-room.html Advice and Insight into Alzheimer's diseaseSubscribe to The Alzheimer's Reading RoomI was over on the Alzheimer's New Zealand Facebook page, and I noticed a link to a story I first read back in 2004 on the New York Times--Alzheimer's in the Living Room: How One Family Rallies to Cope.At the time of my first reading, I thought this was a well written story. After this read, I would have to say this article by Jane Gross is really remarkable. Keep in mind I was a 'young' caregiver when I first read the article.The article captures much of the real life trials, tribulations, emotions, and angst of a family dealing with Alzheimer's from the front row.Here are a few snippets from the article."It's overwhelming, worse every day," Mrs. Dillon said recently, wincing from stomach pain and steadily ... Alzheimer's Reading Room, The blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2716203 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 03:32:03 +0100 2716203 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2699896&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fhelp-an-alcoholic-4%2F Address the drinking problem directly Over and over, people shared comments like these: "Let them know that you are aware of their drinking problem. I thought I had everyone fooled, and they never told me otherwise." – alcoholic lady. "Hold a mirror up to the person, showing his or her behavior clearly and honestly." – wife. "Be open to discussing the behavior – it makes the loved one uncomfortable, but it needs doing." – partner. "Explain that you think they have a problem and which of their actions gives you that idea. Offer to help." – husband. Although nagging and complaining are certainly ineffective, so is the contrary tack of ignoring a drinking problem. Avoiding the problem is counter-productive. A wife told me, "In our ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2699896 Thu, 13 Aug 2009 15:16:00 +0100 2699896 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2788952&cid=t_108507_101_f&fid=38980&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.medicthree.com%2F2009%2F07%2Fthings-to-come.html Not much posting as of late due to my schedule. Work nights, sleep days, hang with the family whenever possible.Some of that will change 8/1/09. I switch to days for that 6 week stretch of my FTO. I'm excited that I will get to be home a bit more during normal hours. I'm sure the Mrs. is excited for me to be around to help out with Asher a bit too.This week we head back to the land of my medic internship to go to a pediatric nephrologist for Asher's left kidney. Since birth it has been draining extremely slow(but not 100% blocked) and and their isn't a doctor locally who can handle his case. We aren't sure what the final solution is but I am sure it is surgical. The thought of doing surgery on my little boy is terrifying, but I want him to be better(though he doesn't exhibit any real sympt... medic(THREE) blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2788952 Sun, 19 Jul 2009 05:38:00 +0100 2788952 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2511156&cid=t_108507_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2009%2F06%2F23%2F6-steps-to-manage-your-time-better-an-interview-with-russell-bishop%2F Today I have the pleasure of interviewing Russell Bishop, currently Senior Editor-at-Large for the Huffington Post and founder of Bishop & Bishop, a consulting and coaching company. Russell is the author of numerous articles on the power of choice and awareness, and has two books in development. An expert in personal and organization transformation, Russell has coached leadership teams, entrepreneurs, and CEO’s in 34 countries around the world. He has lectured for executive MBA programs at UCLA, University of Texas and Washington University. Russell received a Master’s degree in Educational Psychology from the University of California and currently resides in Santa Barbara, California. I’m glad that my husband Eric didn’t overhear our conversation, because Eric... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2511156 Tue, 23 Jun 2009 10:00:43 +0100 2511156 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2469803&cid=t_108507_129_f&fid=36035&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Flife-with-chronic-pain%2Fwhen-you-hit-the-wall-in-a-life-of-chronic-pain%2F Everyone has a bad day now and then. That’s life, is it not? Anyone who tells you they’re always fine, well, they’re definitely suspect.  Among all of us who live with chronic pain, each day of our lives, there are numerous personalities, reactions and mindsets. We all, eventually, learn to cope with this “thing” that we carry around like a filthy habit we can’t shake. We’re old, we’re young; we’re fat, we’re thin and we come from all types of backgrounds and ethnicities. We have differences and we have similarities. The big chunk of trouble we have in common which is with us at all times is the challenge of living with pain. Some days it’s like having a tiny man sitting on your head while holding a large hammer. He just keeps swinging away. On other days, it feels l... Life with Chronic Pain blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2469803 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 04:45:56 +0100 2469803 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2441032&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F05%2Ftooth-fairy-and-puke-fairy.html Last Friday, Son lost his first tooth. His teacher called and told me and I whooped and hollered in the middle of the nursing unit. It was an appropriate end to our last day at work and preschool.At home, Son and I took Husband's advice and wrote a letter to the Tooth Fairy so she would know we were at the lake, then left the note on his pillow. We loaded up the van and drove to the comfortable home-away-from-home that my Sister-in-Law has created. Sure enough, the Tooth Fairy found Son's tooth and left a crisp $5 bill under his pillow at the lake. Apparently, she had e-mailed Husband and told him she gives a higher amount for the first tooth, but each subsequent tooth is only worth $1. I don't know how the Tooth Fairy works where you live, but here in Someplace Special, she's fairly high ... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2441032 Mon, 25 May 2009 22:14:00 +0100 2441032 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2891016&cid=t_108507_160_f&fid=38218&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwaronwarts.com%2Fgenital-warts%2Fhpv%2Fnew-york%2Flong-island%2Fgeneral-info%2Fjessica-shares-her-story-with-hpv%2F Jessica writes: “I got married 8 months ago, and 2 months ago, for the first time ever i was diagnosed with HPV. According to the Dr, it didnt necessairly come from my hubsand, but i cant help feel like it did. Thankfully, i have no genital warts or currently any cancer causing lesions, but i Do have a brand new, first time ever skin wart on my knee. Ive just started liquid nitrogen treatment for the removal of that. Im increadably disspaointed, and borderline terrified. This is a first for me, and while some people say “its no big deal”- to me it is a big deal. this is something ive never had to deal with before and to make it worse, i know next to nothing about the Virus. Ther are so many different websites on it that have s many different opinions, i hardly know which ... War On Warts blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2891016 Fri, 22 May 2009 23:55:11 +0100 2891016 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2415892&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F05%2F16%2Fa-little-help-over-here%2F Today has been a moment of weakness.  I’ve been wavering all day.  Sad.  Crying.  Pathetic.  Questioning. Today I have felt as if this whole divorce is a mistake.  Which I logically know is not the case.  I logically know Mark isn’t capable of being a decent husband and has really turned out to be a loser who can’t love anyone.  Logically I know that this is just going to suck for a while until we are no longer living under the same roof but will get better when its all over.  Logically. Emotionally, I’m broken.  Emotionally I feel as though we have already been through so much and we’ve concured all of it.  We’ve been strong and fantastic through so many of life’s most impossible moments and we’ve never stopped loving each other.�... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2415892 Sun, 17 May 2009 05:23:25 +0100 2415892 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2406311&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F05%2F11%2Fdivine-intervention%2F The ball is rolling.  Realtor has been contacted.  Attorney is being consulted this afternoon.  Wheels are in motion.  I want to get this over with as quickly as possible and with as few scars as possible.  Mark made his bed and I am not at all satisfied with his bed making abilities so therefore I need to find someone who does hospital corners (ok no I don’t.  I hate hospital corners but you get the idea). In an effort not to give Mark any form of documentation that could bite me in the butt, I’m not going to discuss it here.  This blog has always been about me, for me, and to help me.  I’ll definitely have stuff to say, but dragging Mark through the dirt here while we’re in legal negotiations kinda seems like a bad idea. As f.ing horrible as all of this is... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2406311 Mon, 11 May 2009 20:34:53 +0100 2406311 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2389592&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F05%2Flife-after-divorce.html "breaking hearts by ithildina"source: charmedatticIn only 13 shifts, I'll be finished with this job. The economy affects the hospital industry, too. Fewer people come in for elective surgeries. More people try to manage their illnesses as outpatients. Our census is down, and my employing hospital cannot justify the need for so many hospitalists. I was the last in my group to sign a contract.They gave me 90 days notice. And now it is ending.I've said my goodbyes and will miss most of the nurses, RTs, unit clerks and techs enormously. I will miss four of my six partners and our billing person, who functions as a secretary, administrative assistant and friend to all of us. I will miss the patients, but not necessarily all of their families. I won't miss the schedule. At all.The first two week... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2389592 Wed, 06 May 2009 12:47:00 +0100 2389592 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2387234&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2009%2F05%2Fi-love_04.html I love it when my husband puts his arm around me while we sleep. (Source: Heroin Addiction Codependence) Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2387234 Mon, 04 May 2009 16:34:00 +0100 2387234 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2376916&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F04%2F29%2Fmark-update%2F Is anyone else having a difficult time toggling between Mark and my Grandpa?  I’m finding it difficult to remember why I’m sad, who I’m thinking about, what the hell is going on, what day it is…I think this is what my brain looks like on overload. Anyway.  Mark moved back home last night.  He’s been gone for 3 weeks.  After much discussion, crying, therapy and wine (for me of course), we decided that we were both committed to working this out.  Mark seems to have realized he hasn’t been handling this situation in an adult manor and has taken responsibility for it.  He recognizes that running away from the problem doesn’t solve it, it actually causes more problems.  (You know, simple stuff that most of us learned as children.) I’m not c... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2376916 Wed, 29 Apr 2009 21:26:21 +0100 2376916 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2365501&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F04%2F23%2Fthis-is-not-me%2F I’m sad.  I’m alone.  I’m not happy with this situation.  Nothing I have done has worked out the way I thought it would/wanted it to. My friends don’t like me anymore.  My family stopped calling to check on me.  My dog took up peeing on the rug.  I am so down I can’t even move forward.  Or backwards. I think I’ve hit some sort of bottom? (Source: B a b y B o u n d) B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2365501 Thu, 23 Apr 2009 19:28:20 +0100 2365501 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2349509&cid=t_108507_136_f&fid=37846&url=http%3A%2F%2Fhealthinfoispower.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F04%2F20%2Fnovogens-nv-128-targets-mtor-pathway-to-block-differentiation-and-induce-cell-death-in-ovarian-cancer-stem-cells%2F “Data just presented at the Annual Meeting of the American Association for Cancer Research in Denver has demonstrated that NV-128, a Novogen, Limited (ASX: NRT NASDQ: NVGN) synthetic isoflavonoid compound, not only induces cell death in Ovarian Cancer Stem Cells (OCSCs), but also blocks their differentiation into structures which are required to support tumor [...] (Source: Libby's H*O*P*E*) Libby's H*O*P*E* blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2349509 Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:50:41 +0100 2349509 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2347624&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F04%2Ffabulous-gift-ideas.html Husband turns 50 two weeks from today. I already bought him what he really wants, a Kindle 2, but I'm making him wait for his birthday to open it. I thought it would be fun if he gets a surprise from the kids.This morning as we were up early feeding the baby, I asked Son what he wanted to give his daddy for the big birthday."A really big engine...and a fish, a toy for him and some hamburger."I think I can work with that inspiration. (Source: Fat Doctor) Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2347624 Sun, 19 Apr 2009 11:28:00 +0100 2347624 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2349171&cid=t_108507_129_f&fid=36036&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.everydayhealth.com%2Fblog%2Fkelly-building-a-crohns-disease-community%2Fmarried-with-crohns-disease%2F Living with Crohn’s disease has been a roller coaster of a life so far, and unfortunately, I keep dragging my family up and down the hills with me.  My husband doesn’t handle it so well.  His chosen method of dealing with the disease is to ignore it and pretend that it doesn’t exist.  This is what he has done in the past and hopefully will not do in the future thanks to more open and honest conversations.  I guess we’ll see. My Crohn’s disease has been the biggest issue in my marriage because it essentially affects every decision that I make and everything that I do.  It is usually the basis for my complaints to my husband and the reason that sometimes I whine (in his opinion) to him.  I don’t think that I am whining; I think that I am begging for some help!  The problem... Life with Crohn's blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2349171 Wed, 15 Apr 2009 19:37:35 +0100 2349171 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2347626&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F04%2Feaster-christ-vs-bunny.html Overnight, the Easter Bunny hid a basket in the house for Son. This morning, our eldest ran around eagerly pointing to evidence that the big rabbit had, indeed, been in our home."Silly Easter Bunny," he laughed, "He spread my toys all over the room!" Gotta hand it to him, blaming his messes on a fictional character is pretty darned clever. When he found the basket, he squealed with delight. He'd inhaled the modest load of candy before we left the house.So during the children's sermon, which was after choir practice, brunch, an egg hunt with even more candy, the kids were pretty...high. Husband asked why everybody was so dressed up today. The kids raised their hands and Husband gave each of them time to speak.It seems all the kids above the age of six were very comfortable with the fact tha... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2347626 Mon, 13 Apr 2009 01:51:00 +0100 2347626 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2305308&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F04%2Funexpected-physiology-lesson.html While tending to household chores, I had the TV tuned to TLC but hadn't noted the show. I saw Son watching transfixed and looked up just in time to see the first incision for a c-section.I offered to change the channel, but he said no and watched the entire surgery to deliver four identical quads.Husband and I explained to him that this is how the doctors got him out of my tummy and Daughter out of her birth mommy's tummy. We told him this is because he and his sister couldn't come out the regular way. Luckily, he didn't ask what that meant.But the questions came. Lots and lots of questions, mostly about the blood and that funny curly white tube (umbilical cord).In the end, he focused on the cord and seemed quite pleased that he was able to eat while he was in utero."I ate all your food! ... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2305308 Sun, 05 Apr 2009 23:33:00 +0100 2305308 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2305312&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F04%2Fmy-girl-crush-on-bonnie-hunt.html Bonnie Hunt had this gorgeous veterinarian on her show today. At first I thought, "Oh yeah, she turned to veterinary medicine when her modeling days were over." I prepared to dismiss her as just another pretty face. But then she started talking and she freaked me out."Six macadamia nuts can kill your dog." Who knew? And grapes can cause a pet to go into renal failure. Wowsa. When I was a kid and we were stranded with a broken car at a farmer's fruit stand, we amused ourselves by feeding our little mutt "Fred-Fred" about three pounds of grapes. She thought she was in heaven. Had we known we were putting her life in danger, we'd have found another source of entertainment...like taking turns running across the highway to look for help in the days before mobile phones. OK, I can hold back on ... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2305312 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 15:41:00 +0100 2305312 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2305316&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F03%2Fanswered-prayer.html The pastor and his wife cannot simply decide to skip church. When we need a break, we pray...for inclement weather.I prayed hard at work today. When the drizzle started, my prayers got a bit more focused.As if He wants us to spend a family day at home, He sent the ice I requested. The country roads to our church can be treacherous when icy. One of the elders called us tonight with news that the service tomorrow has been canceled.Praise be to God!Husband has a very busy week ahead at work, so I will be doing some solo parenting. We can spend the day together before he disappears. I'm fairly sure God understands. Sometimes, even the pastor's family needs a break.I'm also praying He sends peace to my patient with newly diagnosed advanced cancer. In the end, my enjoying a Sunday at home is les... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2305316 Sun, 29 Mar 2009 02:48:00 +0100 2305316 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2305318&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F03%2Fmy-house-where-appliances-go-to-die.html Remember my excitement with the new washer and dryer? Ahhhhh....memories.For some reason, I thought a top loading dryer was the cat's meow, possibly because I'm too lazy to bend over to load/unload a front-loading dryer. I didn't realize when we made this impulse buy that I would have to stand on a step stool to get laundry out of the dryer because I'm too short. In a pinch, I can stand on my tiptoes, but then my ample bosom gets crunched against the cold metal. So not worth it.Other than an occasional breast bruise, the dryer hasn't been too much of a problem.The washer, on the other hand, repeatedly broke down if we even looked at it funny. While it was under warranty, we had the repairman out several times. Now no longer under warranty, it completely refused to operate. So we had the re... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2305318 Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:27:00 +0100 2305318 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2305320&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F03%2Fready-or-not.html Today, Husband and I met with Son's preschool teacher. Long story short...she thinks we should enroll him in kindergarten this year. She taught public school kindergarten for five years, so why do I not trust her opinion?Because Son wasn't supposed to be born until October and it's not his fault that I had him on August 7th. Because the trend is to keep boys out an extra year and he will be the youngest, the most vulnerable to bullying. Because while academically he's ready, I don't feel he is emotionally mature enough. Heck, even I am not emotionally mature enough.Husband leans toward enrolling him because he doesn't want Son to be bored, but he is open to another year of preschool if it is best for our kid.We'll meet with the teacher at his elementary school and get her take. PaniniFreak... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2305320 Tue, 24 Mar 2009 01:34:00 +0100 2305320 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2283730&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F03%2Freal-doctor.html On his third night in his own bed, Son fell out of it. Son didn't cry, so without turning on the light Husband scooped him up, put him back in his bed and returned to our room.This morning, as we were rushing to get me to work early (I'm on call this week), the kids to school and Husband to an important meeting, we saw Son's head, pictured above. That's right, my first thought was, "well, this will be a great story for the blog - grab the camera." I'm sick, but y'all know that.I washed the blood from his head and found a very small laceration in the middle of his forehead, which must have hit the bedside table. It had been only six hours since the accident and the wound was gaping a bit. I told Husband it might only need Steri-Strips, but it might need a stitch, and I wasn't comfortable ma... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2283730 Wed, 18 Mar 2009 02:52:00 +0100 2283730 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2270055&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F03%2Fwhen-she-is-scared.html Last April, when we seriously started talking adoption, Son moved from his bed to ours. It was subtle at first - he'd come down around 3 a.m. Then midnight. Then 10 p.m. Finally he just started there. We knew he was processing the change coming in our family.He would sleep upstairs in his own room if we slept in his bed, but quite frankly neither Husband nor I want to leave our oh-so-comfortable memory foam mattress. So we slept with the 4-year-old boy between us. I kind of liked it...until the kicking started.Daughter is now a tight fit for her bassinet, so today Husband put her crib up in Son's room. He told Son it would be a huge favor to us if he would sleep in his own bed so that Daughter wouldn't be scared. He prides himself on calming her cries with his soothing voice, on distractin... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2270055 Sun, 15 Mar 2009 02:14:00 +0100 2270055 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2188757&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F02%2F14%2Fsometimes-its-the-little-things%2F OK. Its Valentine’s day.  Mark and I went out for an awesome dim sum lunch at our fav place.  Took practically every plate put in front of us.  Stuffed our faces.  And well?  After 10 glorious minutes of burping, Mark is napping. I guess that’s the extent of Valentine’s Day. Isn’t he romantic? (Source: B a b y B o u n d) B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2188757 Sat, 14 Feb 2009 21:29:54 +0100 2188757 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2144442&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F01%2Fhide-and-seek.html Son is really into hide and seek these days. Last night, he convinced his daddy to play with him. "Ready or not, here I come," called Husband. "I'm upstairs under the computer desk," Son volunteered. He waited until his father climbed the staircase then popped out from under the desk. He's not such a good hider. "It's your turn now, Daddy," he instructed, "but you need to find a bigger place to hide." The kid speaks the truth. Husband merely got in bed under the covers. Clever man. He napped while son looked all over the house for 15 minutes. I suggested he yell "Marco". A muffled "Polo" response came from the bedroom. Son squealed, ran toward the voice and found his father. I'll miss this when he grows up, but there will be new games. Today I signed him up for a peewee soccer league. Some... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2144442 Thu, 29 Jan 2009 21:24:00 +0100 2144442 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2141619&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2009%2F01%2Fdear-husband.html "Here's what I think, Mr. Wind-Up Bird," said May Kasahara. "Everybody's born with some different thing at the core of their existence. And that thing, whatever it is, becomes like a heat source that runs each person from the inside. I have one too, of course. Like everybody else. But sometimes it gets out of hand. It swells or shrinks inside me, and it shakes me up. What I'd really like to do is find a way to communicate that feeling to another person. But I can't seem to do it. They just don't get it. Of course, the problem could be that I'm not explaining it very well, but I think it's because they're not listening very well. They pretend to be listening, but they're not, really. So I get worked up sometimes, and I do some crazy things."-Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird ChronicleIt mak... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2141619 Wed, 28 Jan 2009 19:01:00 +0100 2141619 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2100828&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F01%2Fopen-my-eyes-that-i-may-see.html American Idol is back. That makes me happy.Four long-lost friends found me on Facebook (one from high school, one from grade school, one from my former life as a transcriptionist and one from med school) today. That makes me happy.The social worker had her final home visit today. The adoption will be finalized on February 2nd. That makes me happy.Daughter is starting to learn a social smile. That makes me happy.Son is getting good behavior reports from school. That makes me happy.Husband made pot roast and potatoes for dinner. That makes me happy.Hi Kooky and I are meeting for lunch on Friday. That makes me happy.Sorry for the public whining. Thanks for your support. I'm pretty sure I'm over it. Until next time, anyway.Lord, open my eyes that I may see the happiness that surrounds me.____... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2100828 Wed, 14 Jan 2009 03:17:00 +0100 2100828 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2080982&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2009%2F01%2Freality-shock.html I've been looking forward to this, my first day of maternity leave, for what seems like eons. Like most working moms, I look at the stay at home moms (SAHMs) with jealousy and judgment. It looks so wonderful from the outside. How could their houses be anything but clean and organized? How could they ever need to order pizza for dinner? How wonderful it would be to just wake up and spend all of the day with your children and completing small home projects.Reality shock.I got home from the hospital at 8:30 last night and did the baby feeding at 10pm and 3:30 a.m.Husband left at 5:30 for five days in Guatemala. He had warned Son that he was leaving, but when Son rolled out of bed at 8 a.m. he threw a significant tantrum involving the repetetive screaming of, "Daddy! I want my Daddy! Daddy dad... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2080982 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:25:00 +0100 2080982 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2060826&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F12%2Fperfect-evening.html Yesterday I did 8 workups, 5 discharges and 15 followup visits. Today I worked just a regular day, but I'm so very tired and ready for a few days off. Luckily, tonight was just perfect. Seattle Redhead went to Vegas for a wedding and then couldn't get home because of the snow. She called last night asking if she could spend a few days with us and flew in this afternoon. Yay! I love an unexpected visit from my cousin during the holidays! Husband made potato soup with dumplings (carb heaven!) and grilled cheese sandwiches. PaniniFreak walked up with her dog to join us. When Mom gets off work, she will come over for soup and, if I play my cards right, she will scratch my back. Son is in the bathtub playing "Flushed Away"...he lines up his toys on the side of the tub and then knocks them in th... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2060826 Tue, 23 Dec 2008 01:01:00 +0100 2060826 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2018177&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F12%2Fbesotted.html I've tried to get you out of my head but I can't seem to get you out of my flesh. I think about your body day and night. When I try to read it's you I'm reading. When I sit down to eat it's you I'm eating. When he touches me I think about you. I'm a middle-aged happily married woman and all I can see is your face. What have you done to me? -Jeanette Winterson,Written on the BodyI've quoted this bit of Jeanette Winterson here before, I'm sure. A friend of mine sent it to me at the time when I was between marriages, running amok between and among possible lives. I identified with that single-minded obsession she describes, and I'd forgotten how it felt until lately.I am thoroughly besotted with my husband. I'm exhausted in this lackadaisical, satiated way. All I want to do is ... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2018177 Fri, 05 Dec 2008 14:41:00 +0100 2018177 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2013549&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F12%2Fstinky-sunshine.html With "spot cleans" since leaving the hospital, Daughter got kinda stinky. She did not enjoy her bath under my direction...at all. While Husband managed the camera, Son stood by my side and we cleaned miss stinky. "It's almost over," he reassured his little sister. And then it was.I think she enjoys her newfound cleanliness, but it sure tuckered her out. She smells like sunshine now and her hair is ultra, ultra soft against my constantly nuzzling lips.And for any of you wondering if there is any difference in the way we feel about our adopted daughter versus our "home baked" boy...nope. Not at all. It's like God made them both to be our children. Ain't love grand? (Source: Fat Doctor) Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2013549 Thu, 04 Dec 2008 19:14:00 +0100 2013549 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2010968&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F12%2Fkeepsake.html When Daughter is older, I think she'll enjoy looking at this onesie we ordered when we thought she'd be a boy. We found it at this eBay store. You can pick the complexion and hair color of the older child(ren) and baby and personalize each shirt. Pretty nifty, huh?Son has a matching tee shirt with his own name. He wore it all day yesterday. He and I went to Sears to get me out of the apartment, and it felt goooooood. After lunch, Husband took Son for a walk on the beach to find shells. Unfortunately, after the recent hurricanes, the beach here is fairly wiped out. They found a lot of glass, but only one clam shell.In other news, well, there isn't much. Enjoying this vacation from everyday life and we are definitely bonding here in Biloxi. (Source: Fat Doctor) Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2010968 Thu, 04 Dec 2008 09:00:00 +0100 2010968 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2005513&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F12%2Fday-4.html I'm not comfortable with nebulous plans. So, "Stay in Mississippi until they say you can leave" is driving me nuts. Luckily, we have a very nice place to stay and I have plenty of dictation to keep me busy (yeah, like that's what I want to do!).Last night I slept in one room with Daughter and Husband in the other room with Son. Every time the baby cried (10:30, 2 and 5), Husband would prepare and bottle and I'd give it, then I'd spend 45 minutes holding her before she'd go back to sleep. It was a joyful night, all things considered, because I remembered (between the yawns) that this is what I prayed for. Still, I am a bit old for this and today I'm achey. Oh well. It's so worth it.Daughter is in the pouch right now (we went with this one, the adjustable pouch from Kangaroo Korner) and have... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2005513 Tue, 02 Dec 2008 17:03:00 +0100 2005513 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2005514&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F12%2Fbigger-digs.html Weeks ago, Husband surfed the 'net and found a weekly rental here in Biloxi. Yesterday we moved into this 1000 square foot luxury condo overlooking the gulf. We now have two bedrooms, three flat screen TVs, a sunken tub, a washer/dryer and a nice kitchen. At $900 a week, it beats a hotel room in size and price.Today, assuming all goes well, we will bring Daughter here and then wait for the state paperwork to go through.I'm still waiting for something to go horribly wrong. I don't know why I do that, and I don't know how to make it stop. I guess I just feel too blessed and I know I don't deserve it.Thanks for your continued prayers for us and the birth parents. We ache for them. (Source: Fat Doctor) Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2005514 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 11:00:00 +0100 2005514 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1990537&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F11%2Fsecond-family.html We have always celebrated Thanksgiving in Texas with Laughing Pastor and his family. This is my seventh and Husband's 21st year with our "second family." God gave us our first families to love, but love allowed us to choose this one.In those years there have been births, marriages, moves, career changes, fires and deaths. We've had sad times and joyful times, but we've always had each other. Family is like that.There will be pies (and pies and pies and pies) and lots of laughter in this house this week.I hope you and yours have pies and laughter this Thanksgiving, whether you are with families chosen for you by birth or by love. (Source: Fat Doctor) Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1990537 Wed, 26 Nov 2008 11:00:00 +0100 1990537 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1984685&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F11%2Fover-edge.html I'm happy yet I'm stressed. Even happy stress is painful.The holidays are upon us. Like so many working moms, I have overscheduled these two months. We are going to Texas for our annual trip to see Laughing Family, then going to fetch our new child when he/she is born, then coming home and I'll work the rest of my shifts in December before taking maternity leave in January. Husband will stay home with the kids for the remainder of December.Tomorrow I'm not seeing patients but am catching up on a load of paperwork and dictation at the office. Choir practice is tomorrow night. And this teensy tiny stressor just may push me over the edge.Husband is out of town until late in the evening, so I'll need to find someone to watch Son, then drive an hour to the church, practice for two hours, drive ... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1984685 Mon, 24 Nov 2008 04:22:00 +0100 1984685 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1970828&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F11%2F18%2Fwell-well-i-see-ive-hit-a-nerve%2F For the record, Mark and I are still in a fight.  But also for the record, I suspect it will end soon.  (Thankfully he does not read my blog and therefore is still miserably stewing at his desk at work.) Thank you all for the great advice.  I will definitely look into some adjustments to our current agreement.  Most notably, Mark’s new lack of plastic to wear down his pockets.  He cut his card in half in some sort of passive aggressive attempt at getting me to shut the fuck up not be mad at him.  Of course it didn’t work.  What a dum dum. I must say, it is oddly comforting to know that there are other people out there that struggle with this same issue.  It makes me feel better knowing that Mark isn’t the only fuckwit out there and that it is clearly a genetic dis... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1970828 Tue, 18 Nov 2008 23:42:27 +0100 1970828 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1970829&cid=t_108507_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F11%2F17%2Fi-might-need-a-sedative-soon%2F Do all couples fight about money?  Cause Mark and I are fighting right now about this very topic. I don’t seem to be winning and well?  That never happens.  WTF? I am in charge of our money.  Why?  Because I actually put bills in a filing cabinet rather than the bottom of a gym bag.  End of story. Mark likes to pretend our bank account is like a water faucet:  always there, never empty, tastes great with crystal light white grape. I want him to think of it as a drinking fountain at the park:  always available, but should be approached with caution and never ever touched with his bare hands. I cannot seem to beat this concept into his pea size brain get him to understand and its driving me insane.  Every time I look at our account, I get angry.  There’s always withdra... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1970829 Tue, 18 Nov 2008 01:31:40 +0100 1970829 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1960497&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F11%2Fabout-full-moons.html Baby Mama is at the hospital. She started having contractions last night and went in this afternoon. She does not, however, appear to be in active labor. They are planning to monitor her overnight. She's 37 weeks tomorrow.We are packing bags...just in case. As Husband said, "It was a full moon."And you know what they say about full moons. (Source: Fat Doctor) Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1960497 Sat, 15 Nov 2008 02:31:00 +0100 1960497 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1961299&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F11%2Fdear-husband_14.html I still taste his kisseslike candy in my mouth.-"Lonesome Blues" by the Be Good TanyasI am angry at myself for letting me relapse on you. I'm detoxing, again. I can't stop thinking about your mouth.Today, I want to give up and tell you to come home. I want to tell you that I'll do whatever it takes not to have to lose proximity to your mouth.At the meeting I went to last night, the topic was denial. I used to think of denial as that thing I felt in the face of your using, where I'd not even let myself admit the possibility that it could be happening. Today, my denial is different. I'm in denial that my life might be better without you.I have a good life. I have good friends. I have a connection to my God. I have cool pets. I have a great job that I enjoy, and I'm making enough money to pay... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1961299 Fri, 14 Nov 2008 20:15:00 +0100 1961299 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1947536&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F11%2Fdate-with-my-husband.html My husband took me out to the movies last night. He bought both of our tickets, which was nice, and he even snuck me in an ice cream sundae. We held hands through the movie. When the movie was over, we kissed each other goodnight. I went home. He went to his parents' house.I guess this is working? At least for now? (Source: Heroin Addiction Codependence) Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1947536 Mon, 10 Nov 2008 04:22:00 +0100 1947536 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1943563&cid=t_108507_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2008%2F11%2Fdear-husband_827.html I've spent much of today thinking about your mouth: your lips, your teeth, your tongue. I've spent too much time on it. Sometimes, I'm overcome by my physical desire for you, as if I've been traumatized by it. It's kind of like the feeling after being in a car crash...you're walking down the street, just living your normal life, and suddenly, you hear the cracking glass, the screeching tires. I'm living my life, teaching and writing and thinking and breathing, and all of a sudden, all I can see is your face. All I can see is your mouth. I feel paralyzed by it, and thrilled, and afraid.My life has been fogged, like a mirror, by your breath. I wipe a little space to see through, and then I invite you back to heat the space all up again. I'm still, oddly, enjoying this time alone. I am feelin... Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1943563 Sat, 08 Nov 2008 04:13:00 +0100 1943563 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1908699&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F10%2Fbargain-shopper.html Am I the last person on earth to discover Craig's List? It's like ebay but you just drive over and pick the stuff up. No bargaining, no shipping fees. Hot diggety, this is FUN!Swing: $60-80 new, $20 gently used.Bouncer: $50 new, $15 gently used.Bassinet: $60-110 new, $20 gently used.Special thanks to Husband who picked up two of these mighty fine bargains after church. He's a good daddy. (Source: Fat Doctor) Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1908699 Sun, 26 Oct 2008 19:23:00 +0100 1908699 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1888546&cid=t_108507_136_f&fid=36032&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.healthtalk.com%2Fbreast-cancer%2Flife-with-breast-cancer%2Fmy-husband-gets-treated-for-prostate-cancer%2F This has been one tough week! Bobby, my husband had brachytherapy this week to address prostate cancer that was diagnosed this summer. I don’t like being in the hospital and undergoing surgery or treatment, but I have decided that I dislike even more watching a loved one go through it. Actually, the procedure went really well for my husband. He was admitted early Wednesday and they inserted tiny catheters all over the prostate gland and then they placed radioactive beads in the catheters four times over two days. When Bob comes home he will not be radioactive as none of the beads were left in the gland. This is an amazing procedure. The hardest part for him was that he had to lie perfectly still on his back without a pillow or being able to move his legs for two days. He needed medic... Life with Breast Cancer blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1888546 Fri, 17 Oct 2008 17:59:39 +0100 1888546 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1853547&cid=t_108507_85_f&fid=34705&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffatdoctor.blogspot.com%2F2008%2F10%2Fwhats-in-name.html By the time this post publishes, Husband and I will be on a plane to meet the birth parents. Excited? You bet. Terrified? Absolutely.Baby is due on 12/6/08. We have settled on a few names for each gender and will see what the kid looks like for the final selection. Choosing a blog name for the new kid is proving more difficult.If the baby is a girl, her blog name will be Daughter. Easy enough. But if the baby is a boy, what will I call him here? Son2? El Segundo? SonI and SonII? Baby? Can't do Uno and Dos, because Hi Kooky has already taken those simple yet brilliant pseudonyms.Folks, you hold the power. Please suggest names in the comment section below. Husband and I will select five we like and put them into a poll for a group vote. I would prefer to keep our current Son "Son", but I'll ... Fat Doctor blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1853547 Mon, 06 Oct 2008 10:00:00 +0100 1853547